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Authentic Relationships • STUDY GUIDE
2 • KRI INTERNATIONAL TEACHER TRAINING LEVEL 2 • AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIPS STUDY GUIDE © 2006 Kundalini Research Institute
Table of Contents
DVD Guide 4
Introduction 5
Chapter One: The Experience of Authentic Relationships 9

Lecture: Relationships and the Art of Relay
Study Questions and Projects
Chapter Two: Love and the Infinite Game of Life 19

Lecture: Love Is the Absolute Power of Self-Totalty
Chapter Three: The Law of Polarity in Relationships 33

Lecture: Principles for Living: The Law of Polarity and Intuition
Chapter Four: Living as Your Authentic Self 47

Lecture: Love: Active, Reactive and Ultimate
Chapter Five: Divine Delight and the Play of Masculine and Feminine 59
Lecture: Let Your Identity Come From Your Divinity
Chapter Six: Legacy and Lineage: Passing on Grace and Consciousness 73

Lecture: The Life of a Teacher: Flexibility, Humility and Compassion
Journaling: A Journey 83
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AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIPS • STUDY GUIDE
Authentic Relationships DVD Guide
The Yogi Bhajan videos that accompany the Authentic Relationships Course and Student Manual are not
presented in the order they appear in the book (due to constraints of the medium). What follows is a
guide to help you find and view the correct lecture for each chapter.
Chapter Lecture Title DVD Location
One Relationships and the Art of Relay Set 1, Disc A, Track 1

Two Love Is the Absolute Power of Self-Totality Set 1, Disc B, Track 1
Three Principles for Living: The Law of Polarity & Intuition Set 1, Disc A, Track 2
Four Love: Active, Reactive and Ultimate Set 1, Disc B, Track 2
Five Let Your Identity Come From Your Divinity Set 2, Disc A
Six The Life of the Teacher: Flexibility, Humility Set 2, Disc B
& Compassion
Introduction to The AUTHENTIC

RELATIONSHIPS Study GUide
THE GOAL OF THE TRANSFORMATION COURSE WORK— with the ego of each student. Finally, he blessed us all
Teacher Training Level 2—is to awaken in your heart and to through the power of his prayer and his guru to always have
embody in your life the skills of a Teacher. You are not here a chance and an open door to bow and transcend our ego.
to simply learn more exercises and meditations. You are here Technology, timelessness and values—his gifts to us unto
to deepen your practice, your commitment, and your pres- Infinity.
ence as a Teacher. You are here to discover all the implica- “Home study” can have two meanings: the first and more
tions of just what that word, Teacher, really means—not only common notion is to study outside of class; the second and
sitting in front of a yoga class, but also in the world. deeper meaning is to study from the perspective of the
A central problem for all paths of consciousness is how “home,” which for us is the soul and consciousness. We
do we sustain the insight, energy and practices we learn dur- want this guide to be a means toward both. The work you
ing an intensive training once we find ourselves back in the do outside of class is a simple but important step toward
familiar environments we live in? Back home, immersed in embodying what you learn—which is a fundamental need and
our routines, our habits loom large. We become forgetful. our minimum standard.
We rationalize, get distracted and often coast along, some- Yogi Bhajan always said to really learn something we must
where knowing that in order to coast, we must be going first read or experience something, then write it, then teach
downhill; and therefore, not reaching for the excellence of it. Passive learning is not enough, no matter how attentive
which we are capable. we are. We need experience. Then we need to act on it.
Yogi Bhajan approached this several ways. First, he Writing is one form of action. Anything that helps our phys-
acknowledged the dignity and sovereignty of each person and ical body to enact what we have learned and that tests our
left it to each of us to “self-initiate.” If we do not take on the ability to use that experience in diverse circumstances will
challenge to respect and care for ourself, who will? So, there deepen our practical knowledge. Even with this accomplished,
is no trick, no short cut. It is up to us to become still and still we need to teach. In teaching, we shift perspectives. We
present, then decide, commit, practice and allow the natural reformulate our experience, discover significance, recognize
urge of consciousness to transform us to full awareness. meaning and learn to translate our personal experience to
Second, he gave us very precise, effective and efficient others.
technology to change quickly and automatically. Third, he
encouraged a lifestyle that supports consciousness in our THIS HOME STUDY GUIDE HAS SEVERAL PARTS TO IT.
nutrition, exercise, service orientation, honest work and rela- Each one is designed to help you deepen and embody your
tionships. Fourth, he gave us the Golden Link to connect to experience and build your caliber as a Teacher and as a sen-
the Master's touch of compassion, awareness and vastness. sory human.
He did that in the Adi Mantra and in his direct confrontation
THE MASTER'S TOUCH: new situations. If your trainer has established study groups,
WORKING WITH THE VIDEOS you can create some projects and explorations among your-
In each course we use videos of Yogi Bhajan teaching. selves that use the unique talent of your group and the cul-
Nothing can replace or substitute the direct experience of the tural environments you are in.
Master's touch. Fortunately, we have many examples of his Answer all the questions in writing. When you do the
unique style and consciousness as a Teacher. If we engage in journaling exploration, include the results of your projects and
the classes with him we are transformed, consciously and experiments.
subconsciously, by his insight and energy.
We need to stay with that experience and distill it in terms MENTORS AND MENTORING
that we can understand and use for ourselves. Listening to his Mentors are teachers who engage you in authentic conversa-
class repeatedly reveals new insights, confirms things we tions and dialogue to help you assess and reflect on your per-
know and shifts our attention to points we overlooked the sonal transformation as you go through all the
first time. In this guide, we have included extensive excerpts Transformation training modules. The minimum time period
from the video classes. There are also excerpts from other for taking all five modules is two years. During this time you
classes that directly relate to and elaborate points from the continue teaching, refine your disciplines and apply the con-
main class. At the end of each excerpt, there are study ques- sciousness of a teacher to your community and professional
tions, exercises and projects. These are designed to help you associations.
reflect on, process and personalize what you learned in the The mentor is not a “study buddy” or tutor. Their focus is
class and through the videos. on your process—not the direct content of the courses. The
person you choose to be your mentor should be a teacher.
Engaging with the Master Perhaps there is a senior teacher within your 3HO community
Read through the transcript of the video and then complete who could serve in this capacity. Seek assistance from your
the study questions. Then, view the video—more than once if trainers, if necessary.
you can. Listen and be with it. Do not listen with the study Your mentor should be someone who is knowledgeable,
questions in mind or any other agenda. Just be open. Let it communicative and willing to give you support and neutral
call your attention to what you need to learn most. Then go feedback to help you assess yourself. You may or may not like
back and read the transcript again and review the questions your mentor. It is more important that you respect and trust
once more. Are you relating to the questions differently now, them. For some people it is difficult to accept positive assess-
after seeing the video more than once—and on your own? ment and praise. For others it is hard to accept feedback that
What new insights or meanings came to you with this sec- contradicts their own impressions. A mentor should ask those
ond viewing? Can you identify the nuances and changes in challenging questions that help you look at all aspects of your
your relationship to him one-on-one versus with the group? growth and progress. One purpose of this relationship is to
develop your capacity for self-reflection and meta-cognition
Questions and Projects (the ability to perceive your own perception). The questions
The questions serve to identify key concepts and terms as from your mentor should become a working part of your own
well as to help you reflect on how the principles you are sensory self.
learning relate to you and to concepts throughout the Individuals who work with you as a mentor should adhere
Transformation training. They also focus on how you can to a strict code of ethics; they are there to help you without
apply what you learn. any personal agenda of their own or to advance their status
The projects and exercises ask you to try experiments or to or finances. The mentoring relationship should be transparent
explore applications of what you learned with others or in and there to serve you and your Transformation process.
Your trainer is a teacher. He or she may also act as a men- TEACHING AND SERVICE
tor. To use a mentor well, arrange a regular check-in at certain We have no specific requirements for these two areas. You
points of your study or periodically, every 4 to 6 weeks. This will be teaching according to your intention and to accumu-
way you can note your progress, your growth areas and your late hours of experience. Work with your trainers for guidance
patterns. on this.
During Transformation it is important to stay open. There
is a tendency in the ego to feel it has accomplished some-
MEDITATION: YOUR COMMITMENT thing. Once that happens the impulse is to isolate and insu-
TO TRANSFORMATION late from other teachers, students and sources of assessment
After each module, you should practice a 40- to 90-day sad- and feedback. Resist this tendency if it arises. Attend classes
hana with one of the meditation techniques given during the with other teachers. Co-teach. Be with and share with every-
training. This develops your capacity as a sensory human, one, not just the group you like, or that agrees with you or
masters a meditation, and creates continuity with your inten- your style. Cultivate the spiritual availability of a true Teacher
tion from the course. Nothing works better than a disciplined by consciously observing your mind's tendencies. Act from
practice. You may choose it independently or there may be a the consciousness that God is the doer, that guru is the seer,
selection process by the trainers for your course. not just you.
Throughout your 40- or 90-day meditation, you will be Service can be through the act of teaching. Or, service can
asked to keep a journal. The insights and experiences of your- look like finding ways to support and awaken individuals and
self and others that accompany you in the meditation prac- communities. There is a great need for the touch of compas-
tice are rich sources for exploring your relationship to the sion, the courage of contribution, the creativity to initiate
teachings, Yogi Bhajan as a Master, and yourself as a Teacher. projects and the love infused by conscious communication.
Besides cultivating your skills using a meditation over time, Some groups have organized a day of service or a project in
you may also do an intensive meditation. Some of you have a community. Be inventive and find a natural expression of
done 2-1/2 hour meditations, others may not have had the the consciousness that teaches through you and the Golden
opportunity. Take an appropriate meditation and do it for 2- Chain.
1/2 hours either individually or in a group. Some groups have
even committed to 2-1/2 hours a day for 40 days! Additional Resources
Regular meditation, as in sadhana, and intensive medita- You may find additional resources that deepen your study.
tion are central to this study. To read everything, understand The resource can be people who represent expertise or appli-
it and do the class exercises are not enough. The goal is to cations of the area you want to master. It can be articles,
master yourself as well as the material. For that you must books, web pages and more. This course and guide are
refine your sensitivity and your relationship to you—in con- focused on the core teaching of Yogi Bhajan. They provide a
sciousness. You must have a crystallized habit to process your framework for viewing all the other areas of study that may
subconscious and conscious flow of thoughts and feelings interest you. The clarity and self-awareness that comes from
and penetrate through the still point of shuniya into your intu- the practice of Kundalini Yoga and meditation are essential
ition and being. Meditation nurtures that development. when researching the vast creative flow of information and
Mentoring, feedback from your teachers, and testing yourself ideas now at our fingertips. But no amount of knowledge or
through teaching and action are the other hand of the process. facts or intellectual prowess brings us wisdom. Begin with
wisdom and then use the resources you find intelligently to
serve your consciousness and your identity as a Teacher.
Many of the themes that Yogi Bhajan illuminates are peren-
nial. Many of the techniques are uniquely shared by him as A PROCESS MAP
a legacy to us all. As you participate in his classes and study This diagram shows the relationship between our
his teaching you will notice that he has a distinctive Transformation course work, your experiences teaching and
approach. He defined it as a teacher chipping away at your in sadhana, and the greater community of service, IKYTA
ego. He confronts, up-ends you, opens your mind, plants a and 3HO. All these parts work together, but sadhana is at
seed, and asks each of us to gain our own experience of the the heart of the process.
Infinite as a natural step in blooming as a fearless, compas-
sionate and intelligent human beings. Keep this beacon of
consciousness in your heart and research the whole world as
a mirror to yourself.
There are many sources for Yogi Bhajan's teachings,
including the KRI and 3HO websites, and links provided on
the support website for Transformation: Teacher Training
Level 2.
CHAPTER ONE
The experience of
Authentic
Relationships
Relationships and
the art of relay
An Experience with Yogi Bhajan
March 16, 1982
WE ARE DISCUSSING TODAY A SUBJECT and we would like to ordinary hasslers of life, as we are common human beings.
to break it into three or four parts, so that you can really So it is not that man does not have the capacity to be calm
understand something which is very vital to our life. Very and lonely and isolated, but normally in day–to–day life, the
vital. There is a very popular saying that man is a social ani- life is so hectically involved in self and surroundings that a
mal, man cannot live in isolation; it’s not possible. It’s not...? man is not in a position to understand what loneliness means
to him, what isolation means to him. But in isolation a man
Students: Possible. goes crazy. That’s why basically in sociology and psychology
Yogi Bhajan: An experiment took place where a person was
we say man is a social . . . ?
confined in a cubical room totally closed down. About thirty Students: Animal.
days later they found him almost half insane. That much it
could be. But when we hear Lord Shiva meditated two hun- Yogi Bhajan: He never wants to deal. What is social in your
dred thousand years in one posture, or such and such yogi life if you don’t have a relationship? You need relationship.
meditated for a hundred days and didn’t move a limb without What is the relationship? Now, first of all, relay. Relationship
eating anything and all that stuff, it is sometimes surprising is nothing but a relay of communication of one self to the
other self. You know a relay race? One body runs. He gives Yogi Bhajan: Survive, you can.
the baton to another and that guy runs with him for a dis- Student: To feel the oneness.
tance, catches the baton and goes further and further. So
Yogi Bhajan: Try, try, let’s try, let us see how many people
four people complete that race as sprinters, and it’s always
speak what.
between two teams. So that is the word ‘relay.’ The root
word is relay. Relay means communicate. Our radio waves Student: Out of insecurity.
are relayed from the antenna of a radio station. Relay of the Yogi Bhajan: No, no.
TV is on at a particular frequency of one, two, three, FM or Student: For recognition.
AM whatever that is.
Yogi Bhajan: For what?
When a person wants to relay his feeling and the other
Student: For self-esteem.
person is a receptor of relayed feeling then a relationship is
established. And when you do not relay and you do not Yogi Bhajan: Let me put a direct question. Why do I talk?
receive or accept the relay, then the relationship is broken. So Student: To get out of yourself.
basically there is no relationship which is permanent. It must Yogi Bhajan: For what?
be shocking to you, but it’s a real truth. Relationship is noth-
Student: Selflessness.
ing but the continued relay of one personality to another ... ?
Yogi Bhajan: No.
Students: Personality.
Student: To see yourself better.
Yogi Bhajan: Personality. So those of you who feel that rela- Yogi Bhajan: No.
tionship is a permanent thing are wrong. There is nothing
Student: To confirm the existence of yourself.
which is permanent in a relationship, because according to
the fact of life, relay is a continuous process between the Yogi Bhajan: No. This is the United States of America and
relaying and relayed and relayed to. Now there are three things you are the top class of the society. What is wrong with you?
involved. You say what you say, how you say, why you say, And it’s a very simple question I am asking. Otherwise you
how I receive it, what I receive it, and why I received it. are the dumbest people. Can you not tell me the answer to
Understand? There is not one thing or two things. There are the question I am asking you? Why do you want to relay?
three things. And three things are between two poles. One is There has to be a motive. There has to be a profit. Man is not
where it is relayed, one relays to. And in between is the fre- made to say anything to anything unless he gains something.
quency. And that is relationship. You cannot get out and not gain. What is the gain? Tell me
Who governs the relationship? Can you tell me please in one word.
anybody? What makes you talk to somebody? What makes Student: Love. To get a response.
you relay to somebody? Why do you want a relationship with
Student:To get a response.
somebody? Can anybody give me the correct answer please?
Yogi Bhajan: No one cares.
Student: Out of loneliness.
Student: To receive.
Student: Aloneness.
Student: Need. Yogi Bhajan: You are crazy.
Yogi Bhajan: Need for what? Student: Relevant to consciousness of God?

Student: There are all kinds of needs. Yogi Bhajan: No God business is in this.
Yogi Bhajan: What makes you relay yourself with another per- Students: (Laughter.)
son? Yogi Bhajan: Very simple thing.
Student: To survive.
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Student: Communication? vinced them that it is not right to take the money away. He
told them that he had the money. He didn’t lie to them. He
Yogi Bhajan: You relay yourself to another self to gain your
also convinced them that they should not take the money
personality. Good communication is a good gain. Bad com-
because it was government money and it would bring him
munication is a bad gain. No communication is no gain. The
trouble and it would bring them trouble. He convinced them
only gain in your life is the way you communicate, when you
so much that they escorted him to the city. These five people
communicate, and how you communicate. All relationships
came to mug this guy on the way, they caught these two
are made and marred on communication. On relay the per-
guys, they were five, they had arms, and these people didn’t
sonality is gained, built and raised. That’s why I say read Siri
have a thing, and they knew this man has money and he told
Guru Granth. What for? It’s a communication. Siri Guru
them he had the money. He even told them how much
Granth is a communication of God experienced people who
money he had, which was too much, and then he totally
can manifest the Godhood in you. That’s why I said, “Every
communicated with them and convinced them that they
weekend, let us read the whole Siri Guru Granth” and we all
should not mug him and that instead they should escort him
join together and relay with Siri Guru Granth.
back to the city—and they did it.
What is an Akhand Paath? Don’t do things as a ritual.
That can be the power of talking. In life, you concentrate
What is an Akhand Paath? It’s a relay team between people
on gaining opportunities. In a state of zeal you want to be a
and the Guru. What benefit? Higher consciousness. Gain of
doctor, you want to be an attorney, you want to be this, you
personality. The higher you gain, the higher you speak, the
want to be that. You think that every profession (if you are
higher is your frequency, the higher are your words, the high-
well set in the profession) can bring you money. I’ll tell you
er is your way of communication, what do you communicate?
which profession: How you speak. Investment zero. Gain one
If the consciousness and communication—again, it comes to
hundred percent.
the same thing—if the consciousness and communication is
Relationship. Have you broken the word down? Re-lay,
higher, higher personality is gained. If it is lower, personality
relationship has a new definition, relationship is a science of
is lowered. Do you understand? And “relay–ship”—
communication to establish faith. Relationship . . . ?
“re–lay–tion–ship”—if that relay is for the purpose of gaining
the other person’s ship, the ship, re–lay–tion–ship. Students: Is a science of communication to establish faith.
Whosoever does not know to gain the relay cannot gain
Yogi Bhajan: Relationship is a science of communication to
the relationship and whosoever cannot gain the relationship
establish faith, but when you fail in this communication, you
shall live lonely and empty with all of his or her parapherna-
lose the faith, and that is called loss of relationship. You can-
lia. That’s why the power of the word is infinite power. It
not do whatever you want to do in life successfully if you do
doesn’t matter who you are, it does matter what you say.
not know how to relate. Some people think they can bully.
What you say and how you say it and why you say it—that
They will always fail in life. Some people think if they can
is the key to your destiny. With words you can make friends
argue, they can win. Nobody can win with arguments. Logic
and with words you can make friends into enemies. With
and reason is not the way of life. The other person is not
words you can go and talk and take a loan, with words you
interested in being convinced. When you try to convince
can get totally mugged.
somebody, somebody tries to get out of it. This is a normal
It’s a very simple thing. I’ll tell you some history which I
reaction. If you relay from the heart center, you will always
had. One of my subordinates once went to a village and col-
have victory with you. Sometimes when we talk we say, “I
lected money. He had money in his bag and he was thinking
need my attorney.” Why do you say that? Do you know?
very happily, lucky that he had money with him. He was com-
Because you cannot handle some relay, so you need an
ing fast, coming on the way back and he and his man were
expert. I say to you, you cannot handle anything in relay, you
encircled by five or six people who wanted to get the money
need an expert for every relay. And who is the best expert?
away from him. He was such a good speaker that he con-
Answer me.
Student: God. I asked somebody, “What is a friend?”

