Courtship, Dating, and Marriage - MAPEH 8 (Health 2nd Quarter)

1. Health 8 UNIT 2: Family Life Courtship, Dating and Marriage

Family is the foundation of society which is primarily responsible for shaping the lives of its members. Do you
know how your parents met and formed your family? love story? Were you able to ask them their

Activity 1: Loop-a-Word.
Loop as many words associated with marriage.
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Assignment
Interview your parents or couples who are close to you. Ask them the questions below.
1. How did the couple meet each other?
2. Why did they like/love each other?
3. Did the marriage/relationship start with courtship and dating? How?
4. Is courtship and dating important to them in choosing a lifetime partner? Why?
5. What message can you draw from the information that you gathered from your parents of the couples?

What is infatuation? What is love?

Both are intense emotions that one feels for another person. The two feelings differ in their actuality of love,
intensity, and final outcome.

Activity 2: Picture Connectivity What words can you form out of these pictures? How do these pictures apply
to you? Why is courtship and dating important in choosing a lifetime partner?

Activity 3: Sharing Views.

Here are three boxes which need your views to be shared with the class.
Definitions / meanings / words that you associate with courtship • • • •
Practices associated with courtship • • • •
Importance of courtship • • • •

COURTSHIP
Courtship is the period in a couple’s relationship which precedes their engagement and marriage.
During courtship, a couple gets to know each other and decides if there will be an engagement.
Courtship is also a test of compatibility between the two persons.
Courtship is an opportunity to know the background of each other, including the family where each one
belongs.

Different Traditional Practices of Courtship in the Philippines

ILOCOS REGION
Tapat
serenading (harana) “to be in front of the woman’s house”

TAGALOG REGION
Balagtasan
The suitor begins singing a romantic song, and then the courted lady responds by singing, too.

LUZON
Rooster Courtship
The rooster is assigned to be the "negotiator", wherein the male chicken is left to stay in the home of the
courted to crow every single morning for the admired lady's family.

BULACAN
Naninilong “serenading from the basement”

BATANGAS
Gestures and Actions
Serenading with Tagalog love songs accompanied by a guitar
 Doing household chores
 Pay respect to the woman’s parents by saying “Mano po.”

PANGASINAN
Taga-amo means “tamer” It is a form of love potion or charm
Palabas means “show or drama” The suitor pretends to commit suicide

KALINGA
Ca-i-sing (Ifugaos) Ebgan (Kalingas) Pangis (Tingguians)
A man and a woman are separated into “houses.”
The house for the males is called ato, while the house for females is known as the olog or agamang.

PALAWAN
Pasaguli Love riddles
To assess the sentiments of the parents of both suitor and the woman
Pabalic / Pabalik is done to settle the price in a form of dowry that will be received by the woman from the
courting man

CEBU
Balak (serenade)
Love letters (sent through a trusted friend or relative of the woman)
Presents (to the woman and her relatives)
Love potions

LEYTE
Pangagad / Paninilbihan
The suitor accomplishes household and farm chores for the family of the woman (approximately 1 year
before they get married).
Subok – a trial or test period for the serving suitor
TAUSUGS of MINDANAO
Palabas, sarakahan tupul, or magpasumbahi
A suitor would threaten to stab his heart while in front of the courted woman’s father.
If the father of the woman refuses to give her daughter’s hand, the suitor is smitten by a knife.

BAGOBOS of MINDANAO
Send a knife or a spear as a gift to the home of the courted woman for inspection.
Accepting the weapon is equivalent to accepting the man’s romantic intention and advances.

COURTSHIP PRACTICES at the AGE OF TECHNOLOGY

A suitor can court through the use of cellphones, the internet, and social media.
This courtship practice is alarming.
You should be careful and responsible for everything you post in social media.
“Think before you click.”

Why is it important for couples to undergo courtship?

Importance of Undergoing Courtship 1. It gives a person time to know better the character and background
of someone being considered as one’s
future lifetime partner.
2. It gives time to understand one another and determine if you can get along with minimal conflicts.
3. It reveals one’s interests, likes and dislikes, limitations, and aspirations in life.
4. It allows couples to decide whether they are ready to be committed.
5. It allows couples to determine and focus on what to expect in marriage.
6. It develops security and establishes respect for each other.
7. It develops understanding and acceptance.

