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Emotional intelligence, or emotional quotient is the measure of how well a person can take
control of one’s emotions and handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.
A similar concept, IQ, intelligence quotient which measures one’s ability to solve problems and
critical thinking is a popular way of judging how well a person’s mind works. Emotional
intelligence however is a new concept but yet very important, sometimes even more than IQ
itself. When it comes to shaping our decisions and our actions, feeling counts every bit as much,
and often more than thought itself.
Breathing, an involuntary task, often neglected may have a great impact on our emotions. It is
the one of the few involuntary actions that we can control and hence even change the pattern of.
We cannot regulate the pattern of heartbeat nor can we tweak our digestive process but we can
change the way we breathe, even subconsciously and this in turn changes the way we feel on a
daily basis.
In this monotonous world, we are in a constant breathing pattern of fear and anger. Short breaths
causes the symphatatic nervous system to activate causing nervousness, increase in blood
pressure, and increase in heartbeat in humans. Imagine what you’d do if a car passes by almost
hitting you. One inhales, one gasps, one’s breathing becomes short and rapid. We are so used to
this breathing pattern that our normal breathing is short and rapid breaths. If we were to regulate
our breathing pattern, we may, to a great extent, control our emotions and steer them to whatever
we want.
Imagine you are with your significant other, and s/he tells you that they love you. Notice the
breath, the breath is slow exhale. Slow exhale gives a sign of relief to the human body and
therefore relaxing the body and releasing the hormones that are responsible for happiness, like
dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin. This can be used by an individual at their own will whenever
they like to change their emotions from nervousness to calmness or to whatever one may desire.
If we remember a life event, one filled with emotional charge which is stored in the amygdala
region of the brain, we can remember our breath work at that particular timeframe. If we try
recreating the breath pattern that we had whilst imagining the scenario of the past, we can feel
almost the same that we felt when we were actually in that moment. Breath patterns bring back
memories and moreover the actual joy, happiness or even sadness that was bound with that
memory. Breath patterns are like radio frequencies, when one matches with the signal provided,
we can hear, feel and even re-live the moments in the past.
We can manipulate emotions by simply changing our breathing patterns. The patterns either help
by bringing back the happy memories we already lived in the past or by physically calming our
nervous system down making us calm and stationed.
Whenever angry, our blood flow is maximum in our hands and legs for the fight and flight
response. During this period, our breath is rapid and short allowing more oxygen to enter the
body and hence excessive glucose to be burnt. But if one realizes that anger is the state they are
in and change their breathing pattern to a slower and longer inhalation and exhalation, the flight
or fight response turns off making the person less likely to take an action solely based upon
emotions. The majority of information then passes to the neocortex rather than amygdala making
the person more likely to take rational and informed decisions.
When a person feels sad or depressed, one can imagine a happy moment one lived. Focusing
mainly on the breath pattern at that particular moment, and recreating the pattern of breathe as
the one in that situation, the brain can’t physically distinguish if that person is living that moment
or simply imagining it. Therefore, it releases the hormones that lift a person up, like dopamine
and serotonin. This can be used in whatever situations to help the body to come back to natural
state.
An individual can also create a trigger point for a certain emotion with nothing more than 2-3
happy moments of their life. To do this, one must imagine the situation they were really happy
in. After the image has appeared in one’s mind, one must be aware of the 5 senses they felt
during that event. One must note mentally what they could see, what they could hear, what they
could taste, what they could smell and what they could feel. Once these senses are taken into
considerations, a trigger point must be created. A trigger can be as simple as joining the thumb
and index finger together. With the image and senses in mind, one should join the two fingers
together while applying nominal force for not less than 5 seconds. This simple technique can be
done multiple times to strengthen the effect of the trigger point. Now whenever a person feels
anger, grief or sorrow, when they press these 2 fingers together, it tricks the mind into thinking
they are in a happy state forcing it to release dopamine. (Source: Ted Talk, Timon Krause)
Manipulating the breathing
Breathing can be easily manipulated giving us the kind of emotions we want. We may use 3
different breathing patterns to induce 3 different emotions in whatever condition we are. Those
breathing patterns include:
1. 4-4 Breathing Pattern
This is the breathing pattern where one inhales for 4 seconds, holds for 4 seconds and exhales for
4 seconds. This works best for calming the body down and bringing it back to a normal and
balanced state. When we inhale for 4 seconds and hold for 4 seconds, the inhalation is slow and
long which makes the body’s flight and fight response to turn off. The long exhalation helps the
body to further calm down. When angry, if this pattern is used, the person can think rationally
rather acting on the emotionally raged state. By manipulating the breathing pattern to slow and
long breaths, feelings of nervousness, anger, over-excitement can be controlled as per one’s will.
