HR DISPLAY (60 Nos.

Dear Members,

We have incorporated 60 nos. of HR Practices. You can

display it on your Notice Boards every week one Display for
the perusal of your employees. All the write-ups have been
in word-format and hence you can copy and make
alterations or additions as per your requirements. Also you
may do correct formatting according your choice. Before
you display, you make consider the applicability of the said
HR Concepts in your organistion.

Regards,

A. Narayanan, HR Facilitator
1.Attitude
Abraham Lincoln: I am not bound to win, but I am bound to be true. I am not
bound to succeed, but I am bound to live up to what light I have.
Viktor E. Frankl: I became acquainted with those martyrs whose behavior in camp,
whose suffering and death, bore witness to the fact that the last inner freedom
cannot be lost.
Leland Bartlett: I believe life is to be lived, not worked, enjoyed, not agonized,
loved, not hated.
Anonymous: I can alter my life by altering the attitude of my mind.
Neil Simon: I love living. I have some problems with my life, but living is the best
thing they've come up with so far.
H. Jackson Browne: I never expect to lose. Even when I'm the underdog, I still
prepare a victory speech.
General Dwight David Eisenhower: I never saw a pessimistic general win a
battle.
Helen Adams Keller: I seldom think about my limitations, and they never make me
sad. Perhaps there is just a touch of yearning at times; but it is vague, like a breeze
among flowers.
Lance Armstrong: I take nothing for granted. I now have only good days, or great
days.
Kahlil Gibran: I wash my hands of those who imagine chattering to be knowledge,
silence to be ignorance, and affection to be art.
Florence Scovel Shinn: We cannot always control our thoughts, but we can control
our words, and repetition impresses the subconscious, and we are then master of the
situation.
T. S. Eliot: We must not cease from exploration and the end of all our exploring will
be to arrive where we began and to know the place for the first time.
Eleanor Roosevelt: We must want for others, not ourselves alone.
Abraham Lincoln: We should be too big to take offense and too noble to give it.
Earl Nightingale: We tend to live up to our expectations.
Albert Einstein: Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character.
Japanese proverb: We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well
dance.
Nick Saban: What happened yesterday is history. What happens tomorrow is a
mystery. What we do today makes a difference - the precious present moment.
Thaddeus Golas: What happens is not as important as how you react to what
happens.
Ralph Waldo Emerson: What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny
matters compared to what lies within us.
John C. Granville: Obstinacy in opinions holds the dogmatist in the chains of error,
without the hope of emancipation.
Zig Ziglar: Of all the attitudes we can acquire, surely the attitude of gratitude is the
most important and by far the most life-changing.
Louis E. Le Bar: Often attitudes are kindled in the flame of others’ convictions.
Robert Collier: One comes to believe whatever one repeats to oneself sufficiently
often, whether the statement be true of false. It comes to be dominating thought in
one's mind.
Robert F. Kennedy: Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.
Brian Tracy: Optimism is the one quality more associated with success and
happiness than any other.
The Zurich Axioms: Optimism means expecting the best, but confidence means
knowing how to handle the worst. Never make a move if you are merely optimistic.
Ambrose Bierce: Optimism. The doctrine or belief that everything is beautiful,
including what is ugly.
Earl Nightingale: Our attitude toward life determines life's attitude towards us.
Tom Blandi: Our attitudes control our lives. Attitudes are a secret power working
twenty-four hours a day, for good or bad. It is of paramount importance that we
know how to harness and control this great force.
Victor E. Frankl: ... Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of
the human freedoms-to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to
choose one’s own way.
George Washington Carver: 99% of the failures come from people who have the
habit of making excuses.
John C. Maxwell: A big man is one who makes us feel bigger when we are with
him.
Chris Evert: A champion hates to lose even more than she loves to win.
Earl Nightingale:A great attitude does much more than turn on the lights in our
worlds; it seems to magically connect us to all sorts of serendipitous opportunities
that were somehow absent before the change.
Hugh Downs: A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but
rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.
Anonymous: A healthy attitude is contagious but don't wait to catch it from others.
Be a carrier.
Harry Truman:A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an
optimist is one who makes opportunities of his difficulties.
Leonard Louis Levinson: A pessimist sees only the dark side of the clouds, and
mopes; a philosopher sees both sides, and shrugs; an optimist doesn't see the
clouds at all - he's walking on them.
Herm Albright: A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy
enough people to make it worth the effort.
 2.The Monkey with the Wooden Apples

There once was a happy monkey wandering the jungle, eating delicious fruit when
hungry, and resting when tired. One day he came upon a house, where he saw a bowl of
the most beautiful apples. He took one in each hand and ran back into the forest.

He sniffed the apples and smelled nothing. He tried to eat them, but hurt his teeth. They
were made of wood, but they were beautiful, and when the other monkeys saw them, he
held onto them even tighter.

He admired his new possessions proudly as he wandered the jungle. They glistened red in
the sun, and seemed perfect to him. He became so attached to them, that he didn't even
notice his hunger at first. A fruit tree reminded him, but he felt the apples in his hands.
He couldn't bear to set them down to reach for the fruit. In fact, he couldn't relax, either,
if he was to defend his apples. A proud, but less happy monkey continued to walk along
the forest trails.

The apples became heavier, and the poor little monkey thought about leaving them
behind. He was tired, hungry, and he couldn't climb trees or collect fruit with his hands
full. What if he just let go?

Letting go of such valuable things seemed crazy, but what else could he do? He was so
tired. Seeing the next fruit tree, and smelling it's fruit was enough. He dropped the
wooden apples and reached up for his meal. He was happy again.

Letting Go Of Wooden Apples

Like that little monkey, we sometimes carry things that seem too valuable to let go. A
man carries an image of himself as "productive" - carries it like a shiny wooden apple.
But in reality, his busyness leaves him tired, and hungry for a better life. Still, letting go
seems crazy. Even his worries are sacred apples - they prove he's "doing everything he
can." He holds onto them compulsively.

This is a hard thing to see. We identify so strongly with our things even, feeling pain
when our cars are dented. How much more powerfully do we identify with our beliefs
and self-ideas? Yet they don't always feed our souls, do they? And we become tired of
defending them.

How else could the story end?

The monkey might be found dead of hunger, under a beautiful tree, with fruit within
reach, but still grasping his wooden apples.

I chose to end it with him letting go, because only with open hands can we receive.
3.Writing Worthwhile Objectives
Learning objectives, performance objectives, behavioral objectives–we call them by many names.
Whatever you or your organization calls them, we are all talking about the formation of clear
statements of what we intend the learner to be able to do as a result of instruction.

The trick is to not only make the statement clear, but also to make sure our objectives are
worthwhile– that is, they describe the actual competencies needed by the learner to perform at
the level needed. Below are some tips that should help both in developing objectives and in
writing worthwhile objectives.

1. Realize that the learning objectives for an instructional program are different than job
objectives. For example, a job objective for a sales organization might be to increase sales by 5%
in the next corporate year. The learning objectives would have to do with acquiring knowledge
and skills that would increase the likelihood of increasing sales by 5%. Determining this
knowledge and skills should come from a careful needs analysis to determine either what is
lacking or what can be learned to increase the probability that the sales people will be able to
increase sales by 5%. In one case, for example, sales people did not know how to take
customers through the discovery process. Therefore, the learning objectives had to do with
acquiring the skills of asking questions of the customers to discover their needs related to the
services provided by the supplier.

2. Learning objectives cannot be adequately formulated considering only the content to be

learned. They must also be created with the context and learners in mind. For example, if you are
told that you only have two hours for a training program, you cannot expect to make high level
problem solvers out of the learners due to the time limitation. You would have to ask yourself
what can we teach people to do in two hours that would help move them towards being better
problem solvers.

3. When writing objectives, it is often hard to know where to begin and how to write objectives at
the right level. Here’s are two suggestions:

While keeping the business need and content analysis close at hand, ask yourself at what level
do you want the students to be performing when they return to or go to their new job? Do you
want them merely to comprehend certain concepts or do you want them to actually be apply the
concepts and skills you have to teach them? This thought process can be assisted by looking at
the different levels of the cognitive, psychomotor or sometimes affective learning domains. Chose
a high enough level and write your objective to match that level of knowledge and performance.
Many standard textbooks in instructional development have action verbs listed that are
associated with each of the different levels of performance.

Another way help get started writing worthwhile objectives is to look at what the learner is
expected to do on the job and think about how to write an objective that calls for simulating their
work. In other words, write the objectives of the training in ways that mimic the job they
perform. For example, if the job involves order processing then the objectives of the program
should include providing the learner product request and having the learner process orders. If
learners are to produce sales presentation on the job, then the objectives should include
planning. designing, and producing sales presentation given a real a world scenario (see our last
two month’s tips newsletter s on authentic learning activities by Peter Honebein).

4. Objectives should be validated against the content analysis and business need once written,
since they will serve as the basis for presentation strategy, providing appropriate practice, and
assessment of what has been learned. Because objectives are the basis for targeting the
outcomes of the training program, considerable time and effort should be spent in this area. In
fact, moving a training development project through the necessary stages of needs analysis,
content analysis and formulating the learning objectives may take as much as 40% of the project
time.
4.E i g h t y  F l o o r s
   There were once 2 brothers who lived on the 80th floor of a tall building.
   On coming home one day, they realized to their dismay that the lifts were not working and that
they have to climb the stairs home. After struggling to the 20th level, panting and tired, they
decided to abandon their bags and come back for them the next day. They left their bags then
and climbed on............

   When they have struggled to the 40th level by this time they had gone sufficiently mad and
irritated. The younger brother started to grumble and both of them began to quarrel. They
continued to climb the flights of steps, quarreling all the way to the 60th floor.

   They then realized that they have only 20 levels more to climb and decided to stop quarreling
and continue climbing in peace. They silently climbed on and reached their home at long last.
Each stood calmly before the door and waited for the other to open the door. And they realized
that the key was in their bags which were left on the 20th floor.........

   This story is a reflection on our life and times. All of us climb the tall building called life.. .some
till all the 80 floors and some  less. Many of us climb under the expectations of our companion.

   Time to time these are our friends and parents till the 20th floor, then  our spouse and our dear
ones till the next level of the building. We seldom  get to do the things that we really like and love
and are under so much pressure and stress so that by the age of 20, we get tired and decided to
dump this load. Being free of the stress and pressure, we work  enthusiastically and dream
ambitious wishes.

   By the time we reach 40 years old, we start to lose our vision and dreams. We began to feel
unsatisfied and start to complain and criticize. We live life as a misery as we are never satisfied.

   Reaching 60, we realize that we have little left for complaining anymore, and we began to walk
the final episode in peace and calmness. We think that there is nothing left to disappoint us, only
to realize that we could not rest in peace we have an unfulfilled dream..........a dream we abandon
60 years ago. So what's your dream.....?

   Know your dreams and follow it so that you will not live with regrets.
   Help others and thank God.
   Accept yourself...

   Believe in yourself...

   Like yourself...  Inside each of us are powers so strong, treasures so rich, possibilities
so endless, that to command them all to action would change the history of
the world.

   Celebrate LIFE!!!
5.PERFECT

Once upon a time, a perfect man and a perfect woman met.

After a perfect courtship, they had a perfect wedding. Their life
together was, of course, perfect. One snowy, stormy Christmas
Eve, this perfect couple was driving their perfect car along a
winding road, when they noticed someone at the side of the
road in distress. Being the perfect couple, they stopped to help.

There stood Santa Claus with a huge bundle of toys. Not

wanting to disappoint any children on the eve of Christmas, the
perfect couple loaded

Santa and his toys into their vehicle. Soon they were driving
along delivering the toys. Unfortunately, the driving conditions
deteriorated and the perfect couple and Santa Claus had an
accident. Only one of them survived the accident.

 Question: Who was the survivor?

Scroll down for the answer. Trust me, it's worth it.

    
Answer:
The perfect woman survived. She's the only one who really existed in the
first place. Everyone knows there is no Santa Claus and there is no such
thing as a perfect man.
**** Women stop reading here, that is the end of the joke.
**** Men keep scrolling.
   
So, if there is no perfect man and no Santa Claus, the woman
must have been driving. This explains why there was a car
accident.
By the way, if you're a woman and you're still reading, this
illustrates another point: Women never listen!!!

Whatever you may dream, there is a path that will lead you to
it.

 
6.TIME SAVERS

Here are five of the techniques I share in our Time

Management seminars, each one of which will help you to get at least one more hour out of
your day of additional productive time.

1. Maintain Balance. Your life consists of Seven Vital Areas: Health, Family, Financial,
Intellectual, Social, Professional, and Spiritual. You will not spend equal amounts of time in
each area or time every day in each area.

But, if in the long run, you are spending a sufficient quantity and quality of time in each area,
then your life will be balanced. But ignore any one of your areas, (never mind two or three!)
and you will get out of balance and potentially sabotage your success.

Fail to take time now for your health and you will have to take time for illness later on. Ignore
your family and then may leave you and cost you a lot of time to re-establish relationships.

2. Get the Power of the Pen. A faint pen has more power than the keenest mind. Get into the
habit of writing things to do down using one tool (a  Day-Timer, pad of paper, Palm Pilot, etc.)
Your mind is best used for the big picture rather than all the details.

The details are important, but manage them with the pen. If you want to manage it you have
to measure it first. Writing things down helps you to more easily remember all that you need to
accomplish.

3. Do Daily Planning. It is said that people do not plan to fail but a lot of people fail to plan.
Take the time each night to take control of the most precious resource at your command, the
next twenty-four hours.

Plan your work and then work your plan each day. Write up a To Do list with all you have to's
and all of your want to's for your next day. Without a plan for the day, you can easily get
distracted, spending your time serving the loudest voice rather than attending to the most
important things for your day that will enhance your productivity.
 

4. Prioritize It. Your To Do list will have crucial and not crucial items on it. Despite the fact
most people want to be productive, when given the choice between crucial and not crucial
items, we will most often end up doing the not crucial items. They are generally easier and
quicker than crucial items.

Prioritize your To Do list each night. Put the #1 next to the most important item on your list.
Place the #2 next to the second most important item on your list, etc. Then tackle the items on
your list in order of their importance.

You may not get everything done on your list, but you will get the most important things done.
This is working smarter, not harder, and getting more done in less time.

5. Control Procrastination. The most effective planning in the world does not substitute for
doing what needs to be done. We procrastinate and put off important things because we don't
sense enough pain for not doing it or enough pleasure to do it.

To get going on something you have been putting off, create in your mind enough pain for not
doing it or enough pleasure to do it. I prefer the pleasure approach. Take a procrastinated
project and turn it into to a game.

Work with one thing in front of you at a time so other things won't distract you. ("Out of sight,
out of mind.") Break it down to little bite-sized, manageable pieces. Get it started, take the
first step and you will likely continue it to completion.

 
7."Sharpen Your Pencil."

"Look at a day when you are supremely satisfied at the end. It's not a day
when you lounge around doing nothing; it's when you had everything to do,
and you've done it."
--Margaret Thatcher
I realize that I'm in my 40's and that I haven't really gone back to school - truly I do. I mean, I
don't have a shiny new David Cassidy lunchbox or anything.

But, come autumn, the feeling in the pit of my stomach is the same as it was when I was a
school girl choosing a new outfit, notebook, folders and pencil pouch -- and it's one that I've
not only come to depend on after a summer of chasing sunsets, I thrive on it as well. A new
beginning. A deeply ingrained feeling of motivation.

Most people see New Year's Eve as the time to resolve to do more... do better... do something
that will move them closer to where they want to be in life. Not me. When school buses fire up
their engines and start to rumble down the street, I sharpen my proverbial pencil and prepare
to dig into whatever lies ahead.

After summer has slipped away, I find that it's easier to go to bed on time and get up on time.
Suddenly, I noticed that I'm eating a real breakfast that will last me until lunch and even my
wardrobe somehow takes on a more serious attitude.

When I'm dressed and ready to take on my day, I look at my schedule and marvel at how much I
hope to achieve by the time the sun goes down. And, all the while, I love the newness of it all -
no matter how many "first days" of fall I've had the pleasure of living through.

Maybe it's easier for me to dig in and get busy this time of year because no matter how old I
get, symbols of fall transport me back to my days of homework and lockers. Football is in the
air and even though I can't remember the last time I actually watched an entire game, I still
get excited at the very sound of a whistle on a faraway field. And don't even get me started on
Halloween.

I've finally put my finger on why this season brings such a feeling of getting busy again. What
lies between the first kickoff and pumpkin carving? Nothing. No distractions, no three-day
weekends, nothing to make you want to "blow off" the task at hand.

Instead, we can inhale the cooler air and focus for a while. If that sounds like a long haul and
nothing to get excited over, try changing your perspective. Consider how great Thanksgiving
will feel if you're able to look back to Labor Day and realize how much you've accomplished.

Fall Journal Exercise: Go ahead, make a list and keep it in a place where you can look at it
often to check your progress. Put everything on it that you'd love to finish by the time turkeys
get nervous.

8.These are the two little thoughts for the day!!!!!!

1."Remember That You Are Very Special, No One Can Do Your
Role Better Than You"

2. " If You Do Every Thing With A Feeling Of Happiness

Then There WIll Be No Task Too Difficult To Perform"

9.ENJOY MAKING A DIFFERENCE

Give yourself something of real value today. Give yourself the gift of enjoyment.
Decide today to find enjoyment and fulfillment in whatever you happen to be doing.
Decide to simply and honestly enjoy the real person you are.

Look beyond the mere fleeting pleasures and set your sights on real, substantive
enjoyment. Enjoy yourself in a way that says yes to life and to those things that are
deeply important to you.

Don't fall into the trap of thinking that you must feel guilty about enjoying each moment.
For the more you truly enjoy and find real fulfillment in what you're doing, the more you
will contribute value and goodness to the world around you.

The most consistently enjoyable and fulfilling activities are those that make a positive
difference. The more earnestly you seek real enjoyment, the more you'll find that you're
giving of yourself.

Though the world has many problems, so too does life offer boundless possibilities for
true enjoyment. Enjoy being a part of it all, and in so doing you'll make it all that much
better.

10.Personal Responsibility:

Responsibility means being accountable for what we think, say, and do. Personal
responsibility involves working on our own character and skill development rather than
blaming others for situations and circumstances. It means choosing to design a life that
honors our values and purpose.

Here are twelve reflections on personal responsibility:

1. Personal responsibility begins from the inside and moves outward. We

must begin by taking responsibility for our thoughts, choices, and
reactions. Then we can be responsible for the circumstances we create in
our world.

2. We have the divine gift of free will. We make conscious choices as

spiritual living in a physical world. Conscious choice is a gift that carries
great responsibility.

3. Every choice can benefit humanity or harm it. Even avoiding choices is
a choice, and each choice will have consequences.

4. When you think something or someone else is responsible for your

problems and their solutions, that exact thought is the first problem to
solve.

5. People waste precious years while believing that there will be more
time tomorrow than there is today. Today is the perfect day to accept and
develop our gifts and talents.

6. A great philosophy of responsibility: When things are working, I am

responsible... and when they need fixing, I am responsible.

7. Only our choices and actions today will bring the rainbow's end with
any gold it might contain.

8. The richest blessings follow those who follow the rules and honor the
universal laws for abundant living: laws for wellness, success,
relationships, prosperity, spirituality, and service to others.

9. When you follow the rules, life works. If you think you ever really get by
with breaking the rules, you are only fooling yourself.

10. True personal independence is the freedom from reaction 梩 he ability

to choose actions and make choices that will influence positively the
future of our lives and our world.

11. The Creator knows what it is we need to be doing and will provide us
with plenty of chances to show up. However, we will not get an unlimited
 number of chances, and we cannot ever assume that we will have
tomorrow.

12. Living serenely does not mean that we deny problems or avoid the
responsibility for solving them. Just the opposite 梬 e find the clarity and
presence of mind to deal with the issues of daily living in positive
constructive ways.

