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Ms Moderator: and Last Panel 4, As A Household Counsellor, What Do You Think About Polygamy
Ms Moderator: and Last Panel 4, As A Household Counsellor, What Do You Think About Polygamy
polygamy
Panel 4: Thank you Ms Moderator for the good question. Before that, Assalamualaikum and
good morning to all panel and lovely audience. Thank you for inviting me in this great forum.
Based on my experience, for being household counsellor for almost a decade, I have faced all
sorts pf household problems that mostly related to [olygamy. For me, polygamy have the bad
and the good things which is depends on how the people perform it. So, the problem that I
always have to faced is when they questioning me, should a wife sacrifice her feelings for a
polygamous husband? They especially the husband will always use sought after excuse is the
reward of the glorious golden umbrella that the senior wife will receive in heaven. Have you
ever hear about “golden umbrella” that will rewarded to wife who allows husband to marry
again? Yes of course, I heard it so. In my opinion, that’s only a trick for husband get some
permission to marry more than one wife because in the qur’an and also the hadith there is no
evidence that says that the wife is get some rewarded when she allows her husband to have
polygamy. In one hadith from Abu Hurairah, that the Prophet SAW said:
ِ
ت
ْ َ َد َخ ل،ت َب ْع لَ َه ا
ْ اع
َ َ َو أَط،ت َف ْر َج َه ا
ْ َص ن
َّ َو َح،ت َش ْه َر َه ا
ْ ام
َ ص َ ص لَّ ت ال
َ َو،ْم ْر أَةُ ُخ ُم َس َه ا َ إِ َذ ا
ِ اب الج نَّ ِة ِش ْئ
ت ِّ ِم ْن أ
َ ِ َي أ َْب َو
Meaning : "if a woman prays 5 times, fasts in her month (Ramadan), controls her genitals
and obeys her husband, enter him into paradise from any door you want". [History Of Ibn
Hibban, 9/471]. So, in conclusion, there are many more verses of the Qur'an and Al-Hadith
that tell about the advantages of married life and also the relationship between husband and
wife but there is not a single verse of the Qur'an OR Al-Hadith that can confirm about the
golden umbrella as a reward. If a man still insist to polgygamy make sure to be well prepared
about the obligjsasusx to all my wife….
I think that’s all from me, and i will pass back to the Ms Moderator to continue for the next
session.
Ms Moderator: okey next is panel 4, at the first session you tell us about the golden
umbrella right? So, can you explain what are the conditions of polygamy?
Panel 4: Thankyou again Ms Moderator for that question. The question that I always ask my
client is “Are you ready to face a life of polygamy?” Before wanting a polygamy, there are
conditions for polygamy. I don’t judge on people who wanted to perform polygamy , but I
will consult them to make sure they are able to do it correctly. So, the first conditions is they
should limit the number of wives he will marry. Allah said in Surah An-Nisa verse 3 about
polygamy