Activity 4: Showing Affection There are many healthy ways for individuals to show affection which may lead
to courtship between persons who are physically and emotionally attracted with one another. Make a list of
practices or behavior demonstrated by people to show their affection.

Activity 5: Do You Know? Copy and answer the following questions: 1. What does it mean to go on a date? 2.
What are the activities usually done during dates? 3. How does dating differ from a regular outing?

DATING
Dating is a social activity which involves two or more people generally assessing each other’s suitability for a
potential relationship.
Dating can also be enjoyed as part of an already active relationship. DATING
Dating is a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by two people, as partners in an intimate
relationship or as a spouse. DATING
Dating is an act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity, together as a couple.

What are the types of dating?

1. Standard Date – involves two people
2. Double Date – two couples go on a date at the same time and place
3. Group Date – where any number of couples can enjoy a date

Importance of Dating
1. Strengthen the relationship
2. Spend quality time with each other
3. Observe the other person’s character
4. Know one another better
5. Know one’s strengths and weaknesses
6. Reveal any potential problems the partners may have
7. Develop affection and respect for each other

Risks Connected with Dating

1. Date rape
2. Use of illegal drugs
3. Early and unwanted pregnancy
4. Fall prey to thieves, robbers, kidnappers, or other types of criminals

RISKS OF DATING
At times, dating even the people you think you know maybe risky if they are just pretending to be
trustworthy but really have bad intentions. So, what shall you do? It is important to be cautious and
safeguard yourself to avoid mistakes that you will regret later on.

Engagement “Going steady.”

Engagement is a period of agreement entered between two people in love for them to be able to know each
other and their families well enough to be sure that they are ready and are suited for life-long
companionship.

Activity 6: Sharing Opinions. If you were engaged, which would you prefer, long engagement or short
engagement? Justify your idea.

Activity 7: My Ideal Partner. On a bond paper, draw and color your ideal man/woman. Below your drawing,
write the characteristics you expect from him/her.

Marriage
Marriage is the most enjoyable human relationship.
Marriage is the most significant event that may happen to one’s life.
It takes only two people, a man and a woman, to unite and make a successful relationship as married couple.
Marriage is a lifelong partnership of a man and a woman.
Marriage is a bond between two people who continue to grow and develop their best qualities as human
beings.

What are the factors to consider in choosing a lifetime partner?

1. Good character
a. God-fearing
b. Responsible and honest
c. Hardworking and industrious
d. Respectful and compassionate

2. Maturity
a. Handles relationship responsibly
b. Makes wise and well-thought-out decisions

3. Fidelity
a. Makes the relationship lasting
b. Considers the relationship sacred
c. Sincere and true to promises made to one’s partner

4. Commitment
a. Makes peaceful and lasting relationship
b. Dedicated in fulfilling responsibilities

5. Love
a. Strengthens the relationship with the partner
b. Understands one’s partner
c. Endures till death
6. Economic Readiness a. Aims for a better future of the family b. Able to provide for the needs of the family
c. Maintains stable job or business that can support a family

7. Physical Maturity
a. Has a healthy body
b. Accepts and is proud of partner’s physical features

What are the ingredients of a successful marriage?

1. Love
2. Understanding/Respect
3. Care
4. Loyalty
5. Shared Philosophy
6. Cooperation
7. Growth
8. Involvement
9. Sharing and Giving
10. Communication

Activity 8: Expressing Opinion. Choose an issue below and discuss your position (if you are in favor or not)
1. Early Marriage
2. Live-in Partners
3. Same Sex Marriage

Activity 9: Role Playing To fully understand courtship before and at present, form a group and decide on
which to portray: either courtship before or courtship at present. Your group will be given five (5) minutes to
prepare for the presentation. Be guided by the scoring rubric to be used in the presentation.

Rubric for Evaluation:

Criteria Excellen Good Needs Some Needs Much Fair

t Improvement Improvement
5 4 3 2 1
Relates to audience
Provides a fluent rendition of
scenario
 Role plays scenario with feelings
and expressions
Varies intonation
Presents characters
appropriately
Gives the scenario its full range

THANKS MR. CARLO JUSTINO J. LUNA Malabanias Integrated School Angeles City