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B-Group Lesson
###Icebreaker
What is the most uplifting thing your spouse has ever told you? (For singles, a parent,
coach, or sibling)
###Prayer
Lord, teach us to build up others with our words.
###Key Scripture
>Proverbs 18:20–22 (NLT): “Wise words satisfy like a good meal; the right words bring
satisfaction. The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the
consequences. The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord.”
In the passage from Proverbs, God describes the fruit of our lips as being productive and
satisfying. Then the goodness of marriage is discussed. This is not a coincidence. Our words
have a powerful effect on our marriages.
Matthew 12:35–37 (NLT) says, “A good person produces good things from the treasury of a
good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. And I tell
you this, you must give an account on judgment day for every idle word you speak. The words
you say will either acquit you or condemn you.”
##Discussion
We will be judged for every idle word we speak. Do you feel confident that you are growing in
control of your tongue, or do you lack control of your words? Share with the group.
There may be a delay between sowing and reaping, but the harvest is inevitable. Harsh words
do not disappear but tend to linger. We must repent of them and put them under the blood of
Jesus.
>##Discussion
>Are your words mostly edifying, or have you developed the bad habit of sowing bad seeds?
What are you trying to build with your spouse? Share with the group.
Let’s look at how we can start communicating better in marriage. First, look into your spouse’s
eyes when he or she speaks. This will help you focus and not tune out your spouse. Next, open
your ears and listen. Finally, open your mouth and speak. If you think you have nothing to say,
begin by encouraging your partner.
>##Discussion
>How would you rate the communication level in your marriage? If asked, how would your
spouse answer the same question? Do you think your spouse is satisfied, or does it feel like a
desert to him or her? Share with the group.
###Application
Make a commitment today to improve the positivity of your words. Eliminate critical and harsh
words. Don’t create a desert in your marriage because you refuse to have meaningful
conversations.
###Action Point
Repent of harsh words. Begin to praise your spouse. Your partner will become powerful and
beautiful.
###Icebreaker
Who was president when you got married?
###Prayer
Thank You, Lord, that Your mercies are new every morning.
###Key Scripture
>Exodus 34:6–7 ESV: “The Lord passed before him and proclaimed, ‘The Lord, the
Lord, a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in covenant love
[hesed] and faithfulness, keeping covenant love for thousands, forgiving iniquity and
transgression and sin.’”
>##Discussion
>Many people do not value the legal contract of marriage and instead opt to live
together in open sin. Why do you think that happens?
When we mirror God’s faithfulness, we respond to our spouse in love and forgiveness.
Hesed in marriage declares the following:
Merciful—“I will show you compassion when you are at your lowest point.”
Gracious—“I will be generous and give to you whatever you need, even if you don’t
deserve it.”
>##Discussion
>Who shows the most mercy in your marriage: you or your spouse? Share with the
group.
Slow to anger—“I will have infinite patience with you, giving you time for God to change
you.”
Steadfast love—”I will be devoted to you for the rest of our lives, regardless of what we
go through.”
Faithfulness—“I will be loyal to you and never bring my affection to an outsider.”
>##Discussion
>Are you easy to approach to receive the loyal affection of your spouse? Share with the
group.
Forgive and forget all the retained memories that you hold on to in your mind: the words
spoken, the disappointments, the times your spouse was not there for you, the times
they failed you spiritually, financially, or even morally.
>##Discussion
>Why should a disappointed spouse put steadfast love, or hesed, above their own
personal feelings? Share with the group.
###Application
Everyone fails in marriage. We are frail and human, but through Christ we can forgive
and show steadfast love, preserving our marriage covenant. You can have a reset with
your spouse only if you have a reset with Lord. Anything is possible with the Lord.
###Action Point
Let mercy be your default response this week. Let your judge and jury take the week off.
Be slow to anger, and value loyalty as your highest goal.