Cambongga, Lorene Joy B.

US 101
BSCRIM 1Charlie

SOCIOLOGICAL PERSPECTIVE OF THE SELF

1. Get 3 people to describe you. (As they know you)

I asked the three people that I’ve spent so much time for the past years because I think
they know me best since we’ve been together and seen each other grow as an individual I could say that
they become part of my journey as who I am today. The first person I asked to describe me is Yari
Ancheta, we’ve been friends since 2007 she told me “I was selfless because I prioritize others and some
of our friends may not know this but I was the kind of person who’s true to her words once I made a
promise I will sacrifice some of my responsibility to do the things of the people whom I promised.” The
second person I asked is another person who’s very dearly to me I don’t just treat her as my best friend
but also my sister, she’s MarvieLazareno she told me “I am that kind of person who is trustworthy, who
likes to throw some witty jokes, sarcastic but generous and reliable. It may not be that obvious she finds
me nice and caring because I have the ability to lift her spirits by just being myself.” Lastly, I’ve known
this person ever since we were in grade school. We always go to the same school and she was one of my
school companions for the last two years of my senior high. She’s Ashley Legaspi she described me as
“The kind of person that she can always count on in times of help to wit her best solutions provider,
always there to hear her sentiments and problems, very outspoken and fun to be with, the kind of person
who can make life seems fun.”

2. How different are their descriptions of you from your own description/s of yourself
After I read their descriptions about me I was not convinced that those three see me as
that kind of friend or person they’ve told me because first of all I think I’m not selfless because I only
have limited things in my life there are some things I can’t provide and all I could offer for them is my
time. I’m also uncertain in the part where my friend describe me as reliable because I’m still figuring out
how to fix my time management and I’m certain that I’m not really that nice, yes, I do respect elders and
some particular people but when I’m with those three I’m a different person I don’t actually know where
they saw those characteristic in me as well as the part where I can make life seems fun for them.
Honestly speaking, all I’m doing for them is be there for them on their most important day of their lives
to their random days and support them because I know one day we have to part ways for our future
success. Lastly, the part where Ashley describe me as the best solutions provider. As sure as eggs is eggs
she’s describing me exaggeratedly I don’t give my friends solutions I only offer options. The way they
describe me is way too far-fetch from my own perception of my own self because If I were to describe
myself I think I’m just fond of spending time with them and I’m not really that ideal I just felt that I will
be hold accountable if something wrong or out of plan will arise to them since we are moving in the
same circle of friends.
3. Reflect on this: If you were born to a different family, do you think you will be the same person
as you are now?
Absolutely no, the family I grew up with is where I come to adapt some of their behaviors and
characteristics that has become part of me now. If I were born to a different family I’m certain I will not be the
same person I am today because I believe we are the products of our environment. As Jim Ronh famously said
“You’re the average of the five people you spend time with.” What Rohn’s implying to his quote was rooted in
the law of averages, the theory that resulted of any given situation will be the average of all outcomes and
suggests that the five people you’re around the most shape you. Basically if I will be born to a different family I
will have different friends, habits and life style it will make a big difference to what I am used to my life today.