WHO

SEXUAL PURITY
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What You Need to Know About Sexual Purity.

THE JOURNEY OF A CHRISTIAN LADY

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 CONTENT

Introduction

1. Virginity vs Sexual Purity

2. The Importance of Sexual Purity in your Walk with God
3. Biko, will this Sexual Purity Thing Work?
4. There is BEAUTY in Waiting
5. It is Worth the Wait
6. Secure Your White
7. Do not Awaken Love Early
8. KONJI (A Christian Sister's Sexual Urge Experience)
9. Setting Boundaries in Godly Relationships
10. How to Overcome Pornography and Masturbation?
11. Sexual Purity Is an Intentional Fight
12. The Battle of the Flesh

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INTRODUCTION

We have been told severally to stay pure and flee from sexual immorality but the problem many of us face is the how and why we
should stay pure. When we are not aware of the struggles of staying pure and how to fight to stay pure we may carelessly walk into
temptations because we have not built ourselves to stay pure.

Sexual purity is first unto God and when we begin to see it as a commitment and part of our obligations as Christians we will know it
is helpful for our walk and growth. Holiness and consecration is non-negotiable in our walk with God.

We must know how helpful staying pure is as young Christians and I believe this book will guide and direct us in a great extent to walk
through the journey of purity. This book will open your eyes to the battles and challenges you will face in this journey of purity and
how to fight and stand steadfast.

To every reader, I am delighted to share my experiences and show you how I have stayed pure through God's word. God bless you as
you read through this book.

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VIRGINITY VS SEXUAL PURITY

I made the decision to remain a virgin from my childhood and no matter what happened I vowed to keep my virginity. My parents told
me the importance of remaining virgin and I even promised to stay virgin which I did. Yet, I got involved in several impure acts but I
bothered less since I was able to keep my virginity INTACT. I was more concerned with remaining a virgin than being sexually pure. So
technically I was a virgin but sexually DEFILED!

I struggled with remaining pure, from what I saw in the media, to what I watched in the movies, everything around me was enough to
keep me impure. Soon I became curious about pornography, sex and its pleasure. My mind was filled with lust, I wanted to have a
taste and this dragged me into pornography and masturbation but technically I was a VIRGIN. I got involved in several ungodly
relationships but, I protected the HYMEN with all I had yet I was not sexually pure! It cost me my relationship with GOD. I struggled to
be free from the chains of addiction, I remained bound until MERCY said NO.

Virginity they say is the pride of a woman and this is why godly parents wish to raise daughters who can remain virgins until marriage,
so they can proudly say I trained her well but is it enough to remain a virgin yet impure? We raise the flags of virginity but yet we
struggle with secret sins of immorality, we struggle with pornography and masturbation and still lust in our hearts. if the world claps
for us for remaining virgins can God also smile at us for remaining pure?

PURITY is a different fight. Virginity alone does not define purity. Purity goes beyond keeping the HYMEN intact, stopping the
PENETRATION, not being involved in the SEX. We capitalize on the sex but it is more than abstaining from sex but from immoral acts!

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When they ask virgins to stand up you boldly stand raising your hands for the congregation to see but yet in the dark you let him hold
you tightly, touch you, run his fingers through your vagina so technically you are still a virgin!

You stop him from penetration but you go naked for him, you go for oral and anal sex to protect your hymen but you remained a virgin,
technically you are a virgin but you are defiled! You are a sexual purity advocate—so because you think it is about remaining a virgin?
you condemn those who made the mistake, insult single mothers and raise your shoulder high yet you touch yourself in the dark to
satisfy your sexual urges, technically you are still a virgin but defiled!

We have abused the presence of sexual purity and replaced it with the presence of the hymen. We think virginity is the landmark of
purity and the gateway to heaven; you may be positive to the virginity test yet lack God's commendation. If we receive all the praise
for keeping our virginity can God commend us for remaining pure? You may have forgotten that your body is HIS temple and should
remain clean and pure for him to abide. Purity is more than abstaining from sex but abstaining from everything immoral and impure.
it is abstaining from pornography, movies with naked adults, music videos proclaiming nudity.

Sexual purity starts from keeping your mind free from lust and lustful desires and keeping your eyes off nudity. It starts from minding
the books you read, the songs you listen to, the movies you watch and keeping your conversations pure. For if you say you abstain
from sex but discuss sex it is like adding fuel to the fire you are trying to quench!

Let us fight with all we have, the fight of purity starts from the mind, putting on the whole armor of God, wearing the helmet of
salvation, standing on guard ready to conquer those desires as they try to lead us into temptation, leaving every toxic relationship and
fighting for our position as SONS OF GOD!

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This is a fight, a fight from the mind with studying the word and travailing on our knees. For if we decide to stand with sexual purity
we must be ready to fight for purity! If you are defiled already, just as MERCY said NO and God saved me from addiction and impurity—
if you can open your heart asking God for help—He is willing to save and redeem you right now.

