Written by

Mark Williams
a.k.a.
MysticGotJokes
1. Self Belief

So I was struggling trying to decipher what is the #1 reason a woman

is attracted to a man. I kept circling back around to self belief. Self belief
is the foundation of women attraction. Without this one critical
attribute, attracting a woman (or matter of fact, attracting anything or
anyone meaningful) is damn near impossible. If you don’t have self
belief that you are capable of attracting a woman, a gorgeous woman,
sh*t even an average woman, there is no way in HELL any woman is
going to give you the time of day.

Now I’ve struggled with self belief in the past and in certain areas of
my life I do still to this day. I’m not here to say you need to automatically
wipe all doubt from your mind in the blink of an eye. I am saying to
steadily make progress in retraining your mind and it’s negative,
pessimistic thought loops. Throughout my struggling with self belief, I’ve
come to the realization that it is the determining factor of whether or
not I’m going to have the girl of my dreams under my arm or forever
solely in my dreams.

Look, I think it’s self explanatory but in case there is any confusion let
me break it down to you. Women are attracted to men with confidence,
now this is a WHOLE other topic but confidence is related to self belief.
Think about it, when you believe in yourself suddenly anything is
possible. When you believe that you can make a free throw because
you’ve practiced numerous times, crazy how the ball finds its way in the
hoop. When you believe you can make it to the top of the mountain on
a hike, you somehow find that extra boost of energy to get up there.
How you’ll get down who knows but you get the point, everything starts
with your belief system.

How about I give you something from my personal from my own life.
Growing up I played almost every sport, one of those sports being
soccer. During soccer practice there was this one kid that ALWAYS beat
me whenever we raced. Now I despised Shane for the simple fact that
he was faster than me. As you could probably imagine it wasn’t the best
look to be consistently beaten. So one day I decided to consciously
focus all my imagination and energy on having already beaten him in
our next race. I had vividly seen myself sprinting next to him giving it
everything I had and finishing in front of him. Long story short, when we
finally raced I had beaten him by about half a second. He was shook he
and everyone looked at me and asked “How did you do that?”. Self
belief.
 Ok enough of those examples, how about why you guys are here.
Women. Something I have trained myself to do before I ever approach a
woman is to mentally prepare myself. It might sound dumb but it works,
simply envision her vibing with you and being totally intrigued by
everything you are saying. This puts you in the right mental space because
trust me women can feel your energy. If you go up to her and you are timid
and second guessing yourself, she can sense that and nothing you say or
do from that point on matters. Envision yourself as the man you want her
to see and take that mindset with you as you approach. For those who
have never done this, you will instantly see a dramatic difference.

2. The REAL Approach

Let’s face it, for the majority of guys out there approaching a woman can
be one of the most terrifying and nerve racking things to do. When you see
that smoking hot girl across the room your brain goes from “Damn, she’s
hot” to a million and one random thoughts. “Should I go talk to her?” “What
if she has a boyfriend?” “What if she rejects me?” “What should I say?”
“Should I ask where she’s from?” “Should I make up a long story about
where I’m from, why I’m here, why I came up to her?!” All of these erratic
thoughts always tend to lead a guy to talking himself out of even
approaching her or setting him up for the most awkward interaction
imaginable.

So what I’m about to reveal to you is what I know works from personal
experience. I mean from doing what I stated above and being rejected
and humiliated in front of large groups of people. The feeling of rejection is
one of the most discouraging feelings there is. It can make a guy shell up
and not want to ever cold approach a woman again out of sheer fear.
Instead of looking at these failed encounters as reasons to give up, I simply
used them as lessons. I’m excited to give you guys this information
because I know how life changing it is. Here it is, women LOVE realness.
 They want a man that is 100% themselves, not a version of themselves
they think the woman wants to see. Before you approach, shift your
mindset from over analyzing to simply just being. Be comfortable with
yourself, your surroundings and in whatever conversation you are about
to have. Talk with her as if you are talking to one of your closest friends
about your day. When you do this you are achieving multiple things.
One, you are making her feel comfortable with yo. Trust me, any truly
hot girl gets approached by hundreds of guys and over half of the guys
that approach her, fail miserably because of the facade they put on
which she can smell from a mile away. Also, it relieves the anxiety and
“pressure” of approaching her altogether. The main reason men are
anxious and afraid to talk to a woman is because they think the girl
won’t like them for them. This is beyond WRONG! Women love
authenticity and even if you were able to dupe her into believing a
made up persona, that won’t last too long once she spends just a little
more time getting to know you, the real you.

