ARE YOU TOO HONEST?

Is your need to tell the truth at any price taking a toll on all your relationships?
Take this quiz and find out!
1. Your boyfriend/girlfriend has just had the head shaved. When she/he asks your opinion, you:
a. Say you love it – you always felt something for bald people.
b. Tell him/her to put a hat on and leave it on all the time.
c. Explain that you love him/her anyway. He/she will look better as soon as the hair grows again.
2. You’ve met your best friend’s new date. She calls you up the next day and asks for your opinion. You
think he looks like Danny De Vitto. You:
a. Say you didn’t pay much attention to him, but you are really glad she’s found someone she likes.
b. Tell her the whole truth and ask: “Where did you find that stuff?”
c. Make her feel good. He’s a lot better than Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise.
3. Your boss/teacher gives you all the credit for a project you worked on with a colleague (who did most of
the work). You:
a. Tell him/her you don’t deserve it. Your partner is the brain of the group.
b. Thank him/her and let him/her know the job was a group effort.
c. Accept the credits and pray that your colleague doesn’t finds it out.
4. Your relationship with your boyfriend/girlfriend hasn’t been a “bed of roses” lately. When he/she asks if
everything is doing fine, you answer:
a. “Of course, honey. I’m just a little tired.”
b. “Actually, no!” and start listing your complaints.
c. “Well, since you mentioned it, there are some wrong things I’d like to talk about, but I’m sure we can put
everything in order.”
5. Your mother keeps trying to find “the perfect person” for you. When she says that Mr. or Miss X will be
calling, you:
a. Thank her. “Mom wants the best for me.”
b. Agree to meet but say: “If we don’t get on well, no more blind dates, ok?”
c. Say: “Mother, you’re driving me nuts. Won’t you quit?”
6. Your friend is wearing a really weird-looking outfit. He/she asks for your opinion. You:
a. Tell him/her to try something more classic.
b. Tell him/her the seams are about to split. You can’t let him/her wear that in public, can you?
c. Say it’s wonderful! Why hurt his/her feelings?
7. One hour before you meet your friend to go to the movies, a guy/girl who you’ve been interested in asks
you to go out that night. You call your friend back and cancel. What do you say?
a. “Hey, it’s better a movie with you or a date with a real live girl/guy – you understand.”
b. “I don’t know what happened to me. An hour ago I felt fine but now I have this flu...”
c. “Sorry, but I’m really crazy about this boy/girl. But we may go out whenever you’re free again. You choose the
night.”
8. Your aunt gives you an ugly sweater for your birthday. You:
a. Thank her. It was nice of her to think of you.
b. Tell her how much you loved it and then hide it back in your closet.
c. Thank her and ask if she still has the receipt, so you can exchange it for something more fashionable.
9. An ex-boyfriend/girlfriend is back in town and invites you to dinner. Since you are still friends, you’d
like to see him/her. You tell your boyfriend/girlfriend that you are:
a. Having dinner with an old passion. Jealousy is sometimes good.
b. Going to that place he/she hates.
c. Having dinner with an ex-boyfriend/girlfriend, but you don’t feel that way about him/her anymore.
10. Your new boyfriend/girlfriend wants to know about your ex-dates. You have that huge list of boys/girls
you’ve dated. You:
a. Say everything. “You wanted to know, now live with it.”
b. Tell him/her that your hundred ex-dates are not important at all and he/she is the only one you want to be with.
c. Cut down the number, so you’ll look like an angel.
 A. Write down your choices in the chart below.

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
A
B
C

B. Add up your score. Then read your analysis to see how you rate.

A B C
1. 1 3 2
2. 2 3 1
3. 3 2 1
4. 1 3 2
5. 1 2 3
6. 2 3 1
7. 3 1 2
8. 2 1 3
9. 3 1 2
10. 3 2 1

21 to 30 points – Merciless mouth

You think that saying whatever you have in mind is the greatest thing to do but start paying extra attention
to the consequences of your acts. You may hurt people’s feelings. Just because some of your acquaintances look like
the guys from Adam’s Family it doesn’t mean that you have to tell them off. Stop telling people about everything in
your life. It’s not pleasant, not even polite. people have nothing to do with it. Before doing or saying something, why
don’t you try to put yourself in somebody else’s shoes? Now just between us: “You are not Mr. Know All, are you?”

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11 to 20 points – Word wise

Before giving opinions or answering questions, you take some time to ponder your words and think about
people’s feelings and reactions as well. You have a nice way to make things sound less hurtful without being
dishonest. You keep your personal life private at work and help your colleagues by listening to their problems
without making comparisons. You seem to have learned that business is business and friends are out.
Congratulations on that and keep up the tact. “Can you teach us the secret?”

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1 to 10 points – Bite your tongue!

You are the kind of person that avoids hard situations just because you are afraid of dealing with them.
What do you do, then? You lie in order not to get into trouble or hurt someone’s feelings. What’s up dude? Are you
afraid of making people angry? Are you worried about the way they would treat you? What about yourself? How do
you feel when you lie or omit the truth? All you have to do is combine sensitivity with honesty and you’ll see that the
whole thing is not as bad as it seems. And remember that no one likes a liar. “Aren’t you too sweet, sweetie?”