Yogi Bhajan: Aah. He said, “A friend is one who can help you.”
Student: Guru. Now how can a friend help you? A friend is actually a per-
son whom you want to help. Look at how you read every-
Yogi Bhajan: Consciousness. Therefore whatever you relay
thing topsy-turvy. Friendship is a selected bunch of people
you should relay consciously. Because everything you are
who you like to help. Do you understand that? Acquaintance
going to relay is going to have an effect and is going to affect
is a bunch of people that you happen to know. According to
you because everything you are going to relay is going to have
you, acquaintances are those people you can call anytime.
an action and it’s definitely going to have a reaction.
People you want to know, not that you happen to know. And
The problem with you as a commoner is that you don’t
friendship is not who you can help, but who can help you.
think there is going to be a reaction. To you, relay is only an
Don’t you understand that? You think a friend means some-
action. No. Relay is an action to provoke a reaction. Therefore
body who can help you, and that’s why you made up a very
the reaction is a must. If every one of you understand today
upside down saying, “a friend in need is a friend in . . . ?”
that whatever you are going to say is going to come back to
you, then you will not say lot of things. That’s why they say, Student: . . . deed.
“humor is the spice of life,” because sometimes you say a lot Yogi Bhajan: It is not that a friend in need means a friend
of serious things, but when you make them look humorous who is in need. For you, his need is you. No. You say, “A
you get away from the reaction to it. If you do not know how friend in need” means a friend who comes to help you when
to communicate with humor, you do not know how to com- you are in need. So friendship is a state which you can
municate at all. Some people are very serious, very cut and exploit. No. Friendship is a state to which you can offer your-
dry. Forget whatever else they are. Their life is miserable. . . . self. That is the first fundamental of a relationship. Friendship
So for your relationship of communication, or for any rela- is a state to which you . . . ?
tionship, you have to understand not what you say, what you
Student: can offer yourself.
want and what you think. It doesn’t matter how mighty you
are. You must also imagine what effect it will produce on oth- Yogi Bhajan: Offer yourself to help, to guide, to be with.
ers. If you do not consider your effect on others first and talk Friendship is not a state which you can exploit at your beck
later, that’s why there is a very common saying: think first, and call. Who is supposed to come to you as a beck and call?
talk, talk . . . ? Student: A servant.
Student: Later. Yogi Bhajan: A servant. You can tell your maid to cook the
meals, but you can’t tell a friend to cook the meal, can you?
Yogi Bhajan: It’s a Western thing, right? Think first, talk later?
But you can tell a friend, “May I serve you something to eat
Why do they say so? Why do you have to think first? You
if you are hungry.” Don’t you do that?
have to think first about what you are going to speak. What
So relationship in life is a process of life. Relationship in
reaction it will have on the other person. Your action is what-
life is a process of life meant to enlarge your personality and
ever you are going to say. If you win, you will win. If you do
gain your personality. Meant to . . . ?
not win, you lose. It is called confrontation. Poke, provoke,
confront, and . . . Students: Enlarge your personality and gain your personality.
Students: Elevate. Yogi Bhajan: Enlarge your personality and gain your personal-
ity. Relationship is nothing but a totally extended experience
Yogi Bhajan: Elevate. Think how your talk must end up ele-
of self. Relationship is nothing but a totally extended experi-
vating. First you never knew that relationship means relay,
ence of yourself.
relationship. What you know about a relationship is how to
We will discuss that relationship is nothing but an extend-
get into bed. That’s your relationship.
ed experience of yourself, and we will take this time, a few
minutes, five, ten minutes to meditate today so that you can Students: Wahe Guru.
just have a good time. Come on.
The class sings: “May the long time sunshine upon you…”
MEDITATION: A PURE FLAME OF LIGHT
(Following is the meditation taught during this class. See following Yogi Bhajan: Blessing, blessing, blessing of that lord God
page.) which created us. Blessing, blessing, blessing. His grace that
Sit straight please, put your hand on the side with easy He made us to touch His lotus feet. Blessing, blessing, bless-
elbows bent and Gyan Mudra and your three fingers straight. ing in mercy of the Creator Lord for the Earth and peace.
Got it? Can you do that? Okay, please open your mouth and Blessing, blessing, blessing of all the relationships. Enjoy. And
open your jaw, and now inhale deep through the mouth and blessing, blessing, blessing of the love we have for each other.
exhale through the mouth, continue please, it’s a very vital Sat Nam.
exercise. Keep the jaw fully open.
Come on, try the rhythm. It will relax you very fast. Don’t Students: Sat Nam.
get into that. Keep on immediately breathing that way pow-
erfully in, powerfully out.
Inhale deep and breathe through the nose, close your
mouth, breathe through the nose long and deep and meditate
and just purify yourself. Turn yourself into a flame of light.
Turn yourself into a flame of light. Inhale deep, exhale deep,
inhale deep, exhale deep, inhale deep, exhale deep. Put your
hands on the top, please, and shake your hands and stretch
your spine. Do it to equalize your energy. Just relax, relax,
relax, relax, relax, relax. Feel good?
a
KUNDALINI YOGA MEDITATION • A PURE FLAME OF LIGHT
Yogi Bhajan • March 16, 1982
POSTURE: Sit Straight in Easy Pose. Chest out and chin in. Place your
hands in Gyan Mudra on your knees, arms are relaxed with elbows PART 1
slightly bent; the three fingers are straight.
PART I
Open your mouth and jaw wide and inhale deeply through the
mouth and exhale through the mouth. Continue with a powerful
breath for 3-1/2 minutes, then inhale deeply and continue with
Part II.
PART II
Close the mouth. Begin breathing long and deep through the nose.
PART 11
Meditate and purify yourself. Turn yourself into a flame of light.
2 minutes.
TO END: Inhale and exhale powerfully three times. On the third

inhale, stretch up and shake the spine and the hands vigorously to
equalize the energy, suspend the breath for 15 seconds.
EFFECTS: Breathing through the mouth will relax you very fast. It is
a very vital exercise.
COMMENTS: Relationship is nothing but a totally extended experi-

ence of self.
Note: When teaching this meditation, Yogi Bhajan stated that it
should never be done alone, but only in a class situation with an
experienced teacher. However, you can safely do this meditation with
the recorded class provided.
Chapter One
Study questions & Projects
Read the transcript. Then watch the video one more time 4. “The other person is not interested in being convinced.
and do the meditation. When you try to convince somebody, somebody tries to get
out of it. This is a normal reaction. If you relay from the
1. As you sit still and quiet at the close of the meditation, heart center, you will always have victory with you.”
extend the time and sit for 11 minutes. Go deeply into that Meditate on the sensations in your physical and energetic
still state; sense your Self; relate to your higher Self as your bodies. Then imagine conversations with people as they try
primary relationship; and explore that feeling, to know that to persuade and convince you of their position, need or feel-
all your relationships are built upon that foundation within ings.
yourself. Meditate on how the quality of that primary rela- a. What differences do you note in your body, your ener-
tionship is reflected in all your other relationships. Then, gy and your sensations when someone speaks to you from
immediately afterwards, write something about each of their heart center—or not?
these topics: b. What is it like to agree with someone’s position, idea
a. When you feel something is not right in a relation- or need and yet sense your own reaction, a desire to escape
ship, do you first examine your own projection and the dealing with them?
relays you create? How does that make you feel about seeing that person
b. What is most important when you first create a rela- the next time?
tionship? Your word, action, awareness, projection or intent? How do you feel when you have done this to someone
c. When you view your relationships as a chance to gain else? Is there a signal in your body or mind that alerts you
or lose your own personality, how does that change your to the reactions you are causing so you can stop and cor-
behavior in your most important relationships? rect the frequency?
d. In viewing and participating in this class a second What are those signals?
time (and on your own), what has become clear to you How would your relationships improve if you stayed alert
about relationships and success in relationships? to those signals, especially when dealing with issues or
needs you feel passionate about?
2. We are “social animals.” In fact very social. We do not c. How important is this tendency to react to being
even complete our sense of self, our language ability, our pushed, trapped or convinced in your workplace and in
wisdom or our emotions without timely, varied and contin- working with teams? Give an example.
uous interaction with others. Give three examples that
demonstrate the importance, implications and fundamental 5. “The problem with you as a commoner is that you don’t
truth of this fact that you might use in a class or class dis- think there is going to be a reaction. To you, relay is only
cussion. an action.” By commoner he means someone who has not
mastered authentic relays in relationship or does not have a
3. Think through your relationships. Give an example that personal discipline or sadhana to develop that mastery. In
shows how relationships need to be initiated at the right fre- what way is the Neutral Mind important in the ability to
quency—to create a gain in your personality and in the other take into account the reactions that result from our actions?
person’s—and then actively maintained with each interac- How is it that we often ignore this? If you normally stay
tion, otherwise they break, fail or disappear. alert to the potential reactions before you speak, when—
under what conditions—are you most likely to forget this tic relationship—extend you?
awareness and act unconsciously? Are there areas of your 8. PROJECT: Take some colored pencils or crayons and two
life, or subjects, or feelings where you have consciously or pieces of paper. Pick your most significant relationship.
unconsciously decided you have permission to act without Meditate first to become clear, calm and alert. Then open
consideration of the effects? What part of your brain must your sensitivity to be aware of the field of energy in your
turn off in order for this to happen? aura. Notice your state and the pattern of feelings and ener-
gy in all directions around your physical body.
6. Usually our ego makes us look at our relationships in Now imagine the person present. Imagine they relay
terms of our satisfaction, our needs and potential resources. themselves to you; it is a poor relay, or one you reject. Sense
We pervert the real nature of relationships and form a false how you change. What happened to your aura, your radi-
core within them. ant field? Now imagine the same person connecting to you
“Friendship is a state to which you can offer yourself.” perfectly; you accept and support their relay. How does that
Write a comparison of when you have acted in this con- feel? How does your energy change? On one paper draw a
sciousness as you formed a friendship and when you did representation of the first relay and on the other piece of
not. Many friends are really friends of our habits, not of our paper, draw the second relay. Which chakras are present in
consciousness. When they are part of our consciousness, each relay? Why?
our extended sensitivity to our self and the world, the fre-
quency is always to uplift, complete and fulfill. How might
a friendship based on your habits sway you to act falsely or
participate in behaviors that you might later wish to disown?
Why is this so common in our adolescent years?
7. In the meditation he guides us to energize and then dis-

solve our sense of self as we purify our mind and reactions
in a flame of light. How can we use our sadhana experience
to energize and purify our relationships so that we can be
successful and enjoy our relationships as an extended expe-
rience of our self? When we enter a relationship as a sad-
hana, what are some of the ways you have successfully
engaged the relationship as an authentic extension of your
Self? How does this approach to relationship—as an authen-
CHAPTER TWO
Love and the

