Arquitecto

Personalidad
INTJ-A / INTJ-T

Relaciones románticas 03

“De todas las formas de precaución, la precaución en el amor es quizás la más fatal
para la verdadera felicidad”.
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BERTRAND RUSSELL

Los arquitectos (INTJ) abordan el romance de la forma en que lo hacen con la mayoría
de los desafíos: estratégicamente, con objetivos claros y un plan para lograrlos. En un
mundo puramente racional, este enfoque sería infalible. Por desgracia, el amor rara
vez es racional, y los arquitectos corren el riesgo de pasar por alto o malinterpretar la
imprevisibilidad de la naturaleza y el afecto humanos.

For people with this personality type, finding a compatible partner can be a particular
challenge. Rarely satisfied with things as they are, Architects can’t help but imagine
how the world could be better than it already is – and they often bring this same
mindset to the realm of love. Unfortunately, if Architects apply a relentlessly critical
eye to every potential partner, they may find themselves constantly dissatisfied.

The Woes of Dating

Architects value depth, intelligence, and unmitigated honesty. For them, a

relationship that isn’t founded on these values simply isn’t worth pursuing. It might
not come as a surprise, then, that the unspoken rules and social niceties of the dating
world can seem useless or even insulting to these personalities.

The good news is that Architects’ honesty and refusal to play games can be a breath
of fresh air when it comes to dating. The bad news? Many romantic conventions exist
for a reason – often because they make people feel comfortable or special or
intrigued. And when Architects refuse to play along, they may find dating difficult, if
not impossible.

As Architects often learn,

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As they mature and gain experience, many Architects eventually come to understand
the purpose of romantic rituals. Until that point, however, they may decide that
dating is too irrational or beneath them. Some people with this personality type might
claim to be above the “silliness” of dating in an effort to demonstrate their intellectual
superiority. Obviously, this mindset is unlikely to help Architects find or connect with a
partner.

Sometimes Architects’ best strategy is to focus on what they enjoy rather than
struggle against the rules of dating. Ironically, people with this personality type are
often most attractive when they aren’t caught up in trying to be. Just doing what they
do best – pursuing the interests that light them up – can help their confidence and
intelligence shine.

Emotion Sickness

This personality type isn’t known for conventional shows of romance, such as sending
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flowers or writing mushy notes. Most Architects spend more time thinking about love
than expressing it. But when they believe that a relationship has potential, Architects
are more than capable of giving it their all, even if that takes them out of their comfort
zone.

And a healthy, long-term relationship is pretty much guaranteed to take Architects

out of their comfort zone at some point. In particular, emotions can feel like a second
language to these personalities. When their partner shares strong feelings, Architects’
default is often to shut down or to analyze the situation, rather than simply listening
and offering support. And when it’s time for Architects to share the inner workings of
their own hearts, they may feel uncomfortable and exposed. For Architects, becoming
comfortable with their partner’s emotions – and their own – can take more than a
little practice.

Architects aren’t always ready to share their feelings, but it would be a

mistake to think that they don’t have feelings – or that those feelings don’t
run deep.

El amor rara vez es fácil, pero es un desafío que puede ayudar a que las
personalidades de los arquitectos crezcan. A través de sus relaciones, pueden
aprender a concentrarse en el presente, ponerse en contacto con sus emociones,
permanecer involucrados con otras personas y permanecer abiertos a cosas a las que
no están acostumbrados. Para un tipo de personalidad tan concentrado en el
desarrollo personal, estas oportunidades pueden hacer que el amor sea aún más
satisfactorio.

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