You cannot control all the circumstances in life; however, you can learn from them. You
can choose to allow every circumstance to make you stronger, wiser, more
knowledgeable, more skillful, and more loving.
You can control your ability to design your life and your philosophies. A philosophy of
personal responsibility allows you to live from an inner core of integrity. It will bring a
sense of satisfaction and fulfillment.

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12.Oscar Murphy Int'l wrote:

  The president of my college gave the best speech any luminary ever could have at my
graduation. Addressing the hundreds of students, he said that now that we were
graduating, our success in life no longer depended on our I.Q., but rather on our F.Q.
- our Failure Quotient; how many times we could be knocked down but keep getting
back up and slowly moving forward.

I don't know if any of my fellow graduates remembered those words,

but I never forgot them. I have seen over and over again in my life
and in the lives of others how a high F.Q. is the key to success - the
one factor that all people of accomplishment have in common.

Having a high Failure Quotient is a paradox; we aren't accustomed

to equating failure with success. When we think of super-winners or
super-successful people - whether they be superstar athletes like
Michael Jordan, renowned politicians like Rudy Giuliani, or famed
entrepreneurs like Ross Perot or Walt Disney - we usually think of
them in the lap of luxury, at the top of the world, and at the height of
ease and power.

Yet Michael Jordan is known as the greatest basketball player of all

time for one thing: his ability to "turn on" in the fourth quarter; not
the first, second or third quarter, mind you. But in the fourth quarter,
when his team is often down, when things are most crucial, and when
lesser players in sports - and more passive people in life - are ready to
throw in the towel.

Everyone knows Rudy Giuliani as one the heroes of September 11th,

the man who mobilized his city, and lifted our country and the world
up out of the grip of fear surrounding one of the most traumatic
events in history. Few people remember that just a short time before
September 11, 2001, Rudy Giuliani's future had been discounted. He
had to withdraw from the New York Senate race because of a serious
illness.

Now ask yourself, on a scale of 1 to 100, at what level is Rudy

Giuliani's Failure Quotient? How about Michael Jordan's? And
most importantly, how about yours?

When we get a rejection or have a setback, it s very hard not to feel at

least momentarily thrown off course. Yet I believe that a major
benefit people receive who have gone through difficult life challenges
is that no matter what other daily challenge they face, they can
measure it against the larger life adversity they ve overcome, and put
it into its proper perspective. Whether you ve been through a serious
illness, loss of a loved one, divorce, or have been a victim of violence,
the rest of your life you can benefit by using that experience to weigh
everything else you face against it.

Here s a simple exercise that will make moving forward toward your
goals and getting past obstacles, rejections, setbacks, and
disappointments exactly one hundred times easier.

1) Before you start out on any project, whether it be seeking a

customer if you re in sales, seeking a publisher if you re a writer, or
seeking a mate if you re single, take a blank piece of lined paper and
number each line 1 through 100. Make 2 columns if you need to as
well as using both sides of the sheet.

2) Got it done? Now make multiple photocopies of this form for

future use. (It s a long life. . .)

3) Now set out to do your goal or task. When you receive your first
obstacle, rejection, disappointment or setback, put a checkmark next
to number 1. When you hit your second obstacle, put a checkmark
next to space number 2. The third, a checkmark on space number 3,
and so on.

Now, here s the most important part:

When you start your project or goal, expect it may take 100 attempts
to accomplish it! No, this is not a negative mindset. It simply
acknowledges that you may need to try a number of approaches
before you get something to work, or someone to accept you or your
offer. Acknowledging beforehand that you re ready to put your all
into at least 100 tries gives you the mindset of unstoppability.

I was counseling a lady on the phone recently who was going

through a very complex legal struggle with an abusive ex- husband.
She had gone to a number of attorneys, all of whom had told her she
didn t have a case. I knew her situation and what kind of person she
was. I also knew there were attorneys out there who would be willing
and capable of helping this kind-hearted person, even if they would
be hard to find. She was feeling frustrated and defeated, so I told her
to make out such a 1-100 list. I also told her that I would feel sorry
for her only after she got to number 100 without finding an
appropriate attorney.

Guess what? By the time she had gotten to number 3, she found the
perfect one! A "compassionate bulldog" who immediately lifted 95
 percent of the stress off her shoulders of handling her incorrigible
ex-husband.

What would her life been like had she not made that list? How many
candles would we be burning a day to light our homes if Thomas
Edison had stopped at failed experiment number 10,000, 20,000 or
30,000 instead of going on to do the 50,000 it required to invent the
light bulb?

Don t hesitate. Make your photocopied 1-100 lists now. If you don t

accomplish a specific goal by attempt number 100, give me a call. I ll

honestly tell you how sorry I feel for you.
 
 

13.Top 14 Mistakes Senior Managers Make !!!

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obert Dunham, a former Vice President of Motorola Computer Systems, has identified
the 14 top mistakes made by senior management, regardless of industry.

1)You 抮 e Not Listening!

Your people are not listened to, only spoken at, resulting in a lack of engagement,
loyalty, and ownership, in addition to increasing staff resentment and negative morale.

2)Indulging in Overcommitment

Not producing a staff that can say "no" results in overwork, underachievement, customer
dissatisfaction, and "dead heroes" ?never a winning strategy.

3)Blinded by the Numbers

The numbers are only a by-product; taking actions to change the numbers without
managing what generates the numbers - valuable offers, excellent execution, customer
satisfaction, and employee passion - is ultimately destructive.

4)Allowing Fuzzy Commitments and Avoidance of Commitment

Fuzzy agreements and lack of standards for generating and managing commitments (the
"C" word) produces waste and resignation.

5)The Customer Comes Last

Working on "tasks" without remembering, being aware of, or caring, about the reaction
of customers to what is done and how it is done, killing customer satisfaction.

6)Fear and Loathing of Performance Evaluation

Speaking honestly and directly is a skill, and requires some courage. Senior managers
must learn to provide direct and timely feedback on performance.

7)Teams in Name Only

Teams are not just groups of people working together, and the skills of building real
teams that have trust and effective performance seems to be rare - they must be learned.

8)The Management Toolbox is Empty

Effective management requires a range of skills, and most managers do not have the
complete set: team building, ability to evoke commitment, ability to listen, managing
morale, coping with breakdowns, managing customer satisfaction, effective planning and
projects, clear shared standards, clear ethics, presence, and not being reactive are key
ones.

9)"Giving Orders" instead of "Requesting and Establishing Commitment"

Ownership and excellence do not come from order takers, and usually ordering produces
resentful avoidance, when what we really want is the ownership, pride, and passion that
comes when people commit to what they are doing.

10)Inability to Build Trust /Cope with Distrust

Trust is not some vague background feeling, and trust building, repair, and sustaining
are skills, skills that too few have ?it must be learned.

11)No Clear Game Plan

A quantitative objective or vision statement are only pieces of a game plan, which also
requires a clear strategy, clear roles and responsibilities, explicit value for customers,
and a team able to execute.

12)Because I Said So

Arrogance of office leads to just giving orders, not gaining the respect and commitment
of others, and erodes the strength and vitality of the organization, leaving only the weak
and beaten.

13)Lack of Commitment to Learning

We must learn or be passed by -- learn from our mistakes, successes, and experiences,
and learn from others in the world, particularly from those who have risked and have
experience in success and failure.

14)Allowing Cynicism about Management

Management is often viewed in a highly cynical and derisive manner by its practitioners,
by those they manage, and by the culture as a whole. Seen as vague and idiosyncratic, a
role that cannot be learned or taught, with management education, like the MBA, seen as
ineffective. There must be a commitment to clear standards for management skills and
effective programs to produce them.
14.Dear Team

Innovation is the way of life

Success Quote for Today

SAME SOUNDING WORDS , BUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dont react with Authority, act with Maturity

Dont be liable , be accountable

Dont be gigantic , be fantastic

Dont be painful , be wonderful

Dont be in fantasy, be in reality

Let us initiate - intuition and get conclusion

14.Quality of Life

A group of working adults got together to visit their

former  university professor.  The professor was pleased to see
them, and  after the students' chats about the old days and
reminiscing was  over, their conversation turned into complaints about
their
stresses  in work and life.

The professor said nothing, he just smiled and went in his

kitchen  and brought back an assortment of cups on a tray - some
were fine  porcelain, some plastic, some glass, some plain-looking and
some  rather expensive and exquisite. He then asked if his former
students  were thirsty, and offered them the cups to get iced water
for  themselves.

When each student had a cup in hand, filled with iced

water, the  professor spoke:  "If you noticed, all the nice-looking,
expensive cups have
been  taken, leaving behind the plain and cheap ordinary ones on
the tray.  While it is usual that you will only want the best for
yourselves,  that is the main source of your problems and stress... What
all you  really wanted was water, not the cup - but you
unconsciously went  for  the better looking cups."

A silence followed, as the students digested this.  The

professor  continued, "This is just like in life....If Life is water,
then your  jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are
merely  tools to hold and maintain life, but they will hardly
change the  intrinsic quality of Life.  If we focus only on the cup,
then we  won't have time to taste and enjoy the water in it!"

"And also remember this: A RICH person is one who has a

lot, while a  HAPPY person is one who does not want a lot....The choice
of which  type of person you want to be is your own."

And the students thus got their most important lesson in

life from  their wise old teacher
15.Golden Rules for Career Success by Richard

WORKING as a business consultant all over the world, I

have discovered

some basic career-related rules that everyone should

know-but many

don't.

1. Business is made up of ambiguous victories and

nebulous defeats.

Claim them all as victories.

2. Keep track of what you do; someone is sure to ask.

3. Be comfortable around senior managers, or learn to

fake it.

4. Never bring your boss a problem without some

solution.

5. You are getting paid to think, not to whine.

6. Long hours don't mean anything; results count, not

effort.

7. Write down ideas; they get lost, like good pens.

8. Always arrive at work 30 minutes before your boss.

9. Help other people network for jobs. You never know

when your turn will come.

10. Don't take days off sick-unless you are.

11. Assume no one can/will keep a secret.

12. Know when you do your best-morning, night, under

pressure,

relaxed; schedule and prioritize your work

accordingly.

13. Treat everyone who works in the organization with

respect and

dignity, whether it be the cleaner or the managing

director. Don't

ever be patronizing.

14. Never appear stressed in front of a client, a

customer or your

boss. Take a deep breath and ask yourself: In the

course of human

events, how important is this?

15. If you get the entrepreneurial urge, visit someone

who has his own

business. It may cure you.

16. Acknowledging someone else's contribution will

repay you doubly.

17. Career planning is an oxymoron. The most exciting

opportunities

tend to be unplanned.

18. Always choose to do what you'll remember ten years

from now.

19. The size of your office is not as important as the

size of your pay cheque.

20. Understand what finished work looks like and

deliver your work

only when it is finished.

21. The person who spends all of his or her time is

not hard-working;

he or she is boring.

22. Know how to write business letters-including

thank-you notes as

well as proposals.

23. Never confuse a memo with reality. Most memos from

the top are

political fantasy.

24. Eliminate guilt. Don't fiddle expenses, taxes or

benefits, and

don't cheat colleagues.

25. Reorganizations mean that someone will lose his or

her job. Get on

the committee that will make the recommendations.

26. Job security does not exist. Always have an answer

to the

question, "What would I do if I lost my job tomorrow?"

27. Go to the company Christmas party.Don't get drunk

at the company

Christmas party.
28. Avoid working at weekends. Work longer during the

week if you have to.

29. The most successful people in business are

interesting.

30. Sometimes you'll be on a winning streak and

everything will click;

take maximum advantage. When the opposite is true,

hold steady and

wait it out.

31. Never in your life say, "It's not my job."

32. Be loyal to your career, your interests and

yourself.

33. Understand the skills and abilities that set you

apart. Use them

whenever you

have an opportunity.

34. People remember the end of the project. As they

say in boxing,

"Always finish stronger than you start" .

Your Effort may fail But .. Don't Fail to make

Effort…. To achieve Success….

16.Strange truths about your boss and you...

1. When you take a long time, you're slow. When your

boss takes a long time, he's thorough.

2. When you don't do it, you're lazy. When your boss

doesn't do it, he's too busy.

3. When you make a mistake, you're an idiot. When your

boss makes a mistake, he's only human.

4. When doing something without being told, you're

overstepping your authority. When your boss does the

same thing, that's initiative.

5. When you take a stand, you're being bull-headed.

When your boss does it, he's being firm.

6. When you overlooked a rule of etiquette, you're

being rude. When your boss skips a few rules, he's

being original.

7. When you please your boss, you're ass creeping.

When your boss pleases his boss, he's being

co-operative.

8. When you're out of the office, you're wandering

around. When your boss is out of the office, he's on

business.

9. When you have one too many drinks at a social,

you're a drunken bum. When your boss does the same, he

appreciated the women there.

10. When you take a day off sick, you're always sick.

When your boss takes a day off sick, he must be very

ill.

11. When you apply for leave, you must be going for an

interview. When your boss applies for leave, it's

because he's overworked.

17.POSITIVE ATTITUDE

"If you want the rainbow in life, you got to be willing to put up with
the rain!"

"If we really want to live, we'd better start at once to try!"

Sometimes, patience, perseverance and time are the simplest ingredients

to achieving your personal success. If you really think about it, most
great achievements weren't born until lots of time, enormous patience
(with yourself) and unwavering perseverance prevail. So, ..let's now
talk about a few people whose simplified formula for success: "P.P.T.",
(Patience, Perseverance and Time) spawned great products! Our story is
entitled:

"Never Ever Give Up"

What do the "Golden Arches", "Light Bulb" and "Chicken" have in common?
Well, read on and I'll describe the common denominators of success that
these ideas originate from.

Every 5 hours somewhere in the world a new "McDonald's" fast food

franchise is opening. Can you imagine a business which opened it's door
(or "Arches") in 1955 is still so strong today? Well, its founder Ray
Kroc, sure did. Kroc, was no inventor. But he knew a great idea when he
saw one. After all, Kroc's entire life thrived on discovering just the
right idea that would live on well after the man himself. From a paper
cup salesman, to real estate broker, piano player, and finally, milk
shake mixer salesman, he always had an incredible amount of faith in
himself!! Finally! At the young age of 52 his biggest idea (McDonald's)
was about to emerge. However, Kroc had to muster enough courage in his
new idea to once again mortgage his home and borrow lots of money to get
it going. Oh! He wasn't a picture of health either. He'd been plagued by
years of arthritis, diabetes, lost his bladder and most of his thyroid
gland. But, he never lost the courage to persevere and believe in
himself. In fact, Ray Kroc was known to say: "the best is ahead of me",
according to those who knew him. The "McDonald"s" brand name is the 2nd
most recognizable name in the world, next to "Coca Cola." Not bad for a
52 year old with health problems, huge debts, and tons of dogged
determination!

Ray Kroc was a simple man with a simple plan to achieve huge
success. His formula is:

18.#1 Never give up.

#2 Always persevere.

#3 Don't forget # 1.

Chances are you're reading this article in a room with the use of
lighting. Well, you can thank Thomas Edison for that. Did you know that
Edison failed over 9000 (that's thousand) times before perfecting the
light bulb! How many of us would have thrown in the "proverbial" towel
at 20 failures, 150 failures or at the 8000th failure. In my opinion,
Thomas Edison's picture should be under the definition "perseverance" in
Webster's dictionary! Don't you agree? After Edison had invented and
produced the light-bulb a reporter asked him how it felt to fail over
9000 times. Edison replied, "I was glad I found 9000 ways not to invent
the light bulb! From this point forward Edison went on to receive 1,093
patents, more than any other person in U.S. history. Wow!! Edison's
formula for success:

#1 It takes time for greatness.

#2 Be patient

#3 Persistence is key.

What's, "finger lickin` good" or "extra crispy"? If you guessed

"Kentucky Fried Chicken". you're absolutely right! Try to imagine the
faith, patience and perseverance necesssary to hear the word "NO" 1009
times! The founder of "KFC" (Kentucky Fried Chicken) Colonel Sanders was
told no 1009 times before he sold his first piece of chicken. Sanders
would drive from town to town, restaurant to restaurant, often sleeping
in his car , living off his chicken and believing his "secret recipe"
would one day pay off. Eventually his persistence and belief in himself
paid off big time! Not bad for a 65 year old. Though Sanders never let
the public in on his recipe, he did discuss his recipe for his success:

#1 Never quit.

#2 Always believe in you.

#3 Be patient.

#4 Be positive.

As you can see, the common traits between Ray Kroc, Thomas Edison and
Colonel Sanders are simple and direct. Perseverance. Patience. Time.
Belief.

Whatever it is you're trying to achieve in your precious and valuable

life, I'm convinced these traits must be present. Especially, belief! If
you don't believe you won't achieve.

Till next time... Make It A Great Day

 19.Give Thanks for What You Have Now
Judi Singleton extols the simple virtue of gratitude, the way to find
happiness in the riches we already have.

"If you learn to appreciate more of what you already have, you'll find yourself having more to
appreciate."
 
An attitude of gratitude brings the angels near.  When we are appreciated, we tend to give more
to the person appreciating us. The angels are not different. So this day of Thanksgiving is an
appropriate time to give thanks for all we have in our lives. The things we appreciate grow. What
our mind dwells on is what grows into fruition in our lives. We reap what we sow.
 
In this time of rushing through life it is easy to not stop and take time to appreciate what we
already have. We are so goal oriented, we are always living in the future. We cannot live the
future now. The only power we have is in this moment. Once one realizes the truth of this
statement, then and only then can they begin to live in the now and be grateful for what they
already have. It's vitally important that we not lose sight of the things that are near and dear-
things we all too easily take for granted.
 
What we hold in our minds, meditate on, increases. If we focus on our problems they grow. If we
thank the angels and our Higher Power even for what we call problems then they, too, become
blessings -- a challenge maybe, but a chance to overcome and grow.  After all, you created what
you call problems; you and only you know exactly what you need to grow. 
If you focus on where you want to be in life, while being grateful for where you are now, you will
expand the opportunities to create your life just as you would like it to be. I see meditating on our
problems as another form of prayer. When we worry and fret over things, we make them bigger
than they really are, as well as attract more of the same. That's negative prayer-prayer in reverse.

Gratitude for what we HAVE and what we WANT "appreciates".

Focus today, no matter what is happening in your life, on the here and now.  Be grateful for what
you do have and be grateful you are growing toward where you want to be. Before going to sleep
tonight spend time thinking of three things you are grateful for.  This is a powerful time of day you
are in - that half wakeful and half sleep stage. The mind is easy to program at this time of day.
 
Gratefulness is a state of mind that should be practiced daily instead of yearly.  Make everyday
Thanksgiving.
 
 20.Build Self-esteem before Self-confidence
Simona Nielsen tells us why we should build self-esteem
before we build self confidence

Self-confidence isn’t always what we think it is. Many experts distinguish between self-confidence
on one side and self-esteem on the other. Self-confidence is about what we can do by virtue of
our efforts. What we are good and bad at. The self-confidence grows along with the quality of the
effort.
 
Self-esteem is more fundamental and is about the feeling of being worth something, just because
we are who we are, and not because we have done something. A good sports man can have a
huge success and self-confidence, because he’s good at his sport. In the same time his self-
esteem can be low, if his parents have never acknowledged and treasured him for the person he
is deep inside, but only for his sporty performances.
 
To recognize a healthy and well-developed self-confidence is when you feel well-balanced and
comfortable. A bad self-confidence shows as a constant feeling of insecurity, self-criticism and
sense of guilt. If you have a healthy self-esteem, it’s very rare you’ll have problems with a low
self-confidence.

Build self-esteem if you were not born with it

Some people just have it, as if they were born to it. To talk in front of a crowd of people, sell
themselves at job interviews or to start an interesting conversation with people they’ve never met
before. There is comfort for you, if you don’t belong to this category.
 
