Sir, can I ask you a question about your family's situation?

“In my family? To my parents? Since 4th year high school, grade 10 ”.

ahhhh so at that time did you hear a lot of rumors?

"Yes I myself have heard and seen evidence that there is something in them."

What did you feel when you know about your parents’ extramarital affair?

Of course, you can feel sad because you may wonder why something like this happened, and as a child of
God, our family is quite religious; however, I am not a catholic, I am INC. My parents are very religious
and active in the church, so you can't really expect their relationship to lead to such  situations because
religious people know what is right and wrong because they believe in doctrines, so I had a lot of
worries, sadness, and fear about what would happen to me in the future if my families didn't support me
and I couldn't afford to pay my school fees, especially in college.

How hard was it to be in that situation?

It is extremely difficult to face such a situation because the children will suffer and be affected,
particularly our mental, social, and emotional well-being. It is also extremely difficult because you see
your parents as role models who will care for and love you, but you will only know that they will cause us
to suffer.

So sir, are you still carrying what happened to your family?

"Yes, I have had trust issues in marriages when not everyone is faithful to their partners since I
experienced having a broken family."

Are there any changes in your way of life after you learned that one of your parents committed infidelity
sir?

Yes, it had a huge impact on me, especially since I was still studying. I was an honor student from
elementary to third year college, and I always participated in quiz bee contests, winning and taking home
trophies. However, since I encountered the thing that gave me weakness, I am no longer an honor
student, and I have not even been placed in quiz bee contests because it is very difficult for you to carry
your family's problems.

have you lost motivation sir to study?

"Yes, I lost motivation because dealing with such challenges at a young age is difficult, and it has a
massive effect on me."

So in your given situation sir, are there any changes in your social life or changes because you are
affected?

Yes, there have been significant changes in my social life, particularly in my coping mechanism, since I
experienced the breakdown of my family. I have learned to become addicted and get along with my
friends, and we all know the influence of gangs, especially since they have bad deeds, so I began to
immerse myself in various character flaws as early as my fourth year.
Are there any changes in your communications since one of your parents commits infidelity?

Yes, my relationship with my parents has changed since they defied the entire plan, and even within our
family, there are times when I no longer respect my parents for various reasons.

When it comes to personal concerns, as you have already faced parental infidelity sir, how do you keep
up or handle these instances, especially when you are one of the victims?

Now I concentrate on my profession as a teacher, and instead of dwelling on the past or what happened
previously, I prefer to make myself happy in various facets of life.

We have our own adversities in life, what are your strategies or plans to solve your problems especially
since you are a victim of parental infidelity?

"Praying is one of the things to do since I am a religious person who believes that the troubles we face
are only transitory and that there is an end if we believe in ourselves that we can conquer them.

How did you handle the problems given the circumstances you are in?

So, when I struggle with my challenges, I don't see it as see it as a negative thing, rather I see it as a
challenge in my life because it's one of the ways a person may grow and develop. As long as you can
tackle every challenge and hardship in your life, there are numerous opportunities and motivations.

What were your primary concerns when you find out about the family conflict?

Yes, there are many concerns one of which is the possibility of our family being separated which is
exactly what happened to my family, and my second concern is education, who will teach me?who will
sustain me? and will I be able to achieve my goals and dreams without the support of my family after 5
years? So many concerns arose when I was just thinking about it.

How will you describe your coping mechanisms in overcoming your problems?

I mentioned earlier that my coping mechanism is to focus on my dream and career which is teaching, I
give challenging to each of my roles because I know that it is one to surpass all the problems that I will
face and will also help me develop and improve as an individual.

Aside from a shattered household, what changes have you seen in your situation?

There is always something missing and we can no longer sense the essence of the family as if there is no
spark and you can no longer call our house a sweet home because of the circumstances.

In unfortunate situation, do you still consider that there are good effects? What are those?

“It depends on the situation how you handle parental infidelity, but for me it has good effects even if my
parents are separated because it makes me stronger to fight for life even if there is no parent to support
and I have learned to be independent because since the 4th year I have been looking for different jobs
just to sustain my studies.
How does your experience shape your understanding and help you achieve your success?

In life we can really say that the fight is fair because no matter how good or bad you are we are still the
same we can all experience so many problems and my experience shapes my understanding and help me
to achieve my success is because of my mindset that every problem is there I have to face and fight and
also because of my coping mechanism where I am already prepared for what may happen because of my
experiences.

What pieces of advice can you give to children who are also experiencing this kind of situation?

Just keep hoping and sticking to your aspirations and goals, and whenever a problem arises, think of it as
a challenge and lust, and focus on the things that bring you joy, because at the end of the day, all that
matters is that we are happy with ourselves and that we love ourselves.