Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Bindy Sombatsaphay
COMM 1010
Allison Vernon
Spring 2023
[Introduction]
Have you ever had a disagreement or argument with someone and was left
wondering what you could’ve done to avoid it or made it better? Or had a conversation
with someone that didn’t seem completely involved or attentive? If so, these are just two
examples of how knowledge and skills in communication can play a big role in your
information in our world through verbal and non-verbal messages. It affects your
relationships with others and the way you perceive yourself. In this journal, I will be
highlighting five key aspects of communication and applying them to my own personal
life.
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[Communication Competence]
After self-reflecting and reading the chapter, I believe I have been able to better
communicator have improved over time thanks to practice with my peers such as
context while conversating with a group or individual. For example, I would speak
work. Another communication strength of mine is learning how to adapt how I speak to
an individual that best works for them. When I’m explaining things to my mom, I would
have to slow my communication down and use less difficult words for her to understand
better.
public speaking. I was a quiet, shy kid growing up and I always found it difficult to speak
to others. I do believe, however, that I have been gradually improving this aspect of my
I volunteer to go first to share an idea or comment then the more repetition will allow me
someone’s personality speaks to so much of who they are, and I use that often to make
in group discussions and offering to share first, I’d perceive them as outgoing and
confident. One concept I would like to improve when perceiving others is the horn effect.
According to the text, the horn effect “occurs when initial negative perceptions lead us to
view later interactions as negative.” (Hargie, 2011). Sometimes when I have a negative
first interaction with a person, I tend to believe that the only interactions I’ll have with
defines self-esteem as “the judgments and evaluations we make about our self-concept”
like to think I have an overall positive self-esteem because I look at and celebrate my
positive traits. One concept I would like to work on is the social comparison theory. I
sometimes compare myself to others when it comes to things like academics and guitar
There are many ways to adapt verbal and non-verbal messages when
communicator you should be able to adapt your form of message delivery to the
receiver that would most effectively reach them. An example of verbal messaging
adapting would be not using slang that the receiver might not understand. Slang is
defined as “new or adapted words that are specific to a group, context, and/or time
period” ("Communication in the Real World," 2016, p. 131). Instead of using slang, the
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messenger should communicate using commonly used and well-known words and
terms. Non-verbal communication comes in many forms such as gestures. In the United
States, pointing your middle finger at a person is considered offense and should not be
used towards anyone. By understanding what the culture and norms is like somewhere
Factors such as gender, race, and religion can play a big role in ethics in
pronounce it like Jesus from the bible. To him and I, we don’t believe it to be ethically
immoral. However, my girlfriend’s family who are of the Mormon religion find it to be a
little disrespectful.
[Listening Skills]
listening. The definition of back-channel cues according to the text is “the verbal and
World, 2016, p. 233). I use back-channel cues such as eye contact and head nods
when being spoken to in all my conversations with others. An example of this is when I
Listening and empathy has played a largely positive role in my relationships with
others. I believe I am an effective listener already, but also a very empathetic person.
judgements towards that person. I grew up a very kind, quiet kid and spent most of my
time listening to others rather than speaking. By being more of a listener my entire life, I
can pick up on when to use empathetic listening. When people come to me to talk about
more sensitive subjects like their emotions, I like to cast away my judgements and
empathize with them the best I can. A personal example was when my roommate had
gotten into a big argument with his dad. He had been working with his dad in their family
came to me and wanted to talk to me about what had happened. I was emotionally
involved in the conversation and let him get everything off his chest.
[Interpersonal Communication]
For this reflection, the theory I will be applying is the social penetration theory.
According to the text, the social penetration theory “states that as we get to know
and depth and affects how a relationship develops” ("Communication in the Real
relationship with my girlfriend. This theory has helped me gain a better understanding of
our relationship in knowing that it took time, conversations, and experiences together for
us to know what we know about each other now. My girlfriend and I have been together
for two years and one thing I know about her now that I didn’t before is that she has a
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specific laugh when she’s in awkward of embarrassing situations. One way this theory
can improve the relationship is that the longer we’re together, the more we’ll learn about
each other and can continue to be the best partners for each other.
In our relationship I don’t believe we have much conflict. However, when there is,
the conflict management style we use the most would be collaborating or compromising.
A conflict we have where changing the conflict style may be beneficial is something
simple like choosing where to eat. I think we try so much to find a win/win situation that
we end up spending more time than we should just to find somewhere to eat. I think
instead of using a collaborating style we could use the accommodating style. The
accommodating style would allow us to make decisions quicker because of how low
stakes the situation is. Learning about conflict plays a big role in interpersonal-
[Conclusion]
Writing this journal has proven to be a very interesting experience for myself
because I didn’t know how much actually goes into the act of communication. I used to
This unit has showed me the many different large and small details/aspects of
communication. After applying the information I learnt in this unit to my own life, I would
I believe that in life we are always constantly learning. We use our past
experiences to make better decisions and to improve in the skills that we are lacking. I
personally am always trying to improve myself in all the aspects of my life. In the context
Speaking clear and concisely to get my message off in a way that can be understood
more easily is what I would like to improve on. I can work on this by actively being
aware that I need to slow down with my speech to make sure everything comes out
smoothly.
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