This document discusses the importance of maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships. It states that just as the physical heart needs an inflow and outflow of blood, the emotional heart needs to both give and receive love. It notes that rejecting or concealing love can be harmful, and many people do not take responsibility for how they resist love from others. The document concludes that while taking responsibility for what lies within one's own boundaries is difficult, setting and maintaining boundaries is important work.
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This document discusses the importance of maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships. It states that just as the physical heart needs an inflow and outflow of blood, the emotional heart needs to both give and receive love. It notes that rejecting or concealing love can be harmful, and many people do not take responsibility for how they resist love from others. The document concludes that while taking responsibility for what lies within one's own boundaries is difficult, setting and maintaining boundaries is important work.
This document discusses the importance of maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships. It states that just as the physical heart needs an inflow and outflow of blood, the emotional heart needs to both give and receive love. It notes that rejecting or concealing love can be harmful, and many people do not take responsibility for how they resist love from others. The document concludes that while taking responsibility for what lies within one's own boundaries is difficult, setting and maintaining boundaries is important work.
freely to you, Corinthians, and opened wide our hearts to you.
We are not withholding our affection from you, but you are withholding yours from us. As a fair exchange—I speak as to my children—open wide your hearts also” (2 Cor. 6:11–13). Our loving heart, like our physical one, needs an inflow as well as an outflow of lifeblood. And like its physical counterpart, our heart is a muscle, a trust muscle. This trust muscle needs to be used and exercised; if it is injured it will slow down or weaken. We need to take responsibility for this loving function of ourselves and use it. Love concealed or love rejected can both kill us. Many people do not take ownership for how they resist love. They have a lot of love around them, but do not realize that their loneliness is a result of their own lack of responsiveness. Often they will say, “Others’ love can not ‘get in.’” This statement negates their responsibility to respond. We maneuver subtly to avoid responsibility in love; we need to claim our hearts as our property and work on our weaknesses in that area. It will open up life to us.
We need to take responsibility for all of the above areas of
our souls. These lie within our boundaries. But taking care of what lies within our boundaries isn’t easy; neither is allowing other people to take care of what lies within their boundaries. Setting boundaries and maintaining them is hard work. But, as you’ll see in the next chapter, boundary problems take some very recognizable shapes.