NAME: MARGUAXE HINACAY DATE: DEC.

10,2021

You cannot beg people to like you. You cannot beg everyone to love you. Bullying is not just
punching someone or calling them names, you could be bullied by physical or emotional. Children and
teens who have a sense of safety and upheld by their family, school, and companions are less inclined to
bully. However, some adolescent doesn’t have these kinds of help. Each individual is extraordinary and
there are many elements that can add to tormenting conduct. An adolescent who bullies might
encounter one, a few, or none of these contributing variables. This is the story of my friend who got
bullied three years ago. It all started when she got accepted into her dream school, at first it was nice
and it kind of feel new and exciting. She was excited to go there back and forth.

She will tell me about what's happening there and her school is always our topic. After a month we
stopped talking with each other, probably because of how busy and tight our schedule was but despite
of her schedule she will message me in the middle of the night just to share how happy she was that
day. One time, I asked her about her environment she did not reply. I was thinking that maybe because
she's busy. But as the day passed by, she became more and more weird like as if she's not the friend
that I used to know. I tried to reached out, I keep on asking her what's wrong and her problem, I told her
that I am here and that she can talk to me. She started being away from me, took down her social media
accounts and blocked me. When I finally got a chance to meet her in person I saw her crying in her
room. I was confused. When she finally calm, I asked why and she simply answered "I'm hurt". Then
from that moment I realized that something was off her mom talked to me and asked if is she okay I told
her that she should be the one who knows how her child was for the past month. Her mom told me that
she attempted suicide. And I cried real hard, I realized that we never talked about her friends at school
because she never got one. We never talked about her environment there because it was toxic. Her
classmates bullied her for a long time to the point that she is willing to take her own life. To be honest, I
was really scared about the fact that she is one step closer on being dead. That I will have to sense her
off to the afterlife.

We talked after that. I asked her the details and she told me everything. It was hard for her to be
on that position I know because she is my best friend. I tried not to cry in front of her because I don't
want her to feel that she is a burden to me I tried to calm her as much as I can to let her know that I am
here forever and always. After that heartbreaking scenario, our conversation became more and more
memorable for me. I treasured every conversation that we have and we even told each other everything
that's happening in our daily lives. She did not graduate form her dream university however she gains
confidence about what happened because I told her that we are in this together.

We restarted her life with the help of her family and loved ones, she started talking to her adviser
and even her classmates to see what went wrong. But apparently her classmates bullied her because
she went to a public school, simple reason if you can tell but people nowadays are insensitive especially
young ones. She asked the bully why did they do that to her when she did nothing to them, the girls
couldn't afford to answer after they saw her face and scars on her bodies. They were shocked obviously,
my friend went through a lot because of the verbal bullying they did, they made her dirty. A higher
percentage of female students than of male students ages 12–18 reported being the subject of rumors
(19 vs. 12 percent); being made fun of, called names, or insulted (16 vs. 12 percent); and being excluded
from activities on purpose (9 vs. 4 percent). In contrast, a higher percentage of male students than of
female students reported being pushed, shoved, tripped, or spit on (6 vs. 4 percent) (ed. 29).

In 2019, around 22 percent of understudies ages 12–18 announced being tormented at school
during the school year, which was lower than the rate detailed in 2009 (28 percent). In 2019, around 16
percent of understudies in grades 9–12 announced being electronically harassed during the past a year.
As the year passed by the first thing the she did is to rest, she skips school for a year and rest. She went
on counseling for her mental health and do assessment. She was terrified, it must have been an
exhausting year for her but she did well. She took it very well, I asked her once again if she wanted to
continue studying since it's online classes she told me that she will and that she will be brave.
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