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ART OF NOT
GIVING A F*CK
MEMORIZATION BOOKLET
Mark Manson
WHY YOU NEED TO FILL OUT THIS BOOKLET!
NOW WHAT? 3. You are more likely to develop a passion for what
you are good at. The mistake is thinking if you ar-
Watch the video online or on your USB Flash en’t good at something, you do not have and can
never develop a passion for it. This book teaches
Drive. you to revisit those areas that you’ve misconceived
as weaknesses.
Pause the video as needed to fill out the
booklet.
NOTE
The purpose of this booklet is to help you turn the- 1. Although we suggest that you do, you do NOT
ory into action. Learning science has shown that need to read The Subtle Art (…) to learn and
retention increases dramatically when new informa- apply its key points. We’ve already done the hard
tion is immediately recalled (verbally or via writing), work for you.
as well as when it is practically applied to your life. 2. Watch the video provided on the USB flash drive.
3. Pause the video as needed to fill out the booklet.
Using this Memorization Booklet is the easiest and 4. Don’t worry about finishing all at once. Stop.
most effective way for you to codify and make use- Start. Come back. It’s all up to you.
ful the depth of knowledge included in The Subtle 5. Apply the techniques discussed in the booklet to
Art(…). Follow this guide, answer the questions hon- your life.
estly and diligently, and by the end, you’ll learn how 6. Notice the results. This stuff really works!
to successfully prioritize your values, thus making
your life simpler and happier.
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DON’T FEEL BAD ABOUT FEELING BAD
QUESTION
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HAPPINESS IS SOLVING PROBLEMS
QUESTION
QUESTION
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BECOME GREAT BY KNOWING YOU’RE NOT
QUESTION
NOTE
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ENTITLEMENT AND THE DELUSION OF PERFECTION
Sure, your life will have its highlights, but don’t be Example: Anthony Robbins. I feel like he never has a bad
fooled by the filter of Instagram and Facebook. day…like he’s figured out some all-inclusive formula for
Most of your life (and everyone else’s for that happiness…
matter) will not be noteworthy. But this is OK!
The opposite—a grandiose, overindulgent view
of the world—is actually quite dangerous.
QUESTION
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THE METALLICA SYNDROME
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SHITTY VALUES (CHOOSE WHAT YOU SUFFER FOR)
NOTE
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IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT, BUT IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY
Fault is concerned with the past. You were at Was this negative outcome your fault?
fault.
YES NO
Responsibility is concerned with the present. It is
my responsibility.
With regards to finding a solution, does it matter
And now here’s the kicker—whether an occur- whose fault it is?
rence was or was not your fault is completely
irrelevant. The only thing that matters now is— YES NO
what are you going to do next?
2.
3.
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THE NECESSITY OF CHANGE
Everything else is futile and will only cause you Example: A few years ago I became a vegetarian. I did
further pain. this for my health because…
NOTE
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CERTAINTY BREEDS INSECURITY
If you’re too certain about who you are, when Who are you? Describe who you are now. What’s
circumstances change, you’ll inevitably feel inse- changed?
cure about your place in the world. If you’re cer-
tain that you’re the best salesman for example, Example: Now I work at a Ford Dealer working on cars.
but your co-worker gets the promotion instead I realized that it’s much easier and more stable to work
of you—what does that say about you? at a single location…
QUESTION QUESTION
Who were you? Describe who you were ten years Who do you want to be? Describe who you will be
ago. What were you certain about? in 10 years. What’s changed?
Example: I used to be crazy about motorcycles. I thought Example: I’m probably selling myself short. There’s still
I would be a traveling motorcycle mechanic… that adventurous part of me, but I haven’t been able to
take the risk of starting my own company. In ten years I’d
like to be able to own a shop, so that if I want to travel…
REMEMBER
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KILL THE OLD YOU
What if you’re a hard lined Republican, but a lib- Example: I’m certain that sex before marriage is the ul-
eral policy turns out to be wildly successful in timate sin…that if someone acts against God’s will…
your area? Or vice versa? The Law of Avoidance
predicts that instead of using this policy as new
evidence to change your worldview, you’ll instead
avoid acknowledging its reality.
NOTE
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FAILURE/PAIN AS A POSITIVE
Let’s imagine someone who is better than you at Example: I’ll never forget my first girlfriend. I was so stu-
something—isn’t it true that this simply means pid in how I went about breaking up with her, trying to
that they’ve practiced more?—or better yet, that look cool in front of my friends—but the look on her face
they’ve FAILED more than you have? To build the still haunts me to this day…
muscle memory of what works, you also must
build the muscle memory of what doesn’t work.
QUESTION
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ACTION LEADS TO MOTIVATION
QUESTION
Example: I’m going to sit down with her today and build
a schedule for “hang out” days.We’ll design a calendar of
events that we can share together…that I’ll be account-
able to…
HINT
Now go do it!
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MEANING COMES FROM COMMITMENT
14. Some self-help gurus insist that you must say yes
to everything: QUESTION
“Be open to the world”—“Don’t turn down What are the three most important values you are
what could be a great opportunity” etc. etc. committed to embodying?
But saying yes to everything means that you stand Example: I want to be a hardworking person, an honest
for nothing. person…
QUESTION QUESTION
Who are the three most important people in your What are your five biggest distractions, those as-
life? Who are you committed to? pects of your life that take up too much of your time
compared to who and what is actually important?
Example: My wife…
Example: I will say no to always watching “the game” in
my den.
1.
3.
2. I will say no to...
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CONFLICT (IN RELATIONSHIPS) IS GOOD
Not all conflict of course—Always arguing is not Example: I’ve been upset about…I know it sounds silly
something to strive for. but I keep asking my husband not to throw our new
towels on the floor…but he refuses to acknowledge that
But at its core, being able to articulate open and it’s important…
honestly how you feel—this is a sign of strength
in a relationship, not weakness. You must be able
to disagree; you must be able to persevere to-
gether in spite of stressful situations—because if
you do, you’ll come out stronger in the end.
QUESTION QUESTION
What’s an event in the past that you and your signif- Now go say it. Talk it out. Bite the bullet. Then come
icant other (or best friend or mom/dad) overcame back and answer this question—did that honesty
and are now stronger because of it? strengthen or ruin your relationship?
Example: When we first started dating, I had a miscar- Example: I feel so much better now. At first, he was angry
riage. It was devastating. I felt insecure, uncomfortable— and defensive but the more that I assured him that I
like I had let him down—but in the end, he was so nice loved him, that it was just a small thing…we ended up
about the whole experience, it made me love him that hugging it out. I’m really glad we talked about it.
much more…
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MY OWN NOTES
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MY OWN NOTES
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