Self-confidence isn’t something you receive as a birth gift. It’s something you develop gradually
as you turn over the pages of the thick book of life. If you work goal-directed to improve your
belief in yourself, you’ll eventually built up your courage to do what self-assured people find
natural, instead of generating heart throb, breathing difficulties and sweaty hands.
 
Self-confidence is an important part of your baggage. Without it, life will be a constant evasive
action controlled by fear and inferiority complexes. It’ll be harder to archive what you want, just
because the thought of how impossible it might seem, will make you turn in the wrong direction.
Many people have such an ill self-confidence that they - through life - avoid doing things they
dream about and need. Some of them have always been told “You can’t do it” or “take care, it will
fail.” If it’s some of the most important people in your life, i.e. your parents, who has been the
negative judges in your life, it’s especially bad.
 
A child with a yet so blank identity has blind confidence that the parents are fantastic and always
right. The child will very fast take over the parents “You can’t do it”- tune and play it over and over
in the mind as if it’s a forever truth. If we don’t believe that we can and dare, we avoid certain
situations because of the fear to fail. Then we will never proof to ourselves and to others that we
actually can.
 
Many aim lower than they actually should in their career. They avoid an exam because they are
afraid of bad grades and hereby prove that they can’t do it. Or they search for a job with a lower
risk. Our way of thinking is very important. If we constantly think in failures there’s a huge risk that
we unconsciously head straight for it.
 
People with low self-esteem listen to other people’s opinions and rules, instead of listening to
their own needs and wishes. Perhaps they do something to please others. Perhaps they don’t do
anything because they fear the reactions from others. Or they might be individualists and will
rather do things on their own.
 
If you’re ‘invisible’ you’ll never get the chance to say what you mean, who you are, and what you
can. Then others have to guess and that creates misunderstandings. You won’t receive very
much feedback from your surroundings. It creates insecurity about what others think of you and
again there is a high breeding ground for guessing and ghost images.
 
Regardless of fear and shyness you’ll have to get out of your hiding to improve your self-
confidence. Be more visible to your surroundings. Do something else, than you use to. Break the
vicious circle of negative, self-fulfilling prophecies and try yourself in different situations. We have
all many great abilities that just have to be exposed
21.The Qualities of Skillful Leadership
by Jim Rohn

If you want to be a leader who attracts quality

people, the key is to become a person of quality
yourself. Leadership is the ability to attract someone
to the gifts, skills, and opportunities you offer as
an owner, as a manger, as a parent. I call leadership
the great challenge of life.

What's important in leadership is refining your

skills. All great leaders keep working on themselves
until they become effective.

Here are some specifics:

1) Learn to be strong but not rude. It is an extra

step you must take to become a powerful, capable
leader with a wide range of reach. Some people mistake
rudeness for strength. It's not even a good
substitute.

2) Learn to be kind but not weak. We must not mistake

kindness for weakness. Kindness isn't weak. Kindness
is a certain type of strength. We must be kind enough
to tell somebody the truth. We must be kind enough and
considerate enough to lay it on the line. We must be
kind enough to tell it like it is and not deal in
delusion.

3) Learn to be bold but not a bully. It takes boldness

to win the day. To build your influence, you've got to
walk in front of your group. You've got to be willing
to take the first arrow, tackle the first problem,
discover the first sign of trouble.

4) You've got to learn to be humble, but not timid.

You can't get to the high life by being timid. Some
people mistake timidity for humility. Humility is
almost a Godlike word. A sense of awe. A sense of
wonder. An awareness of the human soul and spirit. An
understanding that there is something unique about the
human drama versus the rest of life. Humility is a
grasp of the distance between us and the stars, yet
having the feeling that we're part of the stars. So
humility is a virtue; but timidity is a disease.
Timidity is an affliction. It can be cured, but it is
a problem.

5) Be proud but not arrogant. It takes pride to win

the day. It takes pride to build your ambition. It
takes pride in community. It takes pride in cause, in
accomplishment. But the key to becoming a good leader
is being proud without being arrogant. In fact I
believe the worst kind of arrogance is arrogance from
ignorance. It's when you don't know that you don't
know. Now that kind of arrogance is intolerable. If
someone is smart and arrogant, we can tolerate that.
But if someone is ignorant and arrogant, that's just
too much to take.

6) Develop humor without folly. That's important for a

leader. In leadership, we learn that it's okay to be
witty, but not silly. It's okay to be fun, but not
foolish.

Lastly, deal in realities. Deal in truth. Save

yourself the agony. Just accept life like it is. Life
is unique. Some people call it tragic, but I'd like to
think it's unique. The whole drama of life is unique.
It's fascinating. And I've found that the skills that
work well for one leader may not work at all for
another. But the fundamental skills of leadership can
be adapted to work well for just about everyone: at
work, in the community, and at home.

"A good objective of leadership is to help those who

are doing poorly to do well and to help those who are
doing well to do even better." Jim Rohn

Do preserve yourself & others while evolving continuously...

22 . How to Cope with Anger ?
By Dianne Schilling

A pushy driver nudges your bumper in heavy traffic. .

. . . A colleague takes credit for your ideas. . . . .
You get left out of the loop on an important decision.
. . . . You call your credit card company, enter a
sixteen-digit account number and your name, ratchet
through four menus and hear, "All service
representatives are busy... can you please try after
sometime…"

The more complicated your life gets -- the more people

you interact with on a daily basis -- the more
incidents occur that can irritate, annoy, provoke,
incense, madden, infuriate, and enrage. Anger and all
its cousins are permanent occupants of your emotional
menage.

Anger Is Normal, But...

Most people don't enjoy feeling angry. It's
uncomfortable -- even more uncomfortable if you lash
out and someone gets hurt or angry back. Anger can
have unpleasant repercussions and destructive
consequences for everyone concerned.
Repressing anger -- keeping it bottled up inside --
can cause headaches, back pain, nausea, or other
symptoms. "Letting it all out" isn't good for you
either. Anger can lead to full-blown conflict, damaged
relationships, even aggressive or violent acts.

What to Do
Instead of reacting impulsively, train yourself to
keep a lid on angry feelings until you have cooled
down. Then confront the situation -- or person --
calmly. When flooded with negative emotions, the
ability to hear, think and speak are severely
impaired. Taking a "time out" can be enormously
constructive. However, 5 minutes are not enough;
research suggests that people need at least 20 minutes
to recover from intense psychological arousal. During
those minutes (and at other times, too), try some of
these techniques for coping with and defusing anger:
1 Become Aware of what precipitates your anger. Most
of us have identifiable triggers. Once you know the
roots of your anger, you can deal with it more
constructively.
2. Monitor the feelings and bodily sensations you
experience when you're becoming angry.
Learn to use these sensations as cues to stop and
consider what is happening and what to do about it.
3. Change the thoughts that trigger anger,
interpreting the situation from a different (less
provocative) point of view.
Often, this involves looking at the situation from the
other person's perspective. Instead of, "Sue's
deliberately trying to make me look bad," think "Sue
must be having a bad day." Instead of "How dare you
cut me off, you damn homicidal idiot!" think "Maybe
that driver didn't see me." Changing thoughts produces
new feelings which displace the anger.
The quicker you can reinterpret a situation the
better. Brooding fuels anger, but seeing things
differently quells it. Reframing a situation is one of
the most potent ways of controlling anger.
4. Write down angry thoughts.
Once you have them on paper, challenge and reappraise
them. Or write a letter to the person you're angry
with and then tear it into a hundred pieces. But be
careful: The longer you dwell on what made you angry,
the more reasons and self-justifications you can find
for being angry. Try not to fan your own fire.

5. Identify and express the feelings that precede

anger.
Anger is often a secondary emotion, erupting in the
wake of other feelings, like frustration, resentment,
humiliation, or fear. Try to become aware of the
underlying emotion and express that feeling instead of
anger.

6. Respond assertively.
The goal isn't to suppress anger, but to express it in
non-aggressive ways. Blaming, accusations, threats and
name-calling are aggressive responses. Calmly and
assertively stating your thoughts and feelings about a
situation, without blaming, is a far more powerful way
to respond in conflict.

7. Relax.
Anger is a high-arousal state, so one of the most
helpful things you can do is engage in an activity
that lowers blood pressure and heart rate, like yoga,
stretching, deep breathing, massage, visualization,
guided imagery or meditation. Activities like
gardening, painting, and woodworking may also be very
helpful. Running, walking, dancing, swimming and other
forms of aerobic exercise "work off" anger and leave
you feeling relaxed.

8. Relinquish your anger.

If angry feelings about a particular person or
situation are eating at you and none of the above
techniques proves helpful, try doing what may be the
most courageous and difficult thing of all: Just let
it go. If the anger is based on some old wound deep
inside, letting go starts a healing process. Consider
enlisting the support of a professional counselor or
therapist.
Do preserve yourself & others while evolving continuously...

23.Some Day I Will

Do you remember how, once upon a time, you used to have a dream? Maybe you wanted to be
a movie star, a doctor, or an athlete. Maybe you wanted to cross the ocean in a sailboat. Or
maybe you just wanted to chisel sculptures out of a mountain rock.

Truth be told, you probably have already worked hard toward achieving that dream. It was the
center of your conversation with acquaintances and relatives. You were excited about it! But
somehow, you lost interest and passion and slowly drifted away. Why?

Go ahead, think about it. Let me ask you again, why did you stop pursuing that dream? I know
the answer. You got distracted! You got confused! It could be that your friends enticed you into
joining their parade. Perhaps you hit a stumbling block or someone said something that became
a distraction. Suddenly, you lost momentum.

In physics, the law of momentum says that a body in motion tends to remain in motion until an
outside force acts upon it. That force in your case is distraction. It could be that your friends or
family members acted upon you by overtly discouraging you, or by encouraging you to follow a
more "sensible" path.

So you stopped practicing, stopped reading and studying, stopped working toward your highest
ambition. Those distractions hypnotized you into taking a detour. Your grand dream gradually
became just a footnote in the history of your life.

Have you ever heard the truism that says "used-to bees make no honey"? Do you know people
who are always talking about what they used to do? They usually say, "Someday I will."

And that someday never comes. Excuses, excuses, and more excuses. Those of you who have
read my book know this already. Besides my poverty and disease-stricken life in a tiny Haitian
village, I came to America with only $5 and unable to speak any English. My first job was
digging holes for less than minimum wage on the streets of Miami.

But I had a dream. And I NEVER lost focus or momentum. I let nothing deter me. I was resilient
and determined. Nothing anybody could say would stop me, not even the obstacles. Yes, they
may have slowed me down, but I kept pressing on.

Shakespeare wrote, "This above all, to thine own self be true." Bravo, Mr. Shakespeare! Being
true to yourself means you promise yourself something and you commit to it no matter what. I
was a doorman carrying bags in Atlanta--a porter. I met some of the top motivational speakers.

I shook their hands as a doorman, but I told them that one day I will share a platform with
them. What audacity? Well, it was because I knew that nothing, and I mean absolutely nothing,
would stop me. And I kept taking action daily.

It is said that motion creates emotion. When you take action toward that which you most
desire, your  self-confidence soars. On the other hand, distractions shift you off-course
or slow you down. But actions accelerate you forward along your chosen course. Every action
strengthens you to take another.

When you become a person of action, you become unstoppable! You liberate yourself from
guilt and self-pity. You become the envy of the world.

Many people never commit to anything. They have interests and hobbies, but no passion or
driving ambition. I know you are one of those people who can commit and follow through;
otherwise you wouldn't be reading this article.

Life is like a bicycle. The moment we stop pedaling, we start losing momentum. If we coast for
too long, we fall. Resolve to press on in spite of all your distractions, problems, or challenges.

 
So, my friend, it's time to go back to that dream that is gathering dust on the shelves of your
life. But this time, write it down. Marry that dream and say, "until death do us part."

24. Be true to thine ownself.

I wish you incredible success!

Forging Your Character

by Jim Rohn (excerpted from Leading an Inspired Life
book)

Personal success is built on the foundation of

character, and character is the result of hundreds and
hundreds of choices you may make that gradually turn
who you are at any given moment into who you want to
be. If that decision-making process is not present,
you'll still be somebody—you'll still be alive—but you
may have a personality rather than a character, and to
me that's something very different.
Character isn't something you were born with and can't
change, like your fingerprints. It's something you
must take responsibility for forming. You build
character by how you respond to what happens in your
life, whether it's winning every game, losing every
game, getting rich or dealing with hard times.
You build character from certain qualities that you
must create and diligently nurture within yourself,
just like you would a plant and water a seed or gather
wood to build a campfire. You've got to look for those
things in your heart and in your gut. You've got to
chisel away in order to find them, just like chiseling
away rock to create the sculpture that has previously
existed only in the imagination.
But the really amazing thing about character is that,
if you're sincerely committed to making yourself into
the person you want to be, you'll not only create
those qualities, you'll strengthen them and re-create
them in abundance, even as you're drawing on them
everyday of your life. That's why building your
character is vital to becoming all you can be.
This article was excerpted from Jim Rohn's Leading an
Inspired Life book.
Your Achievement Quotes

"There are two kinds of people, those who do the work

and those who take the credit. Try to be in the first
group; there is less competition there." -- Indira
Gandhi

"Your work should be a challenge, not a chore; a

blessing, not a bore." -- Hal Stewins
Balance
"I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I
will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars."
-- Og Mandino
"Life is part positive and part negative. Suppose you
went to hear a symphony orchestra and all they played
were the little, happy, high notes? Would you leave
soon? Let me hear the rumble of the bass, the crash of
the cymbals, and the minor keys." -- Jim Rohn
"Be prepared to ride the cycles and trends of life;
success is never permanent and failure is never
final." -- Brian Tracy
"If we had no winter, the spring would not be so
pleasant: if we did not sometimes taste of adversity,
prosperity would not be so welcome." -- Anne
Bradstreet

24. Basics/Fundamentals
"Report on the deals, handle the details." -- Patricia
Fripp
"It's good to have money and the things money can buy,
but it's good, too, to check up once in a while and
make sure that you haven't lost the things money can't
buy." -- George Horace Lormier
 "It takes less time to do things right than to explain
why you did it wrong." -- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
"Morale and attitude are the fundamental ingredients
to success." -- Bud Wilkinson

Being The Best

"My philosophy is that not only are you responsible
for your life, but doing the best at this moment puts
you in the best place for the next moment." -- Oprah
Winfrey
"Excellence is the gradual result of always striving
to do better." -- Pat Riley
"The greatest achievement is to outperform yourself."
-- Denis Waitley
"Striving for perfection is the greatest stopper there
is…It's you excuse to yourself for not doing anything.
Instead, strive for excellence, doing your best." --
Sir Laurence Olivier
"Work spares us from three great evils: Boredom, Vice
and Need." – Voltaire

"Take it in steps. If you've never made more than the

minimum wage, don't aim for half-a-million dollar goal
the first year in selling or with a new company.
Always aim for the earnings level that excites you a
lot and only scares you a little. The essential
element is faith in yourself." -- Tom Hopkins

"All labor that uplifts humanity has dignity and

importance and should be undertaken with painstaking.

25. Excellence." -- Martin Luther King, Jr.

"My father taught me to always do more than you get

paid for as an investment in your future." -- Jim Rohn

"Problems are only opportunities in work clothes." --

Henry J. Kaiser

Develop A Prosperity Consciousness

by Brian Tracy
The starting point of all riches is the development of
a prosperity consciousness. You must become a
financial success in your thinking long before you
achieve it in your reality. Both poverty and riches
are the result of a state of mind, and the most
important single step you ever take on the road to
wealth and financial independence is the decision to
change your thinking, to impress into your mind an
unshakable belief that you can and will achieve your
financial goals. This must happen before anything else
happens.
Think and Grow Rich:
While I was growing up, I was fascinated by stories of
successful men and women and how they made and lost
their fortunes, and then made them over again. I read
about the importance of a prosperity consciousness in
the book, Think And Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill,
several times. But I never fully understood what it
meant until about five years ago. Then it hit me and
I've never been quite the same since. Every aspect of
my life has improved dramatically, especially in the
area of accumulating wealth, since I finally
understood what it meant by a prosperity
consciousness.

26. Two Great Discoveries:

Here are two of the most exciting principles ever
discovered in the long search by mankind for the
secrets of health, happiness and great personal
wealth.

All Causation Is Mental:

The first principle is this. All causation is mental.
All causation is mental. That means everything that
you are or ever will be will be as a result of how you
use your mind. You are merely a mind with a body to
carry it around with. The entire man made world that
you see is simply an _expression of thought. Your
entire life is an _expression of your own thinking. And
since the quality of your thinking determines the
quality of your life, if you improve the quality of
your thinking, you must, you will, inevitably improve
the quality of your life.
The Law of Expectations:
The second principle is what we call the law of
expectations. This law says that whatever you expect
with confidence, positive or negative, becomes your
reality. If you confidently expect to succeed, if you
confidently expect to learn something from every
experience, if you confidently expect to become
wealthy as a result of applying your talents and
abilities to your opportunities and you maintain that
attitude of confident expectations long enough, it
will become your reality. It will give you a positive
optimistic cheerful attitude that will cause people to
want to help you, and will cause things to happen the
way you want them to happen.

Action Steps:
Here are two things you can do immediately to practice
these principles in your day to day life:

First, start thinking today in a positive, optimistic,

confident way about personal and financial success.
Continually imagine what differences it would make in
your life if you were financially independent. This is
the starting point of developing a prosperity
consciousness.

Second, develop your own attitude of positive

expectations. Look for the good in every situation.
Look for the valuable lesson in every setback or
difficulty. Be positive and cheerful about everything
that happens and you will be amazed at the difference
it makes in your life.

Do preserve yourself & others while evolving continuously...

27. Beware of Low Flying Moods 
Lou Stoops -
Moods really are like, moving from green one minute to
blue the next. Your own moods can be extremely
deceptive. They can, and probably do, trick you into
believing your life is far worse than it really is.
When you're in a good mood, life looks great. You have
perspective, common sense, and wisdom. Problems seem
less formidable and easier to solve. Relationships
seem to flow and communication is easy. When
criticized, you take it in stride.
When you're in a bad mood, life looks serious and
difficult. Perspective goes away. You take things
personally and often misinterpret what happens around
you.
Here's why this is a problem: people don't realize
their moods are always on the run. They think their
lives have become worse -just in the last day, the
last hour. Their mood shifts, and their perception and
perspective on everything that happens around them
shifts with it. Everything seems urgent and difficult.
We approach the same circumstances in a completely
different manner, depending on our mood.
What to do:
· Remember that life is almost never as bad as it
seems in a low mood
· Recognize your state of mind, then question your
judgment
· Remember that your mood is temporary and will pass
with time
· A low mood is not the time to analyze your life.
Decide consciously
  what  you want   to take on
· A legitimate problem will still be there when your
state of mind improves.

Be grateful for good moods and graceful in low moods.

Remember that “this too shall pass.”

Do preserve yourself & others while evolving continuously...

 28.What color is an apple?
Chuck Gallozzi explores friendships and the impediments
we must overcome to make them truly fruitful.

