GRIEF

LOSS
DEATH
DYING
GRIEF AND LOSS
 LOSS = something of value is
gone
 GRIEF = total response to
emotional experience related
to loss.
 BEREAVEMENT = subjective
response to by loved ones.
 MOURNING = behavioral
response
GRIEF AND LOSS
Loss is a universal experience that
occurs throughout the lifespan.
Grief is a form of sorrow involving
feelings, thoughts and behaviors
caused by bereavement.
Responses to loss are strongly
influenced by one’s cultural
background.
GRIEF AND LOSS
The grief process involves
a sequence of affective,
cognitive and
psychological states as a
person responds to and
finally accepts a loss.
 STAGES OF GRIEVING
Stages (DABDA) Behaviors

Denial Refuses to believe that loss is happening

Anger Retaliation

Bargaining Feelings of Guilt, punishment for sins

Depression Laments over what has happened

Acceptance Begins to plan (e.g. wills, prosthesis)

STAGES OF GRIEVING
DENIAL
STAGES OF GRIEVING
DENIAL: interventions
 STAGES OF GRIEVING
ANGER
•“Why me?”
•This stage often occurs in an explosion
of emotion, where the bottled –up
feelings of the previous stages are
expulsed in a huge outpouring of grief.
•Whoever is in the way is likely to be
blamed.
 STAGES OF GRIEVING
ANGER: interventions
•Give space allowing them to rail and
below. The more the storm blows the
sooner it will blow itself out.
•Try not to respond in “kind”
•When anger is destructive , it must be
addressed directly. Remind the person
of appropriate and inappropriate
behavior.
STAGES OF GRIEVING
BARGAINING
• “Yes me, but…”
• The patient
attempts to
negotiate a
postponement with
God and is generally
kept a secret.
STAGES OF GRIEVING
BARGAINING: intervention
• Spend time with
patients
• Discuss importance
of valued objects
and people.
STAGES OF GRIEVING
DEPRESSION
The inevitability of
the news eventually
(and not before time)
sinks in and the
person reluctantly
accepts that it is going
to happen.
STAGES OF GRIEVING
DEPRESSION: intervention
• Be available
• Don’t attempt to cheer
person up
• Find out any religious
support
STAGES OF GRIEVING
ACCEPTANCE
• Restful time, but not
necessarily happy.
• Often begin putting their
life in order, sorting out
wills and helping others to
accept the inevitability.
STAGES OF GRIEVING
ACCEPTANCE: intervention
• Plan care to allow the
person with whom patient
is comfortable to care for
him or her
• It is important that you
don’t withdraw
DEATH
 "cessation of heart- lung
function, or of whole brain
function, or of higher brain
function.
 "either irreversible cessation of
circulatory and respiratory
functions or irreversible
cessation of all functions of the
entire brain, including the brain
stem
DEATH CONCEPT AMONG AGE
1-5 immobility and inactivity; wishes and
unrelated action responsible for action.
5-8 final but can be avoided.
9-12 understands own mortality and fears death.
12-18 fears and fantasizes avoidance.
18- 45 increased attitude awareness.
45-65 accepts mortality.
Above 65 multiple meanings; encounters and
fears.
FEARS OF DYING PERSON
FEAR OF LONELINESS
• Distancing by support people and
caregivers can occur
• Debilitation, pain, and incapacitation
• Hospital, a place that can be very
lonely
• Fear of dying alone
FEARS OF DYING PERSON
FEAR OF SORROW
• Sadness
• Letting go of hopes, dreams, the future
• Awareness of own mortality
• Grief about future losses
• Anticipatory grief that involves mourning,
coping skills.
• Grief related to diagnosis that has a long
term effect on the body such as cancer
FEARS OF DYING PERSON
FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN
• Death is an unknown state
• What will happen after death?
• What will happen to loved ones, those left
behind
FEARS OF DYING PERSON
LOSS OF SELF CONCEPT AND BODY
INTEGRITY
• Mutilation via therapy and body image
changes
• Loss of role or status
• Loss of standard of living
FEARS OF DYING PERSON
FEAR OF REGRESSION
• Ego is threatened
• Physical deterioration may
occur
• Mental deterioration may
occur
• Unable to care for self
• Become dependent on others
for care
FEARS OF DYING PERSON
FEAR OF SUFFERING AND PAIN
• May be many different types of pain or
suffering such as physical, emotional,
social, or spiritual in nature
• Altered relationships with others
• Anxiety related to the disease and
consequences of the disease
TAKING CARE OF DYING
PERSON
•The role of the nursing staff is fundamentally
supportive
•Accept the physical and mental state he is in
•Show him that they will not abandon him
•Responds to the persons needs in a physical,
psychological, social and intellectual level
TAKING CARE OF DYING PERSON
PHYSICAL LEVEL
•Biological needs, reduction and
control of pain
•Pain is a subjective experience
•Acute pain: usually temporary
•Chronic pain: interrupts normal
everyday functioning
• Medication is more effective in the
context of a holistic intervention
 TAKING CARE OF DYING PERSON
PSYCHOLOGICAL LEVEL