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THE IMORTANCE OF PURITY IN YOUR WALK WITH GOD

“Do you not know and realize that anyone that is joined with a prostitute is one with her?” (1Corinthians 6:16) Do you not know that
your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit Who lives within you, whom you have received as a gift from God? You are not your own, you
were bought with a price. So then, honor God and bring glory to Him in your body. (19-20)

Reading through the scripture above you will see how we have been asked to shun immorality and all sexual looseness because the
sin of immorality is against your own body in verse 18. We can see some implications of not staying pure in these scriptures and they
are real and true. Sexual immorality in any form can stop your relationship with God and cripple the work of the Holy Spirit in your life,
no matter how harmless you see it; you need to live a holy life to work with God.

It could be a little kiss or romance, a quick experience of sex and it could affect your walk with God and the dimension God wants to
lead you per season. You may still be preaching well or ministering but just like Samson, if you do not come back to God early enough,
you may go down the drain. Aside the physical effects of sexual immorality, there are spiritual implications and God has gone ahead
of you to bring deliverance and set you free from the shackles of the enemy.

The Holy Spirit cannot dwell in you if you are not pure. This is the trick the devil brings to people especially young believers. He will
trick them into living an impure life, destroying their relationship with God. Then he fills their heart with all guilt and lies, making them
see the impossibility of being set free and forgiven by God.

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Many Christians have fallen into the pit of masturbation, pornography and unhealthy relationships that have hindered their fellowship
with God. God wants to set you free and as you read on you will see that it is possible to live a pure and holy life by the help of the
Holy Spirit. I want you to see the importance of staying pure and choosing purity over everything else. As you read through, you will
see how to go through your journey as a believer and your stand for purity. There is so much God has prepared for you, you must
stand for purity if you want to enter into the fullness of all God has call you into!

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BIKO, WILL THIS SEXUAL PURITY THING WORK?

You may really want to be pure but yet don’t know how to go about it. You are shouting I stand for purity but yet it looks so hard and
impossible. You don't know how to say “No!” to the toxic relationship you have been securing for year’s. It seems so hard. Is it possible
to stay PURE? You have so many questions to ask. You have been trying so hard to stay away from masturbation but you keep going
back to your vomit!

The same porn videos you deleted, you are downloading with the limited data you have. The same guy you shut the door at you are
welcoming with open arms! How do I stay pure with all of the nude pictures everywhere, like, is it possible? I doubt this purity thing.
The big question is: Do you want to stay pure? If yes, then you will start by surrendering your life to Christ. Let Him be the King over
your life; give Him the key to your life. Let Him take over your emotions and live your life to please Him alone! Decide to stay pure, be
intentional about purity and take drastic decisions even the painful ones to stay pure!

Believe you are saved—now dead to sin —you are alive to God and righteousness. Walk and live by the leadings of the Holy Spirit:
subject the flesh and submit your lustful desires unto God. You must understand that you are dead to sin and should no longer live in
it. (Romans 6:2) Also, please be reminded that SEXUAL PURITY is a fight and it is worth fighting for! It is a fight only Jesus can help you
win, if you depend on Him alone.

We should not be shouting "I stand for Purity" online when offline we will get involved in immorality! This sexual purity thing seems
hard but with Jesus as our anchor, we will overcome!

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While you take the decision to stay pure, depend on the one who has the power to keep you pure and help you overcome everything
that might rob you of your purity! Build a prayer life and engage in constant study of God's word! I am so emotional as I write, because
I believe God will bring forth great miracles from this! We will not relent
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Declare with me: I Stand Unapologetically for Purity!

What Does Sexual Purity Really Mean?

Sexual purity is beyond staying away from fornication or protecting the hymen. It is a lifestyle that involves all you do and stand for.
Sexual purity is modesty; It requires being intentional about how you dress. Sexual purity is setting boundaries for yourself even if
they call you HARD TO GET! Sexual purity is staying away from everything impure even in your words and thoughts. Sexual purity is
not getting involved in dirty vulgar talks that add no VALUE to you and others around you! Sexual purity is refusing to book that hotel
room for a friend and reminding him of the consequences of immorality! Sexual purity is refusing to stay in dark corners with a brother
or sister, even if it is a prayer or counseling session. "Fleeing from all appearances of evil"!

Sexual purity is saying NO to flirting and sexual advances, refusing to let a brother touch you romantically whether in private or public.
Sexual purity is refusing to send your nudes to anyone, even if they are engaged and betrothed to you! Sexual purity is saying NO to
porn sites and nude pictures, staying away from masturbation, oral sex and the likes of them!

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Sexual purity is refusing to give just a little kiss, a little peck, a little romance but waiting for the right time to explore. Sexual purity
does not only involve SEX and VIRGINITY but your words, your thoughts and your deeds. The way you appear, the way you interact
and the way you think! If we are saying YES to SEXUAL PURITY then we must say YES to all these and even more.

Sexual Purity is First unto God.

