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CM310 Unit 5
identify and describe the specific conflict styles and tactics each of the participants uses. In
addition, offer suggestions about how the participants could create a more constructive
In the Case “He Said, She Said…” I find myself very familiar with the dialogue. My
husband and I have a blended family and although our children are great kids, we find ourselves
struggling over how to discipline them. We each have our own disciplinary style and a lot of
The case study is about Marie a divorced mother, her fifteen-year old son Lenny, and
her fiancé Mike who will be Lens’s stepfather after they get married. Mike has moved in with
Marie and has witnessed some behavioral issues with Lenny. He feels that Marie is too lenient
with Lenny and voices his disapproval with Marie on how she disciplines him, which creates a
The conflict starts when Lenny comes home past his curfew without letting his mother
know he is going to be late. As soon as he comes through the door Marie, his mother, begins to
scream at Lenny and ask him question after question. Mike hears the commotion and at first
tries to avoid the situation but eventually steps in to try and take control. He voices his concern
that Marie is letting Lenny get away without punishment, suggests that they all go to bed and
deal with it later. Marie argues with Mike and wants to deal with the issue at hand then and
there.
In the case study, it is evident that there is a power struggle between all three
individuals. Mike wants to be head of the house, and be able to make decisions regarding
Lens’s discipline. Marie, who has been in control because of having to be a single mother, wants
to keep control and protect her son. Lenny feels threatened by another man in the home,
Mike uses the avoidance style when he says, “let’s go to bed and deal with this in the
morning.” The avoidance style is where a party will use various methods to not address the
conflict. (Wilmot and Hocker, 2013). Marie on the other hand was using the dominant style in
conflict when she is overpowering Lenny by not letting him get a word in, yelling at him, and
she forcefully grabbed Mikes arm during the conflict. A dominating style will attempt to gain
power of the other party by direct confrontation. (Wilmot and Hocker, 2013). Lenny used the
compromise style by pleading with his mother that he would promise to call from now on and
do all of his chores if she would not punish him. The compromising style is one that will result in
a gain or loss for the parties involved. (Wilmot and Hocker, 2013).
After reading the case study I feel that Marie and Mike would be able to resolve their
issues if they would have used a collaborative or integrative style. By putting the relationship
ahead of their own agendas or goals they would be able to see the real issue. Lenny is
apparently acting out from the major power shift in the home due to Mike moving in. There is a
lack of respect from all parties involved and they would greatly benefit from a sit-down session
to take turns talking about their individual needs with in the family. They should all establish a
common goal, voice their concerns and needs, and try to come up with a solution that
transcends the conflict into a winning solution. Mike and Marie need to be able to respect one
another and communicate ideas on what is best for the family unit as a whole. Lenny needs to
understand, and cope with that fact that his mother has moved on and that Mike will be an
authorities figure in the home now. This family could really benefit from some counseling,
especially Lenny who is still just a teenager trying to deal with his parents’ divorce, and now
Wilmot W.W. and Hocker, J.L. (2013) Interpersonal Conflict, 8th Ed. New York, NY: McGraw-Hill.
Davis, Deborah (n.d.). “He said, She Said…” Retrieved on 08/13/2017, from
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