Chapter 2 - Show respect for other’s people opinions; Never

say “You’re wrong”

 You can bring the most logical arguments to the table, yet you can’t directly convince
someone that they’re wrong.
 Instead, you could let them know that you’re of a different opinion but also that you
MAY BE WRONG.
 Because you let them know that you may be wrong, people will open up to their idea that
they could be wrong too.
 As Benjamin Franklin did, I should remove words like “certainly”, “undoubtedly” or
anything that means 100% and also never says the words “You’re wrong”.
 People don’t like their beliefs to be contradicted because it attacks their self-esteem not
necessarily their beliefs.
 I should permit myself to understand what somebody else wants and precisely what it
means instead of judging immediately.
 I should ask questions about people’s points of view of their current problem that has to
do with me…
 And let him know that the reason has to do with one of his desired outcomes.
 “I judge people by their own principles - not by my own”
 “Agree with thine adversary quickly” - Jesus
 “Be diplomatic. It will help you gain your point” - King Akhtoi
 So I should show respect for other people’s opinions, let them know that I may be wrong
and never tell them that they’re wrong.
 “You can not teach a man anything. You can only help him find it within himself.” -
Galileo
 “Be wiser than other people if you can, but do not tell them so.” - Lord Chesterfield
 “One thing only I know, and that is that I know nothing” - Socrates

Chapter 3 - Admit that you’re wrong, quickly and

emphatically
 When somebody wants to tell you of something wrong that you did,

You should admit that you’re wrong before he even starts saying something.

 By admitting that you’re wrong, you automatically put the other person in a position
where

The only way he can feel important is by taking the attitude of showing mercy.

So you should admit that the other person is right and that you’re absolutely wrong.

 If I know that someone will rebuke something to me,

It will be much easier to start self-criticizing myself than listening to his complaints.

 Criticize yourself about everything that the other person thinks, wants to, or intends to
say.

Your mistakes will probably be minimized and forgiven.

 Having the courage to admit your own errors will solve the problem caused by the error,

And also clears you of any guilt or defensiveness.

 By repeating that it’s your fault until the other person agrees, you will often gain his
respect.
 Any fool can try to defend his mistakes,

But it raises one above the herd and gives him a feeling of nobility to admit one’s mistakes.

 If you are wrong, but you admit your mistake quickly and emphatically,

Your mistake will most likely be forgiven.

 When we’re right,

It’s more beneficial trying to win the other person to our way of thinking gently and tactfully

 People, including myself, are wrong a lot of times if we are honest with ourselves
 When we’re wrong, it’s beneficial to admit your mistake quickly and with enthusiasm

It’s a lot more fun than trying to defend one’s self anyways.

 “By fighting, you never get enough, but by yielding, you get more than you
expected.” (yield = a ceda)