Some years back, I saw a movie that educates young ladies on the importance of virginity, young ladies who swore to remain virgins
in a particular church and they wore white gowns during the ceremony for virgins to show they were still virgins. They had seniors
who have stayed longer as virgins and the younger girls looked up to them as mentors but little did they know despite the oath of
virginity, their mentors went ahead to kiss, smooch and romance. To them the oath was the presence of the hymen so they decided
to secure the hymen and still fulfill their lustful desires. This went on until one of the supposed mentors was caught at a corner by a
younger one kissing her boyfriend.

It didn't end well as the other lady felt cheated. We should know that sexual purity is not just raising flags of virginity but remaining
100% pure. It is not just taking oaths to secure the hymen but staying away from sexual sins, all of them! Maybe you were forced to
take a virginity oath and it seems like bondage, so you decide to get involved in masturbation and pornography just to make your
parents happy. What about God's commendation of you? We should not only raise flags of virginity but purity, it is the purity God sees,
and it is purity God requires from us.

If we go about trying to please our parents and pastors by abstaining from sex, then we should not forget that God seeks more than
abstinence from us—Because we are his temple and we must stay pure if we want to please Him in totality. We must decide not to

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negotiate purity; we should keep fighting for purity! We should keep standing firm knowing full well that it is your commitment first
to God to stay pure and holy.

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THERE IS BEAUTY IN WAITING!

Who told you there is no gain in saving the pleasure of kissing, romance, smooching until marriage? Who lied to you that you are only
starving your lustful desires when you refuse to have sex before marriage? They may call you Jew yet it is not enough reason to give
up your waiting season for a pleasure of few minutes.

He wants to marry you but he wants to have you in bed first, you are about to say yes because all your mates are married and you are
under pressure from your family, SEX is not enough to keep a man, say NO! There is beauty in WAITING! Who told you every man who
approaches you wants sex from you? We still have good men Sis! we still have men who wants to please God. Add value to yourself
and you will attract good men!

Who told you we no longer have godly sisters that are willing to wait until the right time? It only depends on the type of ladies you are
attracted to. If you find yourself attracted or attracting ladies that are not godly, then search your heart. Who told you it is impossible
to keep a pure relationship? Who told you it is impossible to keep your mind free from lust? They said what they said but this is what
I have to say, you can keep a pure relationship even in our generation, you can keep your mind free from lust, YES YOU CAN!

You want to disagree? Are you saying Jesus died for nothing? Are you saying His BLOOD was a waste on the CROSS? I hope not! He
died for your sins, to save you from sin, lust and the flesh! He sent the HOLYSPIRIT to guide you and help you remain strong! He has
given you free access to Him through PRAYERS and the body of CHRIST to edify you!

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There is BEAUTY in waiting. Your DIGNITY is preserved when you wait. You cannot partake in HIS glory when you refuse to partake in
His sufferings. You must wait if you want your home to be glorified with Christ! “Those who wait upon the Lord shall renew their
strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint” [Isaiah 40:31].
You will be strengthened when you wait, be patient enough to receive God's reward.

You may have defiled the bed, lost your virginity or engaged in any form of sexual immorality yet the Lord is here to crown you again
if you can WAIT, that you defiled the bed before now is not enough reason to continue, retrace your steps and you will be made PURE
again❤

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IT IS WORTH THE WAIT!

I know you wish to be cuddled in someone's arms and receive a million kisses daily, I know you wish to have someone you will call
yours and spend every night with. I know you wish to be with the man or woman who loves you. I know you want all these but wait
for it because it is worth the wait.

We wish to be cuddled and receive a thousand kisses daily from the man or woman we love but we will wait because it is better to be
cuddled by the right man at the right time, who is willing to help you achieve God’s plan and purpose for you in this generation, that
one person that completes and compliments you, the one God has prepared for you. It is a great expectation you should not miss out
of hurry, it is worth the wait.

I hear people say I need to have sex with him/her so I can test their ability in bed. In Zion that's not how we do it, if you cannot wait,
we wait! The pre-wedding pictures of others should not make you say yes to anyone when God did not give you a go ahead, it is worth
the wait! Every other person is talking about sex and their experiences and you may desire some taste of it but, it is worth the wait!

While we wait, let all communications remain pure and all the talks about sex and its pleasures wait too. While we wait, we set our
boundaries, no romance, no personal vigils in your room, no kisses, keep it until marriage. While we wait, we control our desires by
minding the movies we watch, not staying in your house till dawn, no dark corners!

While we wait, we flee sexual lust no matter how safe it looks; we flee no matter how tempting it looks. While we wait, be mindful of
everything that will lead you to the bed before marriage, flee from anything that will defile you before walking down the aisle. While

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we wait, we set our boundaries and we stay off immoral relationships! While we wait, we hug pillows, we cover blankets, we wear
pajamas to keep us warm we and add socks to the pajamas when it is too cold.