Infinite Game
of life
Love is the absolute power

of self-totality
April 5, 1994
THERE ARE THINGS TO BE SAID AND THINGS NOT TO BE SAID. that you will want to die and you can’t. You can be extend-
We may appreciate certain things because it will serve our ego ed beyond your situation to that point.
but we may be afraid of things which will not serve the facts So humanity has to go through these changes. In this Age
and reality in us. This is an Age of Aquarius, it’s not a Piscean of Aquarius it will be worth something. We have to do it. But
Age and according to the facts of life, you shall not be any- there is one thing we can do; whether we like it or not, we
body but individuals. No support system will work. The can develop our own caliber. You may develop yourself spiri-
human system of knowledge will be on the press of a button tually to be kind and compassionate, to be nice, to be faith-
and computers will provide everything which a man shall ful, to be Christian, to be Jewish, to be Muslim, to be Hindu,
need. With that huge knowledge which man will have, it will to be Sikh, I don’t know what you want to do. But, there is
be very difficult, if you are mentally not right to digest it and one thing more you can do. You can have a caliber where you
be with it. can have depth, width, height and strength. Where you are
Knowledge is a very dangerous thing, please remember not emotional, not commotional, not short or shallow, your
that. It’s not that ignorance is bliss, but, sooner or later what’s relationships give everybody trust and faith. You are not a flirt,
going to happen is that man will press the button and he will you are not lying, you are not playing games, it is not that
know anything he wants to know. . . . Now we cannot stop what you said yesterday is not true. There has to be a width,
that. In the name of civilization and progress and whatever there has to be a strength, there has to be a depth. And every
you want to call it, this is going to happen. It will be so bad human has to value each other human as made in God, not
that he is my puppet, he is my friend, he is my territory, you So what I am trying to explain to you is that it’s not prac-
understand what I am saying? Does it sink in? tical to have beef and not have pork but a Christian eats both
and for him it’s all granted to him. So it is not what is right
Students: Yes, Sir.
or what is wrong, it is the way you think or how you have
Yogi Bhajan: Nobody will be anybody’s puppet and nobody been made to think. Do you understand? And that is the
will walk into the planning and strategy of another person. It Piscean Age. But when you will reach the Age of Aquarius,
shall be absolutely free and people will not ask for wisdom. sooner or later (this is a cusp year), when you cross these
They will ask for applied consciousness. It’s a new world. You twenty five years then there will be not a matter of what you
will ask, “I want to know, what is the interpretation of this are being told and asked to believe and what you understand.
thing, in the factual fact as compared to my life, into my fre- You will just be you. There will be a husband, but there will
quency, as I want to see it. Not the rosy picture which every- be no husband. There will be you. There will be a wife, but
body gives.” no wife. There will be you. There will be a man, but no man.
Now, let me tell you about the Muslim religion, which I Just you. Only the identical elemental identity shall be prac-
always enjoy to quote. Let’s talk about the Koran. No, no, I ticed, experienced, and enjoyed. No other teaching will be
can, because I have read the scriptures, therefore, I have a valid for mankind. There will be such a humongous gap in the
pretty good idea. A Muslim is not supposed to have wine on support system that people will go crazy and feel empty and
this earth and he cannot have more than four wives. That’s a in another ten years you will see tons of suicides and tons of
very reasonable restriction. He cannot have wine and he will killings. Life will not mean anything. Not that life is not impor-
not have more than four wives. But he is promised that if he tant to each other and all of us—but because of that situation.
lives as a good Muslim then in the heavens he will have as So we are talking about crime and carjacking and hijacking
many young girls as he wants and the rivers will be flowing and killing and this and that, it’s just not abnormal. Because
with wine and he can have boys in addition to the girls. I each individual is seeking its own individuality and when any-
mean to say, it’s a scriptural truth. They may hide it from you, thing comes in the way the individual wants to react.
but this is written stuff. So, please understand what we are going through is a
Similarly, a Hindu is not supposed to take beef because change between the Piscean Age and the Age of Aquarius.
this human body is not made, scientifically speaking, to take Aquarian Age is an age of knowledge. Now everybody says,
direct protein. That’s the tragedy of it. The moment you take How can everybody become knowledgeable overnight? It’s
direct protein, forget it, your metabolism will give up on you very simple. Take a computer, put tu-tu-tu, t-r-w, ta, na, na,
so fast that you can’t believe it. That’s why vegetarians live code number, such and such, available or not, yes allow, put,
very slow and have an iron shortage but they live so long that set the key, key is set, give the code number, code allowed,
they can’t even die. But, though a Hindu is not supposed to bill charged, credit card number. You will put in your credit
have beef, he can drink milk. And a Muslim is not supposed card number and name, and then, you can have page after
to have pork, and neither can the Jews take pork, because this page of information as good as you want.
animal is in some way blessed and he can be saved from Sex will become mechanical and perfect, because this
being koshered. wonderful, green monkey diet which is called AIDS, which
everybody is afraid of, is going to multiply. It’s not going to
Students: (Laughter.)
stop and no government has the funds and the education sys-
Yogi Bhajan: And there is a situation, thou shall not kill but tem in place to let people know what it can do and what it
thou shalt kosher everybody, including a human. Can you can’t. They do tell you that this is practical and this is not
believe the interpretation? “Thou shalt not kill.” It’s a direct practical. Actually, it’s a membrane disease. It’s transportable
commandment, but thou shalt kosher everybody. Thou shalt between the membranes and it’s a matter of a moment when
kosher your wife. You can do those things. It’s a very, very you can get it and they are going to find medicine which will
funny world today. be worse than the disease itself.
So technically speaking, everybody is going to just say, come out of your body in twenty-four hours. Whatever food
“Wait a minute.” Why not spend ten dollars and enter a sit- you eat is immaterial, but when you eat it must leave your
uation and be totally satisfied and relaxed. After all, what is body within twenty four hours. Out. And sleep is that the
sex? It’s a pituitary adjustment. Yeah, kisses and hugs is just moment you turn your neck you are gone and you wake up
a game of mucus, big deal. No, no, no, listen to this, this is fresh. It can be five minutes or thirty minutes or eight hours.
how you are going to look at it. Not right now. Now, love is When you sleep at night, you only really sleep for thirty min-
a great thing. “I made love.” I know you are in La-La Land, I utes. Nobody sleeps more than that. The rest is dreams and
am telling you how you are going to look at it. crawling, cuddling and hugging, and thinking.
When, people started using marijuana in the sixties, I And tonight, our subject is love. Correct? Okay. Now, how
used to talk to these kids, “Oh, I went on a trip!” Now, it’s many of you know love? Raise your hands.
just dope. It’s nothing. The whole big camouflage of the Students: (Laughter.)
whole thing is gone. There is nothing to it now. It was a great
Yogi Bhajan: This is a very protesting class. It doesn’t make
deal then. Oh my God.
any sense. You are not even participating. Okay, I am going to
I remember, there were about seven or eight kids in New
trap you anyway, whether you like it or not. Basically, the fac-
Mexico, it took them fourteen days to prepare themselves to
tual thing is, I’ll give you an experience which you will never
have a puff of marijuana. And I said to them, “If you had done
forget. I came here to teach these few classes. Only for that.
yoga for fourteen days you would have been higher than this.”
Do you know what love is? Love is an absolute power of
But they didn’t. They had to go through all this. And then
self-totality. Love is not what you think love is. Love is a
they were just depressed like in hell, because somebody mixed
strength. Love is a goodness, like Godliness. There is no limit
something with it, then they were with me. It took me about
to it. There is no shortage in it. There is no bargaining in it.
two months to clear them up and that’s how terrible it was.
Where there is love, there is no question. Where there is a
In the beginning, I saw them preparing a ritual. The ritual was
question, there is no love. Then it becomes business. So, love
so set in this guy who was taking them on a trip. It was unbe-
is the totality of the self. And you do fall in love, you know.
lievable. Every stone in that area was to be washed, can you
When you fall in love, and when you sometimes freak in love,
believe that? And they did it in the river, in the Rio Grande.
the pain and the pull of the love is worse than a fishhook.
And then everything had to be aligned, because they were
There is no avail. It takes your heart out. The human psyche
going to the angels and the angels were going to walk
and the physical human both tremble under it. You may
through the clouds and come.
recover or you may not recover. That’s a different, second
I used to study that and enjoy it. I used to have a teepee
idea. Making love is a different story. That’s just putting few
too. I wanted to know exactly what was going on. Let’s cut
herbs together and having some fun. And friendship is that
it to the barest truth, folks. Technologically and sociologic-
the two ships decide not to offend each other. You know what
ally, you have to face the world on your own. Nobody is
I mean? The relationship is to relay to each other. As it suits
going to face it for you and you have to develop two areas,
you, I relay my truth and you relay your truth. I interpret the
the frontal lobe and the upper palate. The upper palate is
way I want and you want to interpret the way you want it.
developed by japa and the frontal lobes is developed by med-
We lie to each other 99.9 percent of the time. And it’s a
itation. The rest is pure talk. The third thing is that you live
straight lie. There is no truth in it. You are not competent to
by the breath of life. So if you can make your breath one
speak truth. Impossible! You have an elementary personality,
breath per minute, and if you have breaths granted by God for
then you have a work personality, and then you have a fan-
say, twenty years, multiply it by fifteen and live. It’s as simple
tasy. So who is speaking to whom? First of all, the three in
as that. It’s totally mathematical. There is nothing special or
you speak to each other, then out of the three, one speaks to
secretive about it. As Guru Gobind Singh said:
the other person, and out of the three in the other person,
Alap ahar, sulap si nindra.
one receives it. So you do not know where the post card was
Take a nap, sleep, and eat which can be digested and will written and where it has been received.
You must look at the truth of who spoke to whom and have these four things. You can’t surrender. You can only sur-
which part of you spoke to which part. Do you understand? render when you have your total spirit in it, and when you
Was it your fantasy you were talking about? Or was it your surrender, then your spirit takes over and you live very pure.
elementary personality? And the person you talk to, whether Then God takes care of you.
that person’s work personality received it or their elementary So when you read in scripture, “and if you surrender…”
person. Got the idea? There is a trinity in you to start with. that doesn’t mean cut off your neck. That doesn’t mean lie
Until this trinity is brought to unisonnness of an experience of flat and let everybody walk over you. That surrender means
consciousness as a human, and your frontal lobe is raised to only thou shalt not give your ego a chance. And when you
eliminate the duality, you will never find who you are. And don’t have an ego, then everybody is your amigo. Then, there
when you do not know, my dear friend, who you are, how can is no black, no white, no young, no old, no sick, no healthy
you know who somebody else is? Who is fooling who? But and absolutely nothing. The moment you become zero, the
we do talk to each other and we love each other. We relate to One, the Creator, will stand with you. You shall live as ten.
each other. We require that little rub, that little warmth. We And that’s what they call opening the tenth gate. But, first,
want to know. Otherwise, if love could be purchased, every- you have to become zero. I always give this example:
body would have paid a thousand dollars a pound for it. You One day, I was with a very reliable friend and a very great
know it doesn’t work that way. It’s not practical. person. At four o’clock the person became itchy and he said,
So tonight, we would like to give you an experience of “Yogi Ji, please your holiness, you have got to give me one
love within yourself, so that you can understand your growth hour permission to go.”
and you can understand how much you love yourself to find I said, “But what is the hurry? We will leave in an hour or
yourself. My dear folks, if you cannot find yourself, you can so, I have to go, too.”
never find anybody you want to find. These things which I He said, “No, no, no, that’s not true, you give me one
am saying sound very odd, but these are the facts of life. Our hour and I’ll come back.”
relationships and our communication are just to pass time. I said, “Okay, I’ll do something else. You go for an hour.
And our being emotional and commotional is to mark the It’s all right.”
space. That is how humans understand time and space, by And then after an hour, the person came back. I said,
emotions, by feelings, by commotions, et cetera, et cetera, et “What happened?”
cetera; and God is in your imagination. Some guy on the sev- “Oh, I had to feed my cats and dog.”
enth story somewhere, huge and big and nice and wonderful. I cracked up and I said, “Who is the master and who is
Actually, when you sit on the bathroom what comes out of the puppet? I mean to say, you have to go all the way to the
you is exactly God. What are you talking about? If your poop valley to feed your dog and cat?”
is not God then your papa is not God either. When I said that He said, “Yeah, yeah, between four and five I always feed
in a Sacred Heart Convent, to my Mother Superior, she them, so I thought, I’ll leave at four o’clock, half an hour ago.
flipped! Papa means pope; and I said, “Mother Superior, if I just put their food and water there and I came back.”
poop is not God, then papa is not God also.” And I said, “Now, these dogs and cats he has are his mas-
And she said, “Never speak like that about His Holiness.” ters and he is an unpaid, humble servant.”
I said, “He has nine holes as I have, and you have no right And that’s the track record of all of you, isn’t it?
to tell me to shut up.” Relationship: wife and husband. Husband is always afraid of
And that was my first Catholic experience. I had no guilt wife. Wife is always afraid of husband. True? There is no love.
and she was injecting me left and right with it. My first, what Children are afraid of parents. Parents are afraid of children.
do they call it? Contraband experience. Authority is within So, love doesn’t rule you. What rules you is fear. Fear of each
you and the acceptance of authority within you is the power other. Phobia. Phenomenal phobia.
of your spirit, your soul. That’s why you can’t surrender. You
can’t. Because you have logic and reason, time and space. You
MEDITATION: REVERSE ADI SHAKTI KRIYA will change the taste of your mouth, that’s one sign you are
(This meditation was taught in class. See end of lecture for write up.) doing it correctly.
So let us see if love can be invoked and fear can be reduced. We shall be doing it for eleven minutes. Eleven minutes is
All right? All right, let’s do the job. Wow, this is my right not very long. You have been practicing for not very long, but
hand. Like a good Christian, I’ll bless myself. And, you know it will start hurting you now. There is nothing I can do. In a
that point, where your head was soft when you were born? normal case, after five minutes it should start letting you
Remember that spot here? It has to be about six to nine inch- know how much pizza you have eaten, how much double
es above that. You have to sit straight and you have to put cheese you had, all those things. Because, your muscles and
this hand there. Accurate? Correct? And this is your left hand. their formation will start hurting, because of your wrong diet.
This is the first time you are doing this kriya. It’s called There’s nothing wrong about the kriya. When you are going
Reverse Adi Shakti Kriya. It’s a very powerful kriya. Please to have pain, then the brain will produce a natural morphine,
remember this. In my last days I am teaching you all those an anti-pain secretion. And if those ducts are open, then you
high technical sacred things, so you may not say I was not can develop endurance. That’s the way people exercise. If one
there and I didn’t teach you well. has to do a hundred and twenty jumps he will do a hundred
This hand will have this angle and this hand is like I am and twenty-one. That one is that final addition to cause the
blessing myself. It is just to correct my aura. And this hand natural morphine from the brain to secrete, so that you have
will be just exactly as it is, blessing the universe at large. You the capacity to endure. And it is not only physical endurance.
will close your eyes please. And roll your eyes down and look Once you know how to physically endure, you can mentally
at your chin, the moon center, very graciously and absolute- endure, and then you can spiritually endure. There are three
ly. And finally just start kissing your breath. Breathe long and endurances which are essential for you. And you should not
deep, but with feeling, with a “hug” kind of feeling. Breathe hesitate to create that endurance. This angle of the hand is so
you must, but don’t breathe unconsciously. Kindly breathe powerful it can hurt, and by now I don’t think anybody is not
consciously, please. Kindly bless yourself. Then you are not hurting pretty good. Because, after seven minutes, it’s the
expecting the blessing from anybody else. limit. If you have done it for seven minutes, forget it. The next
Bless you, bless your ancestors and bless those who have four minutes is just a living through the hell. But, this is the
to come after you. Whether you can produce a child or not, way it is. I mean to say, our elders who made these kriyas
don’t worry about it. must have measured everything. They knew better. So, kindly
This blessing is not a social phenomenon that you are let us suffer together.
doing. You are exactly, mentally, hypnotically blessing your- I used to have a colleague of mine who used to do this
self. It shall affect the magnetic field, and if you are an angry exercise. He used to breathe only eleven times in eleven min-
person it will hurt you, I am very sure about it. For those who utes. He was such a good practitioner.
are angry self-help is very difficult. So, please, try to bless Keep going.
yourself and do it consciously. Consciously remind yourself Wow, I think you have a minute and a half left. Not much.
and breathe very consciously. Maybe the second exercise will be worse than this, so enjoy
If you cannot bless yourself, then nobody can bless you. this as much as you can.
Take it for granted. And if the circumstances are odd, and Ready for the last few minutes? Please do your best.
you don’t want to bless, or you do not have the physical Breathe as slowly as you can. Twenty seconds in, twenty sec-
capacity to bless, bless it against all odds. Better you bless onds hold, twenty seconds out. Just one breath can help you
yourself so that, you can be into the physical realm. When better so that you can have an experience. Steady. Now,
you bless yourself, then the heavens will bless you. Don’t please inhale deep. Hold the breath and stretch both your
worry about it. I am looking at the time. hands straight forward, palms toward the ground. Right!
Try it authentically. Please breathe consciously, slowly, Solid. Straight forward, and stretch it hard, and breathe long,
long and deep and affectionately. If you are really doing it, it deep and slowly. Keep the hands there, it will give your heart
a strength to avoid a heart attack. It will open up the heart mantra. We didn’t ask you to do anything did we? This is a
chakra. The palms must be toward the ground please. basic element thing; it will totally change you inside out. It
Remember that: toward the magnetic field and arms straight. will give you self-consciousness, self-experience and self-love.
It is only three minutes that you have to go through it, And then you can love everybody.
and it will be really a burning hell. It’s not something you will The question is not to become an object or a subject. The
like to do. If you breathe slowly, that will be a help. I am question is to become total. So long as you are an object and
telling you scientifically, as it is written, so that you may know a subject, action and reaction, you will never understand what
the scriptural definition of it. Yeah, steady. Standardize. resurrection is. The higher you go, things look smaller. The
Stretch as much you can. Hold tight. Breathe, long, slow and lower you are the worse it is. Do you understand? If the pain
deep and get rid of disease. It will help you between the neck and the tragedy and calamity is humungous and you laugh at
and the navel point. It looks very easy but I know it is not it, ha-ha-ha, then what can it do to you? Nothing. But, if
easy. I understand it. Don’t misunderstand. I do it myself so there is a just little thing…. Ah, that’s it. You got it.
I know it. One more minute and we will be off of it. Do you understand what I am saying? Do you understand
If you had not loved yourself you could not have done it. this kriya? It is exactly six minutes and eleven minutes, not a
Now slowly please, inhale deep and raise your hand up minute more, not a minute less. And if you do not know how
straight. Straight up, and breathe long and deep. Straight up. to do it yourself, sit before a mirror. That will give you com-
Keep them straight up. Don’t bend the elbow. And it’s not pany. But unfortunately, in all the three kriyas you have to
going to be very long. Another two minutes, you will be off, keep your eyes closed so, it won’t be a help. You have to look
so it’s not a big deal. Stretch! It is more difficult than the first at your chin, the moon center.
and the second. You will bend your elbow. That’s the tragedy What I am trying to request of you to do, as human
of this exercise. No bend in the elbow! I repeat, for these being to human being, as person to person, is that the Age
remaining two minutes, no bend in the elbow. Let the hand of Aquarius is bringing unexpected changes, so we should
shake. Let the body shake. Let the spine adjust. Let yourself develop our strength and our talent and our IQ and our intel-
go through what you go through. Straight up! Steady. It will ligence and our consciousness to face it gracefully. It’s a time
change your entire metabolism and your physical body and to be patient. To listen to each other. It’s a time to be loving
your muscles and your spine. The whole set. But don’t let the to each other. It’s a time to be kind to each other. It’s a time
elbow bend. Doesn’t matter what! Beat it! Half a minute more to not treat anybody in any ungraceful way or to be shallow.
left, so don’t lose. Fifteen seconds to go. Keep up. Straight! It’s a time to say, ”Hello!” It’s a changed time. Because, not
Straight means straight. You know what I mean straight? only you, but everybody is going to be lonely, and you are a
Straight means straight. It’s English. part of that cycle of loneliness. Therefore you would like to
Inhale deep, deep, hold tight. Stretch with the hand create a relationship. It’s a time to agree, a time to listen, a
strength, lift the whole butt all the way up to the spine. Go. time to cooperate. It’s a time to trust. Love without trust does
Fire out! Inhale deep again. Deep, deep. Tighten it. And now not exist. Love is a strength of trust. Trust is the test of love.
do everything to lift up. Fire out! Inhale deep, deep. Hold When you love, you trust each other. When you don’t, you
tight. Now, please squeeze your body and try to lift your body don’t. So, don’t camouflage the word “love” and not trust
up. It doesn’t matter what you have to do. Bring all your each other. Be creative. I’ll be here.
nerves into activity, everything. Relax. I’ll invite you all, good, bad, pink, yellow, green, black,
Didn’t we do it? Wow. white, tanned, untanned, whatever you are, to the tenth of
Now listen. It was eleven minutes and three minutes and the Baisakhi. It’s a spring season where the purity and piety
three minutes. You can’t spare that many minutes in your life? is born, it’s the birthday of the Khalsa, I would like to invite
Eleven minutes and three and three. Six. How many does it you all, irrespective of caste, creed, religion, belief… nothing
come out to? Huh? You cannot spare seventeen minutes for else. We will have fun and I will be teaching another class
yourself in twenty four hours? We didn’t ask you to chant any Thursday night. Thursday night I would like to teach the
pituitary meditation. That’s what I just prepared today and how wrong you were that you couldn’t forgive him. Share this
you may have a very great urgency to do some other things with me. It’s all right that somebody is deadly wrong, okay?
which are important, but do not hesitate to come on Bad, terrible, miserable, good and you have to know that
Thursday. And go along with me to go through that, so that somebody is very wrong, correct? And see how wonderfully
it can also become your experience. I may stay in L.A. there- blunderous blundering you are that you couldn’t even forgive
after, if I have to, for medical reasons, but I’ll not be teach- it or ignore it or acknowledge it. If somebody is wrong, you
ing. That is definite. So within this week, if anybody who couldn’t teach it. It means you have no discipline.
has something to talk to me about or who wants to consult The most difficult thing in human life is the test of one’s
me, or if I have to talk to somebody, we will try to make the own discipline, not somebody else’s discipline. If you are not
most out of this time. But after Sunday I am supposed to go your own disciple and your own discipline is not stronger
on medical rest. That’s what it’s all about and I am grateful than you, you have hardly any chance to be happy. All pain
to you for your love and prayers that I could teach the class in this world comes to those who have no self-superior disci-
tonight. pline. And it is not somebody’s discipline being imposed on
I just faced an experience a week or so ago and I knew you. That’s not the discipline. Discipline is your own disci-
that it’s time for me to hand over and time for you to take pline for yourself and your conscious discipline. Forgiveness is
over. But unfortunately for me, you think I am everlasting, not an act of carelessness. Forgiveness is an act of con-
physical unwreckable, un-dieable. You know I am just… sciousness. You know it is wrong. You know it is being wrong
(pause) I do not know what the hell you think I am. I also and you have understood that it is wrong, but you don’t
take a bath. I go to the bathroom. I brush my teeth. I am just touch it. Caring is that person who, when someone has
like you. I have nothing special in me. Simply, I am just good always done you wrong, and he is going to do you wrong,
actor. I act very tense and everything but inside I am very but you still care to do right. Compassion is that you don’t
relaxed. Because I know that God takes care of the earth, it think about it. It’s automatic that you are good and great and
rotates it, so it takes care of my routine. It’s fine with me. nice and you cover to the maximum. So please understand
My divinity, knowledge, wisdom, whatever you call is these human values. And you are not an animal. Animals
based on one line, “I am made in God.” He made me His have impulse living. You have conscious living.
best. If He didn’t, then He was idiot and I am wise. So, you So, therefore technically, let us be very creative about it.
have to create that relationship of oneness with God. You can- Meet you in the next class, right? May the long time…
not have God stretch it somewhere else and you are some- (Students singing “May the long time…”)
where else. God made you the best. He could have. He should
have. He has. Therefore, it is. If He created you the worst, and Yogi Bhajan: Oh, my humble soul, far away into the existence
you think is best, then it is His comparative understanding of the maya and the tattvas of the planet Earth, into the con-
that He created a thorn and a rose. But rose and thorn are two sciousness of all other human beings, with love and devotion,
interdependent entities. He created the neck. He created to cause and effect, give me the harmony, the humility, the
somebody to be a pain in the neck. You know what I am say- strength and divinity to serve. May I serve without question.
ing? The whole thing is a comparative study. He creates about May I live without answers. May I trust God. May I see every-
hundred thousand idiots to create one wise person. And that one as His, as I see myself to be, and give me the strength
is how it is. His permutation and combination. But it doesn’t and height of love in which all are God and good. In the
mean a hundred thousand idiots are really idiots. They are goodness of that, may I live in peace and harmony. Bring us
very wise to play the role of an idiot. See how hard it is to be together as humans in the light and the divinity. Sat Nam.
an idiot? I mean, try to understand it from their point of view. Thank you very much and God bless you all.
You know what I am saying? Don’t look at your point of view.
If somebody is wrong and you caught it, try to understand
how painful it is to be wrong. And if you caught it then see
a Authentic
KUNDALINI YOGA MEDITATION Relationships
• REVERSE • STUDY
ADI SHAKTI GUIDE
KRIYA
Yogi Bhajan • April 5, 1994
PART I
PART 1
POSITION: Bring the right hand above the crown of the head—6 to 9 inches—like you
are blessing yourself. The left hand is by the shoulder, palm facing forward, like a
pledge—like you are blessing the Universe.
BREATH: Breathe long, slow and deep. Build up to a One Minute Breath. Kiss the
breath, with affection and feeling, “a hug kind of feeling.” Breathe consciously. If you
are doing it correctly, the taste in your mouth will change.
EYE POSITION: The eyes are closed. Roll the eyes down and look at the chin. Keep this
eye position throughout the three parts.
COMMENTS: Bless you, bless your ancestors and those who will come after you. This
blessing is not a social phenomenon. You are mentally, hypnotically blessing you. It will
affect the magnetic field and it will hurt you if you are an angry person. Keep breath-
ing consciously. If you cannot bless your self, nobody can. Better you bless yourself;
heavens will bless you. After 5 minutes, it should start to hurt and let you know what PART II
you have been eating. When you have pain, the brain will produce natural morphine.
If these ducts are open, endurance will develop, physically, emotionally and spiritually.
TIME: 11 minutes
TO END: Inhale and transition into the second position.
PART II
POSITION: Extend the arms straight out, parallel to the ground, with the palms facing
down. Straighten the arms tight and stretch.
EFFECTS: This will strengthen the heart and open the heart center.
TIME: 3 minutes
PART III
TO END: Inhale deep and raise arms into the third position.
PART III
POSITION: Raise the arms straight up and stretch. Palms are flat and face forward.
Do not bend the elbows.
TIME: 3 minutes
TO END: Inhale deep and hold tight for 15 seconds. Stretch. Lift the spine.
Exhale with Cannon Breath. Repeat 3 times.
COMMENTS: Can you spare seventeen minutes for yourself in twenty-four hours?
This meditation will totally change you from the inside out. It will give you
self-consciousness, self-experience, self-love and then, you can love everybody.
Become total.
Chapter two
Read the transcript. Then watch the video one more time and 2. The Age of Aquarius is going to bring many unexpected
do the meditation. changes. These changes will come in all areas of life and rela-
tionship. Name three potential life changing events that your
1. Yogi Bhajan said, “It will give you self-consciousness, self- students will encounter in their relationships and how you
experience and self-love. And then you can love everybody. would counsel them if they asked for your help.
The question is not to become an object or a subject. The
question is to become total. So long you are an object and a 3. In your role and personality of a teacher, you represent
subject, action and reaction, you will never understand what authority. As a student of Kundalini Yoga you must accept the
resurrection is. The higher you go, things look smaller. The authority of Self. Recall the times when you were challenged,
lower you are the worse it is. You understand? If the pain and as a student, in a yoga class to surrender to authority. Are you
the tragedy and calamity is humungous and you laugh at it, able to recognize this state in a student while you are teach-
ha-ha-ha, then what can it do to you? Nothing. But if there is ing a yoga class? What would you say to the class that would
a just little thing…. Ah, that’s it. You got it.” transform the energy in a particular student and elevate the
class?
Right after the meditation reflect on each of the concepts that
Yogiji outlined above and write a short paragraph in response 4. Over the past few days, you have had many encounters
to the following questions: with people and you have observed many scenarios unfold.
Pick one example that illustrates the caliber of Aquarian con-
a. What is one regular occurring activity or circumstance
sciousness: “. . . every human has to value each other human
that enables you to feel self-love?
as made in God, not that he is my puppet, he is my friend, he
b. When you are in this state of self-love does it spread is my territory . . .” Use this encounter or observation to cre-
out to your other relationships or environments? How does ate a universal teaching story that you would use in class to
this manifest for you? illustrate this caliber of consciousness and facet of relation-
ships. Practice this story in front of another teacher, in person
c. As a teacher in a yoga class how do you handle, with- or on the telephone, before you use it in class.
in your own self, the play of subject and object?
d. Is there a particular action that you take, after class is

over, to neutralize your reaction to the reaction of the stu-
dents?
e. How do you consciously resurrect yourself after an

energetic confrontation with a student?
5. In the coming years, the feelings of isolation, loneliness, 7. Take one concept from this lecture that was meaningful to
and lack of support will be very prevalent in your students and you and base a yoga class around it. Write a short narrative
in you. to introduce the class and weave the concept into the deliv-
ery of the kriya and meditation. Use the meditation from this
a. Name one way, in your daily life, that you are able to lecture—Reverse Adi Shakti Kriya—plus any kriya from the
move from loneliness to connection. course.
b. Who do you consider your biggest supporter? Is this

