SUPPORTIVE COMMUNICATION

Famous American author Anne Morrow Lindbergh

once said “Good communication is just as stimulating
as black coffee and just as hard to sleep after” so use
your words carefully.
Communication plays a major in one’s personal and
professional life, it helps to bring people together and
closer to each other and bridges gap between
individuals and groups, based on the way we
communicate there are 4 types of communicators .If
you ask someone why should I join toastmasters and if
they replies “it will help you to improve your
communication style” they are called direct
communicators where they won’t run around the bush
instead they will be direct on point, they will focus on
solutions and provide details only when asked.2nd type
of communication style is initiating communicators
whose loves interacting with others rather than sitting
isolated ,to an extent I can see this type of
communicators in all our mentors because they are the
one who encourage us to give speeches.3 rd type of
communicators are Analytical communicators where
they list actual facts and figures and be prepared to
answer questions, to an extend I can honestly says that
Amir khan fall under such because he analysis about
everything before speaking .If you ask toastmaster
Richa can I give my next speech she will reply as “yes
ofcourse you should eventhough you have already
given some speeches you should give more to improve
your communication skills and if you need any help I
am there for you” this is supportive communication
style where she points out everything In a positive
manner and give suggestions.
Speaking about my communication style I am very
calm ,approachable ,sincere ,patient ..can anyone
guess what my communication style is …yes it’s
supportive communication style .I always like to listen
than just speak out, most of my friends complain that I
am silent to be honest I am not silent instead I am
listening and thought processing what others are
saying and try to bring out a meaningful conclusion. I
always like to think before responding if someone is
angry at me I will try to put myself in ther shoes and try
to find out what made them to feel in this way rather
than stating my own points .It’s said that an
exceptional listener always know what others are
thinking and try to explain everything in a positive
manner stating that what could have been done to
make it better instead of saying what shouldn’t have
done.
Looking into my own personal life I remember an
incident where two of my friend fought each other for
some issue and one of my friend ran to me to explain
about that issue and I just listened to what she told
instead of judging her or saying her what could have
been done to solve this issue but this made her feel
relief from her problem and helped her to solve issue
by herself at that moment I realised that people just
need a listener to listen to their problem instead of
judging them and not everybody requires a solution to
deal with their problem instead they themselves can
solve it but they just need someone who can devote
their time by being a good listener and only a good
supportive communicator can do this.
Just as like a coin have two sides even this
communication style have positive and negative side as
well since we were looking on the positive parts alone
let’s look at some negative portion of being a
supportive communicator, there was an incident in my
life where some issues happened in my friend’s life and
she explained everything to me and just left a part for
me to give a solution to her at that moment I just
wanted to say her that what she did was wrong or
instead of responding on this way she should have
responded in another way but I thought saying this to
her might hurt her feelings and might make her think
that I am judging her so I just kept quite and now I
regret that I could have responded but tag of a
supportive listener hindered me from doing the same
and now I realise that it’s okay for not being
supportive sometimes to save someone from being
worse instead of being quite or making the situation
worser
Before concluding my speech I would like to share one
famous quote by peter that “the most important thing
in communication is to hear what isn’t being said”
Thank you!