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Document of Parenting

Stiwel Ruiz

Brigham Young University - Idaho

Family Relations FAML 160

Abigail Salmon

3 December, 2022
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Abstract

This document contains accounts of my personal and intimate life. It may not be encouraging,

but it is something that many people experience. I don't know if these anecdotes are inspirational,

but they are partly true facts about my personal parenting style.
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Document of Parenting

My father, although he was not my biological father, was very strict with me. I will

put my father in the "authoritarian parenting style" section. Every single thing I didn't do

right, he corrected through physical and verbal violence. When I was an only child I

received moderate punishment; once my siblings arrived, the punishment doubled

because I was the oldest. I don't know if that kind of parenting had a positive or negative

impact on me. I remember that many times when I was punished, I either received

physical-verbal punishment, or I was restricted from eating and spending the night in the

dark and cold of an abandoned orchard. I don't know if I suffered traumas because of this,

I only know that I rescued the positive from this; and that is that it taught me to be more

disciplined and organized in everything.

I think my needs were affective rather than disciplinary, because my mother was the only

one who looked out for me, since my biological father abandoned us when I was only 5

years old. I needed a father figure.

The positive outcomes were:

-Increased self-discipline.

-Self-sufficiency.

- Personal independence.

- Strong character.

I joined the church when I was 15 years old. I am not very proud to say this, but I forged

my parents' signature to have the baptism take place; only 5 people attended, and my

parents never knew I was a member of the church until I decided to leave for the mission

under the pretext that I would become independent. When I arrived at the MTC, the
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president called my parents and summoned them to explain what I was doing there.

Although they never accepted it, they let me go. I say all this because it was in the church

where I had my first friends. I met people who did not make fun of me for being a

stutterer, because I was. At school everyone made fun of me and made fun of my family,

I can say that almost most of my youth and childhood was total bullying. The church

saved me from all of that. My youth leaders gave me all the example and love that I did

not receive at home. They taught me to study the scriptures and speak eloquently. I

longed to have a family or a father like those leaders who inspired me to love my Savior.
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References

Chapter 12 of the text, "Becoming a Parent." & my personal Experience.