PETER A.

VANDER ZANDER

BETET-NS 1A

CATEGORIES RESOURCES

3 Websites
1.) ON ADDICTION
1.) Why Quitting an Addiction Can Be So Challenging
https://www.verywellmind.com/how-can-i-quit-my-addiction-22390

2.) Long-Term Strategies for Overcoming Addiction

https://www.verywellmind.com/overcoming-addiction-4157285

3.) Dealing With Addiction

https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/addictions.html

3 Articles
1.) Component Model of Addiction Treatment: A Pragmatic Transdiagnostic
Treatment Model of Behavioral and Substance Addictions
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6127248/

2.) Helping a Family Member with Addiction

https://www.treehouserehab.org/helping-family-member-with-addiction/

3.) Addiction and the brain: The dopamine pathway is helping researchers
find their way through the addiction maze

https://academic.oup.com/bioscience/article/49/7/513/236613

3 Books
1.) Chasing a Flawed Sun
By: Daniel McGhee’s

At once merciless and uplifting, Chasing a Flawed Sun is a

true story of one of Daniel McGhee’s struggle with one of
the most addictive substances in the world; heroin. In this
traditional, narrative-based memoir McGhee takes us
through his childhood in Baltimore, and his journey
through institutions, prisons, and the very depths of
addiction.

Hailed as an intense, and often brutal, ‘autopsy’ of the

addicted mind, this is also an account of how he lost, and
then found himself. Now 18 years sober, Daniel McGhee
still lives just outside of Baltimore, MD, and runs several
businesses in the area, as well as a non-profit which works
with children, the homeless, and those fighting addiction.
He has found not only wellness but peace and joy and
published this book to help others find the same.
2.) Chasing the High: An Entrepreneurs Mind-set Through
Addiction
By: Michael Dash

As many recovering alcoholics know, it’s easy to become

entrapped by a substitute dependency, what Michael Dash
shows in his gripping and insightful Chasing the High is that
we can become addicted to success, work, and ambition just
as easily as heroin, cocaine, gambling, or alcohol. Dash
realized that his pursuit of big wins in the casino and office,
as well as his relentless partying, we're all motivated by the
same thing; the euphoria of success. In this thoughtful and
straightforward piece, he illuminates a side of addiction that
is less known; the situation where we are not addicted to a
particular substance or activity, but to the feeling of
fulfilment. Once he realized this, Dash was able to calm his
inner chaos, reboot his life, and create a routine that helped
him to sustain recovery.

This book is his way of sharing this routine with others

struggling with the same issues.

3.) I Love you More: Short Stories of Addiction, Recovery, and

Loss From the Family’s Perspective
By: Blake Cohen

As a recovering alcoholic, certified addiction

professional, and a bachelor of psychology, Blake Cohen
is uniquely placed to offer help and insight to the
families of those struggling with alcoholism and drug
addiction. Not only is I Love You More honest, insightful,
and genuinely helpful, it is unique in that these three
short stories (each with a different ending) are not
aimed at those fighting addiction, but at the people who
support and love them. Cohen recognized the distinct
lack of support for the families and has gone some small
way into filling this gap with a book that cannot be
ignored.
2.) ON FINDING MEANING
3 Websites
IN LIFE / FEELING LOST 1.) It’s Okay If You’re Feeling Lost
https://wanderingaimfully.com/feeling-lost/

2.) Feeling Lost and How It Can Help You Find Yourself
https://tinybuddha.com/blog/feeling-lost-and-how-it-can-help-you-find-yourself/

3.) When You Feel Lost

https://psychcentral.com/blog/when-you-feel-lost/

3 Articles
1.) Feeling lost? How to find your way out!
https://www.thedailyguru.com/feeling-lost/

2.) When you’re feeling lost…

https://yourstory.com/2017/02/youre-feeling-lost?utm_pageloadtype=scroll

3.) How to Find Your Purpose in Life

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_your_purpose_in_life

3 Books
1.) Happy Is Not Enough: Finding Meaning, Purpose, And
Fulfilment In Life
By: K.W. Williams

Happiness is the Holy Grail of the modern world.

Everyone tells you that you need to be happy. There
are articles and books coaching you on how to be
happy. So why is no one truly happy? Happiness is a
great emotion, but it is just that, an emotion. It is
neither sustainable not constantly achievable.
Sometimes you’re going to feel sad or angry or
disappointed. That is just life.

This book will show you how to achieve something far

more important than happiness: fulfillment. Having a
fulfilling life, a fulfilling social network, and a fulfilling
relationship with yourself will fill you with contentment.
Even when you’re experiencing negative emotions and
negative life circumstances, a healthy sense of
fulfillment will carry you through to the end. You may
not be happy all of the time, but you will feel as if you
are on the right path and your life is full of good things.
 2.) Feeling Lost and Finding Your Way: A Journey of Discovery,
Hope and Courage
By: Andy Dunn
Aged 22, Andy's life collapsed into a dark depression. This is
a brave, honest and exciting story that will give you peace
of mind and stir you to make something happen in your
life. In Feeling Lost And Finding Your Way, Andy
courageously shares his journey into postgraduate life,
wrestling with the pressures of being successful, of being a
young man in a hyper-sexualised digital world and being
brave enough to search for what really mattered. He delves
into past experiences, openly sharing his pain and the
source of his suffering, before revealing the paths he took
to find inner peace and his true direction. "I knew I wasn't
alone feeling this. Finding the courage to share my story is
one of the best decisions I've ever made. People write to
me and tell me how reassuring it is to realise they are not
alone. I hope it keeps reaching people's hearts and souls."