While we wait, we grow, we get closer to God, we find purpose, we work on our visions, we build on our achievements, we store
prayers for the future, and we wait! We will not defile the bed, we will remain pure, it is worth the wait! For those who wait, will
remain strong and they will do exploit. God is preparing the best is kept for you as you wait, will receive the honor you deserve!

Wait, it is worth the wait!

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SECURE YOUR WHITE (SECURING YOUR PURITY)

Whenever I get a white dress, I hang them separately and wash them with caution. Who else can relate? No one jokes with their white
dresses. Now let’s say the white dress signifies purity, when you get a newly white dress it will have its real but after a while, if not
properly handled maybe because of how you washed it or where you kept it, it begins to lose its whiteness.

So it is when you do not secure your purity, when you allow everything that can tamper your purity and refuse to set boundaries.
When you become too loose or overlook the little traces of lust. When you become too comfortable with immorality, then you are
not securing your white, it will not take long until your white will be stained. In other words, it will not take long for your purity to be
tampered. I just want to remind you that just as you secure and strive to see that your white dresses remains white, that's how much
effort and even more you will put to see that your PURITY is secured.

You should stop hesitating to set boundaries, be quick to define relationships, ungodly relationships or immoral discussions should
not even be an option! You won't see the need to scroll through those nude pictures or check what is happening in an immoral show
or movie. You will guard your hearts with all diligence and have a continuous walk with God.

Purity is not an option but a must! We have to guard and secure it. We must keep holding onto God and trusting Him to keep us firm
and help us to stand for purity until the right time. We will keep standing! Are you securing your purity or you have stains of kisses
and romance on it? How much effort are you putting to keep standing firm? Maybe you are not doing much and may have missed the

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purity path, be encouraged. God will wash and cleanse you if you come to Him for help and mercy. Also, stand firm, hold onto God's
word and walk side by side with God.

Sexual Purity Is Possible!

We Stand for Sexual Purity!

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DO NOT AWAKEN LOVE EARLY (A LETTER TO TEENAGERS)

I know you want to feel among, you want to also have someone you can call sweet names and run to when you have needs. You want
to be in a relationship because all your mates are in one; you want to also have experiences to share about love. I agree that love is
beautiful thing, everyone wishes to be loved but when it is not yet time, please do not awaken love early! Do not arouse feelings and
emotions you are unable to handle. Do not start a journey you are not fully equipped for.

You cannot be 15 and be in a hurry to go into a serious relationship especially when you are not prepared to get married soon. Now
you are visiting one brother, helping him to wash clothes and always walking with him on the streets, you will only end up arousing
sexual desires that may not be quenched until they are satisfied and this could lead to sexual immorality, don't tell me it was a mistake.

I have seen young girls of 14-18 posting their boyfriend pictures, hugging each other in studio pictures and it is surprising to see how
they are more concerned about relationships than their academics, they will prefer to go out with these boys instead of facing their
studies and this could lead to unwanted pregnancy if they are not corrected and educated about this!

At 16, you are already in a relationship you call serious with no reasons to be with each other, you are already having emotional stress
and heart aches it is funny to hear a teenager of 17 telling you they are facing heartbreaks when their studies are experiencing a wreck.
If you are in this situation, then you need to retrace your steps and focus on others things.

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You may say you are not 14 or 17 but you know you are not ready to get married or to be in a relationship then why awaken love! You
are still answering those calls, blushing when you know it cannot work and you have other things to handle. We all know it takes extra
work to keep a healthy and pure relationship, are you ready for it?

There is no point going into a relationship without marriage as the center of it, no one said marriage should be the first thing to talk
about but if you are in a relationship with someone you cannot marry and has no view of marriage with you, then why waste all the
time and energy to start a relationship with him!

Some of us have spent 7 years that could be used to study medicine to continue patching a relationship we know cannot work. We
started dating at 16 without a focus. How do you intend to keep purity and sanity in such relationship?

There is no age per say for someone to go into a relationship or get married but you should be mature and stable in some aspects of
your life so if you are not ready even at 25 please don't stress it! You will know it when you are ready; you will know it when you can
stand all the temptations that comes from being in a relationship! Don't go into a relationship when you are spiritually and emotionally
unstable.

I do not advice teenage girls to be in a relationship, even if all your friends are dating please look for important things to do, stop
listening to those brothers calling you "sugar in my tea" wait for the right time! If you decide to go into a relationship, then be ready
for it, be ready to stand for purity, be ready for marriage.

I want you to know that the fact that brother is spiritual does not make him less human, don't go for weekends, don't do sleep over;
please we know you are both courting but you must not be together always, the world must not know!! Be sure you are convinced
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before you go into any relationship and let him be a believer as you, do not let your sexual desires lead you into visiting day and night
but if you are in so much hurry, both of you should marry.