Here, let’s put this in a real life scenario so you can get a visualization
of what I mean. Let’s say you’re at a party and the DJ is playing a song
that you hate, but when you look over and see the sexy Instagram
model you’ve been following for years jamming out to it, you don’t
know what to do. You want to go up to her because she’s clearly in a
good mood, so that’s exactly what you do. The only problem is you
approach her with a preconceived vision of how you “think” she wants
you to. You go up to her and flat out LIE!. “Hey what’s up? This is my
favorite song!” You say this assuming she’s going to positively respond
because you see she’s obviously into the song, or maybe just extremely
drunk who knows. Let’s face it she might respond positively. The only
issue is that for one, you’ve garnered her attention based off a lie. Also,
she may think it’s cool you like the same music but she’s probably
heard that from dozens of other guys with no originality. The reality is,
you can use the fact that you feel completely different about the song
to your advantage. Let’s say you go up to her and tell her how you really
feel and how you completely HATE this song. This does multiple things,
shocks her and has her emotionally invested. Now she wants to know,
“Who’s this asshole interrupting me and my girls and how could he
possibly dislike such a great song?” So now you have something to
spark a conversation from. Joke with her, “Oh you like this song? Wow I
feel sorry for you, are you okay?” Most guys might think this will push her
away, no. This gives you value because instantly she perceives you as a
man that isn’t approval thinking.
3. Maintaining Value

Throughout the years of my dating life I’ve seen a common theme

with each girl I’ve been with. I noticed that when a girl would tell me
she loved me at some point in our relationship, there would come a
time where she would flip the script and display actions completely
opposite of “love”. For years I played the blame game and assumed
that’s just how women are. No, women are always responding to the
man. There was a reason she fell in love with me, there was a also a
reason she fell out of love. The reasons are both reflected to how I was
acting. For instance, say you go up to your best friend and try to tell
them about the promotion you just got at your job, in turn they just
brush you off or say “cool, i don’t care”. At first you might just think they
are having a bad day, but if this behavior continues you are going to
without a doubt begin to resent them. It’s simple, the energy you give
off is the energy you receive back.

When dating, whether it be the guy or the girl; you can get too
comfortable. This is where the real danger lies because now you are
making decisions and actions unconsciously and incongruent with the
behaviors that originally attracted your partner to you. What the issue is
with most guys including myself, is that we don’t ever take a look at
ourselves and analyze what the issue could be. We instead brush it off
or place blame on the woman, “Oh she’s trippin’ again” or “Oh she’s
CRAZY!”. This is where things begin to crumble. When I say that, this
implies to you whether this is a lack of maintaining value from the first
night of meeting a woman or dropping the ball with your fiance.

“Ok bro I get it, how do I fix it?!” Well I’m glad you asked, it’s really
simple and crucial to get down. This is actually something that will not
only help maintain your value but actually raise it. Everyone can use
extra points with women, I mean that’s why you’re here. Here is how
you raise your value with a woman, show empathy. Empathy is the
ability to understand and share feelings of another. When a man is
capable of proving he has this side to him especially after solidifying
himself with her as a non needy, valued MAN; she instantly is captivated
and wants more of you. In order to show empathy without seeming
weak or feminine, simply listen and address something she brings up
that you can relate to on a personal/emotional level. Like for instance
say her dog passed away, and instead of generic “Sorry to hear that”,
how about telling her about your dog that passed and how you help
out at the dog shelter in your neighborhood (only if it’s true).
 Doing this gives the impression that you are caring, kind, and
considerate. These are all traits a woman loves on a man, and it also
shows you have a deeper layer other than trying to get in her
pants...even if that’s your objective. Now in order to simply maintain
your value with a woman whether it be a conversation or throughout
the course of a relationship, you must first establish it. What makes you
valuable to a woman? Can you cook? Can you provide for her whether
it’s financially or emotionally? It doesn’t matter how big or small it is to
you, value is value. Once you’ve established your value as a man, you
must make sure you have a list of all these traits either in your head or
written down somewhere. Showcase these traits on a consistent basis
but not in an overwhelming way.

Whenever you get the vibe from a woman that she isn’t feeling you as
much as she once did, don’t flip out and assume she is cheating. Who
knows, she might be but if you want to avoid it then stay on top of your
game. Know what “little” things she likes about you and cater to those
things, it’s simple.

