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Jayanti Bunton
Dr. Powell
Advanced Composition 2
16 November 2020
Deuteronomy 5:9 says that children will be punished for the sins of their fathers to the
third and fourth generations. This does not mean that if a parent commits theft or murder, then
the child will suddenly have a broken leg. That is not the case as expounded on in Deuteronomy
24:16 which clarifies that everyone will be punished for their own individual sin. What these two
verses convey is that sin is passed down through generations, and what the parent does, the child
will learn and continue it in their life and be punished for their own actions. This is the reason
why there are so many crimes committed today. These current issues are not new, for there is
nothing new under the sun. Therefore, the problems people in the world are facing today are the
problems their forefathers faced but never defeated. The occurrence of problems such as
domestic violence and abuse have been around for years and appear across the globe. These have
come to be a resurgence in families because of the familiarity it exudes in their lives and their
lack of experience with proper nurturing. Many people involved in abusive relationships are
caught in a cycle that they are unaware of because the cycle of abuse that flows through
All behaviors are not new, they are learned, adopted and continue to be taught for
generations. The heinous crimes seen today are a result of an ongoing cycle that was not
terminated. The cycle of abuse starts with the home; abuse is learned. A parent brings home the
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lessons and experiences they were taught by their parents when they were a child and transmits
them into their family. Parents and the household are huge influences in the way a child behaves
and interacts with others as they grow. Next, the child becomes acquainted with what they see
and experience each day. A child copies the consistent model their parent provides for them:
washing hands before eating, having manners, etc. Then the children take their lessons with them
into their adult life, and do the same to others and to their children. When they have children they
will model for them washing hands before eating, having manners, etc. Parents should consider
creating more time for self-reflection in order to ensure their actions are not harming their child
or poisoning their future. Their parenting determines how their child will grow up and contribute
to society.
Describing this process involves essential words that need to be clarified and explained in
the context of this process and how they contribute to the continuation of abuse. The most
essential word to understand is “cycle”, which is defined as “a series of events that happen
repeatedly in the same order” (vocabulary.com). Cycles go in full circle; everything ends where
it starts, and starts where it ends. Abuse is a cycle that is taught and executed through the
behaviors of families. Abusers abuse because it was done to them or they have seen it in their
environment. In addition to this, it is imperative that one understands the importance of social
and cognitive skills. According to Scott A. Miller, PhD, social cognition “ecompasses beliefs
about others, the self… as well as beliefs about specific aspects of people (e.g thoughts, desires,
emotions)...” (Miller 1). The formation of social cognitive skills is the most important
development in a child’s brain. It is extremely reasonable to conjecture that during this formation
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of the brain a child will constantly be surrounded by family; from their parents behavior and
interactions with each other, that child will form their skills around that behavior and copy it.
