The Complete Guide - Chaser Twin Flames

A twin flame journey made up of a carpet of roses. It is a carpet made of roses, but as you all
know, roses have thorns. In the world, there are always opposites. There will be good times and
there will be bad times in the twin flame journey. That’s why you’re going to have beautiful
things like the true twin flame union, as well as the hurtful ones such as the twin flame
separation stage.

In this guide, you’re going to learn about one of the parties of the twin flame separation stage,
and that is the chaser twin flame.

What are chaser twin flames?

In the twin flame separation stage, there are two parties involved: the runner twin flame and the
chaser twin flame.

The runner twin flame is the one who will start the twin flame separation stage. They will
separate from the chaser twin flame physically, and there are even a few who will stop
communicating with their twin flame. However, they can never really fully stop communicating,
as twin flames have a special spiritual bond that is afforded to them even before they were
physically conceived.

The chaser twin flame, on the other hand, is the twin flame who stays in the relationship. They
are waiting for the runner twin flame to come back to the relationship. While waiting, they are
having some of the most difficult times in anyone’s life. They’re dealing with emotional stress
and anxiety, and they’re dealing with the spiritual pain of getting separated from their twin flame.

This is not to say that runner twin flames don’t feel any emotional stress or spiritual strain
because they’re the ones who initiated that. It would be appropriate to say that both the runner
twin flame and the chaser twin flame feel exactly the same thing, just on varying degrees based
on the spiritual level of each twin. Some people attest that twin flames who run are the ones
with the lower spiritual level, but that is not necessarily true. There are runner twin flames who
have higher spiritual levels compared to their chaser twin flame counterparts.

However, since this is a guide for chaser twin flames, the article will focus on the chaser twin
flame and what they can do. Because caring about chaser twin flames matter. They are going
through some of the roughest times in their lives and they need all the help they can get. There
are some chaser twin flames out there who are on the verge of committing suicide, and yet
there are guides out there pretending to understand them but don’t even know the true concept
of twin flames.
What do you do as the chaser twin flame?
Primer

If you’re the chaser twin flame, the first thing you have to do is release all your pent up emotion.
Look for a quiet and safe place (or at least a place where you can be yourself), and just cry it
out. If you have to you can lash out. Scream your lungs out, jump up and down, stomp on the
ground. Express your grief and cry, even if you’re a guy. This misunderstanding about guys not
being allowed to cry should already die.

Releasing all your pent-up emotions will enable your heart to stabilize. Emotions will cloud your
judgment, and you need every ounce of judgment you have to overcome the ordeal called the
twin flame separation stage. Once you go through the twin flame journey, there is a very big
possibility of encountering the twin flame separation stage. If you’re not prepared enough, your
preparation is going to get sharpened if you finish the twin flame preparation stage.

During this time, you have to be careful not to grieve too much. If you do, you’ll be stuck in the
past and end up forfeiting your future. Cry, but don’t dry yourself out crying. You’re going to
need your energy and everything else you could have used for crying for something else. And
that something else is getting back up.

Crossroads

You’re down in the dumps, but you aren’t forced to get back up, nor are you being asked to get
back up. You only have to lie down and think. Don’t worry, the hardest part in all of this getting
back up stage is only the thinking. You only have to lie down and think about the answer to one
question, and only one. Keep lying down until you have your final answer to the question.

The question is: is your twin flame worth it?

That is the only question you have to answer. Of course, like any other question, you can
expound on that. You can also ask if your twin flame is worth all the suffering that you
experienced during the twin flame journey and even now as you are lying there, thinking about
the answer to the question.

Don’t listen to any other voice other than that of your own. You may have read other guides and
articles, about how you must not give up on your twin flame or that it is impossible to give up on
your twin flame. Forget about everything that you’ve read, because it will again cloud your
judgment and chain you to ideals that are not your own. Even if you’re not used to deciding on
things, you have to decide on the answer of the question yourself. At this point, you can pause
your reading of this guide and decide on the final answer to the question that was posed earlier.
Have you found your final answer? That’s great! You’ve achieved some growth. Whatever your
answer is, the fact that you have made a decision on such a big question by yourself can be
considered quite the growth. You have entered a crossroad, and you decided which path to
take. With all the energy that you’ve saved up from not crying anymore, you can then proceed to
the next step, and that is taking action on what you have decided on.

If your answer is yes, that your twin flame is worth it

Accept the reality of having troubles

If your twin flame is worth all the pain and troubles, then it is assumed that you are not giving up
on the relationship. One of the things that you have to be able to accept is that you are in the
twin flame path, that you are going to face troubles. Even the best twin flame relationships hit
snags in their relationship sometimes. It happens even to the best of twin flames.

Because of that, you have to accept the reality that troubles are everywhere in your twin flame
journey. Some troubles won’t lead to twin flame separation, but there are also those that
sometimes crush the relationship. That’s why your decision to stay put in the relationship is
very important. The acceptance of the situation is your way of making sure that you’ve decided
that your twin flame is worth everything you’re going through right now.

