Name -Padmja Sinha, Roll number – PGMPW17

Cite an instance in brief How did this attentive In case you’re becoming
where you became more awareness impact your aware only now as you’re
attentive and aware of your decision making doing this reflection, what
subjectivity in the moment are you able to observe
about the instance?
1. I was admitted in 1. Next morning when I 1. To ensure that my
hospital and while I was practicing inner peace is not
was recovering very breathing exercise, I disturbed I paused
slowly one of the realized that it was (Dama) for a while,
nurses scolded me for right decision not to got back to my
not having food. I react instantly and learnings, dedicated
listened her and just rather accept and sometime only to
gave a thought that it analyse what she said myself deactivated
was for my well- which proved to be the auto mode as
being. for my well-being. well. I realized that
sometimes the word
may sound harsh but
they are spoken only
and only for our
betterment. I rightly
choose not to react
instantly.

2. Was having a health 2. Next day while 2. It was a completely

problem from a long
time which was
detected recently. I
gave priority to every
other thing and
ignored my health
hence, my husband
scolded me very
practicing the
meditation I realized
that I slept well last
night as I ended
conversation on an
amicable node. My
mind was at least
peaceful enough to
new realization for
me as I am a
completely new
person. I now pause,
wait, think and
rethink. Refer to life
and its learning. I
now know that your
 badly for ignoring my process right
health prioritizing information. I
other stuffs. I choose realized that my
to end conversation. health should be most
important for me and
more than others I
need to be aware of it.
It was right decision
to end conversation
3. There was lot on my 3. After few hours while 3. 3 The pauses and
plate to do and my I sat in peace and
daughter was practiced deep
constantly irritating breathing exercise, I
and nagging me for knew that it was right
something or other. to give attention to
She was constantly my child who was
asking for my asking for the same.
attention while I was Work is important but
busy with an her time with me is
important work. more important than
Though I tempted to anything else. I felt
shout I paused work good to give her my
and entertained her time
instead.
4. My cook didn’t pick 4. Next morning after 4. The same incident
up phone repeatedly meditation just gave a
for many times, I was thought that it was
trying to reach her out right not to spoil my
many times but she mood over a trivial
was completely issue and might be
untraceable. She she had more
didn’t even turn up important work that
for work that day. needs attention. The
near and dear ones
always think about
your well-being and
should listen to the
advice given by those
who care for me.
having silent
conversation with
myself makes a big
difference. It alters
the decision-making
skills. I realized that
more than your work
those around you
matters. I was right
that in hate I didn’t
scold my kid and
gave my attention and
time to her.
could have triggered
many emotions of
anger and
disappointment. But
the pause and
realising the Dvesha
makes a big
difference. It was a
 There were guests in right approach is to right decision to
house and I was think about others as choose peace over
running high and dry. well. anger and
I somehow managed disappointment.
that day and
supressed the urge of
scolding her the next
day
5. While I was unwell 5. After few hours when 5. Pacing down a little
and alone at the I was sitting along and suppressing few
hospital. I was and thinking about dominant traits uplifts
expecting my friends the instance after few the thinking level. I
to come and give sessions of deep didn’t know that
company but they al breathing, I realized thinking same
had their long that it was really kind situation from
weekend plans enough for my friends different perspective
instead. Most of them to think call and will bring in this
called me up to check upon me. I effect but it did.
inform me about their rightly apprehended Racing thoughts were
plans but, didn’t that they are my good paused and I was
turned up at hospital. friends and more than right in stopping
I though thought that visits the concern where I should have
they care for me and matters. stopped. My friends
my views matters to and their care matters
them but there was a to me rather than
bit of iritation and anything else.
frustration.
6. My neighbour used to 6. While I was walking 6. Deep thinking, and
send their kids to play slowly and thinking practicing vairagya
along with my kid deeply about the makes a huge impact
everyday or vice instance, I realized on decisions that we
versa but for last few that they have always take in our lives. The
weeks they aren’t been a nice people. momentary decision
 interacting enough there must be a valid always cost our inner
and also not sending reason for not sending peace. Just a timely
their kids home. They kids to home to play pause makes life little
might have some with my kid. In fact I easy and I am
genuine reasons for got to know they fortunate to refer to
not sending the kids were sick and were the learnings of the
to home they might not interacting with class and mark the
be sick. But they anyone. It was right difference. This has
should have at least decision to check on really changed the
