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By definition, counselling is a process that occurs when a client and counsellor set aside time in
order to explore difficulties which may include the stressful or emotional feelings of the client. It
is a concept that has existed for a long time. We have sought through the ages to understand
ourselves, offer counsel and develop our potential, become aware of opportunities and, in
general, help ourselves in ways associated with formal guidance practice. However, the idea that
marriage counseling can help many problems in a marriage, even including narcissism is a hotly
contested topic. This stems from the fact that narcissism is rarely treatable. According to the
Miriam-Webster dictionary, narcissism “is a disorder in which a person has an inflated sense of
self-importance. Symptoms include an excessive need for admiration, disregard for others'
feelings, an inability to handle any criticism and a sense of entitlement”. In psychological terms,
narcissism doesn’t mean self-love at least not of a genuine sort. It’s more accurate to say that
people with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) are in love with an idealized, grandiose
image of themselves. But propping up their delusions of grandeur takes a lot of work and that’s
where the dysfunctional attitudes and behaviors come in, and marriage counseling can help.
Thus, while marriage is one of the most important relationships in human societies, but it can
also be one of the most complicated, and especially so if one of the partners is narcissistic. Being
in a relationship or marriage with a narcissist can present a myriad of problems, but with proper
counselling steps, techniques and appropriate methods, marriage counseling it can be a healing
process for both the partners as a couple and the narcissistic individual as a person. This essay
therefore seeks to explain how one may counsel a person who is married to a narcissist, using
proper counselling steps, techniques and appropriate methods. That being as it may, it is
important to note that “what actually happens in counselling may depend less on the theoretical
orientation of the specific counsellor than on a set of more general features of the counselling
situation as a particular type of helping relationship”. As such, this essay which explore the
common set of principles that cuts across most forms of the counselling processes, theories and
practices.
Lavner, J.A., Lamkin, J., Miller, J.D., Campbell, W.K. and Karney, B.R., 2016. Narcissism and
newlywed marriage: Partner characteristics and marital trajectories. Personality Disorders:
Theory, Research, and Treatment, 7(2), p.169.
Fisher, J.V., 2018. The uninvited guest: Emerging from narcissism towards marriage. Routledge.
Casale, S., Rugai, L., Fioravanti, G. and Puccetti, C., 2018. Narcissism and authentic self: An
unfeasible marriage?. Personality and Individual Differences, 135, pp.131-136.
Nemiroff, R.A. and Colarusso, C.A., 1980. Authenticity and narcissism in the adult development
of the self. Annual of Psychoanalysis, 8, pp.111-129.