3.) Find Your Purpose: How to Stop Feeling Lost, Rediscover

Yourself, and Live a Meaningful Life
By: Hung Pham

Do you feel lost? Do you lack confidence in yourself?

Are you trying to find your path in life? Don’t worry, I
know what’s stopping you. I too have struggled with
finding my purpose in life. I spent over 10 years in a
career I hated. I had personal and financial problems
that made it very difficult for me to move forward.
Despite all this, there was one thing I knew for sure. I
had to keep fighting if I wanted to find my purpose in
life.

3 Websites
3.)ON STRENGTHENING
YOUR SPIRITUALITY 1.) seven ways to improve your spiritual health
https://wellness.ku.edu/seven-ways-improve-your-spiritual-health

2.) How to Become More Spiritual in Three Small Steps

https://www.gaia.com/article/spirituality-101-how-become-more-
spiritual-your-daily-life

3.) Building your spiritual life during changes brought about by the
COVID-19 pandemic
https://www.mayoclinichealthsystem.org/hometown-health/speaking-
of-health/building-your-spiritual-life-during-covid-19-changes
3 Articles
1.) 4 Ways to Strengthen Your Spirituality
https://chopra.com/articles/4-ways-to-strengthen-your-spirituality

2.) Ideas to improve your spiritual health in retirement

https://retirehappy.ca/ideas-to-improve-your-spiritual-health/

3.) The Science of Spirituality: 16 Tips to Build Your Spiritual

Practice
https://positivepsychology.com/science-of-spirituality/

3 Books
1.) 365 Ways to Strengthen Your Spirituality: Simple Ways to
Connect with the Divine
By: Alexandra Chauran

Whether you desire financial stability or career success,

true love or family harmony, your search for fulfillment
and balance will be enhanced if you seek ways to get in
touch with Spirit. This page-a-day guidebook features
accessible prompts, exercises, and meditations to help
you find greater joy and purpose in your life. Devoting
just a few moments to your spirit each day provides a
strong foundation for meaningful exploration and
growth. Compatible with any spiritual belief system, 365
Ways to Strengthen Your Spirituality shows how to
experience profound transformation and blessings on
your journey.
 2.) Spiritual Growth: How to Strengthen Your Faith and Spirituality
(The Enlightenment Series Book 1)
By: Elsabe Smit
In this enlightening book, internationally renowned
psychic, coach and author Elsabe Smit breaks down
some key concepts of spiritual development into short,
highly accessible articles, and provides ways in which the
reader can achieve spiritual growth.

3.) 7 Keys to Spiritual Wellness: Enriching Your Faith by

Strengthening the Health of Your Soul
By: Joe Paprocki

In 7 Keys to Spiritual Wellness, best-selling author Joe

Paprocki provides a prescription for spiritual health based on
the rich wisdom of Catholic Tradition. Through his
nondogmatic, downright inviting style of writing, Paprocki
makes this book eminently accessible to non-Catholics and
"seekers" as well. Recognizing that the spiritual immune
system is weakened almost daily by toxic patterns and
attitudes that negatively impact our ability to live in a
harmonious relationship with God and others, Paprocki offers
seven enduring and reliable strategies for achieving spiritual
wellness. After identifying practical ways to integrate each of
these strategies into daily living, he describes seven
persistent dangers to our spiritual well-being and how these
dangers manifest themselves in our lives. At its core, 7 Keys
to Spiritual Wellness helps us see the Christian faith not as a
collection of rules and doctrine, but as a spiritual path--a path
whose guideposts for spiritual wellness are sure to lead us to
a more meaningful life and to a much richer experience of
our faith.

4.) ON THE POWER OF

3 Websites
SAYING NO 1.) The Power of Saying No
https://wanderlust.com/journal/the-power-of-saying-no/

2.) The Power of No

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/articles/201311/the-power-
no

3.) The Strategic Power of Saying No

https://hbr.org/1999/11/the-strategic-power-of-saying-no
3 Articles
1.) The Power of Saying 'No'
https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/254796

2.) Say ‘No’ and change your life

https://www.theguardian.com/global/2018/mar/18/the-power-of-
saying-no-change-your-life-psychology-william-leith

3.) The Power of Saying, "No"

https://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/tillman6.html

3 Books
1.) The Power Of Saying No: Learn The Power Saying No More
Often And Achieve Greater Success In The Process (Character
Development, Say No, Power Of Habit, Personal Growth, Healthy
Living)
By: Simon Wright
This book contains proven steps and strategies for how
to say the more difficult response to requests: “No”.