4. Push/Pull Method

I remember when I was dating a girl that was probably more into me
than I was into her when we had initially started dating. Then
somewhere throughout the relationship there was a polar shift and I
was drastically more into her than she was into me. Why was this
happening and why was she losing attraction? These were questions I
continuously asked myself but ignored answering because I had the
false sense of security that she wasn’t going anywhere. So being that
naive person I was at the time, I continued blindly ignoring the signs of
my self sabotage and ultimately destruction of our relationship.
 It is basic psychology that we all want what we can’t have whether we
believe it or not. The mistake most guys make including myself is we get
a girl and even if we played the ‘make her chase’ game in the
beginning, we get complacent once we know she’s ours. The issue with
this is you are giving her too much leverage. She now feels like she
controls you, the relationship and the direction of the relationship. As
much as women scream they are independent, when it come to love
and relationships they never truly want to be in control. The man is
supposed to lead and when you are being a puppy dog and not
standing your ground, she will leave your ass. The reason most guys fail
when it comes to sustaining the immediate attraction they once had
with their partner, is that they cannot balance between pushing and
pulling. You might be wondering “Ok bro what exactly is the ‘push/pull
method’ and if it’s so crucial to my success, how the hell do you do it?”.
Ok, let me break it down so you understand exactly what it is and how
you can apply it.

(The following is to be used in reverse order. You want to make sure you
'Pull her in FIRST!)

‘Push’
This is where you are showing her disinterest. Now you may be
wondering why in the world would you do that. Again, it comes down
to psychology and how our brain works. If you are around a girl you
perceive as a 'dime' 10 out of 10 then you should be aware that she is
used to interest, and a lot of it. When you are needy like the majority of
men then you are showing a couple things; that you aren't special or
different, and that she can have you at any time. In order to push her
away without completely blowing your chances of ever pulling her
toward you and into your bed...or life, you must do the following.

Make certain she is aware of your presence or else this won't work.
Once she knows you are around, make sure you grab eye contact with
her. When you lock eyes, immediately redirect your eyes to someone
else, preferably a close friend of hers or someone in her vicinity. This let's
her know that you are aware of her as well but not dead set on her.
Slowly draw your attention back to her and even make contact with her
by placing your hand on her shoulder (she won't be bothered by this
because you've established rapport with the 'pull' method) Tell her
something slightly off putting like "I've loved talking to you but I have to
leave to meet with a friend for dinner"

This now makes her wonder who you are meeting with for dinner
because dinner dates are usually with the opposite sex. This is
something light that isn't overly rude and also makes her wonder; you
want her to wonder.
'Pull'
This is when you show the girl attention. From personal experience I
can tell you that not all attention is good attention, or attention that’s
desirable. Make sure that if you are going to engage in showing your
interest with a girl that it is not dull, bland or generic. Spark up a
conversation based around HER, trust me women love to talk about
themselves but most only feel comfortable when they are asked a.k.a.
given permission. Doing this does multiple things, it tells her that you
are interested in who she is as a person whether it’s genuine or not.
Also it displays that you aren’t self centered, women are repulsed by a
man that obnoxiously goes on about themselves. Now as I say that, you
should know that it is okay to talk about yourself as long as it’s not in a
boastful way. This will also balance out the conversation and not make
her feel uncomfortable. For example, let’s say she is telling you about
her vacation to Italy and you just so happened to go there before too,
let her know! Tell her the juicy details about where you visited while
there and the highlights of your trip. This will help because now you
have something of common interest and can branch off the
conversation from her.
5. Text Game

Nowadays texting is the primary form of communication between

not only men and women but people in general. If you want to have
success with women you MUST know how to properly communicate
with them through texting. I've learned over the years that texting with
a woman can drastically change her opinion about you and the future
of your relationship. What you want to focus on is drawing her into what
you are saying but not giving too much away.

Honestly, when it comes to texting you ideally want to not text her at
all. What I mean by this is you want to establish everything with her in
person and texting should only add to your alpha male persona and
raise her current level of attraction. If you are sitting there constantly
texting her back and forth, she is going to wonder why you are so
available and if you have anything else going on or anyone else to talk
to. Make yourself a mystery, give her something to wonder about,
women love to wonder.

If she texts you first, do NOT reply right away. Most guys instincts tell
them they must respond immediately because if they don't then she
will forget they exist and go to the next guy that responds faster. That is
all wrong, a woman wants you to have sh*t to do and no matter how
much she begs for your attention she subconsciously wants you to treat
her as an option. Think about it, would you want a girl that is always
available , all about you all the time, drops whatever they are doing to
respond to you? Well damn that actually does sound somewhat
appealing! But NO trust me I know from experience it is smothering
and unattractive.
 Let me simplify it, as far as the timing goes give it between 10-15 minutes
from the first text she sends you, and from there the following replies should be
at least 5 minutes apart. As for what to say, spark her interest, be playful and
witty but do not sit up and have a full on conversation. Make what you are
saying sound fun but leave space for her to wonder why you are busy, what
you are doing and who you are doing it with. For example, she texts you "Hey
what are you up to?", reply something like this;

"I'm actually working on a project before I meet up with a friend. Still thinking
about last night though...". Obviously it depends on what you are doing but the
point is you need to make it clear that you 1) have something going on 2) have
someone else in the picture. Now she doesn't have to know whether this other
person is male or female but she at least knows you have other people in your
life that are giving you attention and this is attractive. Plus her not knowing who
it is leaves mystery.