What color is an apple? If you said red, yellow, or green, you were thinking of just the surface of
the apple and ignored most of it, which is white. Although there are big differences between
apples and people, we often think about both in the same way. That is, we too often see only the
surface of others. Our view of them is shallow and one-dimensional. No wonder we are not
impressed by most of the people we meet. Yet, if plunge into the depths of those we encounter,
we will discover hidden treasures.
Real or fictional people are not only valuable, but are necessary, for their words and deeds
instruct us. They reflect our own weaknesses and faults, as well as our own strength and
potential. For example, let's see what we can learn from the characters in this ancient Hindu
story.
Lord Krishna ordered a wicked king to search the world for one good person and bring that
person before him. After a long search, the wicked king returned and said, "I have looked far and
wide. Yet, everyone I met was deceitful, untrustworthy, and selfish. There is not a single good
person that I can bring before you."
Lord Krishna then asked a kind and gentle king to search the world for one wicked person and to
bring that person before him. After a long absence, the kind king returned and said, "Lord, I have
failed you. Although I could find many that were misguided, misled, or misinformed, none were
truly evil. When they act ruthlessly, it is out of ignorance; they are all good at heart."
See how easy it is to learn from others? I'm sure you weren't surprised the evil king couldn't find a
good person and the kind king couldn't find a wicked person. After all, when we explore the world,
we see what we ARE. We see what we BELIEVE. And we find what we EXPECT to find. Pierre
Mac Orlan understood we find what we look for because he wrote, "When you have a taste for
exceptional people, you always end up meeting them everywhere."
The evil king was blinded by his own prejudices and saw only the surface of others. The good
king's mind was unclouded by preconceptions, so he was able to dive into the hearts of everyone
he met and discover their true nature. Yes, there is a great deal we can learn from others.
However, learning isn't enough. We must apply what we learn if we wish to benefit from it.
People are treasures. But as long as they are strangers, they are undiscovered treasures. It is
only after making friends that we have the chance to open the lid of the treasure chest and
discover the glittering gems it contains. Anais Nin writes about the value of friendship: "Each
friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this
meeting that a new world is born." Although friendship may not be necessary for survival, survival
is meaningless without it.
The more friends we have the richer our lives. But, the number of friends we make is limited
because of many impediments that block our way. The first roadblock was already mentioned. It
is our prejudices, which obscure our vision. So, we need to become aware of our narrow-
mindedness and destroy it. Here's how Victor Hugo makes the same point, "Superstition, bigotry
and prejudice, ghosts though they are, cling tenaciously to life; they are shades (shadows) armed
with tooth and claw. They must be grappled with unceasingly, for it is a fateful part of human
destiny that it is condemned to wage perpetual war against ghosts. A shade is not easily taken by
the throat and destroyed." Yes, destroying our prejudices isn't easy, but it is a worthwhile and
necessary struggle.
Another impediment to friendship is our differences. After all, birds of a kind flock together and
those that are different are usually unwelcome. Our differences are like the pits in an apple, minor
irritants at first, but they are the seeds of a lasting relationship. For though it is our similarities that
unite us, it is our differences that we learn from.
Yet another impediment is self-centeredness or conceit. If we are engrossed in our own imagined
magnificence, how can we see the splendor of others? A pompous attitude is hardly a recipe for
friendship, for as Francois De La Rochefoucauld wrote, "A person well satisfied with themselves
is seldom satisfied with others, and others, rarely are with them."
Friendships that are won can easily be lost because of misunderstandings and disputes.
Being angry with a friend is like burning down your own house to kill a rat. Rebuild
damaged relationships with forgiveness and realistic expectations. After all, people are
imperfect; and that includes us. If we are to be accepted with all our faults, don't we owe
others the same courtesy?
In this regard, the Greek philosopher Epictetus offers some good advice, "Everything has two
handles; the one soft and manageable, the other such as will not endure to be touched. If then
your brother do you an injury, do not take it by the hot hard handle, by representing to yourself all
the aggravating circumstances of the fact; but look rather on the soft side, and extenuate it as
much as is possible, by considering the nearness of the relation, and the long friendship and
familiarity between you - obligations to kindness which a single provocation ought not to dissolve.
And thus you will take the accident by the manageable handle."
If we are easily hurt by the insensitive remarks of our friends, imagine how they feel when
we do the same. The truth is, we make more enemies by what we say than friends by what
we do. We can win a few friends with our mouths, more with our ears, and the most with
our hearts. As long as we communicate in a thoughtful and caring way, we will maintain
our friendships.
Friendship is to people what sunshine is to flowers. People need nurturing. They need our
friendship, so don't wait for them to be friendly, but show them how. Just as one seed will yield
countless apples, one friendship will sprout countless joys. Sir John Bowring instructs us how to
become good gardeners, "There is in every human heart / Some not completely barren part, /
Where seeds of truth and love might grow, / And flowers of generous virtue flow; / To plant, to
watch, to water there, / This be our duty, be our care."
One of the mistakes we make is to forget that everyone we see will die. Because of this lapse of
memory, many words and feeling that should be expressed are left unsaid. Don't save your
thoughts for your friend's eulogy, but express them today. And like Benjamin Disraeli, let's
remember that, "The greatest good you can do for another is not just share your riches,
but to reveal to him, his own."
 
 29.Self-Actualization: How Do You Get It?
Denise Hamilton shares the secrets of her happiness:
choosing careers for self-actualization.

Make real: “The realization of one’s talents and potentialities, especially considered as a drive or
need present in anyone” (Oxford Canadian Dictionary 1998)—in other words, self-actualization.
A self-actualized person is a happy person. The trick is to understand just what makes you
happy: that is, to understand what you are and what your talents are, then marry those talents
with your interests. When you have combined the two, you have a greater chance of having an
exciting, fulfilling life and career.
The path to self-actualization can be short and direct if you know your talents and personality at a
young age, but for most of us, the path is actually long and convoluted. For me, the path was
indeed a meandering course. Like so many people, in my youth I chose a career that was
available, achievable and provided the means for self-support: I became a nurse.
That is not to say that I didn’t enjoy being a nurse. Quite the opposite—my career as a nurse
matched one half of my personality—the nurturing, caring, amiable, patient me. However, the
other side of me, the competitive, determined, creative, purposeful me had to be suppressed
while working in health care. Gradually, though, the need for self-actualization forced me to
evaluate what I was doing and forced me to conclude that part of me was hiding and ready to
emerge.

Denise finds the recipe for happiness

Strangely, or not so strangely, I left nursing and partnered in the writing of a cookbook. The
nurturing side of me authored not just another cookbook, but a healthy eating/healthy lifestyle
book. The determined side of me self-published the book so that it could be done my way: this
was helping me. Within two years, I had sold over 250,000 copies of Fit to Cook, learning in the
process that the marketing of the book was far more exciting than the writing of the book.
Isn’t it interesting how life presents new opportunities if you just grab on to them when you are
ready? All that I learned from being an author to being a publisher to being a marketer launched
me into a new venture. By watching other authors in the struggle to find markets for their books, I
saw a need and a void. Not every author has a determined, competitive side—some are just too
cautious or analytical or complacent or busy. In a “light bulb” moment, I saw their need. This was
the inspiration for Ink Tree Ltd., my co-venture in marketing and publicizing books for other
authors and self-publishers.
Now, going to work is exciting. Every day is a new challenge that fulfills both sides of me. I can be
all of myself—nurturing and caring while at the same time competitive and creative. And what is
the end result? Every day I am happy.
 As Oprah Winfrey says, “Dream big—dream very big. You are the only person alive who
can see your big picture—and even you can’t see it all.”

30.Choose What You Want In Life!

John Robson urges us to choose our goals and choose our lives
as our path to self-actualization.

"You don't have to buy from anyone. You don't have to work at any particular job. You don't have
to participate in any given relationship. You can choose." -- Harry Browne
Choice. It's all about freedom--the freedom to pick one thing over another. Are you
choosing what you want from life?  
"Oh no," comes the reply. "I can't because… I haven't got enough education. …I need to look
after my family. …I don't have enough money. …I don't have the time." What's your excuse? The
truth is that we have choice in every single moment of our lives. For those who are destitute, the
choices in life are fewer. But the rest of us often think we don't have freedom when we simply
haven't claimed our power to choose differently.  
How do you typically make decisions? Do you do so based on-  
 "shoulds" – doing what you believe you should do
 pleasing others – doing what others want or expect you to do
 fear – choosing the safe route for fear of doing something different.
 habit and reaction – you don't even think about what you're doing--you've always done it
this way?

  On the other hand, you own your power to choose when you decide on the basis of:
 desire – choosing something you want.
 need – responding to deeper desires.
 authenticity – you know who you are and what you stand for.
 creative _expression – you strive to be more.
31.So what life choice will you make?

 So how can you open to choosing differently? 

1. Be clear about what you want. Have a sense of purpose. With a target to aim for, you'll
know what will serve you best.
2. STOP and ASK yourself questions. "Why am I doing this? What do I want to achieve?"
WRITE down your answers. Be more conscious of how you are spending your precious
time, because this is your life passing by. This will help you say, "Wait! I don't want to
do this anymore!"
3. Never allow yourself to play the victim. Victims have given away their power. You
alone are responsible for your life. When you fully accept this, you will claim your inner
power to make better choices. Change often comes from nothing more than a shift in
perspective.
4. Be open to possibilities for yourself. Select one area of your life where you are
unsatisfied, and choose something new, something more for yourself. Do different things
and do things differently. Risk more.

Empowerment arises from the three Cs: choice, courage and change. They are yours to
claim. You'll be astounded at how easy it will be to take charge once you've made up your mind
to do so. You have the opportunity to create a future that's very different from your past. And
remember: not choosing is also a choice.  
"It is always your next move." -- Napoleon Hill
 

32.One of the worst days of my life: 

 
I still recall it very vividly. In downtown Nashville for a business convention, was walking back
to my hotel from the auditorium. Though not overly steep, some of the streets in downtown
Nashville are at a significant incline (and decline). Although I had walked just a few blocks, my
twenty-plus years of doing nothing about my health had finally caught up with me. 
 
As my breathing became very difficult and labored, my face grew flush and I became very
dizzy. Finding no place to sit down, all I could do was stand there on the street, looking at how
far I still had to climb. It was one of the most miserable and helpless feelings I have ever felt.
 
Eventually I made it up the hill and into my room huffing and puffing all the way. Sitting down
on the bed, I looked up and was looking directly into a mirror and again experienced a
miserable feeling at what I saw.
 
That was one miserable day BUT...it led to..
 
One of the best days of my life:
 
Coming home from Nashville I made a vow that my health was going to become a high priority
in my life. I made the irrevocable promise to myself that I was going to have to devote time to
taking care of my body or else there would be someone else taking care of it (like the
mortician).
 
I have mostly kept that promise even through some periods where I didn't spend as much time
as I should. I've still got a long way to go to reach my goals but I have no doubt I will because I
don't like the option.
 
This summer I was working out with my youngest son and some of his friends. That's been a
habit for quite a while and it's helped me to reach a level of strength that is actually stronger
than I was when I was a collegiate athlete. One day while I was in the middle of a bench press I
heard my son say to one of his buddies, "that's a fifty-year-old man doing that!" There was an
obvious pride in his voice and it had a big impact on me because he had also been with me in
the gym for my first workout in twenty-five years.  He has witnessed the change and I know it
will have a long-time impact on his own health.

Vic Johnson

 Life is what me make it, always has been, always will be...
33. How to do Everything !!!

"I guess I'm going to have to get used to the idea that I can't do everything I want to do,"
my coaching client said.

At first, I didn't say anything about this, and we continued talking. His statement stuck in
my mind, so much so that, a few seconds later, I stopped him in mid-sentence. "Wait a
minute," I said, "why, exactly, can't you do everything?"

The question startled us both, really, but as we discussed it, we discovered that it is
possible to do "everything" you want to do, if you keep the following points in mind...

1. You can do everything, but not all at once.

The biggest obstacle I find keeping individuals from accomplishing all that they want to
do, is that they try to do too much all at once. Their wish-list of goals and activities gets
longer and longer, and each item is given the same priority: ASAP!

Despite what we've been led to believe in our modern age of multi-tasking computers and
mega-time-saving devices, gizmos, and gadgets, most people can only do one thing at a
time.

2. You can do everything, if it's important enough to you to do.

When reviewing people's lists of "everything" they want to do, I find that many of us have
items and activities that ended up on our lists by default. We added them because
somebody else said we should do them or because we thought, at the time, they'd be
important... only now they're not.

If it's truly important to you, you'll find the time and way to do it. If it's not important,
you'll keep avoiding, postponing and procrastinating about it. If that's the case, scratch it
off your list and move on.

3. You can do everything, but you may not be the BEST at everything.

If your goal is to be the BEST in every field of endeavor you're trying to pursue then
chances are you're setting yourself up for disappointment. This is especially true if you
have many diverse areas of interest.

For example, you may have goals in the areas of entrepreneurship, writing, politics, and
singing. While it's possible you might create a very successful retail business while
writing a best-selling novel, getting elected a state senator, and releasing a top-of-the-
charts album of your favorite t.v. theme show songs, it's not very probable.
Strive, work hard, and apply yourself at every activity, but keep in mind that being the
best requires a great deal of time, focus, and energy that you may not be able to commit
if you're going in 100 different directions.

4. You can do everything, but there will be limitations.

Every activity, every goal, brings it's own set of limiting factors that will effect your
participation. Things like time, health, money, age, sex, weather, policies, etc. Some of
these are changeable, some are not.

5. You can do everything, but you'll need help.

Oh, you can try to do it all on your own, but the more you attempt to do, the more help
you'll need to get it all done.

Success is rarely a solo adventure. Surround yourself with successful, encouraging, and
uplifting people who will inspire and support you as you pursue your dreams. After all,
once you make your dreams come you, you'll want to share them with someone.

 
34. One of the worst days of my life: 

I still recall it very vividly. In downtown Nashville for a business

convention, was walking back to my hotel from the auditorium. Though not
overly steep, some of the streets in downtown Nashville are at a significant
incline (and decline). Although I had walked just a few blocks, my twenty-
plus years of doing nothing about my health had finally caught up with me. 
 
As my breathing became very difficult and labored, my face grew flush and
I became very dizzy. Finding no place to sit down, all I could do was stand
there on the street, looking at how far I still had to climb. It was one of the
most miserable and helpless feelings I have ever felt.
 
Eventually I made it up the hill and into my room huffing and puffing all the
way. Sitting down on the bed, I looked up and was looking directly into a
mirror and again experienced a miserable feeling at what I saw.
 
That was one miserable day BUT...it led to..
 
One of the best days of my life: 
Coming home from Nashville I made a vow that my health was going to
become a high priority in my life. I made the irrevocable promise to myself
that I was going to have to devote time to taking care of my body or else
there would be someone else taking care of it (like the mortician).
 
I have mostly kept that promise even through some periods where I didn't
spend as much time as I should. I've still got a long way to go to reach my
goals but I have no doubt I will because I don't like the option.
 
This summer I was working out with my youngest son and some of his
friends. That's been a habit for quite a while and it's helped me to reach a
level of strength that is actually stronger than I was when I was a collegiate
athlete. One day while I was in the middle of a bench press I heard my son
say to one of his buddies, "that's a fifty-year-old man doing that!" There
was an obvious pride in his voice and it had a big impact on me because he
had also been with me in the gym for my first workout in twenty-five
years.  He has witnessed the change and I know it will have a long-time
impact on his own health.Vic Johnson
35.HOW TO DO EVERYTHING:
"I guess I'm going to have to get used to the idea that I can't do everything I want to do,"
my coaching client said.

At first, I didn't say anything about this, and we continued talking. His statement stuck in
my mind, so much so that, a few seconds later, I stopped him in mid-sentence. "Wait a
minute," I said, "why, exactly, can't you do everything?"

The question startled us both, really, but as we discussed it, we discovered that it is
possible to do "everything" you want to do, if you keep the following points in mind...

1. You can do everything, but not all at once.

The biggest obstacle I find keeping individuals from accomplishing all that they want to
do, is that they try to do too much all at once. Their wish-list of goals and activities gets
longer and longer, and each item is given the same priority: ASAP!

Despite what we've been led to believe in our modern age of multi-tasking computers and
mega-time-saving devices, gizmos, and gadgets, most people can only do one thing at a
time.

2. You can do everything, if it's important enough to you to do.

When reviewing people's lists of "everything" they want to do, I find that many of us have
items and activities that ended up on our lists by default. We added them because
somebody else said we should do them or because we thought, at the time, they'd be
important... only now they're not.

If it's truly important to you, you'll find the time and way to do it. If it's not important,
you'll keep avoiding, postponing and procrastinating about it. If that's the case, scratch it
off your list and move on.

3. You can do everything, but you may not be the BEST at everything.

If your goal is to be the BEST in every field of endeavor you're trying to pursue then
chances are you're setting yourself up for disappointment. This is especially true if you
have many diverse areas of interest.

For example, you may have goals in the areas of entrepreneurship, writing, politics, and
singing. While it's possible you might create a very successful retail business while
writing a best-selling novel, getting elected a state senator, and releasing a top-of-the-
charts album of your favorite t.v. theme show songs, it's not very probable.
Strive, work hard, and apply yourself at every activity, but keep in mind that being the
best requires a great deal of time, focus, and energy that you may not be able to commit
if you're going in 100 different directions.

4. You can do everything, but there will be limitations.

Every activity, every goal, brings it's own set of limiting factors that will effect your
participation. Things like time, health, money, age, sex, weather, policies, etc. Some of
these are changeable, some are not.

5. You can do everything, but you'll need help.

Oh, you can try to do it all on your own, but the more you attempt to do, the more help
you'll need to get it all done.

Success is rarely a solo adventure. Surround yourself with successful, encouraging, and
uplifting people who will inspire and support you as you pursue your dreams. After all,
once you make your dreams come you, you'll want to share them with someone.

 
36.

The Sermonizer of Bhagwad Gita is not Sri Krishna

Gita is revealed by Shiva, the Supreme Soul, not by Sri Krishna,the First Prince of Satyug
(Heaven)
 
Absolute Truth are the Words spoken by God Himself.Bhagwad Gita is called Saromani of
Sastras, the only Truth meant for the welfare of Mankind.
 
But We are following the Gita written by Sage Vyasa during Copper Age, who has wrongly
mentioned Sri Krishna has spoken Bhagwad Gita.
 
In fact Gita was spoken by the Supreme Soul at the end of Kaliyug (Iron Age) before the Dawn of
Satyug (Golden Age).
 
By The Supreme Gita, Supreme God keeps the promise of coming to the rescue of devotees to
save them from vices of Lust, Anger, Greed, Ego and Atachment and make them Sato pradhan
(Pure), so that we are eligible to come and live with Sri Krishna in the Goloka - which in reality is
called as Satyug.
 
Sri Krishna and Sri Radha were the Prince and Princess of Satyug and they were ruling the
Kingdom in the name of Vishnu - Combined form of Sri Lakshmi and Sri Narayan,
 
Since Sage Vyasa (During Copper Age) was not aware of Supreme Almighty authority by his
limited intellect, the teachings whatever being taught by the Supreme Soul was compiled
according to the limited intellect of Sage Vyasa and used the name Sri Krishna as the sermonizer
of Gita.
 
The Truth is, the Supreme Soul, Almighty God, the Ocean of Knowledge, who has got the
complete Knowledge of Beginning to the end of the World Cycle, is the One who revealed Gita
and the present Bhagwad Gita has got truth only like a pinch of salt in the sackful of flour.
 
If Bhagwad Gita has contained 100% Truth, there would have been a Kingdom of peace
immediately after the Knowledge given to humanity, But in actual it is not so. Instead there was
only destruction including the death of Pandavas.
 
The Supreme Soul is also called as Doer of Good - Kalyankari and is known as Shiv.
 
So, Shiv is the Supreme God who revealed Gita.
 
The Supreme Soul, Shiv's only request is Consider yourself as soul, and remember
Supreme Soul, who is Ocean of Knowledge , Ocean of Mercy etc..,so that our past and
present sins get incinerated and by following Shiv's Teachings as Father, Teacher and
Satguru., we will go to Paramdham (Soul World) and we will come in to Satyug - the
Golden Age without any difficulty
 
Note: 1) Supreme Soul Shiv is Soul without body, different from the Shankar who is
shown as doing Tapasya with Snake in the neck. 2) Since this World Cycle of 5000 yrs.,
(with 4 Ages of 1250 yrs. each) keep on repeating, the Supreme Soul who never comes
into Birth and Death, has got the knowledge of Past, Present and Future.
37 Destructive Habits of Incompetent People

WARNING !!!

If you want to have a fantastic life, never engage yourself in these 7 deadly
habits that incompetent people do by Michael Lee .

NUMBER 1 - They Think, Say, & Do Negative Things.

