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24 October 2016
After 15 years, and a life on the road that took her to Japan,
Singapore and Australia, Helen Maffini felt it was time to return
home to Canada. But, it took just a fraction of that time for her to
realise she had made a mistake.
Repatriation upheaval
But there are downsides. Such long absences can play havoc
with a person’s sense of identity, a feeling that is intensified by
the length of time away and how often they visit home,
according to Nicola McCaffrey, a psychologist based in
Stavanger, Norway. Some long-term expats can’t adjust to their
new life in their old home and struggle with reverse culture
shock. In some cases, they return to the road, unable to pick up
where they left off.
Expats in Boat Quay, Singapore. Those who live away from their home countries for
long periods can struggle with their sense of identity (Credit: Getty Images)
While Lee had prepared for her return for a year, the emotional
upheaval still came as a shock. For the first few months, she
retreated to her parents’ house, swapping the chaos and noise
of New York and her laboratory at Columbia University for the
slower-paced city of Ipoh in northern Malaysia.
KL was a completely different place to what it had been
before. I couldn’t recognise anything - Mei-Ho Lee
For Mei-Ho Lee, working and living in Kuala Lumpur took a lot of adjustment (Credit:
Alamy)
In fact, Maffini dates the start of her own expat life to when she
was 15 and her father accepted a job at a research laboratory in
Japan. So it's not surprising that she's chosen a similar life for
herself. Her own daughter, now 20, is studying hospitality in
Ottawa and, like many TCKs, appears to have inherited her
parents’ restlessness. She has no plans to stay in Canada. Her
ambition is to travel the world.