Also, take your time and build capacity, being single does not make you less human, it gives you more time to be a better woman!
Build so you can be a better helpmeet to your husband, a woman of influence and a great impact to your children and generation.
When you eventually meet the one God has made for you, let Jesus be the centre of your love journey, make sure you start with Jesus
and keep standing on God's word! I hope this sinks!!!

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KONJI (A CHRISTIAN SISTER'S SEXUAL URGE EXPERIENCE)

In my 200 Level first semester at the university, I left the hostel to live off campus because of the inconveniences in the hostel, if you
know you know. I do not have strength to narrate hostel troubles but if you can relate, help me out. Back to the gist, I started living
off campus, it was more comfortable but you know both males and females live in the same building and some people that are married
in school and single at home lived together. I think this is a disadvantage.

One evening, I needed to charge the battery of my phone since we had no power for days, our caretaker was not even concern, it is
frustrating for a student to stay without power for days, but trust the students that came to catch cruise, and they have generators
and televisions. I knew one of them, so I went to plug my phone in his room, then I met this fine tall guy, he also came to plug his
phone. He was just the way I always wanted! But I kept cool; I am a fine girl too. Lol. Before I could say Jack Robinson he approached
me introducing himself, we attended the same church.

See the coincidence "maybe we are meant to be" I already concluded, then we exchanged contacts, started attending church service
together since he was my neighbor too, just few blocks away, I just couldn't understand how I felt anytime we met. He started visiting
often, I decided to be a good friend so I did same but then his moves changed, always wanting to hug and peck me on my forehead
but his intentions seemed pure as he was only being a friend and a brother but it was planting a seed.

I found out he was in a relationship so I knew nothing would work between us yet he kept coming close, visiting often, attending
church service together, it ignited a spark in me until one day when I needed a shoulder to cry on. I had an issue in my results and I

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felt so devastated, when he came around, I felt loose, crying and just then he held me almost planting his lips on mine, what is
happening, is this not my brother in church? Konji does not know your intentions!

I knew it took God's grace to resist the temptation because we already built unhealthy relationship, which is why we need to carefully
balance how much time we spend with the opposite sex and the kind of positions you find yourselves. Konji does not know he is your
brother/sister in Christ; this is why the bible asked us to FLEEE! Flee and forget your shoes, see we know how this thing starts, the
close relationships, we are just friends, we are just besties.

Set boundaries, always visiting a brother or sister will fuel your sexual desires and increase your urge for sex. Please set boundaries,
stop staying so close to each other, stop the hugging tight, just a peck something! Stop it! Define every relationship; define it, what is
the closeness for? Why are you always together? What for? Please start asking! Start asking now, are you just a friend or what does
he/she wants.

If you want to stand for PURITY, then you have to fight for it, work for it, pray for it, live for it and refuse to negotiate it! Be sensitive
enough to know when your feelings have changed, your desires and urges and start casting it out!

Most Christians act like they don't know what sexual urge means. Lol. We need to know it is totally okay to have an urge but what you
do next really matters! One of the things that have helped me in my journey is reminding me of my commitment to God and His
standards that should not be broken. I also remind myself of God's promises for me and what He is building through me, the
supernatural home, the people my testimony will bless and how I will now teach sexual purity to young people as someone who has
more light on that topic. I see all God wants to do through me and that's enough to redirect my mind.

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During the days when I feel down especially emotionally I go for spiritual chants, read by bible, talk to a friend instead of thinking and
talking about how to satisfy my urge even if it is in the future. Overtime, I have reduced discussions about the sexual part of marriage
except it is important to talk about. I don't watch any video or clip with sexual acts. It is a way of becoming intentional about the
season of waiting that you are in.

What do you do when you have sexual urges? What do you do when you need some cuddling? What do you do when you just need
someone around? This doesn't make you less spiritual and it is not enough to make you rush into marriage because marriage has so
much more to offer. The issue is what you do when you are feeling mushy mushy?

Perish the thought of sinning, decide to wait, reaffirm your commitment to God. Shake off everything and listen to a chant, pray in the
Holy Ghost, just don't sit or lay on your bed thinking of the beauty of satisfying your desires, talk to your friends. See why you need
godly friends! This is basically for every young waiting Christian who is standing for sexual purity. Focus on other things, do more for
Jesus. Let satisfying sexual urges not be your motivation for marriage.

You are helped of God, don't give up now. Stay strong warrior❤

It is worth the wait

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SETTING BOUNDARIES IN GODLY RELATIONSHIPS
(It Was a Harmless Kiss!)

I remember that morning I walked into his room, let's call him Judah. A good friend I knew from church, we became close and fond of
each other, I saw him as a big brother. I got so comfortable with Judah forgetting that I needed to set boundaries, yes he was a good
Christian, a worker in church, he loves God yet it wasn't enough reason to let myself all out.

We visited each other regularly, whether we had other people around or not, we stayed behind closed doors, watched movies together
yet all this while nothing happened. This made me trust him. We went for night class together, attended church services together,
spent quality time together except when we attended lectures. It was a dream come true to have a big brother, I felt so safe around
him! It was my best moments indeed; I had someone who cared for me.

