Professional Documents
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Alex
Novem ber
D ATE
Decem ber
Januar y
2020 / 2021
Day 1
This morning started a bit differently my lunch box yet. So today felt like
to normal. I wasn’t wrangling the a rare treat, as though I was sneaking
children out the door to breakfast off from work.
club. It was calmer and more relaxed.
The afternoon went well too. In fact it
Once in the car I do my usual morning was an unusually straightforward shift.
rituals, checking the final edit of my My evening calls were quick visits and,
patient list (for now; it can change before I knew it, it was time to let the
multiple times during the day) and coordinator know I was finished. I took
planning my logistical route through an extra call as I had a bit of time on
to the end of the day. This I decide my hands and I know the night shift
against: clinical need and dependency is short-staffed and busy.
first, timed calls for medication second,
and then geographically. I’m a bit of That’s something I miss about working
a stickler for routine, although this on the ward: the feeling of camaraderie
job is anything but predictable. I like and knowing you have the support of
to know my car is fully stocked with others in a tricky situation. You can’t
the equipment I’m going to need to do your job without the help of others,
ensure I provide the best possible but in this job, in the community setting,
care to each patient I see. it’s a more lonely and isolated role. This
is particularly true working through the
The morning went to plan and everyone pandemic, an experience that has made
was well and in good spirits. The part me feel more aware of the vulnerabilities
of the job that I love most is building of being human. We all have a need to be
relationships with patients. You get social, but the reality is that most of our
to know each other in a simple but patients only see us nurses and carers
unique way. You know some of the on a regular basis. It’s made me aware
most personal and private information that I am more than just their nurse; at
about them and, in return, you share times I am a confidante too, and in my
parts of your own life. Today was my opinion that is something rather special.
weekly visit to a patient I’ve grown
very fond of and, as I was leaving her
house, she asked me where my children
were today. I told her they were at home
with daddy, and she handed me two
prepared bags of sweets and biscuits
for them. She knew they would be
without me all weekend. It’s these
things that drive you to be the best
you can be, because kindness is one
of the most powerful qualities anyone
can show. It made me feel appreciated
that she took the time to understand
her care and my life from my kids’
perspective, even though she is
in the less fortunate position.
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Day 5
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This morning I wake up with a headache. away. I want to give her a big cuddle, but
I often do after a bad day. I can’t do that either. It is a bittersweet
visit. She is so joyful to be with me, but
My first patient of the day is her face turns so sad when I must leave.
unexpectedly unwell. It sounds I hope I made a difference to her. She
strange but this is what I love. had a huge impact on me.
My adrenaline is pumping and I am
confident that my clinical skills will I see my colleagues briefly in the office
be put to good use. By the time the when I return to pick up some stock.
patient is safe and stable, I am way Yesterday’s visit is still playing on my
behind on my schedule. I have training mind, so I speak with a colleague who
in the afternoon for a new intravenous is a friend. She reassures me that I did
device being launched, and missed nothing wrong, did nothing detrimental
the one yesterday because I was so to the patient and that I just happened
busy. Today is the last training session to be in the firing line that day. I realise
12 and I already feel guilty about
available that I worry a lot about what people
going as I know it means passing on think of me professionally. I want
a visit to someone. I find it difficult people to see how hard I try and that
to ask for help and I find I always put I do genuinely care about each patient.
my needs last in all areas of my life. To me, they aren’t just a ‘leg dressing’
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As a nurse and a mum, I always think
someone else’s needs
or ‘routine catheter change’; they belong
to someone and are important. This really
than my own. isn’t just a job. It’s so much more and
such a huge part of who I am.
The highlight of the day is meeting
the most delightful lady on my round.
6 and welcoming, though I can
I am only there for a short visit, but she
is warm
sense how lonely she is. She opens
up to me about a recent bereavement
and tells me she hasn’t left the house
for nine months. I want to give her
a hug or hold her hand. The PPE
(Personal Protective Equipment)
I have to wear is such a barrier.
It’s not the same holding someone’s
hand with a bright blue glove on;
it feels so impersonal. She tells me
again and again how lovely it is to talk
to someone in person. She says her
family are so worried about giving her
Covid that they don’t dare come in the
house. I could stay all afternoon with
her, but I know I can’t. I feel so sad for
her. Her loneliness and longing for
human contact is palpable.
The day is busy, with 15 visits My first few visits go according to plan,
to patients requiring a wide variety but, as I reach lunchtime, I know it won’t
of interventions. I had arranged for continue. I have a poorly patient who is
a singsong during a visit with one declining to go into hospital, and I am
of my patients, but had to cancel it as stuck with doing what I think is clinically
I was needed elsewhere. I worried they and morally right (admission) but going
thought I’d forgotten our arrangement along with his wishes because he has
(and that I had promised them some mental capacity.
homemade ham hock pies), so I stopped
by to quickly deliver them. I didn’t go I find this incredibly hard. Sometimes
in as I was in such a rush, but it was I want to shout, ‘Why won’t you listen to
nice to see a warm, happy face. what I’m saying? Do you understand what
will happen if you don’t!’ But you have to
Today has been strange and not what respect their decision and the multiple
I was expecting. I felt sad and lonely, reasons that might be behind it. It’s never
which is unlike me, especially at straightforward. I don’t want to leave him,
Christmas. With everything going on but, after exhausting my clinical options,
at the moment the isolation and sadness I have no choice. I can’t get him off my
was tangible today. I feel sorry for some mind all day, so I phone his wife at the
of the patients who haven’t seen anyone end of my shift to try and rid myself
but a nurse over Christmas, but feel so of the uneasiness I feel in the pit of
lucky to return to a warm, welcoming my stomach. I’m not sure I did though,
home, and to my husband and two because, whilst sat here typing this
children who are waiting to welcome entry, I feel no different than I did
me. I try to focus on that aspect of the before the call. Still, his wife was grateful.
day and my gratitude.
I am so tired and hungry when I get
home that I have to eat before I can finish
writing up my notes. I usually do this after
each visit so I don’t forget an important
piece of information, but there was no
time today. I finish writing at 10.30pm.
My mind feels fuzzy and I don’t feel like
I’ve done a great job writing them up.
I realise that I do have a professional Caring for others is a gift. I’m lucky
‘hat’ that I wear, but it’s completely enough to have experienced it and
wrapped up in who I am as a person. hope to for a long time yet. I feel richer
The kindness and compassion I bring in so many ways for being a nurse.
to my work isn’t a learnt behaviour or
skill; it’s who I am and who I always
want and strive to be. I am proud that,
even though I can hear how much
I was struggling to balance work,
parenting, relationships and anxiety
about what was going on around us,
I could still support and care for patients.
I was honestly pouring from a pretty
empty cup.