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stages is a powerful call to show up in our lives fully, Podcast
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we have long denied ourselves which is to live our lives Sustainable
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In this podcast we talk about how knowing these regrets The Leap Stories
shaped Bronnie’s own life, especially to take leaps, work
as a creative entrepreneur living with chronic pain, and
become a first time mum in her mid-40s, as explored in
her new book, Bloom.
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Kylie: Today, we’re in the company of Bronnie Ware, a
former palliative carer, singer and songwriter, speaker
and author of several books including the best-selling
The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, and her latest book
Bloom: A Tale of Courage, Surrender, and Breaking
Through Upper Limits.
Kylie: Absolutely.
Kylie: Yes. So, digging into the book and what you’ve
talked about in terms of your connection with nature
and searching for both finding a home that’s close to
nature and also spending time in nature was really
important, as I mentioned earlier in your recovery.
Would you like to spend a few moments describing what
you’ve covered in the latest book in the latest chapter
that you talk about what’s happened in your life that led
you to writing about Bloom.
Bronnie: Yes.
Bronnie: Absolutely.
But once you get that courage and you allow yourself to
be real and vulnerable, it’s just immense the joy that can
come from that. Because you can just be real then.
Bronnie: Yes.
Bronnie: Yes.
Bronnie: Yes.
Kylie: Yeah.
Kylie: Yes. And what was it like the moment that you
started to claim that identity as being a creative person?
Bronnie: I did it with one foot in, one foot out. What I
did was I left banking … I’d gone back into banking
when I came back from overseas, but only as a temp. I
couldn’t do Monday to Friday, but I kept the banking
skills up while I was developing. Photography was
where I first started, writing inspirational quotes and
taking nature photos. So I started selling those as
markets while I was still working in banks for a little
while. Despite the island in the middle, I went back to
banking. So it can take awhile to break the old habits.
It was only then, and then I wrote the blog about the five
regrets, that I realised that all of those years of looking
after dying people weren’t just to fund my creative path.
They were the seed of my creative path. And when I
blended all of that together and realised, like I said, that
no skill is ever wasted. I looked at all my banking
history, my hospitality history, being able to cook for
people, that helped me with my patients and their
families. When it all came together it helped me to
surrender, because I realised that life knows our needs
so much better than we do. And in the big picture, it was
already in place just waiting for my readiness.
Bronnie: Nothing.
Kylie: Nothing.
Kylie: Yeah. I would like to switch tracks just for the last
part of our conversation, because there’s a topic that
keeps coming up in my work with coaching clients. And
that’s the topic of grief. And it’s something that we aren’t
really taught to deal with as children, we’re often very
protected from grief. Perhaps we aren’t in an
environment where we have an opportunity to
experience it, or we are very much being shielded from
the pain of grief. But it’s an undeniable emotion that we
will experience throughout our lifetime. And I’m
wondering through your work experience in dealing
with people in their final stages of living, and being
around their families at the same time. But also you talk
about the grief of some of your expectations in your new
book. Of things not going the way that you thought that
they would. What do you know about grief that you wish
that more people knew?
Kylie: Yes, because you can’t have the good stuff without
the hard stuff.
Bronnie: Yes.
Kylie: I know you’ve also done a Ted Talk and one of the
things you talked in the Ted Talk was the difference
between self-love or self-compassion and selfishness.
Because often people will think that self-love and self-
compassion piece that’s kind of just an easy way out. Or
for people that don’t think of anyone but themselves. But
what would you say to that?
Kylie: And that just seems like the perfect cycle of what’s
happened in your life and what you talk about in Bloom.
From the giving and the giving and then actually
needing the help and the assistance and the support and
the surrender yourself. That just is a perfect circular
kind of story that I’ve seen play out in your life. So it’s
incredible to see those lessons play out.
I still live with RA, but I live with it in a way that it’s just
a very gentle friend that says, “Hang on don’t push
yourself too far,” because life can be gentle and
beautiful if you allow it to be. And I feel that it is still
reversing. I’m still noticing improvements. And like I
said, one of my fingers bent down and actually touched
my palm again not long ago. And I said to Elena, “Check
this out, look what’s happened.” And she’s like, “Oh my
goodness mummy, that’s fantastic.” So I’m continuing to
improve and for that I’m enormously grateful.
Kylie: Yes, and after reading the book and hearing about
your entry into motherhood in your 40s dealing with a
chronic pain condition, and still creating a wonderfully
creative entrepreneurial for yourself that enables you
also to be a wonderful mum, and contributor to the
broader community. I’m grateful that you also have had
the courage to choose that path in your life. And to fully
acknowledge the choices that you have. So thank you for
putting the work out into the world that you have, and
sharing your stories with us. Because in sharing your
stories we will find ourselves in part of that as well.
Bronnie: Okay.
Bronnie: My courage.
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