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Socializing is the foundation on which human societies are based. The strength of
this stone decides not just your happiness, but also your existence. Socializing
makes that big difference between mere existence and living. The Merriam–
Webster On-line Learner’s Dictionary defines “socialize” as “to talk to and do
things with other people in a friendly way.” That sounds very easy, doesn’t it?
But we all know that not everybody is good at it. If socializing would have been
such a breeze, many would have been spared the unpleasant tags of loners and
recluses. Does that mean you, who are bad at socializing, will forever remain bad
at it? Certainly not, well, not unless you decide for yourself that things will never
change. If you have decided that you have had enough of finding yourself the odd
one out everywhere you go, then there are a few things that you should do with
immediate effect.
If you are one of those people who always wait for someone to initiate a
conversation, then it is high time you quit the habit and initiated a tête-à-tête
yourself. You will be surprised to see the response this change in approach will
bring. The number of acquaintances you will make in this way will, by far,
outstrip the number that you would have made if you had waited for people to
come and approach you. Let’s face it, not everybody has the time to come around
talking to all the people that they meet. So, to make sure you do not miss out on the
opportunities to meet new people, take matters in your own hands. Not only will
this send out a very receptive image of yourself, you might also find a few people
with similar interests whom you would otherwise have missed if you had waited
for them to come and talk to you.
It is difficult to talk with people about subjects which you do not have a clue. The
conversation will become a tedious affair for both you and the other person. It is,
therefore, important that you find similar interests so that the conversation takes
place on a common ground wherein both of you can contribute adequately if not
equally.
If you are at a party or any other social events, it is quite probable that there might
be a lot of distractions. If you are in a conversation with a person, make sure you
give that person your undivided attention. Maintaining eye contact is an
important aspect of any conversation. Even if you may be listening but do not
maintain eye contact, the speaker will be put off. Eye contact is important even
when you are the one talking. It is taken as a measure of the interest you have in
that conversation.
Avoid Immediate Judgements
As much as we would like to not judge people without knowing them well and
vice versa, it is a fact that there are only a few of us who can actually stop
ourselves from doing it. It is practically impossible to put off judgments about
others. We will eventually have to make them. So we should refrain from making
judgment without getting to know the other person. Prejudices will get us
nowhere while socializing.
People like talking with someone who is comfortable being himself. Do not try
pretending that you are someone else, it simply does not work. Be yourself and be
comfortable with that. You might not impress everyone, but it surely is better than
trying to impress someone by acting someone else but yourself.
A golden rule of socializing that should be kept in mind is that no matter how
much you try and improve on your shortcomings, there will remain people with
whom you will get no further than casual acquaintance. But hey, is that even a
problem? Not everyone can get along with everyone, and that is what makes
socializing so very interesting. So when you see one such acquaintance with whom
you cannot make any headway, it is better to excuse yourself and move on to
meet the next person.