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Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but
whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
A. COMPANIONSHIP
Genesis 2:18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be
alone; I will make him a help meet for him.
Ecclesiastes 4:9 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for
their labor.
10 For if they fall, the one will lift up -- his fellow: but woe to him that is alone
when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.
B. COMPLETENESS
Genesis 2:21-23
21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and
he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
22 And -- the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman,
and brought her unto the man.
23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall
be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
C. PROCREATION
Genesis 1:28 And God blessed -- them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and
multiply, and replenish -- the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the
fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that
moveth upon the earth.
Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but
whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
Psalms 127:3-5
3 Lo, children are a heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.
5 Happy is the man that hath -- his quiver full of them: they shall not be
ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
D. ENJOYMENT
Genesis 29:30 And he went in also unto Rachel, and he loved also -- Rachel
more than Leah, and served with him yet seven other years.
Ecclesiastes 9:9 Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the
life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy
vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labor which thou takest
under the sun.
Proverbs 5:15 Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of
thine own well.
16 Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.
17 Let them be only thine own, and not strangers’ with thee.
18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at
all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
Isaiah 43:7 Even every one that is called by my name: for I have created him for
my glory, I have formed him; yea, I have made him.
A. ROLES OF A HUSBAND
1. Family Leader
Ephesians 5:21-33
21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the
church: and he is the savior of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their
own husbands in every thing.
2. Ideal Lover
Eph. 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and
gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or
wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife
loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it,
even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined
unto his wife, and they two shall be -- one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and -- the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you -- in particular so love his wife even as
himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
3. Provider
1 Timothy 5:8 But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his
own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
4. Family Priest/Pastor
Eph. 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and
gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or
wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
2. Home Manager
Her basic domain is HOME: Cleanliness and orderliness are important.
3. Mother Teacher
Eph. 5:16 Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.
17 Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord
is.
18 And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the
Spirit;
19 Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing
and making melody in your heart to the Lord;
20 Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of
our Lord Jesus Christ;
21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
5. Lover
Being alluring to the husband in her manners & deportment & responsibilities.
Titus 2:3-5
3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not
false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to
love their children,
5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own
husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
2. COMMITMENT
3. COMMUNICATION
3 Parts In Communication
-talking
-listening Note: Listening is the hardest part of communication.
-understanding
4. CONFLICT RESOLUTION
Handle the conflict as it arises.
Confront each other courteously.
Stick to the issue.
Seek compromise.
Listen as much as you talk.
Look forward to reconciliation.
V. 10 REASONS WHY LOVE IS NOT ALL THERE IS TO MARRIAGE
1. Emotional adjustments
2. Goals QUESTIONS TO ASK IN
3. Intelligence SPIRITUALITY:
4. Education 1.Does he/she reads & prays
5. Vocation daily?
6. Health 2. Church attendance?
7. Talents 3. Obedience to God’s Word?
8. Family Involvements 4. Personal Testimony?
9. Friends
10. Spirituality
1. One or both persons fail to understand the stages and changes of individual
developments , the seasons of their marriage and how they affect their marriage.
2. People have an inadequate basis upon which they build their personal identity
and security.
3. Because their partner were never prepared for marriage & because their
expectation about marriage were totally unrealistic.