informed us and them as instant way I think, also now
thought little decision would have I know to manage to
disturbed I planned to fired back and ruined manage my strengths
inquire about their our bonding and weaknesses in a
well being better way.
7. My brother was 7. The next day was 7. The reframing and
supposed to help me much better as after asking the same
financially and he having deep breathe question with oneself
even agreed to same. exercise I found out it make a big
I was going through was real right difference. The
tough financial decision not to bother (reflect) shama made
situation hence I him with my words. me realize that I
asked for his help and He really had a should not overthink.
he instantly agreed to genuine problem. I Positive thinking will
help me. But the day would have spoiled bring in positivity
he was supposed to my relationship with around and this would
transfer the money he my brother who has in turn benefit one
backed out. I was always been there to and all. It was right to
though furious but help me. My quick think rethink and give
also thought that reaction would have a second thought to
some trouble might spelt doom for a our bonding and not
have struck suddenly relationship which is bother him at all. I
so he could not help. there for life. feel relived and in
The furious me was peace.
 devastated but
somewhere I even
thought that he is
helpless hence choose
not to word to him.
8. My cook always 8. Next day while I was 8. The quick and
advises me to do this taking a stroll, I thoughtful talk with
and that, she is very thought maybe she is inner self is
quick on giving right and considers something which
opinions. She even me as an extended changes many things
suggested me what to family. She cares for for ever. My thinking
eat and what not after me hence out of process has changed
surgery. She even concern she made along with the way I
cooked different food special food for me. It take decisions. The
for me which I was was right time to stop correct pauses at
not ready to eat. I got and not say a word to correct time leads to
irritated thought to her. She has been peaceful inner
fire but stopped and there with me for reflection hence
did nothing in years and had taken initiated right
moment care of my home like thinking process
a family. I would considering a
have lost her trust had wholistic view rather
I acted insane then. than a myopic view
of the problem.
9. My Sister-in-law 9. My practise and 9. I took a moment to
wanted to come to my meditation gave me a rethink about my
home to look after me different opinion. I decision and this
as I came back home rethink and realized proved to be a turning
after major surgery. that she was very point in my decision-
Out of care she called right in offering help making skills. Just a
me everyday and and maybe she was moment of pause,
enquired about my genuinely interested calmness and a
health and proposed in helping me while I reflection of my own
 to be around during recover. If I would self made me realize
tough days. She was have straight away that life is not always
sweet enough to offer said no, she would about being selfish
help and stay here till have felt bad and I and self-cantered. It is
I recover. But would have lost a also about giving a
somewhere my relationship who was moment to others and
dislike for her didn’t always there to thinking about how
allow me to accept extend help. positively they have
her proposal and Reserving decision brought the
overshadowed her and getting being differences in our life.
sweet proposal. quite was the best That moment of
Despite my decision that I ever realization changed
unwillingness I didn’t took to help myself. my way of thinking
said anything and
reserved my decision
as well as I remain to
be silent.
10. I along with my 10. The next day when I 10. Being calm and
friend made holiday was lying sleepless in composed eve during
plan. Had done hospital and was tough times made a
shopping and were all having my moment difference in my life.
set for the day along with my deep The pause and
suddenly I had a breathes, I controlled behaviour
medical emergency introspected myself brought something to
and had to opt out of and realized that I the fore which I never
plan. My friend got was truly right in realized that I had. I
furious and stopped giving her time. She realized my potential
talking to me. Even had every right of of being positive in
when I called her, she getting upset as her life and why so much
didn’t pick up the whole plan went positivity is needed
call. I though gave haywire because of for a peaceful
her time to think my emergency existence. The inner
about my decision, situation. I know that peace was quite
down somewhere I it was a momentary overwhelming for me.
was angry that despite withdrawal for her It made me realize
being a good friend and she will certainly that it is not only
she didn’t realize my be back with me soon important but very
emergency situation. I and give her shoulder important to stop,
didn’t spoke to her to me for support. Not think, rethink and
about this and instead saying anything to her give time to important
waited for her to at that moment relations in life which
come back to me proved fruitful and are there to support
eventually you. My friend
strengthened our remained my true
relationship. friend forever.