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MARITAL PERSONAL
0.5
Effect Size ( r )
0.4
0.2
MARRIAGE 0.1
0.0
1. Institutional 3. Individualistic
2. Companionate Robert Bellah et al., 1985, Habits of the Heart
Esteem
Belonging
and love
Safety
Abraham Maslow
Physiological
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8/21/2015
30
Hours / Week
26
25 65%
20
15 13 60%
10 9
5
55%
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No Children at Home Children at Home
Jeffrey Dew, 2009, Social Forces General Social Survey
2. Are the two of you investing the resources required to meet those
30% expectations?
20% 3. If not, can you recalibrate?
20%
- Invest more
- Optimize resource use (the Marriage Hack)
10%
- Ask less
0%
1965 2012
Cuber & Harroff, 1965, book // O’Leary et al., 2012, SPPS
Fin.
THE ALL-OR-NOTHING
MARRIAGE
Eli J. Finkel
Northwestern University
@Eli_Finkel