The only way for the person to reconcile with

these feelings is to talk to someone who is willing
to listen
Support has to respond to the person’s need for
safety, autonomy and self-control
 TAKING CARE OF DYING PERSON
SOCIAL LEVEL
•Emotional and social withdrawal
•Need of emotional withdrawal co-exists with the need of
belonging to an accepting and supportive social
environment.
•When family/medical nursing staff keep their distance in
order to protect themselves, the person experiences a
“social death”, which is sometimes more painful than the
actual death
•Nursing staff must treat the dying person without fear,
encourage relatives to be close to him, act as a liaison
with the outside world
TAKING CARE OF DYING PERSON
INTELLECTUAL LEVEL
• Need to evaluate his life as
meaningful, important, useful
•Nursing staff should stand by him
without being judgmental, let him
decide where he wants to spend
his last days, and interact with him
as a person who LIVES
 NURSING RESPONSIBILITIES
• Nurses need to take time to analyze their
own feelings about death before they can
effectively help others with terminal
illness.
• Understand that you may experience grief
• Nurses have to be strong to control their
feelings to be able to tolerate pain, illness,
and death, and to keep their distance
 NURSING RESPONSIBILITIES
• Provide relief from illness, fear and
depression
• Help clients maintain sense of security
• Help accept losses
• Provide physical comfort
ROLE OF THE CHAPLAIN
• Can be a member of the health care
team
• Assist with religious practices
• Perform rites
• Provide prayer, support, and comfort
• Assist with mobilizing other support
systems that are important to the client
• Support family members
COMMUNICATING WITH CLIENT
• Right to know
• Time frame
• Nurse needs to assess whether or not
the patient/family have been told and
what was told to them
• THE PHYSICIAN WILL TELL THE CLIENT
FIRST, NOT THE NURSE.
 COMMUNICATING WITH CLIENT
• Clarifies what was said
• Listens to concerns
• Fosters communication between MD,
client, and family
• Allows patient to express loss
• Facilitate grief through nursing process
• Be available for patient
• Assist patient to identify needs/hopes
for remainder of life
• Connect patient with proper resources
ASSIST FAMILY
• Explain procedures and equipment
• Prepare them about the dying process
• Involve family and arrange for visitors
• Encourage communication
• Provide daily updates
• Resources
• Do not deliver bad news when only one
family member is present
PHYSICAL SIGNS OF DYING
• Confusion – about time,
place, and identity of
loved ones; visions of
people and places that
are not present
• A decreased need for
food and drink, as well as
loss of appetite
 PHYSICAL SIGNS OF DYING
Drowsiness – an increased need for sleep
and unresponsiveness.

Withdrawal and decreased socialization

Skin becomes cool to the touch
Loss of bowel or bladder control
 PHYSICAL SIGN OF DYING
• Rattling or gurgling sounds while breathing
or breathing that is irregular and shallow,
decreased number of breaths per minute, or
breathing that switches between rapid and
slow
• Involuntary movements (called myoclonus),
changes in heart rate, and loss of reflexes in
the legs and arms also mean that the end of
life is near
PRONOUNCEMENT OF DEATH
•Absence of carotid pulses
•Pupils are fixed and dilated
•Absent heart sounds
•Absent breath sounds