Gradually, our feelings began to change! How he looked at me was different, it was no longer the senior brother-best friend look, it
was more. You know what I mean but instead I snubbed the signs. He pecked me goodbye every time we parted ways, I became more
uncomfortable but I couldn't ask maybe I was enjoying the attention. "But Judah and I are just friends and siblings".

I wanted to ask him this but each time my jaw dropped, I have known him for 3 years and nothing has happened, I trusted him! That
Sunday morning, it was all different. I walked into his room to iron my clothes for service since we had power outage in my apartment,
when I got into the room; he offered to help me iron the clothes which I happily agreed!

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After a while, he turned to look at me romantically. Judah, what is going on? Nothing! "Be fast so we don't go to church late"! Then
he stood up and tried to carry me, I thought it was one of his jokes so I told him to stop; we had few hours to service. Stop this play,
biko. He insisted I just knew things were not going fine but I didn't want to conclude. Okay, let's just play, he took me up and gave me
a kiss! Whaaaat! Why did you do that?

Oh it was nothing, just a show of my love! I just didn't want to make a point so I took my dress and left, we met at the junction few
minutes later and still went to church together. After that morning, I knew I needed to keep a distance; it may be a harmless kiss, a
show of love as he called it but it was a path way to SEXUAL IMMORALITY. It was hard for me but I had to set boundaries.

I told him we needed to set boundaries to keep ourselves pure and please God. It is hard for close friends to stay apart but to maintain
purity and remain steadfast in your walk with God, put everything that will stop you from serving God aside! I and Judah are still good
friends, I am sure the decision of setting boundaries kept the respect and honor we have for each other. It is hard for a relationship
built on immorality and impurity to share respect, true love and honor.

Sometimes, you just need to make certain decisions to keep every relationship pure and without sin. No matter how harmless the kiss
looks, no matter how harmless the tight hug seems, set boundaries when you have to! Don't give the devil a chance, and then you
feel terrible and blame each other for the mistake you cannot correct. If you want to keep healthy relationships even when you are
planning to get married, please set boundaries before you fall into temptation you will regret.

Purity is a fight, you must be on guard at all times, don't be caught UNAWARES. Let it not be from a peaceful friendship you thought
had no harm! Be at alert, set boundaries while there is still time! Don't make the mistake of staying close doors with a brother no

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matter how you trust him. I have heard stories of people who were just friends even as Christians but eventually fornicated and
regretted it.

We can keep great relationships with the opposite sex but we must set necessary boundaries, no matter what don't ever get
comfortable with the little moves, little peck, tight hugs and harmless kisses! If you are both working towards settling down then you
should both decide to wait and stand for purity. Setting boundaries and having standards will save you from a lot and deliver you from
giving the flesh the opportunity to lead you to sin.

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DEAR CHRISTIAN, NO COMPROMISES!

The world is not joking with you, announcing you are a Christian or sexual purity advocate will make them scared? Lol. They will come
in different ways, try to touch you if they get the chance, use tactics, they will even try to show your Christianity is fake.

You think announcing to your colleagues and friends that you are a "woman of God" will stop them from asking you to compromise?
They will even use woman of God to try to get you. "Why not try this, what is wrong with it" will be their song. Be sensitive, be vigilant.
Do not drop those standards for any reason. Let them call you Jew, "Mother Mary" or even laugh at you. Refuse to compromise; refuse
to please them over God.

Don't sign that document when you know it’s wrong. Don't add that zero. Don't go on that trip or lie to avoid getting queried over
something you did wrong or allow your boss or colleague flirt with you if you are truly standing for Jesus. What about drinking alcohol,
attending clubs and joining them in dirty conversations after telling them you are born again? God is looking up to you; we have a
cloud of witnesses cheering you on. Stand for Jesus anywhere you find yourself and don't bend to their own standards. Let your LIGHT
shine!

The world is waiting and it will be heartbreaking if we stain our hands with compromises. We will lose their trust and fail God. Stand
firm, God is with you empowering you. Do not compromise for anything even if you will lose millions, choose to stand with Jesus! You
are light, they may not even comment when other people compromise but if you as a Christian do you will hear them saying "even
Christians"!

We must stand out! We must shine as Light!

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HOW TO OVERCOME MASTURBATION AND PORNOGRAPHY?

If you ask me how I got free from masturbation, I will tell you "JESUS SAVED ME"! You cannot talk about FREEDOM WITHOUT JESUS!!
Now let’s look at some helpful steps on how to overcome masturbation and pornography.

1) Be Born Again: Just like I said earlier you can never talk about freedom without Jesus, not even a Psychologist so if you are willing
to be free from any form of addiction (masturbation and pornography) then you have to believe in Jesus by accepting Him as your
personal Lord and Savior. In Christ, you are dead to sin, you should no longer be held by the authority of sin but a slave to righteousness
(Romans 6) so when you have this understanding you will surrender to Jesus and believe that He has set you free from sin and death.