8. PROJECT: Draw and Explore Your Wheel of Relationships
relationship a family member or friend?
You will need poster board and markers to complete this proj-
c. What and who must you forgive when you feel a lack ect. See the example of a completed Wheel of Relationships.
of support? Now turn to your blank poster board.
d. Why do you think people isolate and disconnect from • Divide it into four quadrants.
others just when they most need to connect?
• Label each quadrant according to an area of your life:
Family: Relatives (alive or dead, but whom you relate to)
Professional: Work, Teachers, Students
Social: Political, Community, Associations
6. In the lecture, Yogi Bhajan has said that “Love is an
Personal: Friends and Intimates
absolute power of self-totality.”
Practice One Minute Breath for three minutes and then
• Add three circles moving out from the center of the
consider the source of your power. Where do you feel your
diagram.
power? Is it felt in a specific part of your body? Is it a spe-
cific emotional state? - The smallest circle is for those who are your closest,
most intimate or trusted relationships. There is high
Now do One Minute Breath for another three minutes. Go mutuality and reciprocity in those, you can count on
deep into your core self and transform the feeling you just them and there is significant contact.
focused on and described into a connected state of totality.
- The second annular region is for people who are
Repeat One Minute Breath for another three minutes. At the known, close but not intimate, and you can rely on
end, hold the breath and send a prayer of love out to the first them for certain roles, duties and shared concerns.
person that comes to mind. They may be frequent or infrequent contacts and close
or far in distance.
Finally, do One Minute Breath for another three minutes.
- The outer annular ring is the place for the most dis
Think of someone that has offended, irritated or let you
tant relationships—acquaintances, old buddies you see
down. Find your own state of self-love and in that state, for-
at reunions or special functions, relatives who you
give and bless that person. What happens in you?
know but speak to less often or only for some purpose
or need. This can be a wide range of people in your
community, past intimates, and in every area of your
life.
STEP ONE tutions—medical, religious or work-related. Some people have

Take 15-20 minutes to draw a small circle for each of the rela- many work colleagues and no intimates at all. Others have
tionships in your life. Label each person clearly by name or ini- many close friends in the middle ring, a few in the closest
tials. and very few in the outer annulus.
Note also the arrows on your diagram. These show where
STEP TWO attention, energy, caring and exchange go. Some people have
a large family and many acquaintances but little energy goes
For each relationship that you have identified with a circle on
towards them. They are isolated even when they are among
your map, place a small arrow (>) to indicate which direction
others. We all need a healthy balance of energy in and ener-
their attention is moving in. For example, a mom may look
gy out; feelings expressed and feelings received. See what
mostly toward the husband, or she may look mostly toward a
your patterns are. They may be very different environments.
child or friend. The arrow indicates where the energy flows. If Sometimes a work environment can seem like a family or a
you do not have a sense of where they energy goes or it is family like work. Are all the flows of energy natural and
neutral for someone, leave the circle (relationship) blank. aligned in a way that makes sense? What might you change
if you could?
STEP THREE Someone who is used to looking at these patterns, or a
Now draw lines among all the relationships. This will show computer analysis of all the data, can assess the patterns and
you how connected your network of friends and associates is. what they mean for the health and vitality of an individual.
Connect the lines between people if they know each other or Based on the degree of connectedness, the mutuality of the
have significant contact with each other. relationships, the distribution of people, and the proportion
of close and distant connections, you can see when the
STEP FOUR wheel shows strong, authentic support that will help a per-
Step back for a moment and look at the entire web of rela- son cope with stress and trauma. You can also see patterns
tionships you are part of. You can see many patterns here. As that show isolation, depression or high dependency. All of
you scan over these relationships tune into each one. Which our internal states affect how we form and maintain our rela-
ones that connect to you seem to be high in authenticity and tionships and how those relationships maintain us. Our pat-
mutuality? Mark those in BLUE. Which ones are troublesome, tern of life and our connections in life reflect our inner rela-
confusing or inauthentic (whether by your actions or theirs)? tionship to our self and the karmic web in which we find our
Mark those with RED. Leave all the neutral ones in your pen- self.
cil’s color or black ink. And then look very carefully and ask
yourself, which relationships are most significant, affect you STEP FIVE
the most, and need your attention? Of those, circle the three Look over your wheel and identify any common themes in
that are most significant for you now and mark them in your relationships. Ask yourself these questions as you look
GREEN. Think about those three. Imagine them as part of at each relationship, the pattern of all your relationships and
your Infinite game. Keep them with you as you go through you in relationship.
all the exercises that follow. What is the message or need they reflect?
If you could compare your map to others in your study Where are your “relays” effective?
group, you would find that the maps people make vary a lot.
Some have few family members, others many. Some have a Where are you consciously or subconsciously rejecting or
healthy support network with 2-6 very close people who are withdrawing from the relays of connection people offer to
highly mutual and can be relied on to value you as you would you?
yourself. Others have replaced those close friends with insti-
How does that affect your opportunities and your sense of STEP SIX
yourself in relationship? Now, look carefully at the three relationships that are most
important to you or that you are most concerned about.
What would be different if you acted with full authenticity in Explore these questions in detail for these relationships.
each case? Identify actions to take or insights that could change how
How much connection exists between different areas of your you hold that relationship more authentically. With all the
wheel? How much fragmentation? What is the pro and con guidance of your higher Self and from the perspective of the
of that? Infinite game—where you accept your soul’s choice to learn
and grow in these relationships—what steps might you take
Is authenticity the same in each quadrant of your wheel? to continue to honor and deepen them or to elevate them
where needed?
Do you create equally authentic relationships in each area or
are there circumstantial rules that override your own stan-
dards of authenticity?
What is my soul calling me to learn in my relationships?
Bring the full attention of your mind and heart to each rela-
tionship. This is a special opportunity for you to be real about
your relationships and yourself. Each relationship is a gift and
a mirror. Explore how much your relationships are based on
emotional reactions, entanglements and needs and how
much they are based on commitment, mutuality and authen-
ticity. Where are your opportunities for learning, growth,
grace, change and service?
CHAPTER THREE
THe Law of POlarity

in Relationships
Principles for Living:

The Law of Polarity & Intuition
January 4, 1994
WE HAVE ENTERED 1994, WILLINGLY OR UNWILLINGLY, moves by itself. So the entire universe is nothing but a move-
is that true? All right? So, this is how it goes. Every day you ment of circumstances, environmental, personal and imper-
have a fear of tomorrow. And so long as any human shall have sonal, in which you have not learned to be intuitive.
a fear of tomorrow, his life will be full of sorrows. That cannot Somebody one day asked me, “What is intuitive?” Intuitive
be changed. Period. Forget it. Whether you are religious or is when action and reaction do not affect you and you go
non-religious, or you're idiot or you're very wise, that should above in resurrection and look at the problem you are facing,
not make any difference. what you are doing, what it is. It makes the solution easy. It
Because, it is natural to have a placement and displace- makes the life easy.
ment. It's a biorhythm. It is a left hand, right hand, you can't So 1994 is the third year of the Age of Aquarius, and we
understand. But left foot and right foot you can understand. are getting deeper and deeper into self-acknowledgment.
To move you have to lift the left foot and put the right foot in People cater to emotions, environments, circumstances
front. Life moves. Life continues moving. Life cannot stop. Like and all that kind of stuff. Nobody likes to look at things in a
you cannot stop the time. You can hold onto space. Space general way of life. Each thing affects you. It affects you how
you comb your hair. It affects you how you wear your clothes. boot camps. Have you heard that? The national epidemic has
It affects you how you look. It affects you how you talk. It reached a point that it cannot be tolerated. So, all children
affects you how you relate. Everything which you do affects who will be found with indirect or direct drug use, either push-
you. Unfortunately you have been ill-taught—wrongly taught ing or using, shall be picked up from the schools and sent to
that whatever you do, it affects others. No my dear. That's boot camps. And that is what all those billions of dollars are
sometimes true, but on the other hand, whether it affects for. There will be a hundred thousand policemen that will be
another or not, that depends upon their shield of protection. put on this job, and the nation has to be cleaned of this epi-
But when you act, it always affects you because you have no demic.
shield for your own action. So you can look cheap, you can Because you must understand, nobody's against marijuana
live excellent, you can excel, you can look idiotic, you can or, what's that thing called? Whatever. Hashish and cocaine,
remain depressed all your life or you can be totally in ecstasy. or whatever. But once you use it, your brain expands and you
It's all you and your actions and reactions and it’s your mind; are never normal thereafter, doesn't matter how much you say
it’s not anybody's property. or what you do.
Now, there's a word called ‘Repeat’. When you repeat I’ll tell you an example. You take a silver wire and you
everything, same habits, same things again and again, it stretch it. It'll become thin but you cannot beat it back to its
becomes repetition. Repeating becomes your reputation, so a size. Exactly so, when the neurons get expanded by over-hal-
man is known by his own reputation. Everybody knows who lucinating, you can never get them back. It doesn't matter
is who, and has a general idea what is expected. who the hell you are. I mean, you may joke about it, that
I was talking to somebody today and they said, “Well, this man can stand anything. Any expansion in the body nor-
guy is wonderful but his length is only one month.” I said, mally has contraction. Look at the basic law. Pulse. Hmm,
“Well, what do you mean by ‘one month’?” He said, “This hmm, hmm—it has a rhythm. You see? Right? If your pulse
person can act nicely for 30 days and after that, there's noth- goes Mmmmm Mmmm Mmmmmm (denoting an irregular
ing. If within 30 days this person cannot impress, then there's rhythm), what will happen to you? You will be in the emer-
a tragedy. But if he impresses in 30 days, then there's a super gency room and after a couple of minutes you will be dead.
tragedy.” I said, “What do you mean by ‘super tragedy’?” He And anything, any extra stimulant from the body will or shall
said, “If in 30 days he impresses, that's nice. If he doesn't destroy the capacity of the body's normalcy and rhythm. Is
impress then you are safe. But in 30 days if this person total- that understood? Do you follow?
ly impresses you, after 30 days he is not going to be there. So And when you make this brain to fly out, “I am God,” then
you're going to be miserable.” you can jump from the14th story and your story will be right
So, there are two things in your life you have never cared down there like a pulp, but you think that you are flying.
for: one is range and the other is caliber. So basically for your I had a very great experience this time with a young kid.
life, for your sake, you have to learn to have intuition, range He sat face to face with me and he was just talking. He said,
and caliber. If you do not have these three things, you can “You know Yogiji, you are a yogi, right?”
have all the knowledge and all the wealth and all the beauty I said, “Yeah.”
and number one, you are miserable. And whenever the Age “This whole world does not exist.”
transects itself, if these three things are not together, a human And I said, “What are you doing here? It doesn't exist?
suffers more than anything. So this is what we have in front What's wrong with you?”
of us. It's called Age of Aquarius. “No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, you know, you know, you
Today I was given to understand (and it was national have to drive a car, you have to drive a car? You have to go on
news, you might have heard it) that they are going to hit all a road.”
schools to find all students who are directly or indirectly into I said, “What's wrong with that?”
drug pushing or using, and they are going to send them to “No, no, no. That's not good.”
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I explained to him in one hour, the road has to be made do. One-third shaven, three-thirds long, two-thirds this, one-
to just carry the traffic. When I told him that even in the air third bush. Tail covered and something like that—it was
there are traffic rules—you check your longitude, latitude, your unique. Because when a person does not have his wisdom or
speed, the whole thing with the control tower—he said, “Oh? her wisdom, they don't have any identity. And to qualify their
Well, then it is miserable world.” identity people talk. People communicate; people make
I said, “Well, birds fly through navigation also. Birds’ nav- friends. Everything is in. Because non-identity holds identity.
igation is by smell and sight. They smell from the air their dis- So actually you are all slaves of identity, because you do not
tance and destination, and they go by the sight.” understand non-identity. Once you understand non-identity
Now, the question is, this width which this 12-year-old boy then you don't have to understand anything; because non-
has, how you can contract it now? There's nothing to it. identity is your identity. It is happening, it is there.
Now this is expansion. Now let us talk about contraction. Tomorrow will be the 25th year anniversary of when I
Contraction is that you are afraid all the time. All the time you came and talked in the United States. We'll complete that.
are afraid. All the time you are afraid and all placement, dis- Between that moment and today there's no difference. For 25
placement, all movement and all tomorrow is your fear. years I have just talked. For a quarter century, I have just
Constant, constant, constant fear becomes a habitual phobia. talked, “Please do something for your consciousness. Please
You shall make no sense when you are afraid of everything. do something for yourself. Please learn to resurrect, not act
You may not say it, you don't want to admit it, you want to and react. Don't try to become artificially or chemically high.
rule it out. Try to become organically or naturally high. Do certain things
Where are you going to go to learn all this? There's no for which you have control. Don't do things which go out of
place, folks. People sell happiness, not knowledge. Human your control. Say no word which can hurt anybody. Do no
knowledge is not available. They sell you happiness. They thing which hurts anybody. Help and help and God shall help
promise everything. All these promises and all these therapies you.” But how many people have learned and listened or tried
and all this knowledge, which has been known in the Age of to be this way?
Pisces, is going to be absolutely obsolete. Not a word of it is I was discussing something yesterday with somebody and
going to be useful. the whole answer was, “I do not know how to get rid of my
All knowledge about which you are inquiring, and which neuroses.” “Well, they are your neuroses. Get rid of them.
you are trying to inquire about, you will have it on a com- What is too difficult that you cannot get rid of them?” “I
puter. Then what? How will you use it? Do you have the cannot get rid of my habits. I cannot get rid of my neurosis.
nerves, the stamina; do you have the intuition? Do you have I cannot get rid of this. I cannot get rid of that.” “Well, don't.
the projection? Do you have the self-control? Can you be Take your dirty baggage everywhere you go, and suffer wher-
peaceful, contained, content and conscious? ever you go.” There shall not be a place on this planet for
So the Age of Aquarius is an age of consciousness. How people who carry their stinking garbage with them. And they
conscious and how alert are you? How perverted you are, cannot smell good, no matter what because it is with them.
everybody knows. Don't worry about that. You don't have to You're not going to blame anybody. You can't blame any-
say how perverted you are. Everything which is not conscious body. Whether you have a mother phobia or father phobia,
and is not alert, is perversion. It's a simple rule of thumb. So mother phenomena or father phenomena; whether you have
categorically we are entering into a state of mind where, with a childhood problem or your youth problem, whether you
all possible civilization around us, there shall be a great empti- have fear of the future or the unknown, whether this or that—
ness. you can make a list. God, can you believe it what a list you
I saw a very funny boy today in a restaurant. His hairstyle, can make? That's a list. For you, don't list yourself into that
I don't think anybody can make it, doesn't matter what you list—that's it!
Have trust. God made you, you are made in God. Keep problem. Law of polarity is continuous existence. Try to be
going. Everything is going, you are going. And as you are wise. And as life will go, everything you dearly care for shall
going, you are growing. As you are growing, it will be all right. leave you, including finally your body. First, at forty years old,
There is nothing so special and there is nothing so horrible your eyes will go. Right? Then spine, spine will have some
which is worthy to be afraid of. If you create habits, habits will problems—backache. Correct? Then weight problem. Is that
create you. If you have bad habits, they will turn you into a true?
bad person. There's nothing anybody can do. Good habits will One thing or the other, whatever you are being told today,
turn you into a good person. What these circumstances were, it is going, as growing there is a wear and tear. So those who
are, or shall be, will not decide your future. That is what Guru are wearing a lot of clothes and having a lot of tears are mess-
Nanak said: ing up their life faster than others.
Karamee aapo aapanee ke nerai ke dhoor. Life is meant to be relaxed at the proper hours, and life is
Your own actions shall decide if you are near God's luck meant to be activated at the proper hours. You know by
and Infinity or if you are away from God and near your bad knowledge and by experience that I'm a yogi. The pairs of
luck. Who is near and who is far away, depends upon your opposites should not affect me. But when you misuse your
karma, and your own karma. body, overwork yourself and try to achieve something faster in
Jinee naam dhyiaaeeaa, ghae masakat ghaal. a funnier way, you may achieve those goals and missions, but
Those who have identified themselves, meditatively, and your body shall pay. So, after about twenty years it caught up
have done this hard work... with me. Now folks, if it can catch up with me after twenty
Nanak te mukh ujale ketee chhutee naal years, with you it'll catch up after ten years. That's the only
Nanak, those ones are free and liberated, and they are difference you can make.
bright and beautiful. If you are a little wise and once in a while do some stupid
There's no other discovery. thing, you can just make it. But if you do it all the time, you
And what do your actions depend upon? Your actions are not going to make it.
depend upon thought. Intellect gives you thought. If you can I do remember I went to Tucson and I met Dr. Deal. Dr.
purify your thought through meditation, you can be a better Deal just examined me out of love and affection. He said,
person. If you can't, you can be very badly stuck; and life can “Yogiji, I'll give you one piece of advice.” I said, “What?” He
be such a yo-yo that you can't get out of it. said, “Stop working.” I said, “Doctor, every man has a mind
It is normally alleged that I am against feelings and emo- and every mind has a mission, and mission has to have mag-
tions and commotions. I am not. Because feelings and emo- nitude, attitude, and manners. How can you ask me to stop it?
tions and commotions are part of life, provided you have intu- There's no way I can stop it.” He said, “Then it is coming.”
ition and you have wisdom. Having no self-control is like driv- And I remember one thing or the other started happening. But
ing a car without brakes. Having no self-esteem is driving a car after all, there is some determination. You always determine
without gas. So how far you can go? what cost you want to pay.
Why do you all try to be beautiful? Because you know you In life you have three things to know: time effective; cost
are ugly. Now try to understand the science. Scientifically, why effective; and impact effective. If your life does not qualify
do you try to be beautiful? Because you know you are ugly. these three things in balance, you are weird and cuckoo. You
Why do you try to be wise? Because you know you are fool- may go to a Twelve Step Program, or Thirty-Six Step Program,
ish. Non-identity holds the identity. That's what I'm saying. you do yoga and you do this or that and you may go to any
Try to rhythmically understand. Why do you want to have therapy and have a hometown doctor sitting by your side.
friends? Because you are lonely. Why do you want to sleep? Forget it. You have absolutely no idea that you live everyday to
Because you want to wake up. The law of polarity is not a consume yourself. “X” amount of prana is given to you and
you consume it everyday. And any activity in which breath is You know when I talk like this, you all agree with me. But
shorter and lighter brings you closer to death than when your when you go out the door, you're all going to do the same
breath is deeper and softer. thing. I have not understood for the last 25 years, why you do
Choice shall always be yours. Nobody can choose for you. that. Because you have been brought up in very guilty envi-
It's very funny. One person once died. She had her head ronments. You have not been told what Nanak said, that you
down and she was combing her hair. The hair got entangled. are original. From incarnation to incarnation you have your
Normally it can happen. She got so mad and pushed herself karma, and your body was given to you to cover your destiny—
so much that she fell and her neck hit the wall, and her neck equally and absolutely true. All my life I believed I shall live 48
broke. Spontaneous death. Now if she would have just untan- years. I don't know what wrong I have done; I am 65 and I'm
gled her hair slowly and rhythmically, she would have saved not going home. Something has gone cuckoo. Something is
the accident. But no, it could not be saved because there was goofy. Is it very bad to die at 48? Wasn't it wonderful? Job is
anger. Anger. And fantasy. These are kaam kaiyaa ko daa done at 48 then you go home. Why hang in for years?
daalay. Fantasy and anger. They totally destroy the human Once I met a very holy man and he said he has his Guruji
body. and he's 450 years old. And I laughed. I said, “With no dis-
It's not very qualifying to be a human and to be stupid; respect to your Guruji or to you, the guy is not needed by God
because I tell you what, when you are stupid, people tolerate at all? What is he hanging here for?” People talk great that
you. They don't love you. They don't like you. They tolerate they live a long life. Long for what? Is a long, tall bamboo stick
you. Human tolerance is the greatest human asset. Human will better than a sugarcane? Life which is not sweet, life which is
only attack you if provoked immensely. Parents like their chil- not useful, life which is not creative, life which is not effective
dren to be all right, but when the children start provoking is worthless. Loooonnnggg life. Big deal.
them (which is a normal, natural phenomenon), there comes You always say, “This person is very rich.” Rich in what?
a time when they say, “Good-bye.” Exactly so—whenever the “He has many servants. He has many rooms. He has a big
rhythm of harmony of life is broken, the death toll starts tak- mansion.” He takes sleeping pills at night to sleep.
ing care of the life. Because we have taken our life to the sense to get all we
We are not religious because we want to be religious. can get to secure ourself, because basically we are humon-
People have religion to have a path to find a reality. One way gously, tremendously and ungratefully insecure.
or the other, you have to find your reality. Now there's a very I was watching CNN today. Somebody has built a huge
funny thing. People say there is nothing in a religion; we palace, but he cannot live there. The city says, “You have gone
should be spiritual. “Spiritual” is a very loose term. “Spiritual,” couple feet over what your plan has authorized.” So now he
“Atma,” it's a very Infinite term. “Religion” is a definite term. has to tear the house down and he cannot live in there. They
Religion is a defined path. Spiritual is an undefined path. And said, “You have broken a code.” I was joking just that way.
those people who say, “I am spiritual, but I am not going to Some people have gone out of code. They don't live in them-
be religious,” you can never trust those people. They are walk- self. They live somewhere else. So you start living in your pro-
ing in a jungle. And there are some people who say, “I am a fession or in your achievements or in your environments or in
good person. I have a good heart. There's nothing wrong with your relationship. Something you live in. You don't live in
me.” Now, when you start defending yourself, that's the basic yourself. You are not home.
wrong. Goodness and truth, and kindness and compassion, And that is what we are going to reach out today, “How
wisdom and intuition do not have to defend themselves. much at home are we and how we can get back.”
Whenever you need a self-defense; when you have to use There will be three kriyas and it's not going to take much
logic, you have to use reason, you have to use argument, you time, but I'll like you to just stick with that. I mean don't
have to make a statement—then you have already lost your cheat. That's what I'm saying, right? All right. Let's get to it.
original sense of equilibrium.
MEDITATION thus, in this minute, the whole glandular system will start
FACING THE CHALLENGE OF TOMORROW secreting. The glands have to start secreting because they have
(See the write-up for this meditation at the end of the lecture.) to change the chemistry of the blood to give you that energy.
The first technological thing you have to do is basic. Put There's no other way. You can't get a B-12 injection right now.
both your hands to the planet Earth and close your eyes and So what is going to happen is within the body, the change will
roll your eyeballs down and try to penetrate through the chin happen. And all the glandular system—glands are the guardian
to look down that angle. It is 80 degrees down. It's called ‘first of the health—will have to act, but the process will be painful.
hit of the ray of the sun’. Be with the magnetic field. Both And then the secretion has to go into the bloodstream, and
hands balanced like wings. Balance them and close your eyes the bloodstream has to go to your muscles. Do you under-
and roll your eyeballs down and concentrate them toward the stand? That takes time. That's how the system works. I'm giv-
chin to make a triangle, and try to see as if there is a hole in ing you exactly how it is going to work. It needs your strength,
that chin through which you can see. That's all you have to your endurance, your activity, and your participation. And
do. don't freak out. Your brain is a Maha Computer, it's a great
Don't bother me; I won't bother you. It is your subjection, computer, it knows how to organize itself, but the body takes
which can turn you into the definite capacity of yourself. time. The body is a space.
Hands have to be out like a wing. Not down to the heart cen- In the next minute your breath will change. You can't help
ter. Shoulders must not bend. Shoulders have to be straight. it. Try to breathe with self-control. Breathe long and deep and
Now this is difficult, huh? Well, that's the way it is. I'm not breathe consciously. Don't breathe automatically otherwise
going to change the rules. Up, up, up. Your armpits must make you will flip soon. You have to work it out.
90 degrees. You think these exercises are easy? I know they are Qualify yourself. It's a matter of qualifying yourself. It's not
not. I have done them. They are terrible, but they work fast. a question of achieving. Achievement shall be there provided
Well, the armpit must work like a 'T'. Put your elbows up, you qualify.
your shoulders in a straight line—your elbows with your shoul- If we are doing good things, good result will come. If we
der line—and put your hands down toward the earth and your do bad things, bad result will come. You are doing good things
eyeballs rolled down, and just think there is a hole in the chin, painfully. Result will be good.
human chin, and you are looking through it. You will flip in a Now this minute, which you are entering right now, you
couple minutes, but it's worth it. will not like to do it. It's called ‘denial.’ The body is going to
Stabilize your posture and the energy will start working, pressure the motor system, and the motor system is pressur-
and body will be having an excellent time in a direct relation- ing the body and the muscle to let it go. Now comes your will,
ship to the earth. Electromagnetic seismography, and that will your higher Self. It's called ‘duty,’ it's called ‘endurance.’ it's
create a ‘space ray system’ with the suns rays. You might be called ‘excellence.’ You don't have to go and learn endurance
thinking it's late night, there's no sun, but the sun is there, from somebody. You can make it yourselves.
and that will start affecting you. Stabilize your posture with utmost consciousness and grit.
Come on now, just set yourself. You'll ask me one question, “Why are you hurting us?” So that
You're working with your three nervous systems in the you cannot be hurt tomorrow. It is your tomorrow which you
armpit. (Editor’s note: the central nervous system, sympathetic nerv- have to face, not me. If your nervous system and your brain
ous system and parasympathetic nervous system all meet in the and your thinking are not self-controlled and exalted today,
armpit.) And in a minute or so it is going to start hurting. It's what are you going to do tomorrow? You have no idea. So
not as convenient as you think. It looks good, though. don't think. Just work it out.
Because to hold your arms at that angle the nervous systems Very good, you have done well. Now is the worst. Turn
have to balance themselves. And now the brain motor, which your palms—keep your posture the same! Turn your palms
is holding your muscle, has to ask the energy to come in. So towards the sky. Same posture! Don't move the elbow or the
shoulders. Yeah. You always think things should be easy. to send the energy through every system of the being.
“What should I do? Where should I get that?” Now you are Squeeze. Breathe out. Inhale deep again, more, more, more.
going to get the heavens and that is the worst part, because Squeeze. Pratyahar. Contract. Breathe out. Inhale deep.
that is the exalted self. It's not cheap. Don't be foolish. Do it! Squeeze. Breathe a little more and squeeze more. Relax.
It will change the whole molecular structure. Don't be a fool. What did I do wrong? Huh? Did we do something? There
Get to it! I'm yelling and screaming, you don't listen? What's was no equipment, it was all your body, and it took nine solid
wrong with you guys? Make your hands, palms towards the minutes. Cheating one minute here or there, that was fine.
sky. Let the heavens come through. See how far away you are You are okay? All fine?
from the heavens? Get it, get it, get it! Let the brain [pause] Now, stand up everybody. It's very essential. Don't relax.
the layout in the brain will change if you do it right. Stand up. Hey, put on that music. Let them dance. You've
You know the funny part is that there are only two more got to dance, absolutely, with absolute strength. Whatever
minutes and we'll be off with this. Yeah, yeah, yeah. This is style you want to have, please. And that will be exactly
the way it is. It is not more than three minutes. Anything we eleven minutes.
do is just nine minutes. Class will be over. You can't do things Move, move, move your hands and legs. Move your body.
for nine minutes? Wow, what a sophisticated idea. I can't even Please move. You've got to make your body healthy. Move
believe. Keep up, keep up, don't bring your shoulders—don't your hands. move your body, you will feel very good tonight
start cheating. Keep the posture. It is self-winning. It is not for if you do it right. If you want to feel good at night, do it now.
somebody else. Keep the head high, chin in, chest out. Come This is your last minute. Please clap. Dance and clap.
on folks. You have only half more minute to go. It's not bad, Okay, sit down. Done. It's all right?
is it? I did it once, it really hurt bad. But I did it a second day, You know, it takes about 9 minutes to do these kriyas, it
and it was convenient. takes about 10–11 minutes to stimulate the body, and you can
Now turn your hands towards the side. Side. And hold up. have a wonderful time. You do it everyday, continuously, suc-
It will be easy, I tell you. Side. Palm outside. Don't flip. cessfully and consciously, and you can cover yourself.
Because you never do your arms that way, I know, I know. It's not that you are great in one way or the other, but if
Muscles. Muscles will be taken care of. Later on you can mas- you are youthful, then you can be grateful for life. Problem is
sage them, but for now do it, for God's sake. Stabilize your- your living. Problem is nothing else. Your art of living is that
self. That means all animosity will be out automatically. Your if it is not right then life becomes a problem.
shield will build up, and your intuition will start working. Can You don't understand, when I came to Canada I didn't
you believe what a cheap system it is? know one person. I had some contacts. They were all gone.
Straight, straight, straight, straight. Don't cripple your And tomorrow will be the fifth of January. I gave my first lec-
hands inward and make poses which are not required. ture in United States on that date. I was absolutely,
Stabilize. Well, you have already gone a minute and a few sec- unknown. Absolutely unknown. Nobody knew me. It was all
onds. Well, it's going very good. I am preparing you for the by a fluke that arrangements were made. Somebody was
Age of Aquarius. You are telling me that you don't have nine going to give a lecture and that guy didn't come, and some-
minutes in your whole workout? You go for hours for work- body knew me and he stuck me in. That's how it was. And
shops—what happens there? One minute from now you'll be the first question after I finished my lecture (and it turned
free. out to be very good) they said, “Well, you know, there are
No, no, no, no, no, na, na, na, na, na. You've got to keep a lot of teachers here. What have you come here for?”
the posture perfect. You are very successful. I wish I should I said, “Not to collect students, but to make teachers.”
tell you. You are great! Hold on. Hold on. Thirty seconds from “And what will you give us?”
this time. Hold on. Stand by. I said, “I'll give you healthy, happy and holy life.” That's
Inhale deep. Hold the breath tight, and squeeze your body how the foundation of 3HO started. That's how it was.
If a person who comes from twelve thousand miles away everybody—that you have to accept as basic and fundamental.
and knows no one, and those who he did know become hos- Then you look as God has made you to be. You behave like
tile—just understand—and then he creates such a humongous God behaves. And you be like God is.
friendship, knowledge, relationship—can you believe that? If you accept those things, then all shall be taken care of
It's not that I did it. There's no “I.” You can exactly do it, for you by nature. The nature of things will work for you. You
too, if you adopt three things. There are three things you have don't have to worry about it.
to adopt. Less than that you can't do. Technologically we argue, we rationalize, we are slaves of
• Never let down yourself, number one. First principle. our traditions and our consequences and sequences. We have
Never let down yourself. this and we have that. But folks, it won't work. The only way
• And never let down anybody else. that you can be beautiful is if you drop your ugliness. By mak-
• And never participate, join or connive in the let down ing up you're not going to be all right. Let us say you have a
of anything. human poop and you put a lot of mayonnaise and other stuff
Opposite to that is Keep Up—key–up–up—doesn't matter over it, try to make a dish out of it. Who the hell is going to
what. And keep up whether you can or not. When you can or eat it? Tell me. In the same way, if you do your doo-doo on
not, God will stand with you. But if you keep up, you shall be everything, who's going to like you? Nobody.
kept up. The rest is a hodge–podge. That's it. That is how I So try to elevate your actions so that you can enjoy the
have lived. That's my experience. excellence of life. Life is meant to be excellent, that is sure. But
When somebody says, “Well you know, this is wrong.” I when you attach yourself here and there, and drag yourself
say, “Okay, that's so. I have nothing to do with it.” And Keep here and there, and get angry here and there, and get freaky
Up is the only word, which for 25 years I have gone around here and there, and get all that stuff, you tear it up. And then
saying. This is the hub, this is the nucleus. “Keep Up.” Keep don't blame anybody. You are born by your own actions. You
up somehow and keep up when you cannot keep up. are living by your own self, and you will make it by your own
Because God wants to be kept up, so the environments grace.
and arrangements shall be made. The distance to the destiny Without grace, no human can win the race. Grace is
shall be covered—either by yourself or by the Hand of God. essential. Is that understood?
The choice is yours. If your ego cannot show you the path, Yeah, one simple formula. Somebody asked me, “What is
that's your problem. But once you zero your ego, the Id, the your philosophy?” I said, “Don't compromise with your own
Divine in you, will carry you through. That's how this whole grace, with yourself. Not with anybody else—with yourself.”
thing started folks. Don't compromise your grace with yourself. That's all.
In these 25 years many have come, many have gone, many It doesn't matter what the temptation is, what the advan-
are angry, many are happy, many are right, many are wrong, tage is or what the beauty is. That's it. If it's a compromise,
many shall continue, many shall not. Because there is a set forget it. Be graceful. What is grace? Three things: be kind, be
discipline which cannot, shall not and will not be compro- compassionate, be caring. That is called ‘sharing.’ That is
mised. Because that discipline tells one thing—every human called ‘seva’. There is nothing else you have to worry about.
has the right of happiness. It is a birthright. Happiness is your And be kind to those who are unkind to you. Be compas-
human birthright. The question is, how to achieve it? There's sionate to those who cannot leave you for a second. And be
a discipline. And that's all it’s about. Those who want God caring to yourself. Don't walk into the mud. Nanak says,
and those who are made in God; those who have accepted Saakat sangaanaa keejeeai, dooroo jaa-ai paah.
God, have to look like, behave like, and be like God. There are Don't walk into the dirt of a human. Lead the way.
not many other terms about it. If you start smelling like the outhouse, what are you going
First you have to accept that you are made in God. God is, to get? If you go in a garden you will have fragrance. Be con-
and you are God. And God is within you and God is within scious of where are you going, who you are doing things with,
and what you are doing. Check everything. Consciousness “Reputation.” She is not here. And that's how I'll remember
means detail in everything. Consciousness doesn't mean open her and that is how time will remember her.
your eyes and open your mouth and you are conscious. No! And there is a certain thing in her obedience. One day I
Detail! Check everything A to Z. What is checking? Cost effec- was saying, “How tall are you?” She said, “That much.”
tive, time effective, and impact effective. If you do not manu- “How much do you weigh?” “That much.” I said, “Ahh, you
facture your mind to work these three ways you will have have taken thirty pounds off.” “Okay.” I wish I should obey
nothing but insanity surrounding you and you will have noth- that way. But she does it. That is what human mind is. It's
ing but pain all the time. not that she's not powerful. It's not that she doesn't have the
This is the law of life. authority; it's not that she's not right. But with all that, being
The weather will change, environments will change, space compassionate and being kind, and working for those who do
will change, circumstances will change—but you have to go not know how to work and covering for those who do not
through it. And every step you take must be time effective, have cover is painful. I wish her the best of many years.
cost effective and impact effective. And today I wrote her, “Be the Silk President.” Silk has one
quality: when it's layered, nothing can penetrate through it.
Oh, who's birthday is here today? Tomorrow? Do you know that? Silk is the single cloth, which can control
Shakti Parwha Kaur: Sopurkh. She's not here. your thermal body. And I sent that coded message. She might
Yogi Bhajan: I know she's not here. We have celebrated it. be thinking that she has to wear silk today, but I meant that
Let us sing her a birthday song. she should control the thermal of the whole thing, because
(Sangat sings Happy Birthday to Sopurkh Kaur.) there are a lot of lives, hundreds of people who are working,
Yogi Bhajan: By the way, those who do not know, Sopurkh and as the economy of this country will go through yo-yo, we
is the President of the KIIT, Khalsa International Enterprises have to be plus to protect the households of many people.
and Trade, whatever, and she works and serves 14 corpora- That's why we're trying to plan. And she started with me with
tions. And she has one disqualification only. She has all the financial strategies. She's great. It is her birthday.
qualifications you need. She has one very heavy disqualifica- See how well I have spoken for her? Because she's good.
tion—she shall not take even a desirable action when she is Goodness is rewarded silently or otherwise. History shall judge
required to. Her kindness is killing us. But there's nothing I can people.
do about it. Isn't that a tragedy? I have a President who is You know one day I'll die, there'll be nobody, I'll be gone,
more kind than kindness means, and who's more compas- but there'll be no death. Body shall die, work shall keep going,
sionate when compassion is meant. And sometimes I use all and work is always rewarded. Those who worship work are
the psychology on her that, “What are you doing?” But she always worshipped. There's no other way. Because everybody
says, “Well, you know....” has to die. You want to create lineage or you want to create
She has served the Dharma well and she has served her- legacy?
self well. Is that true Daya? In spite of a lot of things, she has On this day I am very grateful to all those who have served
served the mission, consciously, with one defect. She doesn't a mission with me. Without them, all this was impossible.
fire anybody. And if your President doesn't fire, you can't do They have covered all my weaknesses with their strengths. It
it, and that is my tragedy. I don't want to fire anybody and is actually their glory which we'll be celebrating tomorrow.
she doesn't want to at all. Such is the combination between That's why all the businesses, which I started individually, I
the two of us. But still the Hand of God is guiding us and we put in the name of Dharma so that the ownership may con-
are successful. There's nothing so bad. It is all good. It is her tinue flawlessly. That's why every present you have ever given
birthday and she has served me with a lot of intelligence, great to me, or I have, shall belong to our Archives. It'll be a
loyalty, and with absolute grace. And that is called national heritage.
I was joking today that I have to make a book now; this

