Looking at myself with other's eyes
Am I
a good
friend?
Sungmin Chun
Interviewee: Eva Lee
As I attended CMIS, since I
was in middle school, it was very rare
to make new friends. However, as I am
going abroad, I have to meet and
make new friends. Therefore, it gave
me the idea to see how others might
think of me. As an interviewee, I
selected one of my best friends Eva
Lee. She is my friend who is very
honest and gives clear answers to my
questions. I hope this interview will give
me an idea of how others feel about
me. I believe this will be helpful for me
to get to know myself well and make
friends in university.
1. How many years have you
been friends with me?
⇒ I have known you since fall 2018, and now it's spring
2022. After around 5 months, we will have been
friends for 4 years. That's a long time.
2. How did we become friends?
⇒ I moved to Songdo from America in 2019, and I
didn't have any friends when I first came to Songdo.
Before I went to America, I lived in another part of
Korea, 3 hours drive from Songdo. I knew about the
existence of Sungmin before I met her. A couple of
days before, I went to senior orientation and saw a
bunch of girls who were talking very loudly. I just
thought to myself maybe I gotta stay away from
them, because I am an introvert. But, on the first
day of school, I saw the same girls in my
homeroom, and had to sit beside some of the girls.
That’s when I first met Sungmin and we introduced
ourselves. For a couple of days, we weren’t that
close, but over time we grew very close. We met a
really long time ago, but becoming close friends
took some time.
3. How would you describe me
to your friends?
⇒ I would say you are really outgoing, happy and
cheerful. You are a little bit shy. She will be a little shy
when you first met her, but in just a bit of time, she
became very outgoing. So I would say even if she is
shy whenever they first meet her, she is actually not
that shy when you get to know her.
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4. What are some of
Sungmin's special strengths?
⇒ She is an optimistic person and accepts ⇒ I think that you changed my personality
failure very well. Although nobody wants to
fail, whenever she faces difficult situations,
unlike others, she doesn’t give up.
5. Can you share one thing
that I can improve on in order
to have a good relationship
with future friends?
⇒ It’s a tough question because everybody
has different personalities. I can’t speak for
everyone, because I really like Sungmin’s
outgoing personality, but some might think
she is too loud most of the time. I don't think
you should change your personality, rather
she should hang out with whoever likes her
present traits.
6. Did I change your
personality?
especially recently in a good way. I really felt a
lot of reassurance talking to you. I always feel
like there is no space in my daily life. I feel like
I’m always thinking about something and
have so many worries. Whenever I have
those worries, you usually have the same
worries and says, “It’s okay whatever it is.”
Although it is a simple thing to say, it gives me
a lot of reassurance. Whenever I have some
kind of issue, I go to you and talk to you
about it, and you are always on my side. I just
felt like I always have a friend whenever I am
talking to you. You are very empathetic. So
when I have some kind of difficulty in a
relationship or with school work, I feel better
just talking with her.

Thanks to Eva's honest answers, it was very

helpful for me to learn about myself. Also, it was
a very meaningful interview for me to realize
that I am a good friend who positively influences
my friends. What I could learn from this is that I am doing the right thing, and as Eva said, I
will not try to change myself but just find a friend who fits my personality. I would
recommend that if you want to try some self-reflection, instead of asking yourself, it would
be a great experience to ask questions to people around you. That way, you may find new
things about yourself that even you didn't know.

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