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II Defusion
A. Session 4: Meeting Your Mind—The Co-Pilot
1. E-Thoughts about the Bell--distinguishing thoughts & other internal experiences
2. I-Origin of thoughts (& voices-auditory hallucinations)
3. M-Mind as Co-pilot (Mind = Co-pilot)—take co-pilot for a flight
B. Session 5: Experiences and Thoughts
1. I-Distinguish thoughts from experiences
2. E-Sensory experience w/food (mindful eating) & what co-pilot says (use cards & bag)
3. I-Sensory exp & co-pilot’s comments occur almost simultaneously, where does cp get his ideas?
C. Session 6: Training Your Co-Pilot
1. E-Co-pilot—quick learner, long memory—Mary had a little _____.
2. I-Co-pilot learns his thoughts from people & their creations—books, ads, movies, etc.
Notice some thoughts uncomfortable, irritating
3. M-Passengers on our plane—Take some for a flight
4. I-Trying to get rid of passengers or our co-pilot
III Acceptance
A. Session 7: Unwanted Thoughts
1. E-Willingness check—some clients w/SMI fled mention of their uncomfortable thoughts in Session 6
2. E-Getting rid of thoughts— Tossing furniture/tossing thoughts—Don’t think of the flag
3. I-The more you don’t want it, the more you have it.
4. I-What makes a thought unwanted?--Thoughts about thoughts & thoughts w/attached feelings
5. E-Co-pilot’s scary/sad thoughts/voices on a card—set it away based on want/don’t want it
B. Session 8: Unwanted Feelings
1. I-Getting rid of emotions/feelings
2. E-Stand with Yourself: feelings on posters—move away/around them based on want/don’t want them
3. I-The more you don’t want it the more you abandon yourself and have it.
C. Session 9: Dropping the Rope—Willingness
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1. M/E-Tug of War—pilot and control/avoidance strategies vs. co-pilot and passengers—drop the rope
2. I-Acceptance is the alternative to the struggle—willing to let the co-pilot & passengers be in the room
Session 13b
Mental/
Physical Health
As you can tell, you’ll be helping one another. Now, please decide who would like to go first and begin.
INTERVIEW QUESTIONS:
Please ask your peer the following questions and write their response on the line provided:
1. What meaningful life direction have you chosen? (You may want to remind your partner that we worked on
this and chose one during our last ACT group).
___________________________________________________
2. On a scale of 1 to 10, where 1 is “I really don’t want to find 3 goals along my meaningful life direction right
now" and 10 is “I really do want to find 3 goals right now”, what number fits best for you?
___________________________________________________
3. Why were you willing to show up for today’s meeting?
_____________________________________________________________________________________
Now, ask your peer the following questions and write their response on the line provided:
2. What is your short term goal—something you can do today that would move you along the path of your
meaningful life direction:
___________________________________________________________________________________
3. What is your medium term goal—something you can do this week that would move you along the path of
your meaningful life direction:
___________________________________________________________________________________
4. What is your long term goal—something you can do next month or next year that would move you along
the path of your meaningful life direction:
___________________________________________________________________________________
*NOTE: Did your peer have some trouble finding goals? If so, that’s okay! Just go to the next section!
____________________________________________________________________________________
2. Ask you peer, "As you came up with your goals, did you have any feelings similar to these?" Read the
words below and circle it if they say, "YES."
2. Ask your peer, "Would you be willing to make a commitment to do your short term goal before the next
ACT group?" Circle their response: YES NO
GREAT JOB! YOU’RE DONE! Now, go ahead and switch roles, completing this worksheet for the other
person.
INTRODUCTION/DIRECTIONS:
This is the second meeting with your peer. This is the meeting where you’ll talk about the short term goal you
committed to in group to complete this week.
First, thank your peer again for showing up to meet. Taking steps toward the life you want is a big deal!
You will be interviewing each other again. You will write your partner's responses on this form and he/she will
write your responses on the form they have. Again, fill in your names below:
INTERVIEW QUESTIONS:
Please ask your partner to give you the information below & write their response on the line provided:
1. Please update me on any changes you've made to the meaningful life direction you've chosen and the goals
you set by telling me what they are:
Short Term Goal Check in Time: Now that you have the most updated information on your peer, it’s time for
you both to check in with one another about the short term goal you each committed to complete. Ask your
partner the question below and use the form that matches his/her response:
2. Have you completed your goal this week?
IF NO: USE FORM #1 with your partner
IF YES: USE FORM #2 with your partner
*If your PARTNER completed a short term goal, CONGRATULATE HIM/HER!
If not, now’s the time to RECOMMIT to completing the goal this week.
Please arrange a second time to meet during the week AFTER your peer has completed their goal. Fill in the
spaces below with the following information:
__________________________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________________________
Please ask your partner if they are willing to make a verbal recommitment to complete this goal.
Ask your peer the following questions and write their response on the line provided:
1. Was completing the goal like flying your airplane without your co-pilot (did all your thoughts, worries, &
voices disappear)?
________________________________________________________________________________________
2. Was your co-pilot shouting at you a lot about why you shouldn't, couldn't, or wouldn't complete your goal?
________________________________________________________________________________________
3. Were other passengers on your plane saying critical or discouraging things to you before or during
completing your goal? (things like…"You can't do this; What's the point!")