is one of the best to do, “Crown Jewels of Siri Singh Sahib
of Sikh Dharma.” And we have to do it better than anything
I have seen so far. We want to collect them, and have col-
lected them, just so coming generations should know that
beauty, art and wealth is not a negative thing. It's positive.
It's not negative. Beauty, art and wealth is always inspiring.
There's a very simple, popular saying, I'll translate literally
for you, “Gold can even inspire an old.” And that's what life
is all about, folks.
So tomorrow we are teaching a class. Tomorrow is the 25th
year celebration also. I hope you will all come and ask others
to come so that we can participate in a humble way. We'll be
celebrating it over the whole year. Healthy, Happy, Holy way
of life—that's 3HO. And it's real. It's no gimmick. It's not a
promise; it’s a very sure thing. “Don't leave home without it.”
(Class sings May the Long Time Sun Shine Upon You . . .)
Blessed God, give us the strength to be beautiful and

bountiful and blissful; caring, compassionate and kind; con-
tained, content and conscious; so we can serve Thee in the
granted life of the gift in every tomorrow, without pain and
sorrow. Sat Nam.
Now please enjoy yourself.
aAuthentic Relationships • STUDY GUIDE
KUNDALINI YOGA MEDITATION
FACING THE CHALLENGE OF TOMORROW
Yogi Bhajan • January 4, 1994
1. Sit in Easy Pose with your arms straight out to the sides. The 1
elbows are up at the same level as the shoulders and the palms
face downward. Bend the elbows in so that the forearms and fin-
gertips point straight forward. There will be a stretch felt in the
armpits. Close your eyes and focus the closed eyes at the tip of
the chin. Breathe slowly and deeply. Sit straight with the chin in
and the chest out. 3 minutes.
2. Remain in the same position as the first exercise but turn the
palms facing up toward the ceiling. This will stretch the wrists.
Do the best you can to make the palms turn upwards.
3 minutes.
3. Still in the same position, turn the palms so that they are fac- 2
ing out to the sides. The pinkie side of the hand is up and the
thumb side of the hand is down. Keep the arms up at shoulder
level and still focus the closed eyes at the center of the chin.
3 minutes.
To Finish: Inhale, hold the breath, and squeeze all the muscles of
the body. Exhale and repeat this sequence two more times. Relax.
4. Stand up and dance to Bangara drums. 11 minutes. For the

last minute, begin clapping the hands together.
Chapter THREE
Read the transcript. Then watch the video one more time and 3. We live in a world of polarity. If we define our identities by
do the meditation. the polarities within us, we never experience the happiness
which is our birthright. “Why do you all try to be beautiful?
1. Our reputation precedes us. It has a major impact on our Because you know you are ugly . . . . Why do you try to be
ability to come into authentic relationship with others. Yogi wise? Because you know you are foolish. Non-identity holds
Bhajan tells us: “Now, there's a word called ‘Repeat.’ When the identity. That's what I'm saying. Try to rhythmically
you repeat everything, same habits, same things again and understand. Why do you want to have friends? Because you
again, it becomes repetition. Repeating becomes your reputa- are lonely. Why you want to sleep? Because you want to
tion, so a man is known by his own reputation.” wake up. The law of polarity is not your problem. Law of
Write short answers to these questions: polarity is continuous existence. Try to be wise.”
a. What is your reputation? When your name comes up
in conversation, what qualities and characteristics do other Take a moment and assess yourself. Write down five polari-
people immediately associate with you? ties you experience in your role as a yoga teacher and how
b. Do they match your own assessment of yourself? What recognizing that your “non-identity holds your identity” can
habits have established this reputation? help you in understanding and dealing with those polarities.
c. If you want to change your reputation what habits do
you need to change? 4. “In life you have three things to know: time effective, cost
effective, and impact effective. If your life does not qualify
2. “So basically for your life, for your sake, you have to learn these three things in balance, you are weird and cuckoo.”
to have intuition, range and caliber. If you do not have these As a yoga teacher, do you take these three things into account
three things, you can have all the knowledge and all the when you plan a yoga class? On a piece of paper create three
wealth and all the beauty and number one, you are miser- columns with these titles and assess how each of the yoga
able.” classes you are teaching now, or plan to teach in the near
In one sentence for each, define intuition, range and cal- future, are time effective, cost effective, and impact effective.
iber. Then sit in a meditative state and with your Neutral
Mind: 5. “Life is meant to be relaxed at the proper hours, and life is
a. Create in detail a picture of yourself utilizing the full meant to be activated at the proper hours.” Yogi Bhajan often
potential of your intuition, range and caliber. Observe your told us that in his drive to fulfill his life mission he con-
appearance, projection, energy, feelings and voice. sciously ignored this fundamental law of life and his health
b. Assess what is currently blocking you from realizing paid the consequences for this. And he clearly advised us not
their full potential in you, and what you can do to overcome to do the same thing. Assess your current weekly schedule.
those blocks. Sketch out your blocks of activities for a week. Note your
work–time and your relax–time. Then try to bring it into bet-
ter balance and make changes accordingly.
6, “Now there's a very funny thing. People say there is noth- Write down three practical ways you can apply these princi-
ing in a religion; we should be spiritual. ‘Spiritual’ is a very ples to yourself, to your yoga students and to someone who
loose term. ‘Spiritual,’ ‘Atma,’ it's a very Infinite term. plays a hostile role in your life.
‘Religion’ is a definite term. Religion is a defined path.
Spiritual is an undefined path. And those people who say, ‘I
am spiritual, but I am not going to be religious,’ you can never 8. “Keep Up is the only word, which for 25 years I have gone
trust those people. They are walking in a jungle.” around. This is the hub, this is the nucleus. ‘Keep Up.’ Keep
up somehow and keep up when you cannot keep up. Because
How does this statement relate to you and your spiritual jour- God wants to be kept up, so the environments and arrange-
ney? Does it arouse a reaction? Are you able to come into an ments shall be made. The distance to the destiny shall be cov-
authentic relationship with these terms and definitions and ered—either by yourself or by the Hand of God. The choice is
the challenges or agreements they arouse within you? yours. If your ego cannot show you the path, that's your prob-
lem. But once you zero your ego, the Id, the Divine in you,
will carry you through. That's how this whole thing started
7. “You don't understand, when I came to Canada I didn't folks.”
know one person. . . . I was absolutely, ABSOLUTELY
unknown. Absolutely unknown. Nobody knew me. . . . If a Write a paragraph about how in your life you have experi-
person who comes from twelve thousand miles away and enced this principle—Keep Up. (“Keep up doesn’t matter what.
knows no one, and those who he did know become hostile— Keep up when you cannot and God will stand for you. If you
just understand—and then he creates such a humongous Keep Up, you shall be Kept Up.”) Has this principle given you
friendship, knowledge, relationship—can you believe that? It's the experience of zeroing out your ego and letting the Divine
not that I did it. There's no ‘I.’ You can exactly do it, too, if act through you?
you adopt three things. There are three things you have to
adopt. Less than that you can't do:
• Never let down yourself, number one.
• And never let down anybody else.
• And never participate, join or connive in the let
down of anything.”
CHAPTER FOUR
Living as Your
Authentic self
LOVE: Active, reactive & ultimate