3. Constant exhalation
In this pattern of breathing, one must constantly exhale without thinking about inhaling. Mainly
the abdominal muscles are used in this method of breathing. Short bursts of air are thrown from
the nostrils without inhalation for 20 repetitions. This pattern of breathing helps activate
sympathetic nervous system that enhances blood flow and oxygen supply to different parts of the
body. When one feels depressed, overwhelmed or extremely fatigue, one may use this pattern for
a maximum of 3 times a day to induce the emotions of happiness and joy.
The 4-4 pattern breathing helps bring calmness and balance in the body, whereas the 4-8
breathing pattern makes a person extremely relaxed and the Constant Exhalation breathing
energizes a person inducing joy and happiness in the individual’s body. We may manipulate our
breathing pattern as we may see fit, but with extreme care.
The Placebo Effect
The placebo effect is a popular phenomenon where a person’s expectations makes certain
changes in the body without any external medication or substance. Placebo works on the
principle of emotions. When one receives a medication from a medical professional, one sets an
expectation of being cured, which is processed by the amygdala rather than the rational brain. So
without thinking for the reasons like “How will this medicine cure me”, the emotional part of the
brain sets a strong passion to be cured which in most cases cures the patient.
The placebo effect is still used in testing the efficiency of a new medicine. The “gold standard”
for testing interventions in people is the “randomized, placebo-controlled” clinical trial, in which
volunteers are randomly assigned to a test group receiving the experimental intervention or a
control group receiving a placebo (an inactive substance that looks like the drug or treatment
being tested). Comparing results from the two groups suggests whether changes in the test group
result from the treatment or occur by chance. The placebo effect is a beneficial health outcome
resulting from a person’s anticipation that an intervention will help. How a health care provider
interacts with a patient also may bring about a positive response that’s independent of any
specific treatment. This treatment still works on 2/3rd people even when they know they are receiving
placebos.
Using Placebo
An individual may use the placebo effect to manipulate and change their emotions towards
something. For example, when in time of distress, the person can expect the beautiful sky to
make them happy. So whenever they look at the sky, the brain expects one to be happy and
therefore releasing the happy hormones. The entire concept of placebo revolves around the
phrase “supposed to” and hence it is very easy to use while being really efficient as well.
During the times of anger, one may think the anger is supposed to provide them with extra
energy and hence they feel more energized to do something, mainly exercise. Even drinking
water in the morning daily thinking it is supposed to be good for your health has proven to have
a positive effect in health of people.
Placebos can be set however one may desire. But it should be something rather hard to do to
work more efficiently. For example, not using mobile phones early in the morning. If a person
keeps conscious efforts into not using smartphone as soon as s/he wakes up, expecting that action
to give a better overall mood throughout the day, their mood will mostly be better because of the
small but conscious effort they vested in the morning.
Starting the morning with gratitude is another placebo famously used. When one counts the
blessings they have in their life, their brain thinks they are supposed to be happy because of the
blessings they have and therefore releases hormones leading to happiness and excitement
throughout the day.
The breathing patterns and using placebos becomes a habit after a while and is done without
conscious efforts by the brain. The brain adapts to 4-4 breathing pattern in a daily basis making
the overall average mood better of a person compared to the short and rapid breathing we are
used to. Placebos on the other hand can be created in whatever situations we may see fit and used
in whatever circumstances without any restrictions. Once these two are integrated into one’s life,
their emotional intelligence rises higher than a normal person. And with proper understanding
and managing of one’s emotions while not neglecting other’s emotions, the EQ of a person can
rise significantly, guaranteeing a prosperous and happy life in the future.