TASK 2

It has been brought to parents’ attention that their unconditional love for
their children might turn these impressionable souls into calculating, and
perhaps ruthless, misfits and rebels.

Why is this?

How can we possibly rectify the situation?

What is the right approach parents should adopt in educating their

offspring?

Van Anh’s essay

In the unquenchable thirst of parents for their children’s auspicious life,

that unconditional love engages in education, characterized by the over-
indulgence in rearing their offspring, regardless of what they do. This new
method, at first glance, seems to be more approachable to children’s mind
and heart. In my perspective, the aforementioned behavior ought to be
counterproductive. This essay will thoroughly elucidate the core problems
as well as considering several methods collectively for parents and
respectively for more prosperous future.

Homo sapiens have been living in an age when children are so privileged of
carte blanche and inordinate parental support that unprecedented plethora
of adolescent misbehavior, rebelliousness or even juvenile delinquency was
instigated.

First and foremost, modernization including multi-culture, liberalism is

partly to blame for this situation. For as the pace of changes increases, not
just the economy but the very meaning of ‘being parent’ is likely to mutate.
To analyze more thoroughly, parents are aware of difference between
generations and exert themselves to solve it, hence their much less
adamant behavior. Unfortunately, due to the conflict between various
perceptions, the more effort parents put into narrowing the gap between
generation, the wider is the invisible distance among family members. For
instance, when your child is fifteen, he is saddled with both mental and
physical changes. Supposed he is academically inferior to his peers, either
superfluous protection or carte blanche you offered will lacerate his
integrity. While diplomatic words indirectly amount to the child’s
inadequateness, freedom can culminate in his inability to fathom the
blurring boundaries of justice. To rectify the moral dilemmas of this scale,
parents should change their perspective from the way they were seeing to
the child’s welfare and loosen up their stereotypical perception of children.
As well as extricating themselves from manipulating children into an
acceptable social mold, spending quality time, especially dinner with their
children to exchange confidence not only ingrain in children’s heart the
sufficient sense of mentally supported but also help consolidate moral
values in the world full of deception, post-truth and diffusion of the media.

Secondly, the harshly severe lives of parents in the past are not allowed to
recur in their children’ future. For the fear of their child’s inferiority to his
fellow human beings, multifarious parents strain every nerve to give
offspring state-of-the-art equipment, access to prestigious schools or a
huge amount of money. However, providing all mod cons just make the
situation out of the frying pan of the adolescent insatiable desires into the
fire of calculating and materialism. It is just a matter of time that the
children’ perception of relationship between parents and them transforms
into commercial trade in which adolescents bring home their most elite
certification in exchange for the latest iphone version from their parents. In
children’s perspective, pure love turns into duty and heartbreakingly, they
take their parental attachment for granted. In order to ameliorate this
situation, parents ought to get their children accustomed to adversities by
particularly sending them to non-profit organization, to observe the
austerity of others. Moreover, establishing limits to their unconditional love
is of utmost importance by learning not to compromise all the requests,
teach them to prioritize, delay gratification. Last but not least, parents
should change their own mind so that they will spend time in stead of
money with their children and show appreciation for the deeper value of
things.

In conclusion, like two sides of a coin, unconditional love for children has is
own set of advantages and disadvantages. Taking my analysis into
meticulous consideration, the issue emerged from the divergence between
generations and inferiority complex. These two factors bear resemblance
that is the state of getting their wires crossed. Methods were given-spiritual
values is superior to the material ones -and they all lead to the empirical
matter: if parents indeed understand what’s happing inside their offspring
than children understand themselves, authority will shift to parents.