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While one of the simplest ways to deal with bullies is to avoid them... that's not always
possible. Sometimes they live in your house. Sometimes they're even related to you -- by
blood.
Dysfunctional family dynamics are often written off as "That's just the way my family is."
But you don't have to let yourself be manipulated, or tolerate abusive behavior. Instead,
hold your ground with these strategies:
The hard truth? According to a study published in Pediatrics, aggression between young
siblings can escalate into adult bullying. If that's the case for you, well... now that you’re an
adult, you can defend yourself. “Don’t play the game,” says Janice Harper, Ph.D., a
cultural anthropologist specializing in conflict. Instead, take the Dog Whisperer's approach
when it comes to your pack... uh, family: Be calm and assertive à la Cesar Millan. "Let the
[bullying] family member know you love them, but that you won’t be a target," Harper says.
"Don’t engage in self-defense, and don’t engage in counterattacks.” Example: Your sibling
says, "Everyone in the family knows you've always been spoiled rotten." You say...
nothing. You don’t respond. You just stay calm and keep doing what you were doing.