Yup. They see problems in every opportunity.

They complain that the sun is too hot. They cursed the rain for ruining their
plans for the day. They blame the wind for ruining their hair.

They think that everyone is against them. They see the problems but never the
solutions.

Every little bit of difficulty is exaggerated to the point of tragedy. They regard
failures as catastrophes. They become discouraged easily instead of learning
from their mistakes.

They never seem to move forward because they're always afraid to come out of
their comfort zones.

NUMBER 2 - They Act Before They Think.

They move based on instinst or impulse. If they see something they like, they
buy at once without any second thought.

Then they see something better. They regret & curse for not able to take
advantage of the bargain.

Then they spend & spend again until nothing's left. They don't think about the
future. What they're after is the pleasure they will experience at present.

They don't think about the consequenses. Those who engage in unsafe sex,
criminality, and the like are included in this group.

NUMBER 3 - They Talk Much More Than They Listen

They want to be the star of the show. So they always engage in talks that would
make them heroes, even to the point of lying.

Oftentimes they are not aware that what they're saying is not sensible anymore.
When other people advise them, they close their ears because they're too proud
to admit their mistakes.

In their mind they're always correct. They reject suggestions because that will
make them feel inferior.

NUMBER 4 - They Give Up Easily

Successful people treat failures as stepping stones to success.

Incompetent ones call it quits upon recognizing the first signs of failure.

At first, they may be excited to start an endeavor. But then they lose interest
fairly quickly, especially when they encounter errors.

Then they go & search for a new one. Same story & same results. Incompetent
people don't have the persistence to go on and fulfill their dreams.

NUMBER 5 - They Try to Bring Others Down To Their Level

Incompetent people envy other successful individuals. Instead of working hard

to be like them, these incompetent ones spread rumors and try every dirty trick
to bring them down.

They could've asked these successful ones nicely. But no, they're too proud.
They don't want to ask advise. Moreover, they're too negative to accomplish
anything.

NUMBER 6 - They Waste Their Time

They don't know what to do next. They may just be contented on eating, getting
drunk, watching TV, or worse, staring at the blank wall with no thoughts
whatsoever to improve their lives.

It's perfectly fine to enjoy once in a while. But time should be managed
efficiently in order to succeed. There should be a proper balance between work
& pleasure.

NUMBER 7 - They Take the Easy Way Out

If there are two roads to choose from, incompetent people would choose the
wider road with less rewards than the narrower road with much better rewards
at the end.

They don't want any suffering or hardship. They want a good life.
What these people don't know is that what you reap is what you sow. Efforts &
action will not go unnoticed.

If only they would be willing to sacrifice a little, they would be much better off.

Successful people made it through trials & error. They never give up. They are
willing to do everything necessary to achieve what they aspire for in life.

38. The Characteristics of Greatness

by David DeFord

Each of us has his own concept of greatness. Take a moment to think of the first three people
whom you consider to possess greatness. [Are you thinking?]

The first three that immediately came to my mind (I consciously excluded my personal religious
heroes) were Anne Frank, Gandhi (I read his biography not long ago), and Albert Schweitzer. I
asked my wife to do the same. Her responses included John Adams (she recently finished
reading his biography), and Martin Luther King, Jr.

As I ponder this question of greatness, I“m struck by my own compartmental thinking. I thought of
general public great ones like those mentioned above, religious great ones: Jesus Christ, ancient
and modern prophets (yes modern prophets), and family.

I find that the famous great ones contributed something to society. Their views and actions
served and lifted others. Their lives counted. They followed their “callings“. Their influences
ranged the whole earth and have lasted for generations. They stirred our souls and lifted our
vision.

Each had a cause for which he devoted his life and maybe even sacrificed it. Each endured
difficulties but prevailed.

The religious heroes achieved greatness by spreading truth and virtue. They sacrificed by living
consistent with their beliefs. They, too, subdued their natural tendencies to become more Godlike.
They lifted others.

Did Gandhi live a perfect life? No, but much of his greatness came from his striving for perfection.
He worked at it. He pushed himself to improve. He lived the very best life he could live. And he
encouraged others to do the same. He taught by the example of his life.

Like Gandhi, we need not live perfect lives to live great lives; we only need to lift those in our
circles of influence and constantly strive for improvement.

What about you and me? What can we do to live with greatness? You will have some ideas. Mine
follow.

.Care about your reputation, but care more about your character
·Strive for success by bringing others with you, not by stomping on others
·Face challenges squarely and bravely
·Find a way to serve” sacrifice in your service
·Stir the hearts of others as you lift them
·Adopt a cause that can excite your passion
·Have a vision of your potential
·Knock off the rough edges of your character, don“t give in to them
·See the greatness in those close to you
·Identify the gaps between your potential and your current reality and work to narrow that gap
·Recognize that life consists not of a series of circumstances but of a series of choices

As I write to you each week, I visualize your greatness. As the number of readers grows, I feel a
wonderful responsibility to help you better yourselves. I cherish the opportunity.
We do not need fame to live with greatness. We only need to influence the sphere of our
association.
Yet, I strongly believe the following,
  "A man filled with the love of God, is not content with blessing his family alone, but ranges
through the whole world, anxious to bless the whole human race." Joseph Smith

May I repeat one line from above:

Life consists not of a series of circumstances but of a series of choices.
Choose greatness.

Regards,

The value of a thing lies in the cost of attaining it

39. Can You Hear Yourself Lead?

 
Author- Unknown
 
Do you find days turning into weeks, which turn into years and suddenly you're not sure where it's
all gone? Does it seem like your no longer navigating your own life but your life and your
schedule are navigating you instead? Can you hear yourself lead? If this describes you, stop.
Just stop. Stand still, be still, and let yourself remember what the silence feels like.
 
So often in the world we call business, we go so fast we lose our ability to keep up when, in fact,
keeping up is impossible. Simply put, if you're caught up, you're out of business. Business is the
competitive pull and push that can kick our navigational system clean out of whack. To get back
in control, you have to stop and listen.
 
We are taught to listen to everyone else, that listening is the greater asset. However, we are
never taught to listen to ourselves. Creativity dies in the face of too much noise. Without creativity
everything in your life suffers, including your business. Sometimes the most important person
to listen to is you. Yes, you have something to say but if you never stop to listen you won't ever
get back to navigating again.
 
So here's what you can do to put yourself back in the driver's seat:
 
1. Start the day by emptying your emotions into a journal. Let all the emotional garbage out
on paper. Now, don't read it. ever. Too hard to do? Rip it up and throw it away. This is
just a tool to get the frustrations processed and out of your life so you can move on. So
you can hear yourself think again. Sometimes our lives get filled up with everyone else's
chatter. This helps us empty that out. 
2. Take 15 minutes out of the middle of your day and rest. Just stop everything. Go to a
room; take off the phone, the fax, the instant messenger and the ringer on your email.
Find a place where you won't be bothered and stopped. Take ten deep breaths. Let your
mind empty. Try to spend at least five minutes of the fifteen thinking of nothing. Don't
laugh; it's really hard to do. Think of nothing. Empty your brain and give your soul a rest.
3. Walk. Walking doesn't just exercise your body, it relaxes your soul. Walk with a friend, or
walk alone, but walk. This isn't about exercise; it's about letting your mind breath, outside,
in the rain, in the sun, in the snow and in the fresh air. It works!
4. Okay, this is the most important. At the end of the day, spend another 15 minutes writing
down all the advice that was given to you today. All those noteworthy, seemingly wise
bits of advice that get hurled at us everyday. It doesn't matter where they come from, a
book, a phone call, a radio station doesn't matter. If you can remember it write it down.
Now read them all. Do any of them feel adverse to your own feelings and thoughts?
Great, cross them out and forget them. Learn to trust that some things will work for you
and some things won't. Once you have learned this principle you will find yourself getting
back into the drivers seat of your own life again.
Remember you're important too and you are the only one that lives the results and
consequences of your own life. Be gentle with yourself and take the time to take the time.
Suddenly hours will screech back to normal speed, life will feel worth the effort, and your
goals will be realized again.
40. Ten commandments (with annotations gleaned from Patterson's
talk by
Mark D. Hill):

I. Thou shalt not be neat

Why waste research time preparing slides? Ignore spelling, grammar

and legibility. Who cares what 50 people think?

II. Thou shalt not waste space

Transparencies are expensive. If you can save five slides in each of

four talks per year, you save £5.00 ($7.00)/year!

III. Thou shalt not covet brevity

Do you want to continue the stereotype that engineers can't write?

Always use complete sentences, never just key words. If possible, use
whole paragraphs and read every word.

IV. Thou shalt cover thy naked slides

You need the suspense! Overlays are too flashy

V. Thou shalt not write large

Be humble -- use a small font. Important people sit in front. Who

cares about the riff-raff?

VI. Thou shalt not use color

Flagrant use of color indicates uncareful research. It's also unfair

to emphasize some words over others.

VII. Thou shalt not illustrate

Confucius says "A picture is worth a thousand words,'' but Dijkstra

says "Pictures are for weak minds.'' Who are you going to believe?
Wisdom from the ages or the person who first counted goto's?

VIII. Thou shalt not make eye contact

You should avert eyes to show respect. Blocking screen can also add
mystery.
IX. Thou shalt not skip slides in a long talk

You prepared the slides; people came for your whole talk; so just
talk faster. Skip your summary and conclusions if necessary.

X. Thou shalt not practice

Why waste research time practicing a talk? It could take several

hours out of your two years of research. How can you appear
spontaneous if you practice? If you do practice, argue with any
suggestions you get and make sure your talk is longer than the time
you have to present it.

Commandment X is most important. Even if you break the other nine,

this one can save you

41.Choose What You Want Life

This is a brilliant article from you.

 What is important in the message is the reality that, despite having opportunities of
choosing, we continue to remain helpless and keep wasting time in managing the
helplessness.
 Dear Friends,
I came across this article and I realised how true it is that all of us do not realise that
every moment we CAN make a choice in our lives, and we do, only we do not realise that
we have made a chice by not choosing

Choose What You Want In Life!

By Patrice Steen and John Robson

"You don't have to buy from anyone. You don't have to work at any particular job. You
don't have to participate in any given relationship. You can choose." -- Harry Browne
Choice. It's all about freedom--the freedom to pick one thing over another. Are you
choosing what you want from life? "Oh no," comes the reply. "I can't because... I haven't
got enough education... I need to look after my family... I don't have enough money... I
don't have the time." What's your excuse?
The truth is that we have choice in every single moment of our lives. For those who are
destitute, the choices in life are fewer. But the rest of us often think we don't have
freedom when we simply haven't claimed our power to choose differently. How do you
typically make decisions? Do you do so based on:
·"shoulds" - doing what you believe you should do.
·pleasing others - doing what others want or expect you to do.
·fear - choosing the safe route for fear of doing something different.
·habit and reaction - you don't even think about what you're doing–you've always done it
this way?

On the other hand, you own your power to choose when you decide on the basis of:
·desire - choosing something you want
·need - responding to deeper desires
·authenticity - you know who you are and what you stand for
·creative _expression - you strive to be more.
So how can you open to choosing differently?

1.Be clear about what you want. Have a sense of purpose. With a target to aim for, you'll
know what will serve you best.

2.Stop and ask yourself questions: "Why am I doing this? What do I want to achieve?"
Write down your answers. Be more conscious of how you are spending your precious
time, because this is your life passing by. This will help you say, "Wait! I don't want to
do this anymore!"

3.Never allow yourself to play the victim. Victims have given away their power. You
alone are responsible for your life. When you fully accept this, you will claim your inner
power to make better choices. Change often comes from nothing more than a shift in
perspective.

4.Be open to possibilities for yourself. Select one area of your life where you are
unsatisfied, and choose something new, something more for yourself. Do different things
and do things differently. Risk more.

Empowerment arises from the three Cs: Choice, Courage and Change. They are yours to
claim. You'll be astounded at how easy it will be to take charge once you've made up
your mind to do so. You have the opportunity to create a future that's very different from
your past. And remember: not choosing is also a choice.

"It is always your next move." -- Napoleon Hill

Thought-- let us have the Courage to Choose the Change in our Live

42. YOU ARE A POWERFUL MEDIUM by Nido Qubein

====================================================
If you want to send a powerful, positive message to the
people with whom you work, or to whom you sell, follow the
principles in this article. A sure formula for success!  

 
You can't find a more powerful medium of communication than
yourself -- your character, your personality and your
principles.

(1) You manage the process, but you LEAD people.

An organization runs smoothly when its people function

smoothly. Dealing with problems in engineering, production,
marketing and sales without dealing with the human element
is like dealing with a flat tire without dealing with air.

The finest steel-belted radial is worthless without the air

that holds it up. The finest engineering, manufacturing,
marketing, sales and servicing systems are worthless
without the people who keep them functioning. 

In an interview with Harvard Business Review, Robert Haas,

chairman of the board of Levi Strauss, called production-
management "the hard stuff" and people management "the soft
stuff."

Under the old philosophy at Levi Strauss, he said, "The

soft stuff was the company's commitment to our work force.
And the hard stuff was what really mattered: getting pants
out the door. What we've learned is that the soft stuff and
the hard stuff are becoming increasingly intertwined."

So pay careful attention to the human side of your

business. 

(2) Inspire people, don't just drive them.

We can inspire people by showing them how to be their very

best. Ed Temple, the Tennessee State track coach who worked
with some of America's top women's track stars, liked to
say, "A mule you drive, but with a race horse, you use
finesse."  Treat your people like Thoroughbreds instead of
like mules. They'll get the message and respond.

(3) Be easy to respect and look up to.

You don't gain respect by sitting in an ivory tower and

looking down on the work floor. Be accessible to employees
and let them see your human side.

Employees are turned off by executives who pretend to be

infallible. Observe high standards of personal conduct, but
let your employees know that you're human. Talk to them
about your bad decisions as well as your good ones. When
you blow it, grin and admit it. Your employees will respect
you for it.

(4) Be easy to like and get along with

Employees like leaders who are human -- who make mistakes

and acknowledge them. It's all right to let them see your
vulnerability. If you made a bad decision, talk about it
with the people you lead. Let it be a lesson for them as
well as for you.

Don't feel that you have to know everything. Acknowledge

that the people you lead may know much more than you do
about certain things. 

(5) Help people to like themselves.

Robert W. Reasoner, a California school superintendent, who

headed a statewide task force on self-esteem, identified
five basic attitudes that foster self-esteem. They are:

 
A sense of security.
A sense of identity.
A sense of belonging.
A sense of purpose.
A sense of personal competence.

Secure people are comfortable with who they are and with
what others think about them. They know their roles in the
organization and are confident that they can fill them.

People with a sense of identity know how they fit into the
work place and how the work place fits into their lives. To
them, work takes its place among family, friends and
community as an important and fulfilling component of their
lives. 

When employees have a sense of belonging, they identify

with the company's vision and goals, because these things
have personal meaning for them. They personally share in
the success and the prestige of the company.

Employees obtain a sense of purpose from knowing the

company's goals and knowing how their efforts contribute
toward those goals. Management needs to take employees into
its confidence and give them a role in planning and goal
setting. You can give employees a sense of personal
competence by educating them for their jobs and giving them
the freedom to succeed or fail on their own.

(6) Help people to believe that what they're doing is

important.

My friend Stew Leonard, the grocery-store wizard from

Connecticut, once told me that he refused to use job titles
that he perceives as demeaning. Once he noticed a job
listed as "popcorn maker." He immediately ordered a more
dignified title.

"How would you feel if someone asked you what you did for a
living and you had to answer, 'I'm a popcorn maker'?" he
asked me.

Are there any demeaning titles in your organization?

Medtronic, Inc., has a heartwarming way of dramatizing the

importance of what its employees do. Each year at Christmas
time, the company holds a party for employees. Guests of
honor are people whose lives have been prolonged by
Medtronic cardio-pulmonary devices.

Can you think of ways of dramatizing to your employees the

importance of what they do?

(7) Be responsive to people. Listen to people. Read people.

Respond; don't react.

Leaders should be accessible to the people they lead. Let

your staff and associates know they can come to you with
problems, concerns, ideas, suggestions or complaints. If
they bring you usable ideas, adopt the ideas and give the
employees credit.

Welcome bad news as well as the good. What you don't

know  can hurt you.  Don't ignore complaints. Listen to them. 

Find out what you can do to rectify matters, let the employees

know what you plan to do -- and do it.

 

If you put these principles into practice, you will be constantly

sending out a powerful and positive message: Yourself.

Humans have a variety of ways to send messages. We "speak" 

with our eyes, our facial expressions, our posture, our  clothes,

our grooming, our lifestyles, and many other  aspects of our persons.

But the most familiar and most  explicit form of communication is

with words.

What happens if we train our people, and they leave? Wrong question.

According to Zig Ziglar, you should be asking:

What happens if we don't train our people, and they stay?

Training is an investment: Invest - It will pay rich dividends

43.Tips for Happiness in Daily Life !!

 

Daily life can be made happier. It is a matter of choice. It is our attitude that makes us
feel happy or unhappy. It is true, we meet all kinds of situations during the day, and
some of them may not be conductive to happiness. We can choose to keep thinking about
the unhappy events, and we can choose to refuse to think about them, and instead, relish
the happy moments. All of us constantly go through various situations and
circumstances, but we do not have to let them influence our reactions and feelings. 

If we let outer events influence our moods, we become their slaves. We lose our freedom.
We let our happiness be determined by outer forces. On the other hand, we can free
ourselves from outer influences. We can choose to be happy, and we can do a lot to add
happiness to our lives. 

What is happiness?

It is a feeling of inner peace and satisfaction. It is usually experienced when there are no
worries, fears or obsessing thoughts, and this usually happens, when we do something we
love to do or when we get, win, gain or achieve something that we value. It seems to be
the outcome of positive events, but it actually comes from the inside, triggered by outer
events.  

For most people happiness seems fleeting, because they let changing outer circumstances
affect it. One of the best ways to keep it, is by gaining inner peace through daily
meditation. As the mind becomes more peaceful, it becomes easier to choose the
happiness habit. 

Here are a few tips for increasing happiness in daily life, by performing some simple
actions: 

1) Endeavor to change the way you look at things. Always look at the bright side. The
mind may drag you to think about negativity and difficulties. Don't let it. Look at the
good and positive side of every situation.  

2) Think of solutions, not problems. 

 

3) Listen to relaxing, uplifting music. 

4) Watch funny comedies that make you laugh. 

5) Each day, devote some time to reading a few pages of an inspiring book or article. 

6) Watch your thoughts. Whenever you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, start
thinking of pleasant things. 

7) Always look at what you have done and not at what you haven't.  

Sometimes you may begin the day with the desire to accomplish several objectives. At the
end of the day you might feel frustrated and unhappy, because you haven't been able to
do all of those things. 

Look at what you have done, not at what you have not been able to do. You may have
accomplished a lot during the day, and yet you let yourself become frustrated, because of
some small things that you did not accomplish. You have spent all day successfully
carrying out many plans, and instead of feeling happy and satisfied, you look at what
was not accomplished and feel unhappy. It is unfair toward yourself.  

8) Each day do something good for yourself. It can be something small, such buying a
book, eating something you love, watching you favorite program on TV, going to a
movie, or just having a stroll on the beach.  

9) Each day do at least one act to make others happy. This can be a kind word, helping
your colleagues, stopping your car at the crossroad to let people cross, giving your seat
in a bus to someone else, or giving a small present to someone you love. The possibilities
are infinite. When you make someone happy, you become happy, and then people try to
make you happy. 
 

10) Always expect happiness.  

11) Do not envy people who are happy. On the contrary, be happy for their happiness. 

12) Associate with happy people, and try to learn from them to be happy. Remember,
happiness is contagious. 

13) Do your best to stay detached, when things do not proceed as intended and desired.
Detachment will help you stay calm and control your moods and reactions. Detachment
is not indifference. It is the acceptance of the good and the bad and staying balanced.
Detachment has much to do with inner peace, and inner peace is conductive to
happiness. 