July 7, 1987
TODAY WE ARE TALKING ABOUT LOVE, RIGHT? Love is the Love has two sides to it. One is correspondingly competing.
ultimate state of human behavior. Where compassion prevails You call it jealousy. Correspondingly communicating, you call
and kindness rules, right? Who wrote this? What have you it neurosis, trauma, drama.
written? Love is the ultimate state of human affairs. What Every aspect of human behavior is based on two loves—
kind of affair are you having today dear? You see how sub- active and reactive. The total sides of love are three—active,
conscious turns the inside out? She is caught on the spot with reactive and ultimate. Ultimate is called isht. Isht is a love
her affair. which is ultimate. It has no action and reaction. It is as it is.
Love. But in the basic language there are two words, prem You have that Romeo & Juliet love, that's the one epic writ-
and pyar. The love you talk about is what we call pyar, we ten here in the west. In India these loves are Soni-Mahiwal,
don't call it prem. We call it prem when there is no return. Heer-Ranjha, Laila-Majnu, these stories, these epics, these dra-
Pyar is that which is correspondingly responding. Love has mas are still played, and even Guru Gobind Singh in his own
two states. Love is a state of mind which must be fulfilled by writing takes a scenario from one of the lover’s lives.
the individual human body in all its totality. And love is the Yaarday daa saanoo satthar changaa
only method through which the body reaches consciousness, bhatth khayriaa daa rahnaa.
consciously, and the body reaches ugliness consciously. The My friends, this is the bad, terrible, uncomfortable bed—
basic pain of the earth and the pleasure of the heaven, if it satthar. Satthar is when you take the almost dead body and
can be experienced, can only be experienced through love. put it on the ground. The person is dying. It's called satthar
de pado, put him on the death bed. She says, “My lover’s with it. Logic and reason cannot deal with it. That's one
death bed is better than my in-laws’,” and my in-laws’ have tragedy about love. It's a very straightforward, motivating
the most silken and most beautiful bed. Bhatth means fur- force. Now what happened to the state of love? The state of
nace. “My friend’s death bed is better than those most pre- love is reactive. Once it gets activated, it is correspondingly
cious beds or facilities which are to me like a furnace.” reactive. It moves both sides. It's not one-way traffic at all.
There is an epic story of Heer and Ranjha. They were two Love is not one-way traffic. It has its reaction. It's a most
lovers. There is a story of Laila and Majnu and there is a story powerful motivating force. But when response is not equal to
of Soni and Mahiwal. These are the three stories of the Punjab the love, then action and reaction miss each other. Then the
which for centuries have been sung, loved, revered, respected same love which is creative becomes destructive. Do you
and adored as ultimate love: Isht. Majnu was a man. Laila was understand what I am saying?
the princess, and they couldn't meet, and he was almost very When you love somebody and somebody loves you, to
sick and skinny. He wouldn't eat. He wanted to see her. begin with honestly, you have to fake it to begin with because
Somebody said, “Majnu, God wants to see you.” Somebody you do not know what love is. So you call it love, you fall in
came and asked, “Majnu, God is asking for you.” love for security, you fall in love for body, you fall in love for
And his answer was, “Agar hai khayish milne ki tho laila appearance, you fall for sex, you fall for kisses given to you,
bankey aajaye.” If God wants to meet me, He has to turn for gifts, there are so many things. You know, a million things
Himself into Laila, I don't want to see God.” I can't count even. Sometimes there is one place and one time
So there is a saying: the philosophers, the lovers and the you fall in love. It doesn't happen all the time. And once that
lunatics all belong to the same category. So basically love is happens it projects you. It projects you in a state of hysteria.
insensitive but the most powerful motivating force. It is a hys- That's its first step.
teria. It has nothing to do with conscious intelligence; all it The way you understand love, you are really idiots. Love
has to do with is passion. And sometimes, when the passion is not what you think love is. Love is a motivated hysteria to
becomes compassion, that is where God becomes for that begin with. Or a commotion. Or it's a neurosis or it’s an
man. Now this is the difference. Love is love, love is a basic expectation; whatever you want to call it. I am not going to
motivating force. I am not asking you that there can be two call it anything. God knows with every individual it changes
forces. Love is love. And mostly your love is a passionate each individual moment. But once it’s moved you start direct-
force. You know, that’s how it is. But when this passionate ing communication. Cupid’s bow and arrow are in this. Cupid
force turns itself into a compassionate force under the guid- is very stupid. Cupid is . . . ?
ance of compassionate intelligence, that is where one Students: Very stupid.
becomes brahm giani. One knows all, one sees all, says all, Yogi Bhajan: So you have to be stupid first to fall with the
same thing. Cupid and the Cupid is going to throw the arrow and you got
So you have a positive love, you have a negative love. You to go. Okay. There is no way out. This arrow can go in but
can't misunderstand your negative love. Negative love you cannot come out. But God, if ever it comes out it leaves a scar
have to understand very well. Negative love is hatred. which bleeds for the rest of time. That's what it is. So basi-
Negative love is insecurity. Negative love is jealousy. All these cally, it's a baan, baan is an arrow. From baan word comes
things you hate the most are negative love. All the things you bana. Baan means something which can go and actually kill
like most, the romance, the dream, prince charming coming you. Bana means something which can kill your ego.
and bah-bah-bah it's positive love. You are all upset about the word bana, because it is very
There is nothing you can do about it. And it is so unfor- difficult to wear a good bana and then run around. It is very
tunate when you are in love, you become insensitive. Love is difficult to wear bana and not to be recognized. It's very dif-
either a phobia or it is a hysteria. That's its elementary nature. ficult to wear bana and not to be questioned. When you wear
But it is a very projecting nature. So senses cannot match up bana you are out. You are out to everything. There is nothing
of you. When you wear bana you are dead as you. You rep- merger of everything in the world is easy, except for two egos.
resent something you may not be that or maybe you are that. Because the law of ego is that it never merges. When “I”
But you have no choice. In everything else you have a choice, lives, “Thou” will never come in. The only way for “Thou” to
in bana you have no choice. And exactly in baan there is no come in is that the “I” has to be eliminated. Fight is between
choice. Baan means something which hits the heart. That is I and Thou. Fight is not between two human beings. So if
why they say Cupid is stupid. Cupid is that God of love, that your love affair falls apart, don't misunderstand, that it is
little kid who hangs on the trees with his little bow and arrow, meant to be. You can't save it. You can't save it because you
and it's stupid because whenever he feels like it, that arrow can't love it. You can't love it because you do not have the
hits the heart. control on your ego. If you cannot put the ego on the side
So first is a commotional hysteria, you know what hyste- you cannot succeed in love. Period. And don't even try it. It's
ria is? You are doing things, but things are not under your an inborn cancer with certain people. It's an inborn cancer of
control. Have you seen people in hysteria? You have seen peo- the mind that in some people their ego rules. Therefore love
ple in epilepsy? It’s something like that. Hysteria is something must defeat it. The stage of purification is the deciding stage.
where people do things not knowing what they are doing. But All right, once you get away from “I” then the ego elimi-
they know they are alive, that much they know. So that is nates. Then the love is understood by the Id. Existing sensi-
first, then communication starts and in communication, direc- tivity, original sensitivity, develops itself into ultimate sensitiv-
tion, frequency and sharpness the motive is projected. ity. Therefore two people, they have one sensitivity, one
So, the first is communication, first is hysteria of contact. action, one reaction and one feeling. It doesn't matter how
On contact, state of hysteria happens. Then in the second much time and distance they have between themselves. And
stage is communication in which the frequency is established. that is the state of ultimate love.
The third stage of love is who is the lover and who is the Now you can read a lot of books and you are Western.
beloved? It doesn't have to do anything with male and female. Your love does not go above the navel point. I have developed
My apologies. Had that been the case two men could not a new word because I knew I was coming to teach today, I
have been lovers and they would not have a gay or lesbian call it ‘service love.’ You know your gas station? You have two
community. Because the third stage is the deciding factor. kinds: self-serving and attendant serving, and that is called
Who is the lover and who is the (pause), love has its own Western love. In your life you drive yourself to the fill-up alley
genders. Put it plain. You understand that? Once that is estab- and you decide the price you want to pay for it. So if you have
lished, then further stage is purification. That's the most dif- a little less ego, then you go for what you call the self-serv-
ficult stage of love. Purification is when both see each other ing situation and if you have little better amenities of your ego
clearly as you see yourself in the mirror. And that is where then once in a while you use even the technician or the
love turns into hatred. First three stages are common in every- mechanic, and that is called the love drama you play. And
thing. Otherwise without these first three stages love cannot don't misunderstand, I am not just putting anybody down. I
start. Because the neurons in the brain will not act accord- have seen people who play the love drama much better than
ingly, they have a specific pattern. the lovers. Fake is much better than the real ones. Because real
So basically love is established on those three patterns diamond has a flaw in it and those fakes don't. But if you
exactly in all human beings. The act of purification is where understand all the materials, it’s the same material. So what I
you see the unseen of each other. Before that, who is the am trying to tell you is, once the love is used for achievement,
lover and who is the beloved? It is not established in about for self-service it shall be perfect. The only problem with that
eighty percent of cases. The matter falls apart there. And in kind of love is it doesn't last very long. Because once your
the action of purification ninety five percent people fall drama is started it has to come to an end. So some people
apart. Because it's very difficult for people, because when play the love game all their life. If there is a woman she plays
you purify yourself with love then you have to merge, and man to man. Let me put to you a conversation which you will
be shocked to hear but I hear them everyday, therefore please the most powerful motivating force which carries you, and it
forgive me for that. is never a reality, it's always a non-reality. Therefore for such
One woman said, “As far as I am concerned I started mak- people nothing is enough. And they are angry. Love totally
ing love when I was fifteen and in the last thirty-seven years becomes part of their life and anger becomes part of their
I have had forty to sixty men, it's just living like a nun.” Can activity. They yell, scream, accuse, abuse, they are always
you match up this conversation and all along this period she depressed, they always have absolutely no love for their imag-
is married. And she has six children. And I did ask one thing: ination or for themselves because everything that comes to
I said, “Do you understand that you have absolutely no them is from their subconscious. There is nothing you can
control over yourself and...” even do. It is nothing even to which you can relate. It is
She said, “Self control is the idiotic paradise of cowards.” nothing about which you can even think. I mean to say, this
Then I said, “Do you mean that life without discipline has person is totally a human being.
no meaning?” That is why in Siri Guru Granth the love parables are well
She said, “Discipline is just killing yourself as a normal explained. The relationship of the soul and God is related like
human being and living like a zombie.” a man and a woman, like a lover and a beloved. If you under-
How do you like that conversation? Sick. That's why yes- stand all those similes those references, you will never even
terday I was very sick. Thirty five minutes of that conversa- believe that you are not reading a very great love story. Like:
tion made me more sick than I could have gained health in
last three months. I couldn't believe that on this planet Earth, Aj na suthee kant is-o ang murhay murh jaa-ay.
in a human body, a person can live whose well defined lan- My limbs are turning themselves in convulsions
guage can just put down everything in the world that you because I have not been with my Husband today.
believe. It is what makes a human inhuman. Why it is so? - Fareed, Siri Guru Granth Sahib, page 1379
There is something called, it is called radio (pause) it's the Jaa-ay puchhahu dohaaganee tum ki-o rehan vihaa-ay.
activity from the atomic (pause) what they call it? “I am going to ask the unfaithful one, ‘How do you
Students: radioactive sleep at night?”
Yogi Bhajan: How do you spell it?
Students: R A D I O A C T I V E So it is also that all the human emotions, all the human
Yogi Bhajan: I have done this so that you can never for- existence, is correspondingly stated in love. Like, “My bed is
get it, it's called radioactive love. It kills either way. It's a love made, flowers are done, decoration done, I am waiting for my
of non-reality. It is based on a subconscious romance which lover, if he has not come, what use is that decoration?”
will never be practical. And people chase it to their death. It Now it's a common male–female relationship. Guru takes
is so radioactive that it also kills the neighborhood. If you all that just as a simile which we know, and says, “Of what
meet such a friend, who has a radioactive love, your marriage use is that life, if the soul does not feel God?” Mostly female
will be broken, your uncle will have babies through her, is the soul and God is the male. Male and female relationship
believe me, these people do not stop for anything whatsoev- is very well explained in the Siri Guru Granth in detail, if you
er and the unfortunate part of it is that they are innocent. really want to read one of the most beautiful love epics which
They are possessed. They have something that you call a very is a total reality you can pick up all the love stories from the
powerful imagination in their subconscious and that's what Siri Guru Granth. And my only hope was that we are putting
they call love and it comes from basic childhood anger. And all that on a computer. . . .
when you are angry while you are a child you cannot get (Yogiji talks to a student.) “She is there? Sangeet? New
away from it and you cannot think about it, you cannot deal Yorker. What is about Siri Guru Granth we are now comput-
without it, you may go to any psychoanalyst, psychologist, erizing it to the point? How successful are you?
psychiatrist, nothing can protect you. Nothing can protect Oh why can't you just get to the most American need-
you, because it is in your subconscious. It sits there and it's ed program love and relationship so that we can come on
that and then I will start explaining it with psychological and And my grandfather, I have seen him in a very noble state
logical explanation. Then I think that will be the best selling of mental affairs as a good, Gursikh and he traveled alot and
book in the world. Possible? he was all around everywhere he could be, but they could
Well that's the project. My idea is sometime to ask you to communicate with each other. They knew how better than
read Siri Guru Granth in English perhaps that somewhere the telegram, the telephone or the letter could do. And it’s
along the line, a few lines will come to your notice which will amazing.
change your life. Early one morning, my grandmother, was going for prayer
This grossness, this physical love, which is actually the and the roof had an air opening which was left open acciden-
biological cooling system, it's very essential. The prana feeds tally and she fell through it. Maybe about thirty feet. And when
the tattvas. Tattvas create the rasa. Rasa means the juices. she fell there was absolutely no breakage. No sign. After that
The juices ultimately circulate. In that circulation all the glan- she recuperated, and she lay down and somebody notified
dular system works and involves with the self. And there is a grandfather that an accident has taken place. And he smilingly
place to bring it to harmony. There are two ways of harmony: said, “There is no accident, she just wants to go home.” He
One is making the negative and positive meet and start the didn't say anything more than that. That amazed us all. That
glow so the calmness can come. That is called sensual, sex- afternoon she left the body. She was medically fully examined
ual, individual love. The other is called mental love. And men- and there was no head injury or anything. She was conscious,
tal love is by communication, by intelligence, by service, by she fell, and then at last somebody said, “Oh my God some-
radiance. All the practical games which we play by hatred are body did it wrong to keep it open and you have fallen.”
destructive, mentally destructive. By positive, constructive She said, “No, I have not fallen, but I am, and this fall is
games we play and uplift each other. And then above all there nothing. I like to rise to my home. Good luck and good wish-
is a love which is called real. Ultimate. That is when we es for all. Wahe Guru.” And that's it. I am literally translating
merge. Not just physically but also mentally, spiritually and what I read, what I saw and what I heard.
arcline, aura, subtle, total thing. We amalgamate with each So what I am trying to explain to you is that this mind,
other. That is a real love. this body is not a very ordinary gift, actually it is given to you,
I have seen two lovers in my life. And I have experienced Gur sevaa thay bhagat kamaa-ee
them—my own grandfather and my own grandmother. I can Tab eh maanas dehee paa-ee
not recount one day when my grandmother has ever spoken Is dehee kao simareh dev
words as a full sentence. And she was the noble lady of the So dehee bhaaj har kee sev
entire state. Whatever the land was, she was the real land- -Kabir, Siri Guru Granth Sahib, page 1159
lord. And she worked it all out. People will come in her pres- With Guru’s blessing you devotedly worshipped God and
ence and they will say, “We understand what we have to do, that's why you gained the human body.
it will all be done. You don't have to worry about it. Forgive Even the gods long for this body.
us for our rudeness in even coming to you.” And I used to
ask her, I said, “Grandmother what do you do? What is it? The angels worship this body because the senses and the
They have been fighting out there, three people got injured, experience of this body will give you a realization of God in
one is in hospital in serious condition. And they all think, a practical sense. And it gives you a practical projectivity of
‘matter got brought to you and these four people on one side, kindness and compassion. Life without compassion and kind-
nine people on the other side, come in your presence and ness is not worth living.
immediately they know what to do.’ And you don't even utter Guru Arjan, as Arjan Mal in childhood, was separated
a word! For God’s sake, sometimes I want to see your teeth! from Guru Ram Das. The pain he went through, the agony he
Just open your mouth.” went through, the separation he went through, was that of
And she said, “If the presence doesn't work, then the true lovers. He was in love and the beloved was Guru Ram
words are empty.” And I might have heard that many, many Das. Though he was his father. But the orders were, “You go
times. “If presence doesn't work, words are empty.” to Lahore, and until I write to you don't come.”
So Guru Arjan Dev at that time was Arjan Mal, he was not or the love, your life, is in trouble, whosoever shall read the
yet Guru. In that pain and in that separation and that agony, Shabd Hazaray—the body, soul, mind, everything shall meet.
he communicated. That's why I say communication is a very And if there is ever a love trouble (pause) I tell you some-
powerful project. He communicated. He communicated by thing, it is called when you heat iron and you put it in oil.
virtue of letters. He wrote one letter, which his elder brother What do they call it? Tempering it. You understand? And
kept and did not pass to the Guru. He wrote a second letter, when the iron is tempered it becomes very powerful. Is that
it did not reach the Guru. The third letter he sent said, “Go true? Okay. Now. This is the secret. Gurmat secret we call it.
and give this letter in the Guru’s hands and not to anybody If you read these four stanzas from Shabad Hazaray once.
else.” The third letter reached Guru Ram Das. Guru Ram Das Correct? And in between each letter, you know there are four
read that letter. It was marked three, number three. Guru Ram letters, you read one letter and then you read,
Das immediately sent for Guru Arjan Dev, Arjan Mal, and
brought him over. They said when they two met it was like Aad sach, jugaad sach, hai bhay sach,
light and delight. Light and delight met forever. That's the Nanak hosee bhay sach.
only expression of how that meeting was. And then Prithiya Then you read the second letter and then you say,
(the elder brother who never wanted Guru Arjan Dev to
become guru) had he known that Guru Arjan Dev would have Aad sach, jugaad sach, hai bhay sach,
to sit on a hotplate he might not have jealously competed for Nanak hosee bhay sach.
it, but you know he was all the time making efforts to drop Then third letter, then,
him dead. There are two ways to do it. One is by assassina-
tion, and the other is by character assassination. So he was Aad sach, jugaad sach, hai bhay sach,
first on this character assassination job and disconnecting him Nanak hosee bhay sach.
from the Guru. But what happened is when those three let- Then bhaag hoa guru sant malaya, the fourth letter and then
ters of Arjan Mal were there, he was not Guru then. Guru Ram in the end you read Aad sach, jugaad sach, hai bhay sach,
Das asked Prithiya, “You are in charge of the estate, those two Nanak hosee bhay sach four times and start again. Read this
other letters where are they?” eleven times. In eleven days you will be surprised to see what
He said, “I don't know.” happens. Try it, in spite of the fact you don't have the mind
He was American. Prithiya was American, he said, “I for it and you don't have the tendency for it. If you want to
don't know.” So Guru Ram Das told one of his attendants to recover from the loss of love which has gone on the indirect
go in Prithiya’s long coat. “In the inner pocket are those let- negative state of mind and you are losing the grip.
ters. Bring them over.” So the man went and brought those Do you understand what I am saying? If I would have
letters. There were three letters there and Guru Ram Das said, given the secret to you in private I would charge five thou-
“Okay Prithiya, you want Arjan not to be the Guru right? Now sand bucks and would have thanked Guru Arjan Dev for writ-
these are three letters. Whosoever wrote the fourth completes ing those letters. But I thought that you all are love beaten or
it and becomes the Guru.” Now Prithiya only knew how to love sick or whatever. I know I don't want to explain much
steal letters, he never learned how to write letters. Guru Arjan to you. But if you really want to love, and you want to pol-
Dev at that time wrote: ish your love, and position your love in right direction, this is
Bhaag hoaa gur sant malaa-i-aa a very ancient old secret. Read those Shabd Hazaray letters
Prabh abinaasee ghar meh paa-i-aa and add at the end. You follow what I am saying?
Sayv karee pal chasaa na vichuraa Aad sach, jugaad sach, hai bhay sach,
That last is his fourth letter. Nanak hosee bhay sach.
Not only did Guru Ram Das give Guru Arjan the Guruship, Meyraa mann lochai gur darshan taa-ee
but he blessed those letters and they became the first part of Bilap karay chatrik kee ni-aa-ee
the Shabd Hazaray, that whenever your love is in separation, Trikha na utrai sant na aavai
You understand, then in the end, come on, who has this? No, no, not like this, I will tell you
Aad sach, jugaad sach, hai bhay sach, what we are going to do. Hold on, match is starting. Okay
Nanak hosee bhay sach. here is the correct system, right? This is me, right; this side will
Then what is the second line? go with this side, this side will go with this side. And where
Teyraa mukh suhaavaa jeeo sahej dhun banee are you in the center Mahan Kalpa? Which side do you want
Chir hoaa daykay sarang paani to go? This side? Then turn little this way. Make a distance
right here, put a distance about two, three feet here right cen-
I know, I know, I mean when that is finished then you say, ter, this goes this way, that goes that way. Okay? Yeah. Give it
Aad sach, jugaad sach, hai bhay sach, a distance please. Either you sit on this side or this side, don't
Nanak hosee bhay sach. sit in the center. Right. Okay this side will act as a whole body,
Third is what? and this side will act as a whole body, and nobody shall move.
Ek kar(d)ee na miltay ta kalijug hotaa, Who wants to move or leave, leave now. We do not want to
Hun kad mileeai preeaa tudh bhagvantaa. disturb the electromagnetic field and don't mess us up please.
Whatever that is you know that, I am not saying anything You may be in love or not in love, I am not worried about it,
right? Then what happens, but I am worried that if you are going to sit, you are going to
Aad sach, jugad sach, hai bhay sach, sit. And we don't want to police you. But we want to be def-
Nanak hosee bhay sach. inite about it. Once you sit, you sit.
then Bhaag hoaa gur sant milaayaa. Right then, All right, you have a job to do. Yeah, yeah I understand,
Aad sach, jugaad sach, hai bhay sach, that's what I was talking about. Fine. Now you understand,
Nanak hosee bhay sach. you are all one body, correct and you won't look to these
Aad sach, jugaad sach, hai bhay sach, ladies, you look to them, they look to you face to face. Turn
Nanak hosee bhay sach. around. Come on, come on, come on hurry up. Sit down.
Aad sach, jugaad sach, hai bhay sach, Well we are going to show you something which you never
Nanak hosee bhay sach. wanted to see before. Now you will sit at an angle. We are
Aad sach, jugaad sach, hai bhay sach, creating a magnetic field. This is this way, that is, this is
Nanak hosee bhay sach. opposite to them, they are opposite to your fields and they
Fifth is the beginning and you start from the beginning again are opposite to each other. Okay, you are projecting on them,
eleven times. For forty days, just in this, I am repeating it. they are projecting on them but they will go with you on
Having done this, understand that I want to do a simple them and you will go vice-versa. Okay, this is how they are
experiment of love here. The love which I know, understand sitting here in a sixty degree angle, you are sitting absolutely
and I admire. All right? Those of you who really want to go confronting, is that understood? And is it that we understand
through it have to participate, those who do not want to par- how we are sitting now? Nobody will move. Do I have that
ticipate can watch. And those who know how to chant Shabd assurance? Here and there mistakes will take place don't pay
Hazaray can come up on the stage. And I want immediately any attention to it okay? All right. Okay now.
a harmonium to be produced and the drum. And I want it to Now you know the system how you are going to sing it.
be done very fast. You have to be a volunteer, come on here, Okay, all the musicians please sing it and everybody from the
right on the stage immediately. Those who know those four navel point. Right from low below, it's called low . . . ?
letters. Correct. Come on, come on, sit down here. Students: (below)
Hey, could you put some dari (drum) here, one extra dari, Yogi Bhajan: Low below singing. Correct? All right? Okay.
anybody has one extra dari? And the other group can come (Students sing the first four stanzas of Shabd Hazaray in
this side. And I want those microphones to travel fast. the method he has given....)
Now what you have to experience is when they sing, you The class ends with “May the long time sun shine upon
respond, as if you are singing then they are responding. It is you.....” And Sat Nam’s.
called reactive unisonness communication method. That's Wahe Guru ji ki Khalsa, Wahe Guru ji ki fateh!
what I am going to use. I am using a science now. Come on,
a
KUNDALINI YOGAauthentic
MEDITATIONrelationships
TO HEAL THE WOUNDS OF LOVE
Yogi Bhajan • July 7, 1987
POSTURE: Easy Sitting Pose.
CHANT: The first four stanzas of Shabd Hazaray, which are the letters written by Guru Arjun Dev to Guru
Ram Das.
There are four verses that make up this section of Shabd Hazaray. Let’s call them 1, 2, 3 and 4 in the
normal order that they are read. To that sound current we interweave the mantra:
Aad such, jugaad such, haibhay such, nanak hosee bhay such.
Let’s call that mantra M.
Recite the four verses of Shabad Hazaray and the mantra in this order:
M, 1, M, 2, M, 3, M, 4, M, M, M, M
EFFECTS: Repeat this sequence 11 times to have the deepest effect. If you want to change your relation-
ships, drop the pain, empower them with clarity, sensitivity and authenticity do this 11 times once a day
for 11 days. Of course you can do it each day for as long as you feel necessary or as long as you are
enthralled with the beauty and space it creates.
COMMENTS: These sounds are mantras—verses—written in the form of letters between Guru Arjan, the
fifth Guru, and Guru Ram Das, his father, the fourth Guru. There was perfect longing, love and fulfill-
ment in the sentiments, feelings and projection of these letters. Repeating these mantras takes you out
of the normal internal chatter and emotional games of the mind we usually live with. It purifies, aligns
and strengthens the heart and soul.
The Four Letters of Guru Arjun to Guru Ram Das from Shabd Hazaray
Aad such, jugaad such, haibhay such,
nanak hosee bhay such
Mayraa man lochai gur darshan taa-ee My soul longs for the Blessed Vision of the Guru.
Bilap karay chaatrik kee ni-aa-ee It cries out like the pied-cuckoo.
Trikhaa na utarai shaant na aavai My thirst is not quenched, I find no peace,
Bin Darshan Sant pi-aaray jee-o Without the Vision of the Beloved Saint Guru.
Hao gholee jee-o ghol ghumaa-ee I am a sacrifice, my soul is a sacrifice,
Gur darshan sant pi-aaray jee-o (1) Unto the Vision of the Beloved Saint Guru. (1)

Tayraa much suhaavaa jee-o sahaj dhun baanee Your face is so beautiful, and the Sound of
Chir ho-aa daykhay saaring paanee Your word imparts Divine Knowledge.
Dhan so days jahaa too(n) vasi-aa It is so long since the sparrow hawk as had a glimpse of water.
Mayray sajan meet muraaray jee-o Blessed is the land where You live,
Hao gholee hao ghol ghumaa-ee O my Friend and Intimate Divine Guru.
Gur sajan meet muraaray jee-o (2) I am a sacrifice, I am ever a sacrifice,
Unto my Friend and Intimate Divine Guru. (2)
When for one moment I could not be with You
Ik gharee na milatay taa kalijug hotaa
The dark Age of Kali Yuga dawned for me.
Hun kad milee-ai pri-a tudh bhagavantaa
When shall I meet you, O my Beloved Lord?
Mo-eh rain na vihaavai need na aavai
I can not endure the night, and sleep does not come,
Bin daykhay gur darbaaray jee-o
Without the sight of the Beloved Guru’s Court.
Hao gholee jee-o ghol ghumaa-ee
I am a sacrifice, my soul is a sacrifice,
Tis sachay gur darbaaray jee-o (3)
Unto that True Court of the Beloved Guru. (3)
It is by good fortune that I met the Saintly Guru.
Bhaag ho-aa gur sant milaa-i-aa
The Immortal Lord, I have found in my home.
Prabh abinaasee ghar meh paa-i-aa
I will now ever serve You, and not for even a moment
Sayv karee pal chasaa na vichhuraa
Will I ever separate myself from You.
Jan Naanak daas tumaaray jee-o
Servant Nanak is your slave, O Beloved Master.
Hao gholee jee-o ghol ghumaa-ee
I am a sacrifice, my soul is a sacrifice, unto You, O Lord.
Jan Naanak daas tumaaray jee-o (4)
Servant Nanak is your slave, O Lord. (4)
mwJ mhlw 5 cau p dy Gru 1
Awid scu ju g wid scu Awid scu ju g wid scu

hY iB scu nwnk ho s I iB scu hY iB scu nwnk ho s I iB scu
myrw mn locY gur drsn qweI hau GolI hau Goil GumweI
blp kry cwiqRk kI inAweI gur sjx mIq murwry jIau ]1] rhwau ]
iqRKw n auqrY sWiq n AwvY iek GVI n imlqy qw kiljugu hoqw
ibnu drsn sMq ipAwry jIau ]1] huix kid imlIAY ipRA quDu BgvMqw
hau GolI jIau Goil GumweI moih rYix n ivhwvY nId n AwvY
gur drsn sMq ipAwry jIau ]1] rhwau ] ibnu dyKy gur drbwry jIau ]3]
Awid scu ju g wid scu Awid scu ju g wid scu

hY iB scu nwnk ho s I iB scu hY iB scu nwnk ho s I iB scu
qyrw muKu suhwvw jIau shj Duin bwxI hau GolI jIau Goil GumweI
icru hoAw dyKy swirMgpwxI iqsu scy gur drbwry jIau ]1] rhwau ]
DMnu su dysu jhw qUM visAw Bwgu hoAw guir sMqu imlwieAw
myry sjx mIq murwry jIau ]2] pRBu AibnwsI Gr mih pwieAw
syv krI plu csw n ivCuVw
jn nwnk dws qumwry jIau ]4]
hau GolI jIau Goil GumweI
jn nwnk dws qumwry jIau ] rhwau ]1]8]
Chapter FOUR
Study Questions & Projects
Read the transcript. Then watch the video one more time 4. What is “radioactive love”? In your role as a yoga teacher,
and do the meditation. has a student ever attempted to contaminate you with their
radioactivity? Engage another yoga teacher in the discussion
1. The practice of Bhakti Yoga keeps our emotions from
of how, as a yoga teacher, you can recognize and deal with
turning into destructive commotions by transforming them
such a situation so that the contamination doesn’t spread to
into devotion. Yogi Bhajan tells us: “Your love is a passion-
other students. How might you utilize the formula of “poke,
ate force. But when this passionate force turns itself into
provoke, confront and elevate” to deal with this and elevate
compassion force, under the guidance of compassionate
the relationship?
intelligence, that is how [you] become a Brahm Gianee. One
knows all, one sees all, one says all.”
5. “Above all there’s a love which is real, the ultimate love.
Practice a meditation or sing a mantra which opens your We merge not only physically, but mentally and spiritually,
heart and then sit in a meditative state. Remember a time in arcline, aura and subtle body. We amalgamate with each
when you experienced the transformation of passion into other. That is real love.”
compassion as Yogi Bhajan describes. Take a moment and
Yogi Bhajan describes the relationship of his own grand-
capture this in writing. Does compassion ever slip back into
parents in these terms. Have you experienced in your own
passion or commotions? When? Under what conditions?
life or the lives of people near to you this “real love.” Can
you tell a story which illustrates it?
2. Yogi Bhajan tells us there are five stages of love:
1. hysteria or phobia
2. communication 6. Plan and teach a thematic yoga class based on love.
3. loved or beloved Write a short narrative to introduce the class. Include the
4. purification to original sensitivity story of Guru Ram Das and Guru Arjan. Utilize any of the
5. ultimate love kriyas and meditations from this Authentic Relationships
In writing, trace a primary love relationship in your life course.
through these five stages. Yogi Bhajan tells us that most love
relationships break down in the purification stage. Take a 7. 40-day Sadhana: Write a love song, poem or letter to
special look at this stage in the relationship you are describ- God. Find a special time to be alone and sing it or read it
ing. Were you able to successfully get through this stage? If aloud. Allow yourself to feel and express the passion of your
so what were the key elements that enabled you? If not, desire to have an intimate relationship with the Divine. Read
what were the aspects of your personality that blocked you? it (or sing it) until you mean it—until you feel it in your
body. Do this for 40 days. Keep a journal of how this
3. “If you cannot put your ego on the side you cannot suc-
impacts your relationship with the Divine.
ceed in love. . . . It’s an inborn cancer of the mind that in
some people their ego must rule, and therefore their love will
8. 40-day Sadhana: Read the first 4 stanzas of Shabd
be defeated out.”
Hazaray eleven times a day for 40 days as described in this
Put yourself in a neutral state of mind and meditate on this lecture. As you do so, open yourself to the wounds and
statement. Reflect on your relationship as a yoga teacher pain that love has given you in your life. Keep a journal of
with your students. Be honest with yourself. Look deep into how your understanding of and relationship to these painful
the subtle aspects of that relationship. Then ask your True memories transform during the 40 days.
Self, How can I release this hold of my ego and experience
a pure, unselfish love relationship with my students.
CHAPTER FIVE
Divine DeliGHT
and the Play of
Masculine and
Feminine
Let Your Identity

