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Except for the birthing process and breastfeeding, do you think that a mother's position as a
caregiver of an infant or child is biologically different from that of a father? Why? What
Answer
For a very long time, there have been discussions on whether the mother and father
have different bonds between their children. I believe that there is a special bond created
between the mother and her child that a father cannot recreate. I feel like the biological
process has a big effect on what happens to the relationship between mother and child after
the child has been born. In all honesty, if the father also got to spend 9 months (give or take)
harboring and creating a child inside of them they could experience this bond as well, but
unfortunately for men, it is’t biologically possible. Any bond between parent and child may
be strong, however, there is just a bond between mom and baby that you cannot recreate with
a father.
I have a sister whose father left her and my mom behind for another woman in
another country as opposed to creating a safe space and having a huge impact in her life.
Fortunately, my dad was courageous enough to take her in and adopt her as his own child.
Even though he didn’t contribute half of his DNA to her, our bond is the same strength. I
can’t speak about how the mother’s relationship is different because we have the same
mother so our experiences are relatively the same. So much of the reasoning behind me
believing the mother’s bond is stronger is due to my own personal experiences. This is not to
Family members may be able to notice a child thriving if both the mother and father
are actively present in their life; of course you have to take into account the quality of the
parenting, “The same is true for parental care: Some mothers and fathers are wonderful,
some not” (Berger, p. 148, 2019). If the parents decide they are not able to help this bundle
of cells form into a grown, healthy human being and take care of them as they need to be
cared for, they should opt for other options than being their parent(s). This can be adoption,
abortion, or taking life by the horns and trying to improve their parenting skills with
parenting classes or asking for help from an experienced parent. Making sure they feel more
comfortable as a parent could greatly improve the quality of life for both the parent and the
child. I’m sure many parents have gone out into the world trying to make their experience
better for their child and they end up in a much more positive situation; capable of giving the
Parenting should always be a fifty-fifty effort between the two parents on giving care to the
child along with school or even playing to grow. Spending time together may be one of the
simplest but best ways to connect as a parent and child, “contemporary fathers often play
with their infants,” (Berger, p. 152, 2019) in addition to grandparents, uncles, aunts, daycare
workers or the mother of the child. Unfortunately, the daycare workers do not get to be the
close biological figure of the child’s life, but at the end of the day, the mother’s bond will
most likely be the strongest and carry so much significance in the child’s life. This is
strongly due to the mother likely being more maternal out of habit and of course, being so
close with the child before it’s even born. Fathers may have the opportunity to be close with
their childre however that may not mean their relationship is any stronger. The father may
want nothing but the best for their child and care deeply about them, but at the end of the day
his childcare starts at birth compared to the mother’s childcare starting at conception.
Reference
Berger, K. S. (2019). Invitation to the life span (4th ed.). New York, NY: Worth Publishers.
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