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period 3 online
In both Adichie’s and Baldoni’s ted talk, each of them talked about how previous
generations and their cultures shaped the gender roles of men and women who followed them.
Both of them regretfully expressed on how the society was teaching the younger generations
to be the ideal “man” or “woman,” rather than teaching them to be good humans. The
thoughts shared by Adichie and Badoni had many similarities than differences.
One striking similarity in both of their ted talks was that both of them talked about the
roles or “scripts” that males were given from the time they were born. They talked about how
males were taught to be afraid of vulnerability and that showing their vulnerability or
weaknesses made them less manly. According to Adichie, males are locked inside a small
cage called masculinity. With the viewing of the society, if they don’t have the qualities that
make them masculine, it makes them less of a man. Baldoni said that males are given “scripts”
and that these scripts told them on how to be a man and act like one. These scripts were given
to both genders and it asked the men to be the strong ones and women to be the weak and
vulnerable ones. Both talked about how males were expected to be the ones to take the
initiative and the ones to protect the females in order to prove their masculinity; Men were
expected to be the ones to make money for the family and the ones to pay for everything.
They are put under constant pressure to prove their masculinity every day.
Both Baldoni and Adichie emphasized on how human cultures and its expectations
widened the gap between the roles of men and women. Baldoni told about how he was bullied
because he was soft and not strong like other males. From Baldoni’s story of one his female
followers and her boyfriend, her boyfriend grew up in an environment where men who
displayed affinity and emotion were mocked; this made him to be afraid to publicly display
his love for his beloved. A waiter greeted the man that Adichie came with but paid no
attention to her. When she gave a tip to the man who found her a parking spot during her trip
to Lagos with her friend Louis, the man thanked Louis and not her as he thought that the
money she had was earned by Louis. Baldoni only started to gain male followers after he
started to post “manly” stuff. The main idea in all these examples was that men are expected
to be brave, strong and the breadwinners of the family, while women are expected to be
inferior to men. Adichie and Baldoni both addressed these issues by giving examples based on
their real-life experiences, which gave their ted talks more dimension and emotion.
Adichie later gave a lot more elaboration than Baldoni on the burden women face due to
gender roles: The culture that people developed made women to be the inferior ones and men
to be the leaders even if those men and women didn’t want to; Women were expected to limit
themselves to the domestic sphere by doing all the housework, cooking, and caring for the
children, while the men went to work to feed the family; They were expected to marry early,
and if she doesn’t, it counts as her failure. Males are taught to mask their true selves and
according to Adichie, girls grow up to be women who have turned pretense into an art form;
Women are taught to limit their potential in all cases while men are taught to hide their
humans. Baldoni said that instead of raising children to be strong and brave boys or fragile
and pretty girls, we have to raise them to be good humans. Adichie conveyed that instead of
raising children with the attitude that the boy has to pay, we have to raise them with the
attitude that whoever has more should pay. Just like she said, culture is made by people. Both
Baldoni and Adichie used their voices to convey the need for people to change that culture
and start raising boys and girls differently from before, making it clear to them that they are
only biologically different and not different in terms of abilities and intelligence.
One main difference in their ted talks was that Baldoni spoke more about the problems
faced by men while Adichie spoke more about the problems faced by women. But they both
addressed the problems faced by the opposite gender as well, that too accurately. They
weren’t biased on acknowledging the issues faced by the opposite gender. Just like I said
before, there were more similarities than differences. Both of them addressed their speech in a
humorous yet serious way. Both of them used their life experiences as examples of the
problems they addressed. Both of them conveyed how gender and culture defined how people
should be rather than recognizing them for what they are. They stressed on the need to change
the current culture and the need to raise children differently so that the younger generations
know that skills and knowledge are not defined by gender. At the end of the day, the thoughts