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Nicole Oliva
ENG 1201
Professor Flores
March 18 2022
Listening is a major part of our everyday lives and plays an essential part in our
relationships with others. In the workplace, listening is highly valued as well as within
Listening occurs when the brain reconstructs these electrochemical impulses into a
representation of the original sound and then gives them meaning. Hearing is the process in
which sound waves strike the eardrum and cause vibrations that are transmitted to the brain. The
main difference between listening and hearing is that you can never stop hearing unless you have
an illness, injury, or something covering your eardrums. Listening is not automatic and although
we might hear a conversation, it doesn't mean we are essentially listening to it. When we listen,
we tend to drown out annoying sounds or something that is unimportant to us, such as a story
that's been told a hundred times or the annoying hum of the air conditioner. This can play a
major role in how others perceive us and the kind of listeners we are. In the following pages, I
will be discussing how being an effective listener can have a positive effect on relationships.
and experience pleasure. Active listening is about making a conscious decision to hear what
people are saying. It’s about being completely focused on others—their words and their
Listening and empathy skills are distinctive features of good communicators, leaders, and
therapists. One study conducted by Faye Doell (2003) showed that there are two different types
understand” have greater satisfaction in their interpersonal relationships than others. Being able
to listen to your partner effectively means you’re able to better understand their perspective. This
means you’re more likely to have productive conversations where you feel your point of view is
being regarded. A lot of conflict within a relationship is caused by one or both people feeling like
they’re not being heard. Learning how to be a good listener can do so much to address this.
Active listening is about being fully present and supportive to the person you are listening
to. Active listening isn't about knowing the right thing to say. It's about having the mindfulness
and humility to sit with discomfort and acknowledge that you don't have the answers. You can
also improve your relationships by listening non-judgmentally to what others have to say. The
more you listen without judgment, the more freedom speakers have to find their own solutions to
problems, and the better they feel about sharing things with you. The Global Listening Center
lists ways you can improve your listening habits with body language. Here are a few: smile, lean
in when you are being talked to, have your body position toward the person you are listening to,
and lastly look like you are listening by making eye contact and keeping off your phone. These
skills are a way to deal with difficult conversations with a partner, friend, or loved one and to
build stronger relationships. Listening not only creates a feeling of respect, but also a good
I have attended a communications class here at Sinclair and have learned so much about
the topic of listening. This paper was inspired by some of the topics that were covered in that
class and I can say that learning to be a good listener has truly helped with my relationships. I
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have developed more patience when it comes to conversations with my mother and even my
significant other. People tell me often that they think that I am easy to talk to and I am the only
To truly listen, you must give your undivided attention and put your own agenda and
needs aside. Listening is more than just hearing. For many people, being able to speak without
interruption is like a release. Whether romantic or platonic, listening may be the greatest
contribution you can bring to your relationships. Listening strengthens relationships and
demonstrates attentiveness, caring, and respect. As with most other social skills, to master
listening, practice is required. Luckily, the world is full of people who have a story to tell and
Works Cited
Adler, Ronald B., et al. “Interplay: the Process of Interpersonal Communication.” Oxford
www.globallisteningcentre.org/body-language-of-listeners/.
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-empowerment-diary/201708/deep-listening-in-
personal-relationships.