2) Knowing Who You Are in Christ: The reason why so many of us especially believers struggle with masturbation and pornography is
because we do not know what the death of Christ signifies and who we are in Christ. First, you need to know that the death of Jesus
brought about freedom which includes freedom from sin and addiction, so you are no longer a slave to sin; you are dead to sin and
alive unto righteousness. You are SAVED; the blood of Jesus was shed for your total freedom, to be pure in all aspects, so the will of
God is not for you to remain addicted to masturbation/pornography.

3) Believe God Is Able to Save You: 90% of believers who are faced with addictions do not trust God totally to save them, fear and
guilt have pushed them far away from God, so instead of trusting God to save them, they keep trying on their own. It is hard for most
people who are faced with addictions to pray because they feel hated by God and this does not help to change anything but keep that
person in guilt and pain.

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I struggled with forgiving myself for so many years so it was so hard to believe I can be saved and set free by God so I kept going in
circles, holding back to my guilt, I kept going back to masturbation because I didn't see a possibility of my freedom. Imagine how hard
it is to access a person who built a wall around himself, God cannot help you when you refuse to let Him. God wants to save you but
He needs you to trust Him, you need to rely on His word and stand strong through prayers and word study.

4) Working Out Your Freedom: One truth so many of us refuse to accept is the part that says we have to work towards being free
even if we are already free. Now, you are set free from masturbation and pornography if you believe Jesus died for you but what about
letting go of those things that can stop your total freedom. No doubts you are free but why do you keep going back to masturbation
every time the urge comes, here is why you must work out your freedom through prayers and word study, a personal relationship
with God and surrounding yourself with people who will help you stand firm.

You cannot be totally free from masturbation when you are always caught in the midst of people who discuss only sex and romance,
if you still listen to vulgar songs, movies with sex scenes and store nude pictures on your phone. This step of working out your freedom
is where so many of us stop at, thereby dragging us back to the bondage of pornography and masturbation. You must make the
decision of refusing let those things that corrupt your mind. If it means unfollowing or blocking people on your social media platforms,
please go ahead, I give you my blessing!

I learnt to remove/refuse everything that would promote immoral thoughts in my mind, if I am led to talk to you about it and you
accept fine but if not, I will have to block you, then pray for you as I preserve my soul. Stay around people who will encourage you,
help you grow and pray with you not those who will drag you back knowingly or unknowingly into masturbation and pornography.
Friends that will send you bible verses not nude pictures!

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Finally, I want you to know that you can be FREE, when you tell people who are addicted about freedom; they always think it is
impossible and this is what the devil wants them to believe which is a LIE. The bible says "If the son sets you free then you are free
indeed" John 8:36 God can save you from every form of addiction whether masturbation or pornography because He is able to set
you free! You will be free if you trust Him and believe in His word.

If you have never masturbated, guard your hearts, guard your gates, and be vigilant! Do not give the devil a chance by checking on
those porn links. It is not everything you will see. Read the steps above it could give you a push in your journey of freedom!

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SEXUAL PURITY IS AN INTENTIONAL FIGHT!

When I was younger, I made wrong choices of friends. They claimed to be godly yet had fruits of ungodliness, always looking for a
chance to get me off guard. One was even our music director in church but when I made the decision to remain pure and stand for
purity, I had to cut every connection I had with them. People who always talked about sex, talked about what they will do when they
marry sexually, didn't respect my purity journey. I bade them goodbye.

It wasn't easy but it was worth it. I gained my confidence, integrity and they respected me afterwards. I am grateful for the choices I
made. You cannot keep people who will always talk about sex, inviting you to parties, hooking you up with their friends and not be
faced with so much sexual urge, stop asking yourself "what is doing you" you are doing yourself!

You cannot say you want to stay pure yet everything you do encourages immorality, you must intentionally stay away from everything
and anything that will distract you from your walk with God and staying pure. You may have to sacrifice everything that will hinder
your walk with God.

In this purity journey, you need to be intentional about the friends you keep, the conversations you find yourself, the places you go
and the boundaries you should keep. We will not stop talking against sex before marriage because many people are still struggling to
accept the standard of God's word which involves staying pure until marriage!

Yes, it is possible to stay pure until your wedding night no kissing or smooching! No romance, no sex chat and if someone refuses to
stand with you on this then you should know that's not God's will for you. God will not be pleased when we do not live by His standards.

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Even if it is a brother, man of God, prayerful sister that is trying to cajole you into fornication, please flee! Your purity is unto God so
make sure your place in God is secured, lose anybody to please God.

I hear people say:

This sexual purity is not possible!

You cannot be in a relationship without sex or at least touching and kissing!

You cannot stay without keeping nudes and watching porn. Lies!! These are the lies the devil wants you to believe and if we want to
stand for Jesus, build kingdom marriages and homes then sexual purity is a must! If by any chance, you have fallen into sexual sin. Do
not fret; don't let the guilt stop you from coming back to Jesus! He is willing to help you and make you pure again!

