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Lesson 3
Importance of Purposeful Listening
Learning Outcomes:
Purposeful Listening
Listening is an active process. It is the process of making meaning from what
is heard, and as such, has a critical function for learning. Although students spend
a large portion of their class time listening, it is a skill that might not be explicitly
taught (Tindall and Nisbet, 2008).
Active listening builds strong relationships and, while it may not come
naturally to many of us, it’s an invaluable communication skill.
Strong and effective communication skills are essential in a field where
emotions often reach critical mass. Professionals must be equipped to process
complex information intertwined with decision-making that can have a lifetime
impact. Surprisingly, one key aspect of communication is often overlooked or
underrated by professionals in this field, the power and impact of listening.
Listen
When asked, most professionals will say that they are good active listeners.
It’s surprising to realize how rarely people actually do attentively listen to one
another when interacting. We allow ourselves to be distracted, preoccupied by
other matters of importance, or thinking about what we’re going to say next. In
fact, one of the most difficult communication skills to learn is to give someone the
respect and consideration they deserve by being “fully present” and giving others
our full attention.
When you accurately reflect back to a person what’s been said, you show
that you’ve been listening—not just hearing—and that you genuinely understand
the feeling/s or message/s they are trying to convey. This creates an environment
that allows the speaker to go deeper, and sometimes even to come to new
realizations. It’s the basis for trust and respect. Active listening is a conscious effort
that demands empathy, effort, attention, and lots of practice.
In Listening as a Skill
Becoming an effective
communicator is a dynamic
process and lifetime pursuit.
There is much, much more to
active listening and to the many
other skills that will help you
provide excellent services in
your chosen field and to
communicate effectively with
your team members. Active
listening builds strong
relationships and, while it may not come naturally to many of us, it’s an invaluable
communication skill. Becoming an excellent listener will take determination and
practice and it will be well worth it in both your professional and personal life.
Barriers to Effective Listening
Most of us would like to think that we are good listeners. In other words, we
believe that we hear what someone is saying and are able to take it in and
interpret it correctly, before responding appropriately. Unfortunately, the sad truth
is that most of us overestimate our abilities in this area.
Research shows that we generally only listen with about 25% efficiency. This
means that about three-quarters of spoken communication is lost on the average
person. Instead of giving the speaker our full attention, we may be formulating a
reply, or making a judgement about what they are saying, or even being
distracted by what we’re going to have for dinner. This ineffective listening leads
to misunderstandings and a breakdown in communication.
Types of Ineffective Listening
The other problem is that speaker and listener can get into a negative spiral
of argument and counter-argument. Instead of building on each other’s
communication, they are engaged in knocking it down.
2. Assumptive Listening-Assumptive listeners make assumptions about the
speaker’s meaning or intention—and usually before the speaker has finished.
A Common Thread?
You may have spotted that all these types of ineffective listening are
related to the listener’s attitude. They may perceive a problem with the speaker,
or simply have a ‘mental block’ about the subject.
Whatever the cause, their pattern of thinking is not conducive to genuine,
effective listening.
It is affecting how they relate to other people, and the messages that they
hear in other people’s communication. These attitudes may have many causes,
such as:
Preconceived ideas or bias
These mean that you are not open to other people’s ideas and opinions.
Biases may be personal or cultural. For example, in some cultures, ideas are only
considered acceptable from those in senior positions. You may not trust the
speaker on a personal level, and therefore find it hard to be open to their ideas
on an intellectual level.
Previous experiences
These may affect your expectations about people and/or topics or
situations. We are all influenced by previous experiences in life. We respond to
people based on personal appearance, how initial introductions or welcomes
were received and/or previous interpersonal encounters. This may affect how you
approach an individual. You may also find that someone says something that
reminds you of a previous experience, and you start to think about that instead
of listening. The key here is to consider whether your previous experience is going
to be helpful—and if not, set it aside.
Having a closed mind.
We all have ideals and values that we believe to be correct. It can
therefore be difficult to listen to contradictory views. However, the key to effective
listening and interpersonal skills more generally is the ability to open your mind,
and take time to understand why others think about things differently to you—
and then use this information to gain a better understanding of the speaker.
Common Physical Barriers to Listening
These types of ineffective listening generally relate to patterns of thinking.
However, there may also be physical barriers to listening.
These affect your physical ability to concentrate on a speaker and/or to
hear their words or message. They include, but are not limited to:
Too much noise around you. It can be hard to listen effectively if there is too
much background noise. This can happen at a party, or in a crowded room, for
example, but may also include having the television on in the background.
Trying to listen to more than one conversation at a time. There is some
overlap here with background noise, because it could include having the
television or radio on while attempting to listen to somebody talk, being on the
phone to one person and talking to another person in the same room, or simply
trying to talk to two people at once.
You are distracted by something else in your environment. Sadly, our brains
are fairly fickle things, and easily distracted. A movement out of the window, or a
stray thought, can derail listening. Your smartphone showing you a notification
can be a major distraction—which is why it is advisable to put it away if someone
wants to speak to you. Many people also find that they can distract themselves,
for example, by doodling, or fiddling with something. However, for others, this can
be a way of helping them to focus by distracting their hands, but not their brains.
You find the communicator attractive or unattractive and you pay more
attention to how you feel about them and their physical appearance than to what
they are saying. This can also apply when someone has an accent: you may find
yourself listening to the cadence, and not the words or meaning.
You are not interested in the topic/issue being discussed and become
bored. This rapidly leads to you becoming distracted and ceasing to pay
attention.
Feeling unwell or tired, hungry, thirsty or needing to use the toilet, too hot or
too cold. Physical discomfort is a huge distraction. It is almost impossible to
concentrate effectively when you feel uncomfortable in some way.
Being stressed about something else that is happening in your life. When
you have a lot going on in your life, it is much harder to calm your internal dialogue
and simply listen to someone else.
You may also detect ineffective listening in other ways, and especially in
how someone responds.