Continue calming down

At this point, you probably have not completely calmed down yet. If you already have, that’s
very impressive. But the bigger probability is that you haven’t calmed down completely yet. You
still have that annoyance or confusion. You’re confused as to why your twin flame left you if they
loved you as much as you loved them, or annoyed why they even left you when you gave all
you could for them.

Sometimes, there’s also guilt embedded in you as well. You might be asking yourself and
thinking that you have done something wrong yourself. However, you have to remember to not
be harsh on yourself. The twin flame separation stage comes at a time when you and your twin
flame are both not ready to advance to the next stage, and that both of you still have a lot of
things to do in order to make things right. It is a neutral transaction, and it may be that neither
you nor your twin flame has done anything wrong.

You should realize that you have not done anything wrong, and neither did your twin flame. Both
of you are victims of circumstances, and that both of you aren’t ready yet. It is the Universe that
gave you those circumstances for both of you to grow. If you want to blame anyone, blame the
Universe.

Improve yourself
Improving yourself is the most common advice that people give to chaser twin flames. However,
that is also the best advice you can give to twin flames, as it will enable them to move forward
and have a satisfied life, no matter what your decision is about your twin flame. The advice to
improve yourself is the advice that encompasses everything, and every twin flame coach or
anyone who gives advice for that matter, all agree that the best way forward in any phase is to
improve yourself.

However, you’re not going to be able to improve yourself if you’re not mentally, emotionally, and
spiritually satisfied. In Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, safety needs come before belongingness
and love needs. That’s why you have to settle your inner emotions first and feel secure in your
person before you can even think about belongingness and love needs.

Remain open

All while you’re improving yourself, you should let your twin flame know that you’re still open for
them to come back to the relationship. Since you have decided to commit to the relationship no
matter how long it takes, then you have to keep your word for it. You have to communicate your
intent to your twin flame, and you have to make sure they get the message.

Look for chances to regain the relationship

It is generally advised for chaser twin flames to wait before they make a move towards the
runner twin flames. It’s because you never know what the annoyance threshold of your twin
flame is, even if you’re very similar. There could be times when they just got home from a bad
day of work. If you’re overeager, you might increase the distance between you and your twin
flame.

You should give your twin flame space if they run away, because that is one of the main points
as to why they ran away. They separated from you because they want the space and the time to
process everything that has happened in your relationship. They need the space in order to
focus on themselves and be able to improve for them to get back to the relationship. You may
think that they didn’t need to do that because you accept them, but they themselves feel that
way so you should honor their decisions.

If you are a true twin flame, you don’t cut away any chance for your twin flame’s improvement.
You should even encourage any improvement by your twin flame, because it is beneficial for
both of you. Any improvement your twin flame gets is a step towards twin flame reunion and
towards the ending of the twin flame separation stage. Any improvement you both get is a step
forward towards true twin flame union.

However, if you get subtle signs from your twin flame that they want to get back together, or the
Universe drops hints that show you that it’s a good time to make a move, then you shouldn’t
dilly dally any longer as well. You’ve been decisive when you decided that you want to retain the
relationship, you should still be decisive if you want to make a move.
Giving up

Perhaps you’ve decided that your twin flame is not a person who is worth fighting for. You’ve
decided by yourself that your twin flame is not worth all the trouble, pain and suffering you
encounter during the twin flame journey. You believe that the good times that your twin flame
brought to you doesn’t outweigh the bad times that you’ve been through and that you’ll continue
to get those bad times. Perhaps it's time to drop the ball and give up.

You shouldn’t let anybody decide for you here. Don’t listen to others if they say don’t give up, or
that you’ll regret your decision. If you do regret your decision later on, own up to your decision.
At least you don’t have anyone else to blame but yourself. You stood firm, so be proud that you
learned a lesson in standing for what you think is right.

You don’t have to worry about whether your twin flame will come back to you or not. If you and
your twin flame are meant to be together, the Universe will find a way for the two of you to be
united. There’s no thinking about what will happen in the future unless your thinking is about
general preparations. Don’t think about events that might not happen. Cross the bridge when
you get there.

As the quote says, change is the only permanent thing in this world, and that quote is well-
founded. You never know what happens in the world because there is always change. At the
end of the day, you only know what will happen when it happens. There will be possibilities that
you haven’t thought of but will act out on its own.

An example of the above situation is when your runner twin flame gets a change of heart.
He/she goes back to you after you have decided to give up and not give chase to them.
Perhaps there is a great change in them. Your decision to give up on them doesn’t have to be
set in stone. You can still change your mind right then and there and have a satisfying
relationship with them.

In whatever you do, be mindful of the well-being of others, while you become happy and
satisfied yourself.

Summary
As the chaser twin flame, you’re put in a very tough spot. Express everything you need to
express, pour out all your emotions and then calm down. Continue the calming down process
until you cool down enough to make a sound judgment. Then, decide whether or not your twin
flame is worth fighting for. Base your actions depending on the decision that you came up with.