14) Smile more often. 

44. Remembering Names- WIT & HUMOUR

There are many people who are bad at remembering names. I am one of them. I
don't forget faces; often I don't forget names either. But when it comes to fixing the
names to the face, I’m dumb stuck. They refuse to match. I play all sorts of games
to reciprocate the cordial greetings by the other chap to make him feel that I know
him as well as he does. But it seldom works. It goes like this-

'Oh, hello, hello! How are you? Nice meeting you. How have you been?' And then I
am at a loss what to say next as I just can't place him. Situation is made even more
embarrassing when he so elaborately informs me about my deeds (or, misdeeds). I
quickly run through the alphabets in my mind hoping that one will pull the right
chord and 'twang' will reverberate the name. It works; but just about 5 pc of the
time. Then try another charade.

'So how is Business?’ Hoping that if he mentioned his vocation, it shall open up some
association. But people are so uncooperative - 'Not bad, but you know what? With
tight money market and inflation it is not as good as one would have liked.' How
informative! Why for love of God he would not say that cloth was down or electronics
were so competitive?

'But you are right in the hub of the market and must be a drawing a lots of
customers,' l say.

Again the blighter does not come out clean and talks incoherently, 'no yaar, now
people avoid big market coming up in every colony, they prefer to shop there.' He
hopefully offers.

How discouraging! Instead of babbling about big markets and so on why he just
would not say that people were no more thronging to Ganj or Aminabad. This is
really very upsetting .The art of communication or conversation, I tell you, is dying
out. People age so vague and have no power of _expression.

Then I get a flash, cursing myself that why I did not think of it before, I pull out my
visiting card, look, why don't you give me a ring sometime, or come over? Then we
will talk at length. '

Brightening up he says. 'Yes, that's right. I will do that. I will give you my number
too.' That is exactly what I have been waiting for. Then he picks up a floating piece
of paper, borrows my pen and scribbles a number. Great! Sometimes though I
hastily goad him, 'put down your name too, otherwise I shall wonder later whose
number it could be'. But mostly I sheepishly take it being no wiser in the process
than when we shook hands first.

To cut the whole rigmarole short, I have made it a practice, when in doubt, to
straightaway say, I am so and so,' while shaking hands. Most of the times people
respond by speaking out theirs, even if they add 'I am ........ , u ting fool ' But trust
me I have often met people who just say, ' of course, I know you are.......' Period!

I like best the people who sensing slightest hesitant place me. Arre yaar, I am....'
They are darlings. I feel like hugging and kissing them. Of course, you can't always
do it. Most certainly not if the person happens to be a lady. Still!

45. The sweetest meeting of all time

How much love God looks at us with. and we also look at Him with great
love. Can there ever be such a sweet meeting as this?  This is known as the
sweetest meeting of all; the soul with the Supreme Soul.

In what way must God be looking at the child who is following shrimat (God’s Words)? 
He looks with great love and regard.  He looks at the forehead.  And the one
who follows shrimat - what does He look at?  He can see only the One and,
through seeing only the One, he attains everything.

For us, the words of the song; We have seen and we have attained the
Innocent Lord, are true.  Not only that; we have seen Him and we have also
got to know Him.  We have seen Him very, very clearly.  How innocent is that
One.  How beautiful?  Words cannot express these things.

Rakhi is the time to experience the fortune of the meeting with God.  On
the day of Rakshabandhan - the full moon day, we keep the aim of becoming
complete and then tie the rakhi.  God ties our rakhi for all time because
He is protecting us for all time.  He protects in such a way that there is
no other shadow on the soul; so that there is no other shadow in the form of
desire cast on the soul.  He ties rakhi on our wrist but He looks at our
forehead.  He gives us the tilak - the sign of victory. He gives us a sweet
to convey 'may you always be sweet' and He gives the blessing of 'may you
always be immortal'.

How much should such a God be loved?  Love God immensely because it is
that love that makes the soul pure.  In fact, we are not interested in
kaliyug any more.  My job is now with God. Learn to chit chat with God .

God tells us that now there should be no difference between the desires of
the Father and the desires of the child.  This is the last birth, so there
should be no other desire other than that of wanting to claim your
inheritance from God.  From our faces that honour of being with God, of
being God's own, should be visible.  Whatever I have received, it is from
God.

Sangamyug (Confluence Age) is the best, but for how long will we continue?  We have
to now become intense effort makers.  We have to become sweet. We have to become
loving.

we need to become free and swing in the swing of supersensous joy.

46. ENJOY YOURSELF WHILE YOU GROW

Author- Unknown
A good sense of humor may well be called as the sixth essential. A total want of it
may be as good an affliction as the absence of any other five essential senses.
Hippocrates recognized four main "humors" (phlegm, blood, choler and black bile) in
the human body. These were also called “streams" or "currents”. If all the four
"streams" flowed normally, one was said to be in good humor.

Humor has been defined variously by various people but everybody agrees that its
physical manifestation is a smile or laughter. Kant said that the cause of laughter
was "the sudden transformation of a tense expectation into nothing. Henri Bergson
says it is "the feeling of relief." With humor, we can establish a congenial
atmosphere for ourselves as well as others who come in contact with us. This helps
greatly in times of stress and enables us to come out of many a crisis unscarred.

We can do ourselves a lot of good if we remember that except in case of stark

tragedy there is always a humorous side to every aspect of life. Humor also serves
as a kind of ego booster. A tale about people can be told to show that they are
ignorant and thus assure us of our own superiority, if the superiority is just a
supposed one, then the comic effect is higher still. It takes a lot of large heartedness
for a person to be able to laugh at his own self. When a person realizes that the joke
is on him and even then enjoys it, laughs at it, be considered a beneficiary of humor.

The fact is that life is too serious to be taken seriously, unless we can
develop the lighter side of our natures, the tragedy of life will overwhelm
us. The flippant are to balance grief. Laughter is needed to atone for tears. A sense
of humor prevents a man from inflating himself with an absurd dignity. It saves him
from being laughed at. It enables him to be a man among men. The man who
conceives of himself as an idol has few worshippers.

"Laugh and the world laughs with you; weep, and you alone weep" No one would pay
to see the most dignified man in the world, but people pay hundreds of millions to
see comedians. In the handling of audiences (it can even be people whom
you are working with), every effective speaker has found that by the use of
humor a crowd of people can be welded into a unit. An audience, too, can be
"heated". It must be relaxed and warmed into sympathy with the speaker by his wit
and humor. A cold audience sits critical and unconvinced. People are brightened up.
They begin to give attrition. They forget their suspicions. They cease being on their
guard.

Their natures are changed as much as the nature of iron is when it is made red-hot.
Man is said to be the crown of creation for he is widowed with several faculties which
distinguish him from the lower species. One such faculty is his ability to laugh. A
smiling nature increases our strength. It also adds to our efficiency. A man who
"sings" at his work accomplishes more in the same time and does it better than the
sony-head.
A sense of humor acts like a wine in social life. It increases warmth and
lubricates our relationship with other human beings. Thus, it enriches social
life. "There is nothing like fun, is there? We need all the counter-weights we can
muster to balance sad relations of life. God has made sunny spots in the hearts;
why should we exclude the light from them?" asks Haliburton. THE
CHEERFUL MAN IS A KING.

47. WIT & HUMOR- Birth Daze

Author- Unknown
It were Gods who started this concept of birthdays. A few Gods like Vishnu
condescend to come and live humans once in a million years or so. That
certainly is a date to remember, gratefully. Amongst the trinity in Hindus, Shiva
never incarnated and hence no birthday. Shaivites did not like it and decided to
celebrate his wedding anniversary as Maha Shivratri and demanded as much
importance for it as Krishna Janamashtami. They got it too. Ishwar and Allah did
not like to assume human forms and get involved in their squabbles. Still they
were as concerned about their devotees as Vishnu. So they sent their
messengers - prophets in the name of Christ and Mohammed respectively. They
were bestowed with full powers too. Hence their birthdays have a rightful place
alongside Krishna.

Still, what egoist concept motivated humans to celebrate their own birthdays?
Who the devil they think they are? One can understand parents celebrating
children's birthday because, at least till the age of thirteen, each year is a
milestone and they are changing. To record these is an understandable human
weakness. But thirteen onwards it has no meaning. In case of girls, if they like
they can go up to sweet sixteen. Beyond that, in any case, no woman likes to be
reminded of her having put on another year. So why force a birthday on her. A
husband, I knew, once complained he was growing old alone. I reminded him
that he has his wife keeping him a company. "What nonsense!" he retorted. "She
never put on a year since she was thirty five."

Why old people shall celebrate their birthdays? What pessimism is this? Why
they want to remind themselves that another year is gone and they are another
step nearer to exit! Unless they are using these celebrations as countdown. It is
macabre. And the people around them who insist on celebrating it definitely have
weird sense of humor - be it their relatives, friends or sycophants. When as such
celebrations they sing eulogies and recall his/her past achievements, they
actually tell them, "you are over the hill, old chap (or old girl)! Lump it!"

Same way it goes for anniversaries. Which man, in his proper sense, wants to
remember how long he has been in captivity? Or to celebrate the date on which
he lost his independence. A gentleman during the silver jubilee of his wedding
has remarked, "if I were in jail serving a life term, I would have been a free man
eleven years back." For a woman, of course, it's milestone celebrating her
successful tenure as a jailor. Once at such party, I wished the old man, "many
happy returns of the day." Resignedly he said, "it's alright, what can you do." I
have a suspicion that Maha Shivratri perpetuated the idea of anniversaries.

So should one, or should one not celebrate a birthday? Oh, have it your own
way! I think all the people I know should celebrate their birthdays with a grand
party, where the toast is raised with the best spirits. I love it!
48.Success Quote - HR Defined
Dear Team
 

I was reading the mails related to What is HR

I want to share my views on this in the form my success quote

HUMAN RESOURCES

In Finance - it is HUMAN CAPITAL - which brings funds , which makes investments....

In Marketing - it is HUMAN _EXPRESSION - back bone of any Organisation is ability to sell

yourself and ability to sell others

In PRODUCTION - it is HUMAN PERFORMANCE - People Make or Break Quality

IN LOGISTICS - it is HUMAN DISTANCE - People travel and gain new exposure and
avenues and get new orders

IN ACCOUNTING - it is HUMAN INCOME - Increase your resources increase your profit

FOR MANAGEMENT - It is HUMAN ASSET - People is the pace maker of Organisation

IN HR - it is FAITH - Fast Action , Accountability and Responsibility, I - Important and

Inevitable Function T- Trust and Talent , H - Human Excellence - HR is everything and HR
has everything

49.Leadership and Self-Esteem.

Thought Leaders: Interview of Nathaniel Brandon on

Leadership and Self-Esteem.. By: RICHARD DIGEORGIO 
The following interview with Nathaniel Brandon is a
condensed version of HR.com's live, one-hour online
learning webcast.

Nathanial Branden is considered the father of the

concept of Self-Esteem and is the author of The Six
Pillars of Self-Esteem.

With a Ph.D. in psychology and a background in

philosophy, Nathaniel Branden is a practicing
psychotherapist in Los Angeles and, in addition, does
corporate consulting and offers seminars, workshops,
and conferences on the application of self-esteem
principles and technology to the problems of modern
business.

The name Nathaniel Branden has become synonymous with

“the psychology of self-esteem,” a field he began
pioneering over four decades ago.  He has done more,
perhaps, than any other theorist to awaken America’s
consciousness to the importance of self-esteem to
human well-being.

His first major work was The Psychology of

Self-Esteem, published in 1969; in 2001 a new, 32nd
anniversary edition was published.

His writings have been translated into 18 foreign

languages and, worldwide, have sold over four million
copies.

RD:  In your book, The Six Pillars of Self Esteem, you

say in essence that the book consists of your answers
to four questions.
I have changed them slightly for this interview, but
the questions are,
“What is self esteem?”
“Why is self-esteem important in the business world?”
What can individuals do to raise their own level of
self-esteem at work?”
and
“What can managers and leaders do to positively
influence employee self-esteem and the overall
self-esteem of the organization?”
So that will be the focus of today’s discussion.
Nathaniel, what is self-esteem?

NB: Self-esteem is our experience of being competent

to cope with the basic challenges of life and as being
worthy of happiness. The two critical elements are
competence and goodness. It is the conviction and the
experience that one is able and competent to deal with
the challenges of life and that happiness, success and
achievement are the natural state of things, if we can
earn it.

RD: What are some of the common misunderstandings

about self-esteem that you encounter when you talk to
business people?

NB: The misconceptions are unfortunately not confined

to business people. Self-esteem is not a feel-good
phenomenon. It is not something shallow that you might
feel today or tomorrow. It is a very deep way of
experiencing who we are.

It has to be built and it has to be created by living

consciously and living self-responsibly. If the
self-esteem of an individual is not reality-based, it
is not self-esteem it is self-delusion.

Self-esteem is not narcissism. They are not on a

continuum; they are radically different psychological
experiences. Self-esteem is complex, which has many
derivatives. Upbringing is one, biology is another but
we always have to remember that we as adults are
primarily responsible for our own well being in
general and our self-esteem in particular through the
level of consciousness we bring to our activities and
the level of integrity we bring to our lives.

RD: Given your definition of self-esteem it would seem

to be quite possible to have good self-esteem without
being hugely successful.
Is that correct?

NB: Sure. There are two issues there. Huge success may
not be a person’s goal or he or she may have some
unresolved conflict that may stand in the way of him
or her rising as high as their potential. Self-esteem
does not mean that you are going to dance from ecstasy
to ecstasy and triumph to triumph. You can have very
good self-esteem and have some mistaken premises that
get in the way of a fulfilled life. You can have
pretty good self-esteem and still have days where you
feel anxious, depressed or miserable. The difference
between a person with high self-esteem and a person
with low self-esteem is that if the person with high
self-esteem has a bad day, they will bounce back much
faster.

RD: In your book you say that someone can develop his
or her sense of self-esteem.
You say, “It is a possession that over time represents
an achievement.” Tell us more about why this belief is
important in the world of business.

NB: One key element to self-esteem is the practice of

living consciously.
It means respect for facts. It is our deep
understanding of that which is, and that which is not.
It has to do with the desire, the hunger and the
craving for all the information available to help one
achieve one’s goals, rather than simply hoping and
praying and wishing.

Living consciously doesn’t just have to do with a

high-level of awareness of the external; it also
involves the internal world.

In other words, self-examination. No one can be said

to be living consciously who has exempted
self-examination from the agenda.
By self-examination I mean, awareness of our feelings,
awareness of our thoughts, awareness of what is
happening inside and driving my actions. If we are
blind to that, we are blind to our motivation and it
becomes very, very easy to get on the wrong track and
make serious mistakes in judgment.

How does this apply to business?

The first thing that comes to my mind is an interview
that Jack Welch gave in which he was asked how he
accounted for the extraordinary achievements he
reached at GE.
He said, “Candor, confidence and respect for facts
even when they are painful.” That goes to the heart of
self-esteem. We all know that during the 1980s and
1990s a lot of business leaders didn’t adequately cope
with the fact that there were new economic realities
and that new strategies were required. When they saw
themselves failing in the marketplace they regarded it
as a temporary misfortune and thought that given
enough time the old ways would work again. Well, we
all know the ending to that story. They lost, in many
cases, major market share or disappeared entirely. The
first law of self-esteem and the first law of business
success is respect for the facts of reality.

RD: Based on this definition, what are some of the

telltale signs that someone has a high level of
self-esteem?

NB: The person is likely to be pretty relaxed and not

tied up in knots, which indicates someone who is not
at war with themselves. They have a confidence in
living and in their own judgment. They are someone who
is comfortable with challenges and has learned how to
manage their fears. You can achieve a great deal if
you have good genetic history, high intelligence
potential and a strong achievement drive. You might
achieve some impressive things, even with a low
self-esteem, if you have those other factors working
for you, but you will not have the ability to enjoy
your own achievements. I work with a fair number of
business people who have achieved extraordinarily high
levels of success but don’t feel that way internally.

RD: What are some telltale signs that someone has a

low level of self-esteem?

NB: People with low self-esteem are never satisfied;

things are never good enough.  So they can’t enjoy
their own achievements. They also display blatant
hypocrisy, dishonesty, timidity and display an
attitude of “Who am I to judge?”

There was a study done a few years ago on business

failure in which the authors concluded that one of the
most important factors was an executive’s fear of
making decisions. What’s fear of making decisions, but
insecurity in your own judgment? Doubt in your own
judgment is a problem with self-esteem.

If a business leader with low self-esteem makes some

mistakes and the business suffers, instead of
approaching it from the premise of what you can learn
from those mistakes, the person will scapegoat and
engage in self-pity.

These are marks of low self-esteem.

RD: Why is self-esteem important in the business

world?

NB: During the past few decades we have seen a

transition from an industrial economy to a knowledge
economy. What is novel about a knowledge economy is
that almost everybody in the workforce requires a high
level of self-confidence.  In the past, if you had a
low level of self-confidence it was easier to get your
job done.  Jobs were routine, you were trained to do
the same thing repeatedly.  It did not take a lot of
self-confidence. Today, the requirements for
entry-level jobs require a high-level of knowledge,
cognitive skills and interpersonal competence. Of
those who succeed, it is more a matter of emotional
intelligence and self-esteem than technical skill.
We are living in a world where our chief capital asset
is what we carry between our ears and where confidence
in our minds has acquired a new economic significance.

RD: What can an HR professional do during the

candidate screening process to get a sense of an
individual’s self-esteem?
What kinds of questions can they ask?

NB: First of all, I would ask the person to tell me

what their skills are and what they are really good
at. Then I would ask them what their shortcomings are
and where they are not as good as they would like to
be. Ease and candor in answering those two questions
are very, very important. If a person hasn’t got a
clue what their shortcomings or limitations are then
they are challenged in the area of self-esteem.

Another very important question that most people ask

these days is, “Tell me about your most significant
failure in life and tell me what you learned from it.”
If you get back a glazed _expression, you know that
this is a person who has some troubles with
self-esteem.

RD: A lot of people when asked about their

shortcomings will pick something innocuous to talk
about. How do you handle that?

NB: People try to get around that question in the most

ludicrous ways.  My favorite example is people who say
they are too good-natured.

Sometimes it is OK to say, “I know that you may have

been coached on what to say in an interview but right
now it is all sounding a bit canned. Could we set that
aside and take a fresh attempt at answering my
question?”

RD: What might you ask in a candidate background check

to help you get a sense of a candidate’s self-esteem?

NB: If you can find out how someone was perceived by

their fellow workers that could be very useful,
although that is not always easy to get.

RD: Can you tell us about each of the six pillars of

self-esteem and how one can use the pillars to develop
his or her own self-esteem?

NB: Having worked for over four decades in the area of

self-esteem, I have become convinced that there are
six practices that are important to developing good
self-esteem:
the practice of living consciously,
the practice of self-acceptance,
the practice of self-responsibility,
the practice of self-assertiveness,
the practice of living purposely
and
the practice of personal integrity.
I have already touched on what I mean by the practice
of living consciously. It is the respect for facts and
the desire to be continually expanding one’s knowledge
and the devotion to continuous learning as a way of
life and self-awareness.