This book encourages you, as a person who values

freedom and happiness, to learn what “No” stands for.
These two letters form an expression representing your
dedication and devotion to charting your own destiny.
“No” is also the road to having the real kind of success.
You can only achieve greater heights if you know how to
say no, and this book will encourage you to say “No”
without feeling guilty.
2.) The Power of No: Because One Little Word Can Bring Health,
Abundance, and Happiness
By: James Altucher

How many times have you heard yourself saying yes to

the wrong things—overwhelming requests, bad
relationships, time-consuming obligations? How often
have you wished you could summon the power to turn
them down?

This lively, practical guide helps you take back that

power—and shows that a well-placed No can not only
save you time and trouble, it can save your life.

Drawing on their own stories as well as feedback from

their readers and students, James Altucher and Claudia
Azula Altucher clearly show that you have the right to
say no:

To anything that is hurting you. To standards that no

longer serve you. To people who drain you of your
creativity and expression. To beliefs that are not true to
the real you.

It’s one thing to say no, the authors explain. It’s another
thing to have the Power of No. When you do, you will
have a stronger sense of what is good for you and the
people around you, and you will have a deeper
understanding of who you are. And, ultimately, you’ll be
freed to say a truly powerful "Yes" in your life—one that
opens the door to opportunities, abundance, and love.

3.) The Power of a Positive No: How to Say No and Still Get to Yes
By:William Ury

No is perhaps the most important and certainly the most

powerful word in the language. Every day we find ourselves
in situations where we need to say No–to people at work, at
home, and in our communities–because No is the word we
must use to protect ourselves and to stand up for everything
and everyone that matters to us.

But as we all know, the wrong No can also destroy what we

most value by alienating and angering people. That’s why
saying No the right way is crucial. The secret to saying No
without destroying relationships lies in the art of the Positive
No, a proven technique that anyone can learn.

This indispensable book gives you a simple three-step

method for saying a Positive No. It will show you how to
assert and defend your key interests; how to make you No
firm and strong; how to resist the other side’s aggression
and manipulation; and how to do all this while still getting to
Yes. In the end, the Positive No will help you get not just to
any Yes but to the right Yes, the one that truly serves your
interests.
5.) ON THE VALUE OF
3 Websites
FAMILY 1.) Why We Need Family History Now More Than Ever
https://www.familysearch.org/blog/en/family-history-2/

2.) What does family mean to you?

https://www.bestrongfamilies.org/news/2018/9/28/what-does-
family-mean-to-you

3.) The Value of Family Learning

https://epale.ec.europa.eu/en/blog/value-family-learning

3 Articles
1.) Why Your Family Matters – Importance of Family
https://www.familytoday.com/relationships/importance-of-family/

2.) Why Is Family Important

https://family.lovetoknow.com/about-family-values/why-is-family-
important

3.) What Is The Importance Of Family In Modern Society?

https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/family/what-is-the-importance-
of-family-in-modern-society/

3 Books
1.) Understanding the Importance of the Family Narrative: How the
Family Narrative Shapes Our Lives
by Roxanne Richards M.A., C.L.C.

This book explores the significance of our family

narrative in shaping who we become. Our family
provides our initial understanding as to how members
within a family must function and presents a template
that is involved in the construction of our personal
narrative and our personal identity. We subjectively
take with us these narratives which permeate our
interpretations of various experiences in many areas
of our respective lives. In understanding the family
narrative, we may better understand ourselves.
2.) The Importance Of Family
by AMIT AHLAWAT
A family is the very essence of human society,
irrespective of place, social system, culture and
ethos. Family, of which you yourself are an EQUAL
member, is of utmost importance, no doubt. YOU
form your family, along with other members, whom
all of you accept and welcome. If YOU or another
member is NOT there (move out), your erstwhile
family adapts and CHANGES itself. It may then, at its
discretion, may or may not accept you back again.
Quitting a family is easy, joining back isn’t. Likewise,
if a member dies, the family ceases to exist the way
it was before. Whenever a new member joins, again
the family changes. Every grounded and self-honest
person would know this truth, irrespective of age,
time, place, situation and generation he/she
belongs to. One family may be different from the
other (the value system and the lifestyle may be
different), however the roles broadly remain the
same - father, mother, son, daughter, husband,
wife, brother, sister and so on. Families also evolve
over time, as do YOU yourself and everyone else for
that matter.

3.) For the Family's Sake: The Value of Home in Everyone's Life
By: Susan Schaeffer
Macaulay For many of us the word home brings warm thoughts
and happy memories―far more than the dictionary's
simple definition of "a place of birth or one's living
quarters." For many of us, home is where the heart is.

Yet it is even than that. It is the secure environment that

allows our hearts to develop. A haven of growth, quiet,
and rest. The place where we love and are loved. Sadly
though, this kind of home is beginning to disappear as
our busy society turns homes into houses where related
people abide, but where there is no "heart."

With a desire to help you nurture your family's heart,

Susan Schaeffer Macaulay presents a clear blueprint for
constructing a home that survives the variety of
situations that you face in modern life. With Jesus Christ
as the foundation, using tools such as common sense,
realism, and traditions, you can build a secure, loving
environment where every member of your family can
flourish.