The first moments of falling in love with someone are, at the same

time, the supreme high and the absolute deception. You surely
know that feeling when you are convinced that your world finally
acquired the ultimate meaning, and you only want for this emotion to
last forever (even though after a few of such experiences, you can
hear that tiny voice telling you that it is fleeting). It is this elation that
guides you into the desire to make this person be by your side until
the day you die. And now the deceptive side to it all – even though
being freshly in love is among the most profound feelings that one
can have, it just cannot last forever – usually not even more than a
few months, as studies show.

Infatuation versus love in marriage

The rush you get when you fall in love with someone mobilizes all your
senses, and causes a whirl of emotions, thoughts, and, not to forget,
chemical reactions – all of which inevitably make you yearn more and
more and more. Many decide then and there to try and ensure that this
won’t go away, and they often do so by making their bond official at the
face of law and God, if they are people of faith. Yet, unfortunately,
although romantic, such step often proves to be a gateway to trouble. Love
in marriage differs from that which made you get married in the first
place, especially if you got hitched quickly. Don’t get the wrong idea, love
and marriage do exist together, but it is not the kind of sexual and romantic
infatuation that you first felt when you started looking at your now
husband or wife in a certain way.
Apart from chemicals that wore off (and evolutionary psychologists level-
headedly claim that the purpose of this passionate enchantment is to ensure
procreation, so it needs not to last longer than a few months), once the
period of being freshly in love goes away, you are up for a surprise. They
say that love is blind, and this might be true in the first months of it. But
after the very beginning of your relationship in which you get to know
each other and feel the constant excitement of discovering your loved one,
the reality kicks in. And this is not necessarily a bad thing. The world is
filled with couples who live in a loving marriage. It is just that the nature
of your emotions and your relationship as a whole necessarily changes.

When you get married, soon the honeymoon is over and you need to start
not just fantasizing about your future, but also approach it pragmatically.
The obligations, the career, the plans, the finances, the responsibilities, the
ideals, and the recollection of how you once were, all that gets mixed into
your now married life. And, at that stage, whether you will continue to
love your spouse (and how much) or you will find yourself in a cordial (or
not so much) marriage will mostly depend on how suitable you are. This
applies not only to those who tied the knot in the midst of the impassioned
dating but also for those who were in a serious and committed relationship
prior to hearing the wedding bells. Marriage still, even in these modern
times, makes a difference in the way people perceive each other and their
lives. Many couples who were in a relationship for years and were living
together before they got married still report that becoming Mr. and Mrs.
brought about changes in their self-image and, importantly, in their
relationship.
The first moments of falling in love with someone are, at the same time,
the supreme high and the absolute deception. You surely know that feeling
when you are convinced that your world finally acquired the ultimate
meaning, and you only want for this emotion to last forever (even though
after a few of such experiences, you can hear that tiny voice telling you
that it is fleeting). It is this elation that guides you into the desire to make
this person be by your side until the day you die. And now the deceptive
side to it all – even though being freshly in love is among the most
profound feelings that one can have, it just cannot last forever – usually not
even more than a few months, as studies show.

Infatuation versus love in marriage

The rush you get when you fall in love with someone mobilizes all your
senses, and causes a whirl of emotions, thoughts, and, not to forget,
chemical reactions – all of which inevitably make you yearn more and
more and more. Many decide then and there to try and ensure that this
won’t go away, and they often do so by making their bond official at the
face of law and God, if they are people of faith. Yet, unfortunately,
although romantic, such step often proves to be a gateway to trouble. Love
in marriage differs from that which made you get married in the first
place, especially if you got hitched quickly. Don’t get the wrong idea, love
and marriage do exist together, but it is not the kind of sexual and romantic
infatuation that you first felt when you started looking at your now
husband or wife in a certain way.
Apart from chemicals that wore off (and evolutionary psychologists level-
headedly claim that the purpose of this passionate enchantment is to ensure
procreation, so it needs not to last longer than a few months), once the
period of being freshly in love goes away, you are up for a surprise. They
say that love is blind, and this might be true in the first months of it. But
after the very beginning of your relationship in which you get to know
each other and feel the constant excitement of discovering your loved one,
the reality kicks in. And this is not necessarily a bad thing. The world is
filled with couples who live in a loving marriage. It is just that the nature
of your emotions and your relationship as a whole necessarily changes.

When you get married, soon the honeymoon is over and you need to start
not just fantasizing about your future, but also approach it pragmatically.
The obligations, the career, the plans, the finances, the responsibilities, the
ideals, and the recollection of how you once were, all that gets mixed into
your now married life. And, at that stage, whether you will continue to
love your spouse (and how much) or you will find yourself in a cordial (or
not so much) marriage will mostly depend on how suitable you are. This
applies not only to those who tied the knot in the midst of the impassioned
dating but also for those who were in a serious and committed relationship
prior to hearing the wedding bells. Marriage still, even in these modern
times, makes a difference in the way people perceive each other and their
lives. Many couples who were in a relationship for years and were living
together before they got married still report that becoming Mr. and Mrs.
brought about changes in their self-image and, importantly, in their
relationship.