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Sometimes we might think that linguistic especially sociolinguistics might be a very hard topic to
discuss, but in reality, we do use sociolinguistics theories and intepertations in our daily life and might
as well these theories help us to maintain better and more delightful relations between the closest
people in our life, and in this discussion, we will talk about how politeness theory application can help
us to maintain a better relationship with our children or in other words, THE PHENOMENON OF FACE IN
PARENTING
As a language phenomenon, face is defined as an individual’s desire to self image, a way an individual
wants to be seen.
Some common problems that might happen when we are trying to communicate with our children,
especially around hard and problematic topics, is that we are confused on how we are supposed to talk
about those issues without putting them in an uncomfortable way also known as without threatening
their face.
Dealing with parenting there will always be parts where we want to make request, declare feeling and
express opinions, but this might as well THREAT THEIR FACE OR ALSO KNOWN AS FTA ( FACE
THREATENING ACT) which is something that we don’t want to achieve, since in a realationship the main
goal is to achieve a win win solution. How we can make our children do the actions we ask, withouit
making them feeling un heard pushed and pressured.
Therefore we need to have the sense on how we are able to navigate the conversation.
Here we point out their capability and self awareness but we give them another reminder on
what we want them to do.
“ My daughter I understand that In this scale of your age you are much liking going out and
having fun but you must stop getting out too much since you are going to face your important
exams. Of course you are still able to go on weekends and when you don’t have much deadlines.
You are still free to choose the right time for you to enjoy your weekends”
By those two examples we can see that using one way or combining both of them might as well
work very good and depends of our needs of communication . Understanding the power of
communication is very important and also it helps us to achieve the goal of what we are aiming
to dicssuss in hardships.