Lesson 2.

Learning Activity:

Let’s reflect about this topic:

As a person of characters, how should your social or cultural group define your
personality, is it based on the manners which you may have had revealed to them? A
room for you to change yourself is still open if it is to you a necessary thing to do. Does
your manners are good and your conducts are right for you, and for the society that you
belong?

Having a good manners means acting in a manner that is socially acceptable and
respectful. Good manners conveys respect to those you interact with, and also commands
respect from those you interact with. Right conduct is living a moral and ethical way in the
absolute sense rather than by the standards of any particular time or society. The act or exertion
which do good to others, or that act for which one does not has to feel shame should never be
done.

Being a person with character, If I am talking to my cousin and raised her voice to me as
a response I would still respect her. I would not be mad at her nor feel bad at her because in the
first place I don’t know where is she’s coming from why she talked to me like that. So, instead of
trying to talk again, I better smile at her, say thank you and leave. Because no matter what I am
doing to explain something if her mind is closed it would still be useless.

Even if you do good to others there are still people who will speak evil behind you and
tarnish your character. Whatever you show properly and respect them if they think it is just
showing people to be accepted by your society and they do not think the good things you have
done to them are still useless. That is why you just keep doing good to them and to others
because they are not the ones feeding you. Let them realize that what you are showing is good
and one day they will know that respecting others is respecting Jesus.

To improve yourself is to apply what you observe from your surroundings and apply it to
yourself. For instance, if you are new to the province and you have lived in the city for a long
time and you love modern clothes and you see a group of women in your society who do not
dress like you, do not laugh. Do not mock at them. Respect them because they grew up in the
province. You should adjust to your new environment and learn to adapt to your society and
observe those around you if you should wear shorts. If you respect yourself and respect others,
treat them nicely so you will also be respected and accepted in the society.

If you grow up with respect for yourself and to others, you know to treat other people and
fear Jesus, no matter what others do to you and damage your image, you will not be affected
because you know in yourself what you are doing and you have no one to step on. In every day
that you good deeds to other people there are still few who appreciate you for being kind and
they will also be able to apply it to themselves.

Lesson 3.

Learning Activity:

For Activity #1

1. Are your manners a product of your cultural group manners? Or just a result of
your exposure to other social groups as they may have influence yours by
reasons of “cultural otherness”?
When our parents teach us good manners and adapt them, no matter where we
go in a group of people or social people, we will never forget the good manners
in which we were taught and raised. The cultural group manners of our ancestors
will always through generation to generation and we may inherit it.

2. How will you describe your manners in a different group meal settings? Say, in a
church; in a home; and in any meal parties?
When we train ourselves in good manners we will not have difficulty interacting
with other people because if you have a good etiquette inside the house, you will
also be well outside.

For Activity #2
1. In the three pictures above, which do you think is more appropriate and is decent
to be adopted for yourself to behave?
For me, the most appropriate and decent behavior to adopt is the first picture.
Obviously, the family shows respect to the food in front of them and they are
eating peacefully. The parents absolutely taught their children the good manners.
 Indeed, parents should be the one who teach the good manners and right
conduct to their children.

2. In which picture above you may wish to be learnt by the family that you may plan
to build in the future?
What is planted, it will also bear fruit. If we are taught of good manners and right
conduct by our parents we can take it with us wherever we go. So, if I were to
have my own family, I will teach them the good manners my family taught me.
Additionally, it also the best moment to share what was happened to our day in
front of the table.

For Activity #3
In a brief and concise statement of the aforementioned questions, fill the matrix provided
below to qualify your answers:
HOW THE PICTURE INFLUENCE YOUR BEHAVIORAL MANNERS?
Behavioral Behavioral mannersBehavioral Behavioral
Pictures manners inin the actions thatmanners in manners in the
talking to thecan be taken for theintermingling the thinking about the
self self self to others self
#1 It is such a I truly apply the good What I am If we were taught
blessing for table manner from inside of our of good manners
having a the picture to myself. house, that is and right conduct
parents who Because if we were exactly what I by our parents it
taught me taught of good am outside. means they truly
good manners, nobody Because that is loves us and they
manners. I could steal it from what my family want the best for
could not us. For instance, we taught me – us.
imagine are invited for a being a
myself dinner, of course we respectful
without them should always show person.
because they respect especially
are the ones we are guest.
who taught
me good
behavioral
manners first.
#2 First of all, I Showing respect to If you are It is such a shame
think many the food is crucial. intermingling to if you are too loud
times before I The picture shows others, and not paying
do that they looked too especially if you attention to food
something. happy that I guess do not know especially you
Because I they are just much the were invited for a
might cause focusing to the girl. person, you dinner. So, others
pain to Parents should be must pay will think that you
 someone to fair and square to respect. are so noisy at the
the point that their children and Observe your dinner table
they are the little boy secretly surroundings if because you are
completely feeding his dog you are doing like that at your
ignoring me. which is good. own table.
Just like the inappropriate in the
boy, he just table.
feeds his dog
because they
do not pay
attention to
him.
#3 Parents Praying and What you are I always observe
should be the thanking God for the inside the my surroundings.
one who blessings He house, that is Upon looking at the
teach good showered upon us is actually you are picture, it shows
manners and a kind of respecting outside. So, I bad manners that
right conduct most especially for always show is not applicable to
to their the foods we eat. respect to apply for myself.
family, but The picture shows others because
the picture disrespectfulness. that’s what I
shows wrong The family did not learnt inside our
manners and show good manners house.
wrong to the food.
conduct.

Let’s reflect about this topic:

Among the three cultures of table manners, which table manners culture you can
truly distinguish yourself?
The hygiene manners. Before we sit and arrange ourselves in the table we make
sure that each family member washed their hands and we wait for the others to start our
meal.

Hygiene manners, courtesy manners and cultural norm manners ---

How does each of these manners works to you?
In hygiene manners, the family must wash their hands before eating, eat
properly, eat silently and talk when you are being asked. After eating, of course, brush your
teeth and use mouth wash to keep your breath fresh and fragrant, and also to keep your teeth
from cavity. For the courtesy manners, ask your neighbor to pass an item on the table rather
than reaching across their plate and say please and thank you. Avoid being too loud when you
are in the front of food. Chew with your mouth closed and don’t talk food in your mouth. And
lastly, the cultural norm manners, wait to begin eating until everyone is seated and served.
Avoid arguing because of the food. Parents should cook equally to avoid this kind of scenario in
the table. Eat like a princes and princesses not a beggar.