The practice of self-acceptance has to do with my

willingness to take responsibility for my thoughts, my
feelings, my emotions and my actions. It doesn’t mean
you like or admire everything you have ever thought or
done, but it means that I allow a space inside myself
to look at my thoughts, feelings and actions without
self-castigation.
If I am genuinely self-accepting and you are my boss,
and you point out where I have gone astray, then I can
accept that I made a mistake. If I have developed
self-acceptance, I am not going to get defensive or
hostile when facing my mistakes.
The practice of self-responsibility means
understanding that you are the author of your choices
and actions. I am responsible for my life and
well-being.
I am responsible for the level of consciousness I
bring to my work.
I am responsible for the level of consciousness that I
bring to dealing with my family.
I am responsible for my self-esteem.
One of the most tragic mistakes that people make is
that someone will come and relieve them of the
necessity of thought or struggle or
self-responsibility.
I am always telling my clients that no one is coming
to rescue them from the need to think and take
responsibility. Give up blaming because all it does is
leave you trapped in your problems.
The fourth pillar, the practice of assertiveness, has
to do with treating my person, my values, and my
feelings with respect in encounters with other human
beings. Above all it means dealing with self-respect.
It doesn’t mean trampling over widows and orphans to
get to the front of the line. Telling a friend or a
colleague that their behavior is unacceptable to you
and that you are not willing to tolerate it anymore is
a practice of self-assertiveness. There is a
willingness to let people hear the music inside of
you.
Nobody can feel genuine self-esteem if they are
unwilling to be themselves. One of the saddest things
a person can do is bury the most precious parts of who
they are for fear of exposing themselves and seeing a
frown of disapproval on somebody’s face. What makes
this doubly sad is that they often do this with people
that they themselves don’t particularly like or
respect. That is a worse blow to their own self-esteem
than anything anyone else could ever do.
The fifth pillar is living purposefully. This has to
do with making conscious our goals – our short-term
goals and purposes, our median-term goals and purposes
and our long-term goals and purposes. We all know by
now how important the ability to make your goals and
purposes clear is to success. Then, we need to think
through what actions need to be taken if we are to
achieve our goals or purposes. Next we need to examine
our own behavior to see if our behavior is conducive
to our stated goals and purposes. Finally, it is about
paying attention to outcome and realizing whether or
not our outcomes are what we had anticipated.
The final pillar is the practice of personal
integrity. What do I mean by integrity?
I mean congruence between what we know, what we
profess and what we do. If there is no consistency or
we cannot be proud of our actions or if we pretend to
have ideas we do not have, then we are poisoning
ourselves. If we cannot be proud of our choices and
actions then we cannot enjoy good self-esteem. We
cannot be proud of our choices and actions if they are
in defiance of reason. Above all, we must be loyal to
our knowledge and loyal to our convictions.
RD: What can managers and leaders do to positively
impact self-esteem?
NB: They themselves have to model self-respect.
They need to deal with other people with respect and
never attempt to produce change through ridicule or
sarcasm. One of the most frustrating things that
happens is when the higher ups say they want the
opinions of other people but when those opinions are
offered they disappear into a black hole.
It is all lip service.
It seems like a game and it is phony.
You have to create an environment supportive of
self-esteem starting from the top.
The businessperson won’t ask how they can impact
self-esteem but they will ask what they can do to
evoke the best from their people. The answer is the
same for both questions.

Do preserve yourself & others while evolving continuously...

50. Five Tips for Sustaining Change

By: Coert Visser 

A department was trying to realize a culture change in

which more discipline and sticking better to
agreements were important goals.
The change process had started and had at first led to
promising results.
After about 18 months, it became obvious that the
change process wasn't proceeding well anymore.
Several old problems reappeared and there were no
clear signs of progress anymore.

With long lasting change processes in organizations

managers sometimes worry about the possibility that at
a certain moment stagnation or a setback might happen.

After a promising start the change process can lose

its momentum. The energy disappears, the progress in
the direction of the goal seems to be gone, people
seem to go back to business as usual, old problems
come back, and cynicism about the desired change turns
up.

To worry about these things is understandable because

it is not uncommon that periods of stagnations and
setbacks happen in change programs. The
solution-focused approach to organizational change
offers some practical tips for managers to deal with
these phenomena.

Tip 1:
Don’t worry about stagnation when it is not yet a
problem

Many change managers already begin to warn about

stagnation, setbacks, and cynicism when it is actually
not yet happening. But by doing this they focus the
attention on something that does not necessarily have
to occur. People involved in the change process could
get pessimistic by such warnings or they could get
discouraged. They can even feel they are being
underestimated.
Talking about stagnation that might occur could easily
become a self-fulfilling prophecy. But major
stagnation and setbacks do certainly not always
happen! Solution-focused change practitioners use the
principle:
“If it ain’t broken, don’t fix it”.
They don’t try to solve problems of stagnation an
set-backs in advance but only when they really occur,
if they occur at all…

Tip 2:
Look for signs that indicate that change will sustain

Sometimes people do think it is important to take

measure to prevent stagnation and setbacks. If you
decide to do that the way you do it is important.
Steve De Shazer, the solution-focused pioneer from
Milwaukee, says:

“People are trained to look for signs of a set-back.

But we train people to look for signs that indicate
that with this change there will be no set-back.” 

By focusing attention on signs that the change will

continue, the people involved will get a better idea
of the factors that help the change, so that they can
use then.
The question of De Shazer is an example of question
that is often used in the solution-focused approach:
what reasons for optimism do you see? This type of
question often works very well because it strengthens
optimism and confidence needed for change.

Tip 3:
Normalize it when it happens
When stagnation and setbacks happen it is often useful
to apply the technique of normalizing. This means that
you help people to see that what happens is normal.
This helps to keep people from getting discouraged and
losing confidence in the feasibility of the change.
One manager applies normalizing by making the
comparison with the stock exchange.

“If you look at stock price development from a

distance you see a steadily growing line. But if you
look closer you see many fluctuations, some large some
small. It is like that with organizational change.
Overall it goes up but from day to day there may be
setbacks and disappointments, sometimes small,
sometimes larger.
That is only normal. This is why every now and then
you have to take a step back in order to keep sight on
the steadily growing line that you can only see when
looking from a distance.”

Tip 4:
Focus on what has been achieved so far

At moments when things don’t seem to go well in a

change process it is often useful to focus closely on
what has been achieved, how that was done and what
advantages it has brought. By doing this people
usually come to realize that more things have gone
right than they had thought and they usually find new
confidence, optimism and focus. Furthermore, they find
new ideas to get the change going again and to start
making progress again. 

Tip 5:
Apply again what worked before

When a setback happens people can sometimes wonder how

to go on. But there is a simple answer that is often
very useful. Setbacks are often caused by attention
slipping away and by forgetting to apply effective
solutions. In many cases we see that simply starting
to apply again what has worked before will bring new
life to the change process. This reminds one of the
Rose of Jericho.
The Rose of Jericho is plant from the desert of
Mexico. When it does not get water it dries out and
becomes grey and breakable. It can stay like this for
a surprisingly long time. But when it receives water
again it gets its natural green color back and it
starts to flourish again. This can be repeated over
and over.

Bringing new life to stagnating change

Of course change processes can stagnate and of course
old problems can turn up again. And often this leads
to disappointment and pessimism. But often the change
process can be revitalized by very simple means. The
five tips mentioned in this article have proven their
use many times. The department manager from the case
at the beginning of this article applied them.

The department manager called for a meeting about the

change process. He emphasized that it was normal to be
confronted with a setback and invited all to make a
list of everything that had been achieved since the
start of the change process. For every thing they
mentioned, he asked what its advantages were and how
they had managed to achieve it. This inquiry led to an
impressive amount of material and the spirit of the
meeting changed remarkably. The enthusiasm for the
change goals grew and people regained their pride and
hope. Next, the manager invited every participant to
formulate which concrete results they wanted to
achieve for the coming period and which small steps
they would take in order to achieve them. This led to
a very nice list of small goals and steps. The energy
for change had been low for a period but after this
session it was back without a doubt.

Do preserve yourself & others while evolving continuously...

51.Creation of a Culture that Embraces Talent Management
Dr. Robert Rodriguez, Capella University, in an
interview with Reality HR, on the Creation of a
Culture that Embraces Talent Management
- Source Reality HR

HR.com: Can you tell us a bit about your background

and work in the field of HR?

RR: I started out working for Fortune 500 companies

like 3M and BP Amoco and that is where I received most
of my fundamental HR training and experience. After
working in those environments for about 15 years, I
decided to try HR in smaller organizations. This was
during the whole dot-com age so I went to work as a
Chief People Officer for a start-up technology firm. I
found it very different than working for a Fortune 500
company where there were tons of resources.
When I worked at the start-up company, I was pretty
much the entire HR department so it really was a test
of my skills and abilities. After working in those
settings for a while I decided to go at HR from a
different angle and I started an HR consulting
practice that I have successfully had for the last
five years. It allows me to help out a variety of
companies in different HR issue areas and it has
helped me tone my HR skill set.

That work experience has served me well as an

academic. I used to teach at the MBA program at De
Paul University and I was able to expose the MBA
students to the world of HR, many of whom were not
familiar with what the function did or had a negative
perspective of HR. I am now with Capella University
where I head up the HR program. I ensure that we have
the right curriculum, the right faculty and that the
program is running smoothly. I am very active in the
HR community. I used to run an HR association, which
allowed me to rub elbows with HR practitioners and I
like to keep current on the latest trends in the area
of HR; I am an active writer in  HR.

HR.com: Today we are going to address the topic of

corporate culture and the role HR plays. Can we begin
with your definition of corporate culture? Why do you
feel corporate culture is important?

RR: As I was studying for my Masters and PhD I heard a

lot about this concept of corporate culture and I
remember books like From Good to Great and Built to
Last that all talked about this phenomenon called
“corporate culture.” As I read into it a bit more I
saw many studies that showed the importance of
corporate culture and how companies that had a really
strong corporate culture did really well from a
financial perspective. That is what triggered my
interest in it.
It is a very complex issue that has deep roots in the
areas of sociology and anthropology. Because it is
such a complex area a lot of executives and human
resource professionals really struggle with the
concept. I thought it would be appropriate to provide
a simple yet robust definition of corporate culture to
help guide our discussion: Culture defines the proper
way to think, act and behave within your company. This
helps to convey the message of how things are done in
a specific environment. Culture describes how we do
things around here. Culture is often referred to the
personality of your company.

Think of Southwest Airlines. The industry is

struggling but while this is happening, Southwest
continues to experience success. A lot of people are
attributing this success to their corporate culture.
For example, at Southwest their culture encourages
people to think of their co-workers and the company as
their extended family. That is how people are expected
to think at Southwest Airlines because the company has
defined it as the proper way to think. Southwest
competes on a low fare strategy so they want their
employees to be very cost conscious. They reinforce
employee behaviors that cut costs yet still maintain
service and quality levels. When it comes to behavior,
if you have ever flown with Southwest, you have likely
noticed that their flight attendants tend to be
humorous and tell jokes. That is part of the culture
at Southwest because people are supposed to have fun.

By defining culture by these three elements, you can

see how culture clearly communicates to employees what
they need to do if they want to fit in, survive, and
become successful within your company organization.

HR.com: Why is corporate culture so important?

RR: Corporate culture is important for a variety of

reasons. The most important reason is that it helps to
drive organizational performance. Our executives are
under increasing pressure to deliver business results
and we are starting to realize that having a healthy
well-aligned corporate culture helps organizations
from a financial perspective. A corporate culture
provides a competitive advantage in the marketplace.
Executives and leaders need to create a culture that
is going to be the most beneficial to them to achieve
results. For example, if your business strategy is to
be a market innovator and come out with new products
ahead of your competition then you probably want a
corporate culture that is very innovative, creative
and focused on new product development. In that
scenario, you will have a culture that is in
alignment. However, if you have that same business
strategy but your corporate culture is very
bureaucratic and hierarchical then that will hamper
your ability to be successful.
The ability to perceive the limitations of one’s
culture and to develop the culture’s adaptability is
the essence & ultimate challenge of human resource
leadership.

HR.com: What elements of corporate culture do you

think can be impacted by the HR department?

RR: If we all agree that corporate culture is

important and if we all agree that we need to align
our corporate culture with the business strategy then
we need to look at the full effect.

How is that corporate culture created?

There are four important areas and HR can have an

impact on any one of them. HR professionals need to
understand that culture initiatives tend to start at
the top and then trickle down. It is very hard to have
a culture change initiative that starts from the
bottom up. Your executives will help to drive the
culture that is created at your organization and they
need to drive any change.

The actions and behaviours of your executives go a

long way to determining your corporate culture.
Your executives are watched very closely. People want
to emulate their behaviours. Individuals realize that
if the CEO or the head of HR are acting certain ways
then it must be appropriate.
Another area is the concept of what your leaders pay
attention to. Executives are very busy people and they
have limited time so the types of things that they
choose to focus on will help shape corporate culture.
What are the metrics that your company’s executives
track? Those types of things will shape the culture.
HR can help by working with executives to decide what
executives are going to track.
A third, and very powerful way, to shape
organizational culture is to look at what types of
things are rewarded within your organization and which
are punished. Punished may be a strong word, but the
lack of reward may be a punishment in itself. HR
professionals might want to look at the individuals
who are getting praised and promoted because those are
the things that determine the message you are sending
to the organization. The things that get rewarded tend
to get repeated.
The fourth way to create a corporate culture is to
look at the allocation of resources.  One of the jobs
of management is to determine how those resources are
allocated. Those decisions help to shape corporate
culture. If one of your espoused values is that you
value employee training and development yet you don’t
allocate any funds to training and development that
sends a strong message.

HR.com: Obviously, culture impacts all HCM processes

including staffing to performance management.

RR: In essence the corporate culture permeates through

the different HR elements. If we look at how to
recruit and staff, we need to try to find individuals
with the right skills that also fit culturally with
our organization. If someone isn’t going to fit in
with our corporate culture then they are not going to
be a good hire.

HR needs to create compensation and benefits packages

that help reinforce and drive the company culture. We
need to look at our packages to see if we are
rewarding the behaviours we want. For example,
Starbucks has a culture where part-time employees do a
lot of the work, so they offer benefits to those
employees. Not a lot of companies do that. They spend
a lot of money each year to provide those benefits
because it brings in the type of people that they
want. The turnover at a regular Starbucks organization
is extremely low compared to the rest of the fast food
and quick service industry.
Through training and development, HR can instil
corporate values and desired behaviours and skills
that will help promote the current culture. If a
company has a very creative and innovative culture, I
would think that their HR executives are creating
training programs that promote the creative abilities
of their employees.
A culture that promotes talent management will help
you retain top talent.

In the area of performance management it is important

to create a culture where employees know what is
expected of them and hold them accountable.
Another critical element is performance management. It
is hard to hold employees accountable if they don’t
know what is expected of them. Hopefully, your HR
practices really help to solidify a strong performance
management process.

HR.com: When it comes to encouraging performance

within an organization what elements would you define
as being critical to building a top performing
culture?

RR: A high performance culture is one that is in

alignment with the business strategy and thus helps
the company attain high-performance levels. It
provides a firm with a competitive advantage.
Hopefully, as HR executives we are all in a position
where we can shape our business strategy.

In situations where we are not shaping business

strategy the best we can do is help execute the
strategy. One of the best ways to do that is to create
a culture that is in alignment with that strategy. In
order to do that, you need to have a good
understanding of the culture you have in place and you
need to understand the business strategy.

HR.com: Organizations often take a step-by-step

approach towards establishing a high performing
culture. Can you outline some of the steps that you
feel are necessary?

RR: There are five high-level things that HR can do to

create a high performing culture:
1. Know your business strategy and have
   an understanding of your current culture.
2. Take care of your “A” players
   (those who deliver results and live company
values).
3. Deal aggressively with poor performers.
   Quickly improve performance or terminate.
4. Elevate the importance of your training
   and development efforts.
5. Hold managers accountable for their
   performance management responsibilities.

HR.com: What are some of the essential steps to

consider when introducing change?

RR: This idea of culture change is very, very

difficult. Not impossible, but very difficult,
particularly if you are looking at changing your
culture with the same leaders that you have in place
today.

Your leaders and executives play the biggest role in

helping to shape your corporate culture. Their actions
and behaviors will have the biggest impact on the
culture.

One of the things that culture does, as we said, is

define the proper way to think, act and behave. The
people who think, act and behave in the proper manner
tend to become successful. Lastly, people who are
successful tend to become leaders. You see a
reinforcing cycle that your leaders will help to
create and reinforce a culture that puts them in a
position of success.

When you talk about culture change what you are doing
is changing the definition and culture that helped to
put the leaders in the position they are in. That is
why change is so difficult. The current culture has
worked for them so why would they want to change it?
It is a unique organizational and human behavior
dynamic that you need to focus your time and energy
on. I would encourage HR executives to understand why
their leaders might be resistant to corporate culture
change.
HR.com: What about the role of measurement? Have you
seen organizations measuring changes in culture that
impact performance?

RR: Many have, particularly when they have been part

of a culture change initiative. There are a lot of
culture assessment instruments out there. What many
organizations do before they engage in a culture
change initiative is do a culture survey. In essence
what they are doing is taking a snapshot of the
culture today. Then they go about looking at creating
different culture change initiatives and programs so
that over time they can successfully change the
culture. After the change they can go back and assess
what the culture looked like before and after.
Hopefully, they are able to measure some positive
change and positive business results.

Dr. Robert Rodriguez has been with Capella

University’s School of Business since February 2003.
His responsibilities as a faculty chair include
overall management for the Leadership and Human
Resource MS programs. Prior to Capella, he was a
professor at the Kellstadt Graduate School of
Management at DePaul University in Chicago where he
taught organizational behavior courses in the MBA
program.
Robert has held human resource leadership roles at
several Fortune 500 firms including Target
Corporation, 3M, BP Amoco and RR Donnelley & Sons.
Besides his experience with large corporations, Robert
also has worked at start-up technology firms including
serving as the Chief People Officer for JigZaw, a
software development firm. Dr. Rodriguez received his
doctorate in Organizational Development at Benedictine
University in Chicago. He serves on the Strategic
Business Competencies Practice Analysis Advisory
Committee for SHRM and is Chairman of the Board for
the Hispanic Alliance for Career Enhancement
(www.hace-usa.org).

Do preserve yourself & others while evolving continuously...

52. Why do some people seem to be so decisive?
by Mark Gorkin

Q.  Why do some people seem to be so decisive about

what they want out of life -- they set a goal and go
for it -- and stick to it -- and others, like myself,
keep changing our minds, never getting anywhere, going
in circles? I like so many things (career wise) I
can't focus!
 
A.  As you note, some folks decisively know what they
want or have a more traditional or conventional, a
more confined or less complex/expansive goal path and
their journey is or may seem smoother.  They may be in
a field, or have expertise in a skill area, that
society rewards generously.  (Or their mother was a
doctor and mom was a great role model.)  However, I've
also seen such specialists be vulnerable to two
developments:

a) the Bjorn Bored Syndrome (BBS) named after Bjorn

Borg the late '70s-early '80s Swedish tennis great who
after winning four or five back-back French and
Wimbledon championships suddenly burnt out and dropped
out of the circuit.  Maybe after winning so many
events the glamour was fading.  And he still had
numbing hours of daily repetitive practice.  Anyway,
the Bjorn Bored Syndrome:  "When Mastery time Monotony
provides an index of Misery!  The Stress Doc's
formula:  Fireproof your life with variety!   And
P.S., people are susceptible to BBS during an MLC or
MCC – a mid-life or mid-career crisis, and

b) such decisive or one track specialists may be

vulnerable when the economy or their work environment
changes and their area of expertise/skill is no longer
in (high) demand.  And if they have been resting on
their laurels, then a "niche of success can turn into
a ditch of excess."  For example, I recall consulting
with an organization comprised of skilled mapmakers,
people who had spent years developing their incredible
hand-eye talents and craft.  Yet many of these folks
were thrown into a serious crisis with the advent of
computer graphics.

So how to short-circuit the confusion and circularity

of a career path when there are seemingly too many
interests and potential options?  Assuming that
unmanageable Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) is not
the main instigator, consider these four strategies:

1.  Appreciate Life Being Double-Edged and the Road

Being Long.  Yes, it definitely can feel like both a
blessing and a curse when we have multiple talents and
interests. Which to focus on; which direction to go?
One survival requirement is expanding your time
perspective for goal-focused achievement.  For
example, based on my personal/professional experience,
it has taken a number of years (if not decades) to
sufficiently develop/hone skills as a therapist,
workshop leader, speaker, organizational/team building
consultant, writer, and motivational "psycho-humorist"
™.  (When you integrate enough skills you may have to
develop a new job title or description to accommodate
your new reality.)  And even after you've achieved
sufficient skill and integration, there's another
obstacle:  finding or more likely designing an arena
in which to play.