_________________________________________________________________________________________
5. Did you notice any feelings you were having before or during completing your goal?
6. Would you be willing to complete this goal again, or choose a new goal for this week?
(1 = Not At All Willing, 10 = Very Willing) Circle the number indicating your partner's willingness:
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
7. What goal can you commit to completing before group next week? (write it in space below):
__________________________________________________________________________________________
Was
completing the
goal like flying
your airplane
without your
co-pilot?
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(did all your thoughts,
worries, & voices
disappear?)
Was your co-
pilot shouting
at you a lot?
…about why you
shouldn't, couldn't, or
wouldn't complete
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your goal?
Other:__________________________________
My
Meaningful
Direction:
____________________________________________________
Write your goal for this week that will move you in this direction:
3.
Willingness?
Please
read
the
following
statement
aloud
to
your
partner:
What is willingness? Willingness is going forward, flying in a new direction, trying a new goal, even with the
barriers you checked above. It is putting energy into something new, even when your co‐pilot gives you reasons
why you shouldn’t, or you feel anxious or afraid, or you're tired, or think you're somehow incapable of
completing it. Willingness is doing what is meaningful to you, even when your co‐pilot tells you otherwise. It is
flying your plane in the direction you choose rather than the direction your co‐pilot wants.
4.
How
Willing
Are
You‐‐
rate
your
willingness.
If
you
circled
some
barriers
above
for
not
completing
your
goal,
are
you
willing
to
commit
to
completing
the
goal
you
wrote
on
this
handout,
even
with
those
barriers
that
have
made
it
difficult?
RATE
YOUR
WILLINGNESS
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
10
(1 = Not At All Willing, 10 = Very Willing) Circle the number that matches your willingness.
Peer
to
Peer
Worksheet:
Commitment
to
a
Valued
Path
Session
17
Homework
Please
Complete
Part
One
of
this
Form
With
Your
Partner
NAME:____________________________________
DIRECTIONS:
Please
interview
each
other
using
the
first
page
(part
1)
of
this
form.
So,
give
this
form
to
your
partner
so
he/she
can
ask
you
the
questions
on
this
first
page.
He/she
will
then
give
you
your
form
back
so
you
can
work
on
the
next
two
pages.
PART
ONE:
INTERVIEW
QUESTIONS:
Please
ask
your
peer
the
following
questions
and
write
their
response
on
the
line
provided:
1. Did you complete your short term goal from last week?
_______________
2.
If not, what barrier(s) seemed to get in the way of completing it?
__________________________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________________________
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Read
to
your
peer
the
following
statement:
Please consider once more the meaningful life direction you wish to pursue by making short term and long
term goals. Here again is a list of valued domains (read
them
to
your
peer):
Mental/Physical
Health
Family
Relationships
Spirituality
Friends/Social
Relationships
Romantic
Relationships
Career/Job
Development
Recreation/Sports
Financial
Stability
School/Creative
projects
Citizenship/Community
Groups
Other:__________________________________
Ask
your
peer:
Which of these meaningful life directions have you been working towards?
Write
your
partner's
valued
direction
here:
______________________________________________________________
**Please
return
your
partner's
form
to
him/her.
The
next
part
you
will
each
complete
for
yourself.
PART
2:
QUESTIONS
FOR
YOU
TO
ANSWER
(not
your
peer):
1.
Please
write
a
short
term
goal
in
the
space
provided
below
that
moves
you
along
your
meaningful
life
direction
(this
can
be
the
same
goal
you’ve
already
been
working
on,
or
it
can
be
a
different
one):
__________________________________________________________________________________________
2.
Please
write
a
long
term
goal
in
the
meaningful
life
direction
of
you've
chosen
in
the
space
below
(i.e.
a
long
term
goal
is
one
that
may
take
a
month
or
more
to
complete):
__________________________________________________________________________________________
What are some common barriers that typically get in the way of completing your goals?
Thoughts—what
my
copilot/passengers
say:
Nothing
's
out
there
for
you
You
can't
change
You're
not
worthwhile
It's
too
hard
Physical
Sensations:
Stomach/bowels
are
uneasy
Very
tired
Muscle/joint
pain
Light
headed
Head/neck/back aches. Sore feet
Practical
Issues:
Don't
know
how
No
time
Don't
have
support
No
money
Other Reasons? ________________________________________________________________________
Defining
Your
Personal
Barriers:
3.
Please
describe
three
specific
barriers
that
seem
to
get
in
the
way
of
completing
meaningful
goals
in
your
life.
These
can
be
thoughts
that
your
co‐pilot
says,
feelings
you
do
not
want
to
have,
or
other
barriers
that
seem
to
make
new
goals
very
hard
to
complete.
You
may
use
the
list
of
reasons
to
help
you
define
your
personal
barriers:
1.
__________________________________________________________
2. __________________________________________________________
3. __________________________________________________________
4.
How
willing
are
you
to
complete
your
short
term
and
long
term
goal
even
with
the
barriers
you
listed
above?
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
10
(1
=
Not
At
All
Willing,
10
=
Very
Willing)
Circle
the
number
that
matches
your
willingness.
__________________________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________________________
6.
How
willing
are
you
to
use
some
of
these
suggestions
to
assist
you
in
completing
your
short
term
and
long
term
goal
even
with
the
barriers
you
listed
above?
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
10
(1
=
Not
At
All
Willing,
10
=
Very
Willing)
Circle
the
number
that
matches
your
willingness.
Session 18 posters
Your Short-Term
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Goal
What would
help You in this
Process
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