The cycle begins with a parent and the baggage they bring from their childhood into their
adult life. A parent governs their children based on how they were raised. They either adopt
similar parenting methods to their parents, or they do the complete opposite. From parents,
children acquire the knowledge of almost everything: how to walk, how to talk, how to use a
spoon, how to interact with others, how to dress, etc. When examining a person and their
behavior, one is also able to identify the behavior of their mother, father, grandmother,
grandfather, etc. This flows into the next phase where the child becomes acquired to what they
see daily and subsequently applies learned actions and behaviors to their daily life. Children are
like sponges; they soak up everything around them. According to Kyle Snow, children begin to
take in their surroundings and learn at a rapid, unmatched rate from the moment they are born to
age 5. During these years crucial connections, that help develop academic, and social and
cognitive skills, are created (Snow 1). If a child is continuously beaten and abused every time
they make their parent angry, then the child will come to think that it is acceptable to beat
someone if they anger them. The child then grows up and takes what they have learned into their
adult life and marries someone similar to themselves or someone who easily conforms to their
normalcy; the cycle repeats. An adult that grew up being beaten or even saw their parents being
beaten is more likely to marry someone that abuses them as well–it is familiar to them. This is an
essential idea to note because if one parent is abusing the other, then that child will see that every
day and it will affect their behavior and interaction with others. Also if an adult marries someone
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with a similar background to themselves, then they will have equal parenting methods and teach
If a parent was whipped for doing something inappropriate when they were a child, one
can portend that that parent will do the same to their children. The same goes to say that if a
parent was never corrected for their mistakes and wrongdoings when they were a child, then they
would think their actions are acceptable and go on to not correct their children when they violate
the rules. Mark Laita became a witness to this truth when he uncovered the backstory of a
homeless man on the streets of Los Angeles, by the name of James–a convicted rapist and
murderer who was banished from his family for raping his own mother at sixteen and raping and
killing another young lady in Louisiana. In the interview Laita comes to find out that, everyday
since the earliest age he could remember, James was molested by his whole family: his mother,
his two sisters, and his father. He was also constantly beaten by his brother. James reveals that
through the abuse he experienced, his family taught him that “rape and sexual crimes were okay
as long as you cared about the other person… It was how you showed you cared for the other
person… It was okay to force myself and do what I wanted to do” (Laita 3:43). He also
continues to say that he raped his mother at the age of sixteen because he “truly did not know the
difference between right and wrong sexually… It was perfectly normal in our family… It was a
form of self expression” (Laita 5:55). James’ haunting life makes him the model human-being
of the generational cycle of abuse. His childhood was filled with abuse through which his social
cognitive skills were wired to the belief that it was acceptable to force himself onto others if he
wanted to; despite their rejection. This resulted in him contributing to what is dangerous about
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society, being banished from his entire family, and finding himself in prison on multiple
occasions.
The case of an ongoing cycle of abuse that is not ceased is a lamentful story to tell. The
result of this ferris wheel of death, is egregious crimes and childhood trauma that people do not
know how to handle. In the year of 2019 there were 98,213 reported rape cases in the United
States alone (statista.com). That is only half of the actual number of rape cases. According to
rainn.org, out of every 1000 sexual assaults: 995 perpetrators will walk free, 230 cases will be
reported, and 4.6 rapists will be incarcerated. Therefore, it is reasonable to formulate that the true
rape cases in 2019 for the United States is more than double that number. Also according to The
Washington Post, all around the world in the year 2017, 137 women died by the hands of
domestic violence. The continuous traumatizing experiences can also open the doors to many
other dangerous avenues such as drug and alcohol abuse. Many people use drugs and alcohol to
escape the pain of their past and forget everything, but according to Isaac Alexis, “...research
shows that alcohol can actually complicate symptoms of anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic
stress disorder” (Alexis 3). The negligence of one person to recognize the cycle they are trapped
in and to make a choice to stop it, can cause numerous people everywhere to suffer. This is what
makes the world such a lamentful and dangerous place. Everyone on earth has the freedom to do
This almost seamless cycle can make terminating it extremely difficult. People do not
normally recognize the cycle they are in until they start repeating the same as their parents. This
in turn places them in a type of conundrum. Once something is learned, it is difficult to unlearn
it and start anew. A playwright, named Tyler Perry, once said that parenthood is similar to
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packing a child’s lunchbox, except the lunchbox is for their life. Whatever the parent puts in that
bag, the child will carry around with them forever. Him being of the Christian faith, he most
likely drew that conclusion from Proverbs 22:6 which states, “Start children off on the way they
should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it”. Unless a child knows that they
also have an option to buy school lunch or switch meals with their other classmates, they will
only make use of what was given to them–positive or negative, helpful or toxic. This vicious
cycle wreaks havoc on today’s society because of the sins each individual chooses to commit
against one another. Choices matter and are in one’s control. What they do with that kind of
power does not only affect them, but society as a whole. Someone can choose to stop the toxic
behavior they were taught or they can choose to keep the cycle going and be punished for the
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