2.  Sometimes You Can't Do It All, at First.  Clearly,

carving out a career path that allows you to practice
and integrate the complex mix or, at least, put into
action a significant portion of your talents and
interests can be challenging.  And if any of your
skill areas basically become inactive then it's the
old survival adage:  "Use it or lose it!"  There's
also the inner nagging of the skill-interest that's
being neglected:  "Pay attention to me!"  And finally,
this sobering reality:  to truly perform at a high
level in a skill area you have to practice/perform
that skillset on a regular basis.  Michael Jordan
would not have been Michael Jordan if he only played
one basketball game/month.

The following recommendation may not be totally

satisfying.  You may have to select a smaller numer of
your job choices and skills for a period of time.
Then practice and integrate these priorities and sets
as best you can, hoping that at a later point you will
do the same with those options and skills sitting on
the bench.  Nonetheless, you may have to do some
emotional grieving -- grappling with sadness and
anger, maybe even some feelings of rage -- as you put
aside your other interests and aspirations.  I recall
a demanding, yearlong half-time stress and violence
prevention consulting position with the US Postal
Service.  Many of my other speaking and training
activities slowed; at times I was frustrated and even
felt trapped.  But I was learning so much unique stuff
from the postal gig that when it did end, and I went
back to a broader mix of activities, all areas were
enriched.  For example, I wrote some of my best
satirical articles on how top management can screw up
a downsizing by drawing on my experience at this major
processing and distribution plant.

Or you may have to take a part-time job to pay the

bills while you are evolving an uncommon integration.
Some are able to find peace with this division.  I
know many IT professionals who would love to be
professional musicians, but know that's not going to
happen.  They band together with other like-minded
folks and play music on the side.

3. The Uncommon Integration.  I recently met a

paralegal who had labored in a law firm for eight
years.  She enjoyed aspects of the law but dealing
with Type A personalities was wearing thin.  (You know
the "A" in Type A stands for "Attorney.")  Drawing on
her experience and her analytic and synthesizing
aptitudes, she finally grasped the big picture and
eventually devised an elaborate yet clear and
well-structured procedure for collecting and
organizing legal evidence.  Her original operational
format increased efficiency and effectiveness for
colleagues in a wide array of job descriptions.

I don't recall if she realized the far-ranging

potential of her uncommon integration and promoted it
or if a major legal consulting organization had heard
about her work, but in short order she had a new job.
Now she was being encouraged to write about her
operational concepts and methods and to consult with
law firms and paralegals around the country.

The point here is that people who over time grapple

with complexity and integrate a number of knowledge
bases and skill sets often are the individuals who
make unexpected discoveries or develop innovative
tools, conceptual models and procedures.  And such
integration and innovation also allows them to pursue
a path that significantly gives play to their own
passions, purposes and well-practiced skills.

4. Pursue Your Own Path.  When you are juggling and

integrating a large variety of skills and interests
you may find that there is no employee position that
allows you the time, energy and freedom to translate
your uncommon body of knowledge and skills into a
suitable job description.  You realize it's time to
explore and ultimately build an entrepreneurial path.
Start talking to folks who are self-employed, in
private practice or are running their own business.
Ironically, developing a network of business
relationships – from colleagues and career counselors
to memberships in professional associations – is often
critical when taking that personal "road less
traveled."

Best wishes on the challenging journey.  Hopefully,

the above will help put the brakes on the confusing if
not vicious circle, enable you to establish realistic
limits as well as manageable options and, eventually,
support your integrative breaking away while helping
you...Practice Safe Stress!

Do preserve yourself & others while evolving continuously...

53.Choose What You Want In Life!
Dear Friends,
I came across this article and I realised how true it is that all of us do not realise that every
moment we CAN make a choice in our lives, and we do, only we do not realise that we have
made a chice by not choosing

Choose What You Want In Life!

By Patrice Steen and John Robson

"You don't have to buy from anyone. You don't have to work at any particular job. You don't have
to participate in any given relationship. You can choose." -- Harry Browne
Choice. It's all about freedom--the freedom to pick one thing over another. Are you choosing what
you want from life? "Oh no," comes the reply. "I can't because... I haven't got enough education...
I need to look after my family... I don't have enough money... I don't have the time." What's your
excuse?
The truth is that we have choice in every single moment of our lives. For those who are destitute,
the choices in life are fewer. But the rest of us often think we don't have freedom when we simply
haven't claimed our power to choose differently. How do you typically make decisions? Do you do
so based on:
·"shoulds" - doing what you believe you should do.
·pleasing others - doing what others want or expect you to do.
·fear - choosing the safe route for fear of doing something different.
·habit and reaction - you don't even think about what you're doing–you've always done it this
way?

On the other hand, you own your power to choose when you decide on the basis of:
·desire - choosing something you want
·need - responding to deeper desires
·authenticity - you know who you are and what you stand for
·creative _expression - you strive to be more.
So how can you open to choosing differently?
1.Be clear about what you want. Have a sense of purpose. With a target to aim for, you'll know
what will serve you best.

2.Stop and ask yourself questions: "Why am I doing this? What do I want to achieve?" Write
down your answers. Be more conscious of how you are spending your precious time, because
this is your life passing by. This will help you say, "Wait! I don't want to do this anymore!"

3.Never allow yourself to play the victim. Victims have given away their power. You alone are
responsible for your life. When you fully accept this, you will claim your inner power to make
better choices. Change often comes from nothing more than a shift in perspective.

4.Be open to possibilities for yourself. Select one area of your life where you are unsatisfied, and
choose something new, something more for yourself. Do different things and do things differently.
Risk more.

Empowerment arises from the three Cs: Choice, Courage and Change. They are yours to claim.
You'll be astounded at how easy it will be to take charge once you've made up your mind to do
so. You have the opportunity to create a future that's very different from your past. And
remember: not choosing is also a choice.

"It is always your next move." -- Napoleon Hill

Thought-- let us have the Courage to Choose the Change in our Lives.
54. Dear All
Following are some good quotes. Enjoy.

  

If you are setting new goals for yourself, be sure to put enjoyment of life at the top of the
list.
 
Being a good listener requires humility; but it’s often the source of a fresh thought that
can help you solve a problem of your own.
 
Honesty is a fundamental requirement for positive change.
 
If you want to see the beauty in people, don't stare them in the face. Look into their heart.
 
A smart mind answers questions. A wise mind questions answers.
 
Micro-management is the trademark of a micro-mind.
 
If you cannot change your life, then why not change the way you live it?
 
The mark of good leader is his or her ability to lead the team to success!
 
"The secret of joy in work is contained in one word - excellence. To know how to do
something well is to enjoy it.” --Pearl Buck
 
"One machine can do the work of fifty ordinary men. No machine can do the work of one
extraordinary man." --Elbert Hubbard
 
"In order that people may be happy in their work, these three things are needed: They
must be fit for it. They must not do too much of it. And they must have a sense of success
in it." --John Ruskin
 
The key to successful leadership today is influence, not authority." --Ken Blanchard
 
"A good leader is not the person who does things right, but the person who finds the right
things to do." --Anthony T. Dadovano
 
"If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you
are a leader." --John Quincy Adams
 

A child’s life is like a piece of paper on which every passerby leaves a mark.

If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can't, you're right.
 
To fly, we have to have resistance.
 
Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can.
 
Ideas are great arrows, but there has to be a bow.
 
You can never solve a problem on the level on which it was created.
 
There is nothing in a caterpillar that tells you it's going to be a butterfly.
 
Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the
thrill of creative effort.
 
Work is either fun or drudgery. It depends on your attitude.
 
It's important to know that words don't move mountains. Work, exacting work moves
mountains.
 
The secret of joy in work is contained in one word - excellence. To know how to do
something well is to enjoy it.
 
Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration.
 
The right to be heard does not automatically include the right to be taken seriously.
 
To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also
believe.
 
 

55.Top 10 Life Lessons from Michelangelo's David

        By Julie Jordan Scott

1. You are able to create beauty even with a weak foundation if you have an
attitude of constructive creativity.

The marble Michelangelo was given to create "David" was substandard and he
worked with it, anyway. What in your life has both a weak foundation and seems to
be calling you to create something with it?

2. You can make the "same thing" as other people AND do it from a different
perspective to produce a completely different texture and experience.

Michelangelo created David before his big battle, while traditionally he had been
sculpted as the victor, post battle. What have you been thinking about taking action
upon that "Everyone else has already done before"? How can you look at your idea
differently?

3. You can adopt a project that originally belonged to someone else and make it
100% your own through both your passion and your unique inventiveness.

Michelangelo's "David" began its life as the work of Agostino di Duccio. What a loss
for the world if Michelangelo had not taken the unfinished work of di Duccio to form
the timeless, classic, heart speaking "David". Are there any intriguing, unfinished
projects abandoned by a colleague, friend or family member that you would like to
take on as your own?

4. Craft your life and your life work with the people you live with (or in terms of a
business or project, the reader, participant, audience, student) at the forefront of
your mind.

The eyes of "David" are not formed anatomically correct: they are actually looking
in directions that are not possible for human eyes to simultaneously look.
Michelangelo knew that when people looked at his work "from profile" they would
see one profile and one eye, and when they looked from the other side, they would
see the other side....which would look more impressive with the eye peering slightly
differently. Not a huge tweak, and not noticeable unless you are eye to eye with the
sculpture, which is physically impossible unless on scaffolding. It is almost like the
special effects in today's movies.

What tiny tweaks, special effects, would attract and engage people with your life and
work?

5. Your life and work may bring about different meanings for different people.

For some scientists, "David" is an amazing study of human anatomy. To others, it is

a study of the human emotions. Some art historians note there is anger in David's
__expression. Others say the work is sculpted in his moment of decision to enter
battle, so he looks expectant.

What would a scientist say about your life and work? What about an artist? How
about a child?

6. When your life and work is appealing to a wide audience and it gains fame and
notoriety, other people will capitalize on both you and the project.

Reproductions of "David" are available in many forms. Even garden sculptures are
available for purchase. You can perch David right next to your roses or daffodils or
cactus if you choose to do so.

What might people choose to capture about your life or work to launch their
business?

7. Michelangelo crafted "David" in response to his patriotic love for his home city
of Firenze (Florence).

The sculpture whispered "Freedom" into his ears, as his city had recently become
free.

What in your life or work is whispering "Freedom" to you? How can you take that
raw, heartfelt emotion and use it as a component of your work, project and/or life?
Do you feel a sense of patriotism for your home? How can people observe your
__expression of patriotism?

8. The sheer physical size of "David" is amazing: beyond words, really. To say
"Larger than life" is almost amusing...except there is no other way to express it!

In what ways does your work, life or project have a "larger than life" feeling to it?
How does this inspire you? If you feel fear in relationship to the largeness of it, how
can you step away from that emotion and get grounded in the sheer joy of it rather
than the fear of it?

9. It took Michelangelo 3 years to complete "David".

Are you committed to a big project in your life enough so you can allow three years
to pass from start to completion? Expecting a masterpiece to be crafted with
microwave speed is simply not always a possibility. How can you remain open and
committed to the time it takes to create a masterpiece?

10. "David" was borne from Michelangelo's vision and passionate action to
transform that vision from his own experience to a tangible experience for all.

His famous words about his work are "I saw the angel in the marble and carved
until I set him free".

What vision are you seeing that is waiting for your special touch and guidance to set
it free? What passionate action are you willing to take to set it free?

A work of art can teach us, reach us, in ways we don't always notice at first glance.
May "David" inspire you to think differently, live transformatively, and create
fearlessly.
56. Self Improvement and Dealing with Challenges !!
Throughout our lives we all constantly face problems that can be caused either by
events beyond our control our through our own decisions. The way we deal with these
setbacks will have a great impact on our Self Improvement and success.

It can be very easy to become disheartened and discouraged. Setbacks can dent our
confidence and make us question our beliefs. Sometimes we can even feel there is no
alternative but to give up on our plans and goals.

However, it’s critical to remember that it is not the actual obstacles and problems
themselves that determine our results. What really matters is how we react and respond
to our obstacles and problems.

Highly successful people have just as many problems as anyone else, but usually react
to them differently to other people. They have the ability to turn their problems into
challenges or even opportunities. There is something to be gained from almost every
problem we encounter. If we maintain an optimistic attitude no matter what happens, it
is usually possible to find something positive in any event, if we will look hard enough.

There is one thing that we can be guaranteed to gain – experience. Very often what
may seem a disaster at the time can turn out to be the best thing that ever happened to
us. It can cause us to rethink our plans and often leads us to our greatest successes.

Learning from mistakes and problems is important aspect of self improvement and
personal growth. This gives us the strength, experience and the wisdom that allows us
to make better choices and achieve greater success in the future. And as long as we
don’t give up there is no such thing as failure.

By Garry Zancanaro

Self Improvement Quote of the Day:

“The important thing about a problem is not its solution, but the strength we gain in
finding the solution" - Anonymous

57.Attitude is Everything !!

Dear Friends,

All of us at one time or another needed some inspiration and if that inspiration is thru "change
of attitude", then nothin like it.

Falling on those lines, let me share with you the story of Jerry who always lived positively in an all
problematic life always...

Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had
something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I
were any better, I would be twins!"

 He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from
restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He
was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the
employee how to look on the positive side of the situation. Seeing this style really made me
curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive
person all of the time. How do you do it?" Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to
myself, Jerry, you have two choices today.

 You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.' I choose to be in
a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to
learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can
choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive
side of life." "Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested. "Yes it is," Jerry said.

"Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose
how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a
good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live life." I reflected on what
Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch,
but often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.

 Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a
restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by
three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped
off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively
quickly and rushed to the local trauma center. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive
care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.

 I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I
were any better, I'd be twins. Wanna see my scars?" I declined to see his wounds, but did ask
him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. "The first thing that went through
my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied. "Then, as I lay on the floor, I
remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to
live. "Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked. Jerry continued, "The
paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine.

But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of
the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, 'He's a dead man. " I knew I
needed to take action." "The Nurse asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes,' I replied. The doctors
and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply... I took a deep breath and yelled,
'Bullets!' Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not
dead." Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude.

 Ilearned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude,
after all, is everything.
58.THE FATAL FORTRESS--by Ed Hays
THE FATAL FORTRESS--by Ed Hays  

Once upon a time, a king, who read in a remote pattern of the scattered stars that a great
calamity would overtake him on a certain day and at a particular hour. He, therefore, ordered a
rock stronghold to be constructed, and when it was completed he had numerous armed guards
posted outside.

On the day that the stars foretold his fate, he entered his fortress. But when he got inside, he
found that he could still see daylight. He located the gap in the wall and filled it immediately to
prevent misfortune from entering. He enclosed himself completely, but by blocking out the last
opening against disaster, he also imprisoned himself without light or air. Needless to say, without
air the king soon died. The stars had not lied, after all.

There are countless building blocks that our minds use to construct our personal prisons: anger,
resentment, hate, feelings of inferiority, guilt, impatience, prejudice, anticipation of calamities. And
our spirits can be suffocated by the fortresses of fear that we build around ourselves.
 

What happens if we train our people, and they leave? Wrong question.

According to Zig Ziglar, you should be asking:

What happens if we don't train our people, and they stay?

Training is an investment: Invest - It will pay rich dividends

59.The "Monday" Morning Syndrome

Dear Freinds and professional associates, it is the

first Monday of the ninth month of this year 2005,
best wishes - for the day, the week, and the month
too. Just before you start your day read this on what
is called the "Monday Morning Syndrame.."
  
The "Monday" Morning Syndrome
-JJ Meyer

Long ago I heard a story and here it goes.

A gentleman knocks his son's door and says, "Wake Up,

Son, it is already late."

The son replies,  I don't want to get up Papa."

The father gets a little more worked up and shouts,

"Get Up, you've got to go to school."

The son says, "No I don't ever want to, and I have
three solid reason for that. First because it is so
dull. Second the kids tease me. Third I hate going to
school because of the first two reasons."

To this the father says, "Well son, I understand what

you say, but I too have three good rason why you must
go to school. First because it's your duty. second
because you are forty five years old. Third because
you are the headmaster.  Stop playing with your toys.
Now wake up, get ready and go to school." 

There are some important aspects to this story. Most

people in the world suffer from this  what is called
"The Monday Morning syndrome."

Stand at a busy road on a Monday morning and watch how

harassed people will look. They will drive crazily,
they will lose their temper easily.  Watch their faces
when they go to work. Chances are rare that you'll
encounter someone who will smile. It will also be rare
for you to find someone with energy in their body and
the radiance in their face that of people on a
mission. Most people look as if they are going for a
mourning. They themselves walk so listlessly that you
wonder if they have life in them. Hundreds and
thousand of them allover the world are like that.

Instead, why not look at each day as if you were

opening a clean slate.

I remember seeing a movie where the hero portrays the

character of an unusual human being -  who suffers
from an unusual type of amnesia. When he goes to sleep
each night, he forgets everything that happened to him
before that time. A woman tries to manipulate him and
says, "Can you ever forgive me for what I did to you
last week?"

In an utterly childlike way the hero shrugs his

shoulders and answers, "Sure! Of course." He doesn't
even have the slightest clue of whatever happened.  To
him, his relationship with the woman was as new as the
current day.

As you enter the first day of the new week, imagine

that nothing in the past has any power to affect what
you do now. You are entirely a new person, different
from the person you were. This day has never been
lived before and you've  never had the consciousness
you have now. You are setting sail on a new great new
day on an exciting adventure determined only by how
grand you are willing to think you can make the day,
for you and for the others. Think big thoughts and
create a miraculous day for yourself.
Just say this to yourself, "I pray to start over. No
matter what has happened, I'm willing to let today be
new. Thank you God for the chance to begin a new
again."

Punch Line for the day : The beginning of thinking

this way is the most important part.   

Do preserve yourself & others while evolving continuously...

60.TIPS - Are You Enjoying the “PRESENT”? - a Must Read

Yesterday is “History”, Tomorrow is “Mystery”, Today is the Gift of God, that is why it is known as
“PRESENT”.

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So friends are you really enjoying this gift of god, “The Present” or are You still waiting for the “Right
Time to Come” or that special day .. to come.

How often we keep on waiting for the “Right Time” –

To do something special…

To give something special…..

To say something special to somebody special…..

and realize that is too late.

Are you saving something for the special occasion??? But who knows whether you will be Present for that
“Special Occasion”? 

To give you all an example, during my training of Time Management Program in one of the organizations,
I came across a Manager who appeared very busy and stressed out. I asked, Sir, why are you working so
hard? He replied for my Family, for my sons. I asked, how much time do you give to your family and your
sons? For a moment he paused and replied, every Sunday 1 hour – quality time. I asked, but sir, your sons
need quantity too, what about more time to your family and he smiled and replied “I have planned for my
retirement”, “I will be there all the time for them after my retirement.” To this I inquired further, “Sir, What
if you retire from this world, before you retire from your job???”, won’t you feel regretted that you did not
spend quantity time with your sons and family.

Friends, I’m not saying lavish out and freak out totally, but atleast enjoy the life your love to live. But why
compromise – when you can afford something today, why wait for the special day..

So friends, ask this question to your self today, “Am I living the life I love to live, am I spending my time,
money and energy in the right direction today or am I waiting for some special day….the right time to
come

Here is a brief list of some thing we keep waiting to do on that special day..

Saying  “I Love You” to  our near and dear ones

Saying “Sorry” to whom we have hurt or asking for forgiveness

Going on that dream trip or vacation

Eating out the food that I cherish the most

Spending time with loved ones

Playing that game or sports I love so  much

Spending time on my hobby

Starting a new venture – business