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By G-Yan Mamuyac
It was cold night of January 1st of 2017 when my world shattered into
pieces. It was supposed to be the time at which a new calendar year begins, but
of white, I was sitting placidly at my pink bed staring straight at the window
"I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I was hurt that's why I said those words. The pain is still
here. Please, don't leave us here, I beg you, Grace," my father said, kneeling in
front of my mother.
"No, I don't love you anymore! I don’t need you anymore! I’ll go back to Qatar
now. Take care of our children," my mother replied obnoxiously, packing her
"I know everything, Grace. Every man you messed around in there. And now,
you are again flirting with another guy. I know it. Why do you have to do this to
me, to us? I’ve forgiven you several times," he shouted as his eyes were
He hit the wall hard with his fist. He smashed an elbow into the room’s
door. I could see through my father's eyes how he loved her truly, deeply and
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madly. Our bedchamber was surrounded by melancholic ambience. My tears
rolled down my cheeks. I couldn’t move. I couldn’t help. I couldn’t say a word.
that moment.
I saw him with a sharp knife in his hand. In just a fraction of a second, he
It seemed that everything hurt so much. In his second attempt, I quickly motioned
towards him, and tried to steal the knife. Without hesitation, I clasped the blade
from him, but he was too strong. My hands were sore. It was as though I was
gambling my life with death. I didn't care anymore if something bad was going to
happen. If it was the only thing to save his life, I would. I screeched that moment.
I shrilled for a help but no one heard me. I could see in his eyes that he was fully
"My life would be worthless without your mama, Eyan," he murmured, trying to
hit himself while I was taking it from his right hand. His voice was as sharp as a
cutting knife.
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“We are here, papa! Please don’t do this to us,” I responded, screaming.
ending his life and to give him another chance to live. Then without a second, he
answered my prayer. I shouted for the last time, then my uncle and grandmother
came along.
He tried to take off the sharp thing in my father's hand with a great force.
While he was doing so, I saw mom, leaving. She fixedly stared at me for about
three seconds then went straight to her way. It grates my soul. It felt like my entire
world left behind me. I, too, wanted to disappear completely. But I reminded
myself that I should be brave, optimistic and strong to face this cruel world.
Finally, my uncle got the knife. Drops of blood started streaming down the
floor. Ten seconds passed, and then twenty and thirty, he finally lost his
nervous, shaking and terrified. I was still clueless about how those things
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According to experts Michelle Moskos, Jennifer Achilles, and Doug Gray,
factors. Mental illness is the leading risk factor for suicide. Suicide risk factors
vary with age, gender, ethnic group, family dynamics and stressful life events.
Health, research shows that risk factors for suicide include depression and other
mental disorders). More than 90 percent of people who die by suicide have these
risk factors. The risk for suicide frequently occurs in combination with external
circumstances that seem to overwhelm at-risk people who are unable to cope with
which persons with these risk factors will ultimately commit suicide.
As we got to the hospital, three nurses carefully put him into the
emergency bed. It was saddening to think that I had celebrated my first night of
the year at the hospital. I couldn’t act normal. It was exactly 10:03 pm when the
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My heart and mind were trembling that time. The parents of my father
entered the room with a look of disappointment. They wrapped me with their
arms, and asked what happened. I narrated the story with a calm voice.
Love may be the first thing that a person considers when entering a
relationship, but it is also the number one reason why one commits suicide, a
marriage and family counselor said. Citing studies and personal experience with
patients, Maribel Dionisio of Love Institute Philippines said love -- or lack of love
-- is usually what causes a person to decide to end his or her life. Dionisio made
the statement as two suicide killings in separate malls in a span of a week sent
security experts and parents into a frenzy. "More specifically, the risk of suicide
among divorced men was over twice as likely as that of married men, whereas in
women, there was no statistical difference in married and divorced women." Men
It started when I abruptly discovered that mom had a forbidden affair with another
man that had begun on the internet. In point of fact, I caught her cheating for the
fourth time. I questioned her several times, but she kept on refusing to admit the
truth, the reality. Every lie was a new wound, a new scar added to the collection
of my emotional pain. I could barely grasp that it was the beginning of the
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suffering and the endless grief that was store for me. At first, I tried to conceal her
for the sake of our family. In all honesty, never did I imagine to live in a broken
that the guy was just another friend of her. If being a mute was the only way to
The night of October 09, 2017, papa earnestly queried me why he cannot
blindsided to find out that he was blocked by my mom. At that moment, I can't
find the right words to explain everything to papa. This time, I felt a sharp pain in
make everything easy to understand. He's not a tech geek. Promptly, the tears
burst forth like water from a dam, spilling down my face. I could see on his
"I know everything. I just don't want you and your brother to know this. If only I
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keep this family." His voice sounded more pained than anything. We both wept in
the midst of the night. Perhaps these salty drops would help us to mend our
broken souls.
I could see in his eyes that he was trying to be strong to face it gallantly.
After the dramatic session, we decided to cut our communication with her.
Every day then, we, my brother and I, were always showing how much we
love our dad. We made cards. We gave gifts. We sent everyday sweet messages.
Every day is a new chance to get things right, to sow the seeds of love. We need
to adjust. We need to move forward. We need to accept that there are certain
things in life that we could never control. Life must go on even though we've been
But when November 28th of 2017 came, someone knocked three times on
the door in the middle of the night. I felt strange. I felt uncomfortable. I knew it. It
was her . . . my mother. Only my brother enveloped her tightly. But I just locked
myself in a dusky room, and ignored her. My eyes began to swell, and turned red.
"We are okay now. I hope she would disappear now," I murmured indignantly.
With each passing day, she tried to get our hearts again. She exerted much
effort to be a hands-on mother to us like doing the laundry, ironing our clothes,
preparing breakfast and other chores that a typical mothers do. On my special day,
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Thereafter, we, including my father, had forgiven her. The pain vanished as we
hugged each other. Everyone deserves a chance. Perhaps giving her a chance
happiness. On the 30th day of December, I caught him talking to a man via
messenger’s videocall outside the house. I thought she has already changed, but I
couldn't explain what I was feeling that time. My heart was badly hurt. Again, I
brokenness inside me. I tried to forget what I have accidentally discovered, all the
pain.
And after the night of happiness, glee turned into tragedy. I was tormented
“It was depression who tried to kill your father,” he added with a gloomy face.
I asked for help in my college classmates, but no one was capable of donating.
After a day, lot of my papa’s friends visited him, and donated blood.
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Research has consistently shown a strong link between suicide and
depression, with 90% of the people who die by suicide having an existing mental
illness or substance abuse problem at the time of their death. A major cause of
are overwhelmed by painful emotions and see death as the only way out, losing
people who try to kill themselves but live later say they are glad they didn't die.
always have the same thoughts as a healthy person. This chemical imbalance can
lead to the person not understanding the options available to help them relieve
their suffering. Many people who suffer from depression report feeling as though
they’ve lost the ability to imagine a happy future, or remember a happy past.
Often they don’t realize they’re suffering from a treatable illness, and seeking
help may not even enter their mind. Emotions and even physical pain can become
unbearable. They don’t want to die, but it’s the only way they feel their pain will
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We patiently waited outside the operating room. After couples of hours,
Tragedies often surprise us. Sometimes it’s not always right to fix
something broken. I couldn’t deny that until now I am still in the process of
moving on. It takes time to fully mend a broken soul. But today, it’s time to start
my life anew, and trust the magic of beginnings. The world may bring deep
darkness, but the fear evaporates when we believe that our stories were written by
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