The main reason you don't want to go on having a full blown conversation
over text is because that leaves no reason for you guys to hangout in person
and even when you do, there is very little to talk about that you haven't already.
The primary objective of texting a woman is to build her attraction and set up
another time for you guys to meet up. As much as texting is great and crucial,
live interaction is and always will be the most important way to raise/build
attraction & intimacy. Texting should never be your main source of contact with
a woman.

6. Be Dominant, Not Nice.

Everyone has heard the term "Nice guys finish last" and well...it's true. At
least with women they do. The most attractive trait a man can have that a
woman is attracted to is his dominance. Dominance is having power or
influence over others, and if you are able to have this over a woman she is
going to get wet like a faucet that won't shut off. Being nice and being
respectful are two different things. What you ultimately want to do is show a
woman that you aren't a little b*tch and won't put up with whatever she says.
Women are going to constantly test you and see if you are going to stand your
ground or fold under pressure.

When you are given these let's call them "sh*t" tests, what you need to do is
not fold and put her on a pedestal as if you MUST do what she says or she
won't want you. She will want you even more if you are that dominant alpha
male that doesn't cave in. Make it clear of your desires, wants, and needs so
that there's no confusion. Being a man of dominance shows that you aren't
dependent on her for your happiness, you know what you want and she can
either get with it or get lost.
 Being a dominant man essentially means to stand your ground, don't
budge and never fold. Weakness isn't an attractive trait on anyone and the
moment you show signs of it, a woman is headed in the opposite direction. A
simple way to display dominance is to be decisive, tell her what you guys are
doing and when you're doing it. When you already have your mind made up it
show that you are thoughtful, a decision maker, caring and overall on top of
your sh*t!

7. Play The Field

This is one of the most powerful ways to instantly attract women. When you
are either around multiple women or perceive to be around multiple women,
this makes more women want you...it's strange, i know. Trust me though, I
know this from experience, the more women I seemed to interact with and the
more that other women knew I was interacting with them; the more they
wanted me. At first this whole concept of getting women to get more women
kind of threw me off an I had thought it would undoubtedly backfire. It didn't.

Of course women are going to say "Oh my God, you talk to SO many girls,
that's not cute!", but just like everything else they say...they don't mean it.
Women love a challenge, if they see that you are worthy of other women's
attention and time then they are going to sit there and wonder. After they are
done wondering they are going to want to investigate, "Why do these women
want him?" "He must be special!". So many thoughts are going to be running
through her head and her curiosity is going to be too overwhelming not to
make a move on you.

If you are trying to attract your crush or just hot girls, try it out. Go out and
get some girls that you feel are easy to attract. Post pictures and videos with
these girls on your social media of you guys having a great time. This will
work online and in person because when other women see this they want to
feel validated that they too are worthy of your attention. Obviously you don't
want to be parading around with ugly women but in all honesty it works either
way. Think about it like this, if another women sees you with a girl she sees
as 'ugly' she is going to want to validate herself as more attractive and strive
to take your attention away from the 'ugly' girl and put it on her because she is
'more attractive' in her eyes. If she sees you with a girl that is drop dead
gorgeous she is going to strive to get your attention to validate that she is
equally as attractive as her. It is a win win.
 BONUS

8. Go-To Pick Up Lines

(Will help instantly start a convo)

1. "Do you know a good place to eat around here?"

This will get her thinking about food which is something everyone likes.
She will also be thinking about 'good' food so that will kick in her appetite
and wish that she was eating there. From here it leaves a very easy follow
up...ask her out to that restaurant! (after further conversation)

2. "Sorry, I just feel uncomfortable when beautiful women stare at me and

don't say anything."

This reverts back to the push/pull method. You are being playful and
sarcastic but at the same time still letting her know you think she's beautiful
without seeming desperate. This works wonders. Try it out

3. "Finally! A woman as attractive as me in here, I can stop hunting now"

With this one you have to be careful and not come off too boastful. Be very
playful, laugh and smile and she will love it.

Thank You
All of these tips are from my personal experience over years of attempting
to attract women; failing and trying again. I have learned want works but most
importantly done enough trial and error to know what doesn't. This is why if
you truly apply all that I've given you I am very confident that your success
with women will sky rocket and you will soon be wondering how you ever lived
without your new found 'super powers'. I just want for every guy out there that
has ever struggled with getting the attention of a hot female or any female for
that matter, to be capable of effortlessly sparking conversation and building
instant attraction.