God has provided all we need for life and godliness, you are the one to decide, submit and walk with the Holy Spirit to stay pure! In
your walk as a Christian, sexual purity is part of Gods requirement from you, holiness and purity cannot be ruled on in our walk and
service unto God as believers.

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THE BATTLE OF THE FLESH

It is one thing to be dead to sin and free from the bondage of sin and it is another to fight daily to subject the flesh and live according
to the leadings of the spirit. When Apostle Paul said “I die daily” in 1Corinthians 15:31 he was referring to subjecting self or the flesh
daily because remember the book of Romans 6 has showed us that we are dead to sin already yet the flesh (sinful nature of man) will
still arise to stop the workings of the Spirit in your life.

Every day when you wake, the flesh will want to fight the dealings of the Spirit even when you are willing, it is not in the natural state
of man to live holy, righteous or pure so whenever you try to live pure or serve God in the flesh it will be impossible, you need to be
led and submitted to the power of the Holy Spirit and His power to quicken your mortal bodies and this will happen when you have
submitted your life to Him by believing Jesus died and resurrected for you and if you believe He died to sin and alive unto God you
also died to sin and resurrected unto God and holiness.

Now if you have accepted Jesus and believe you are dead to sin and alive unto righteousness you must decide to fight against the flesh
not giving the opportunity to lead you to fulfilling its desires, the flesh will use any opportunity you give to exalt it. If you feed it well
and neglect the Spirit, you will definitely begin to live the life that aligns with the flesh and its lustful desires for food, sex, money,
fame etc

It is not wrong to desire food, sex, money, fame and everything good in life but as believers who are submitting to God, all we desire
should be according to God’s will for us at the appointed time but a man who lives in the flesh cannot submit to God’s will, they want

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things done when they want and always eager to fulfill lustful desires of those things they should trust God for. The flesh does not
want to fast, stay pure, wait for God’s time to be wealthy and famous.

So when we overlook the battle between flesh and the Spirit of God, we may be ignorant of the enemy’s trick to make us alive to sin
and disobedience to God by the flesh. This is why we must intentionally die daily submitting all our desires to the Holy Spirit, working
and building our Spirit man through prayer and word study, great community of believers and a great relationship with God. We must
desire growth in the Spirit, the fruits and gifts of the Holy Spirit, building up by praying in the Holy Ghost and continually drinking from
the fountain of the word.

What about guarding our salvation and sacrificing anything that gratifies the flesh, those movies, those friends, those relationships,
entertainment shows that give the devil the chance to increase our lustful desires instead let’s be focused on things that edify and lift
our Spirit and our relationship with God. When we balance our walk with God and understand this battle of the flesh, it will be easier
to stay pure because it becomes part of our fellowship and commitment to God.

God has provided all you need for life and Godliness and it is His will that you experience the fullness of His calling. Decide to
intentionally fight this battle of the flesh and insist to become all God has called you to be for your generation because when you
meddle and live by the flesh you cannot fulfill God’s plan for you.

Arise and walk with God to submit and die daily to the flesh then your purity journey will be a success. Congratulations in advance!

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PRAYER FOR SALVATION

If you have read to this point, I would love to congratulate you for how much insight you have received and I believe you have been
blessed. If you are yet to surrender your life to Jesus or you want to rededicate your life to Jesus, this is an opportunity for you; you
cannot live a holy life without Jesus. It is only a man who is in Christ that can enjoy freedom and peace, living above the chains and
slavery of the devil. Come to Jesus today and you will be a new creature (2 Corinthians 5:17) and prepared to walk through this purity
journey by the help of the Holy Spirit.

Say after me: “Lord Jesus, I surrender my life to you, I am ready to walk this journey of life with you. I believe in your word, I believe
you died for me and through your death and resurrection I can experience freedom and redemption. Thank you Jesus, I receive the
gift of the Holy Spirit and enter into the new covenant in Jesus name”.

Congratulations child of God, make sure you join a community of believers and if you are yet to find one please contact us through
our social media platforms @The journey of A Christian lady

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ABOUT THIS BOOK

This book is a guide to everyone confused about purity and what it entails, an encouragement to all who stand for purity and to
everyone young believer. It comprises of personal stories and compiled posts of the author and founder of the platform and
community The Journey of a Christian Lady. This book brings the true reality of what we face as young believers standing for purity,
we all know it is easy to confess your stand for purity but it takes more than that to stand for purity despite the temptations you face
in our generation today. If you read through this guide, then I believe you will agree with me that purity is worth it and part of your
commitment as a Christian. Read and pass this on, it will be a blessing to millions of people as we will make them see the possibility
of staying pure no matter how impossible it looks. Sexual purity is possible and if we look at the dangers of living a life of immorality
we will be more grateful to have this covering. It is possible to stay pure, yes it is!

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