Come From Your Divinity
July 4, 1996
OUR PROBLEM IS THE MALE, ISN'T THAT TRUE? You can- Student: He's developing his own ego.
not live with him and you cannot live without him. Is that Yogi Bhajan: No, ego is not in this game. A female child
true? will start offending you in the eleventh year, but a male child
Class: Yes. will offend you in the third year. Do you know the reason?
Yogi Bhajan: I would not like you to be offended today, Student: Hormones.
but I have to tell you the truth. Please don't take it person- Yogi Bhajan: No, it's not hormones. You can joke about it
ally. Unfortunately, you see me in the body of a male, so you as much as you want, because you do not want to face your
might feel that what I'm going to say is not true, or maybe reality, your pain, and your shallowness. You can make a
I'm defending males. That is a possibility. But you have to mockery of it. You are the one who creates criminals, you are
understand that's not the purpose of this class. the one who destroys the world. The creative power is yours,
When a male child is born, in spite of all his innocence, not anybody else's. Don't take it as a joke. Don't misunder-
in his third year, you lose the grip. Is it true or not? Just work stand. Failing is not a wrong thing, but not admitting it is a
it out. Why, in his third year, do you lose a child who was very wrong thing. Why does the male child stop listening to
within you for nine months, who came out of you and who you in the third year? Why does the female child stop obey-
you raised for one, two, three years? In the third year he starts ing you in the eleventh year? Can anybody answer my ques-
saying “no” to you. May I know why? Can anybody explain it tion? It doesn't make sense. Isn't there any woman in this
to me? Yes? whole class who can just analytically understand why?
Student: He has only half a brain. teach the child good and bad, the child will never leave you.
Yogi Bhajan: No, no, no, it has nothing to do with the There's no better student. You have never accepted a child as
brain. a God-given student. You always accept the child as your pos-
Student: The child is out of the mother's aura. session. That's your mistake.
Yogi Bhajan: No. It's very painful for children to disobey Put that tape on Guru Dev Mata. Listen to this. Do you
parents, extremely painful, but they do. have the translation?
Student: Because the parent indulges them. Class: Yes, Sir.
Yogi Bhajan: I don't know what this English word indulge Yogi Bhajan: Okay. As you sing, I want you to read the
means. I don't understand how after reading the whole Siri English translation of it.
Guru Granth you can talk like this. Aren't you ashamed of (Tape Guru Dev Mata by Guru Jiwan Singh plays.)
yourself to say that word ‘indulge’? Yogi Bhajan: Guru Dev Mata. That's the first line. Guru
Student: Is it their rhythm? means the one who brings you from darkness to light. Dev
Student: They need to identify with their father more. means transparent. “Transparent” is just a definition of God:
Yogi Bhajan: An eleven-year-old girl will start telling you, everywhere but not seen and not known. It is the power of the
the mother, what to do, or doing things you don't like. A Unknown. “Oh, Mata!” “Ma” means moon, “Ta” means sun.
three-year-old boy will start telling you to go to hell. I am ask- “Oh, my combination of my moon and sun, you are my trans-
ing you a simple question: Why? parent enlightener.” Guru Dev Mata. A mother who does not
Student: They start to develop their own projection, the play this role should never have a child. The entire conflict in
beginning of separation of their own projection. this universe is caused by the role of the mother. It's a very
Yogi Bhajan: No, no, no, no! Can you answer this one painful and unfortunate role. A mother is not a person, a
question of mine? Wasn't it painful for you when you did all mother is a Guru Dev.
that yourself as a child? Didn't you feel guilty? Wasn't it nerve
wracking for you? You can't deny that. I'm aware of it. Aad guray nameh, Jugaad guray nameh
Student: Is it that you start to see your parents' short- Sat guray nameh, Siri guroo devay nameh
comings? -Guru Arjan, page 262, from Sukhmani Sahib
Yogi Bhajan: Who cares about shortcomings and all com- I bow to the Primal Wisdom.
ings? Parents are parents. Parents are very fine things. For I bow to the Wisdom of the Ages.
seven years I heard someone complaining, “My mother is I bow to the True Wisdom.
insane, my mother is insane, my mother is insane.” The I bow to the Great Wisdom.
moment the mother showed up, my God, you can't believe
the red carpet. It was a silken red carpet. I see the behavior. This is what we use to call on Guru Ram Das. Guru Dev,
Don't tell me that. Just tell me the fundamental answer. the same Guru Dev as Guru Dev Mata. There is no difference.
Student: He's testing the mother. Let us not have a misunderstanding. You are the root cause of
Yogi Bhajan: Test? No, no, no. the maya. Manu was not incorrect. Don't misunderstand why
Student: To be true to the self. such a rishi as he, who gave law to the universe, was forced
Yogi Bhajan: No. As a mother you always try to tell the to say a last line against you. And this shabad says Guru Dev
child what to do. Woman, because of her double brain and Mata, “Oh mother, you are the Guru Dev, from the day of the
her balance, can tolerate a little more than a male. The male first breath to the last day. That's the relationship you must
can't tolerate it. Your first tragedy is that you tell children what have with your child.”
to do. And all of you, from A to Z, are guilty of it. You'll never Now look into yourselves, you are mothers. How many of
change. That's why the world is absolutely horrified. you act that way? How many of you have acted that way? Are
You have no right to tell the child what to do. The child you not supposed to be responsible, and shouldn’t you be
has the right to know what is good and what is bad. If you punished for bringing children to this Earth and not discharg-
ing your responsibility? That's why I apologized to you at the them! Take those grades and say, “I am a failure as a teacher,
beginning of this lecture. I don't want you to take it person- as a mother.” Because you are the first teacher.
ally. You should absolutely not take today's lecture personally. You have never understood that you are the most perfect
Aren't you a criminal? I'm just checking. As a woman, aren't source of God to create divinity. That through divinity you
you the most criminal mammalian creature ever born? You could create identity, from identity you cannot create divinity.
bring forth a life, and then after three years your own son tells But divinity is a taboo to you. Rather you show your breasts,
you what to do. “Nay!” His first word comes out: “No.” And wear miniskirts, have a sex sale. Who do you think you are?
after eleven years your daughter starts telling you: “No.” It's a Do you think your children don't know about you? Do you
fundamental truth. And then you buy, you bribe, you give think a child is a freak? The child has a 108-element sensory
gifts. You're the biggest, most corrupt, most cruel institution system. Try to see a child and figure it out. Understand it. You
on this Earth. never gave the child its place. You never gave the child its dis-
The first line of this shabd, Guru Dev Mata is: “You are my cipline. You never gave the child its value. You never did a
true Guru, pure, transparent, angelic. You are my angelic Guru. thing. And then you blame your children that they have gone
Oh, mother, Oh, the combination of Ma and Ta.” You're not nutty; they have become drug addicts, they are not in a posi-
going to like today, right? You can't take it. But if you can't take tion to make their life. You know, today in America eighty per-
it, then you will take pain for the rest of your life. cent of your children are absolutely useless. Thanks to your
What I am talking about today is for generations to motherhood, they are just labor. How many of you sat with a
remember. If you are a wife, go on saying “why?” and “if.” It's one-year-old child in your lap and meditated, and through the
your problem with your husband which you don't acknowl- power of your meditation put that child to sleep?
edge. But with your own child we are asking a fundamental (YB gives an example to a student): You are the most
question: How come it happens even though the psycholo- unwanted woman in this class.
gists, psychiatrists, analysts, and sociologists are all trying to Student: I can take him away gracefully.
create theories? Yogi Bhajan: No, no, no. You are the most unwanted per-
Look, the Guru has given one phrase. One phrase. It's son right now. I am teaching a lecture and you're sitting here
decisive: Guru Dev Mata. “Oh, my mother, you are my trans- playing with that poor innocent child. You're disturbing the
parent guide, my God, you are my beauty, you are my boun- whole class. You take this child out. Time out. And that's
ty, you are my everything.” Guru Dev Mata. A mother who is what you deserve. The child is not wrong. You are. (The child
not Guru Dev Mata is going to lose a child, a man, a life and starts crying as he is going out.) Now see? Try to love him.
an opportunity on this Earth. Can you do it?
You have sixteen times more intuition, sixteen times more See what I am saying? I'm experimenting here. Watch
intelligence. You jokers! It's not given to you to be sensual and this. This child knows you. In his psyche, he wants to be
sexual and on sale, to become models and remodels, and important. He wants to sit up here and lecture you instead
socialites. You were given that sixteen times more by God so of me. It's true. He didn't want to be played with. Force did-
you can cure the Earth, by God Itself, because you are also a not work with him. Did force work? You say children don't
jananee. Nothing can be without your psyche. You are not know? Who has told you children don't know? Children
cruel. You are rude. That little thing, you take its heavens, its know so much. There are 108 elements, and their mega-
innocence. “Yes, No. Do this. Do that. Say this. Don't say power is thirty trillion per unit. You are ten trillion cells, three
that.” Who do you think you are? Is that not a soul? Does it living cells mean thirty trillion. You are thirty trillion cells and
have no sovereignty of its own, no independence, do you not the child's psyche is 108 elements. Multiplied by the mag-
see the beauty of it? netic power of that, a child has the power of a complete sun.
What I have experienced here in the last twenty-seven As the sun's rays can spread to the universe, so the child's
years is very shocking: children, school, and grades. These vibration in his psyche can study the whole situation better
three things you know. Take those grades and eat them. Eat than you.
Go ladies, wear miniskirts. That child came from what is in male, and his wife is sleeping with that other male? Who
the miniskirt. He knows his pathway. He knows when you are caused it? President Clinton? (Laughter.) Is it a law made by
dressed up. He knows your feeling. He knows your sensory the United States Congress? The root cause of life is the
system. What do you do? You give him to a babysitter? mother. The quality and the quantity is also the mother.
When I requested that a child shall only stay with the There's no other but mother.
mother for forty days, the majority of people decided to leave You have never disciplined a child. The only thing you
this system, “We can't do it.” Once I was shocked to see what worry about is potty training, so that you know he will not
the fashion had become. A child was born and twenty cam- mess up. Potty training is physical, but what about the men-
eras were there to welcome it. A reception team was organ- tal, what about the spiritual, kiddos? You blind women. Don't
ized. There was no peace, tranquility, honor, and grace within you see that potty training is all three ways? That it is physi-
which to enter this Earth. You vagabonds, egomaniac, insane cal, it is mental and it is spiritual? No. You only did it once.
moms and papas. The fact is on record. And when the child got potty trained you were celebrating,
Then we insisted on it. For the first 120 days of the preg- “Oh, thank God. Now I can take him, he can just do it, and
nancy, you will try to protect the identity of the child. For forty then I can just clean him up.” That's easy. Mental potty train-
days after giving birth, you will completely identify yourself ing, you didn't do. Spiritual potty training you never cared
with the child. We say that from the hundred and twentieth about. Even today you don't care.
day of your pregnancy, when the soul enters, you'll walk with On the Fourth of July, 1996, you do not care to train your
your husband five to seven miles a day, and do the charan jaa- children in spiritual potty training. And you call yourself par-
paa: Sat Naam on the left foot; then on the right foot, Wahe ents? No. You have got some toys, for which you didn't pay.
Guru. You'll go around miles and miles in order to give the You just pay on a daily basis and exercise your ego. “Sit. Up.
vibrations and the identity to the child and give it its totality Down. I love my child.” This is a beautiful mother. “I love my
at that time. We are not cruel. We are asking you to use your child.” She is the most rotten mother I have met in my whole
power as a mother. Your power as a mother is purity. Your puri- life, who wants to ruin her child by giving him false security.
ty is with your husband. Your purity is with a man. When you Once a child gets false security from the mother, that child will
talk like an ego you're not pure; you are an individual, usurp- never be real again. Time and space and the world at large will
ing the right of an individual. You want. You want what you not give that kind of leeway. There shall be challenges. Today,
want. What does he want? as you deal with a man called ‘husband,’ you are feeling those
That's why I said to you that your trouble is man. You can- evaluations which you didn't get as a child. If you understand
not live without him, you cannot live with him. So, what are your purity and piety, you can still win the war. Still. Winning
you producing? You are producing all these children with half is not difficult. Winning is not impossible. I win life just as
parents. you win life. We breathe every day and we win every day. We
I was speaking to a man yesterday. He said, “Yogiji, this is win every day working hard, rest at night, and we wake up the
Independence Day weekend. I wish I could see you in next morning winning again another day. Every child needs
Espanola.” that as a habit. When a woman has that habit, all her children
I said, “Why don't you come?” are like saints, and her husband is very much a saint.
He said, “These are the only days I can take my children You have four faculties which can free you: You can serve
and I have decided to be with them.” a saint, you can marry a saint, you can be a saint, and you
I said, “When you were married, would you try to use the can give birth to a saint. Man has only one: he has to become
same practice to be with them?” a saint. Maybe if he serves a saint the crown of spirituality can
He said, “That's the unfortunate thing. That's why I'm be bestowed.
divorced.” You don't understand. Miniskirts and powder and lipstick
Have you seen these fathers on Friday night standing out- and rouge and hairdos and blouses worn low and breasts up
side to collect the child, and his child comes with another and all that BS; with that you are doing such Beautiful Service
to yourself (let me explain it technically) but it will not get you child has such a psychic power to understand. The child is
anywhere. One day you will live with your own rotten children such a person that within the range of 250 miles he can auto-
in a broken home and a divorce. matically cause the milk to flow in the mother if he's hungry.
Your strength is not your sale strength. Your strength is Now we have wireless telephones, where we speak here, and
your elevated spirit. It is not the total woman. It is the face of it goes all the way up and goes anywhere in no time. The
the woman. When the face of the woman is so dynamic, so electromagnetic cover which in olden times was known as the
saintly, so pure and so nice, then man has no power even to psycho-magnetic field, shall be the Age of Aquarius. You will
speak. You must have seen with some women where the man never find wires, they will all be deleted. There shall be no
absolutely cannot say a word. We call them henpecked hus- wires. Communication will be totally individual. Nobody will
bands. Have you heard of that phenomenon? In India they call even use a battery. The human electromagnetic field will be
them “the servants of Bibijis.” It is their dharma, they are just enough of a battery. The person will be in a position to charge
servants of these ladies. These men are, “Yes, sir.” There's a up from the Earth in one minute. The whole thing will be
strength. And that strength is very strong. That's the real absolutely taken care of.
strength of a woman. Your faculty is Guru Dev. This whole shabd you are singing
Today and tomorrow and every day, your life will be noth- and reading totally describes you. The greatest tragedy, the
ing but sorrow if you will not rise above your attachment to greatest betrayal, is that religion put God outside of you. God
yourself and do not understand that you are born to be Guru is in you. The middle-man is the one who wanted to take your
Dev. That's why the Guru said ‘Guru Dev Mata.’ You don't money and live off you—take your precious money and blood
have to learn anything. I'm not asking you to read books. I'm which you could be spending on your children and your fam-
not asking you to do anything. Just understand one word: “I ily. Such a person calls himself a holy man. A holy man is the
am going to be Guru Dev. I am what I am." See how your life one who has nine holes, and who watches from the Tenth
changes. Gate, the Tenth Hole, what comes in and goes out, and keeps
Put the tape on and sing with it please. the purity. That's all it is.
(Tape Guru Dev Mata by Guru Jiwan begins. This shabd is by There's no need to be very flattered about, “I am holier
Guru Arjan, on page 250 of Siri Guru Granth Sahib.) than thou.” Yes, we have a habit to control. Control means
Translate it. This is your faculty. Read it like a song. In this you carry the load. But don't think you will not suffer. You
song, you are defined and your faculty and facets are defined. shall suffer the law of karma, because an action has an equal
That's why you are a woman. You are Guru Dev. Don't give and opposite reaction. As you sow, so shall you reap.
birth to a child if you cannot give him the values. What you
are reading in this shabd are the values. This is all about you. Aapay beej aapey hee kaa-ho
It's not about God. There's no God if you are not there. Naanak hukmee aavho jaa-ho
Even if one is an avtaar, one is this or that, he has to come -Guru Nanak, page 4, 20th pauree of Japji Sahib
through a mother. If the mother is not a Guru Dev, then a As you sow, so shall you reap.
devil is born, and the whole world will be in pain and destruc- The person comes and goes as God wishes.
tion, including you. This is a genetic mistake you are making,
ladies. Man is your trouble, and man will continue to be your Karmee aapo aapanee, key neyrai key door
trouble. Man will be your trouble as a son and as a man. -Guru Nanak, page 8, Slok of Japji Sahib
Conquering that son and man is not your trouble, it's your vic- Some will be called in and others will be pushed away by God
tory. You have been defined. Otherwise there is no need to in accordance with their actions.
have children. Remain single. A whore doesn't make a score. You are born to be divine.
If you think the child doesn't understand you as a moth- You are the first excellence of God. Even God has to take birth.
er, then you are the most arrogantly ignorant person. The God can only take birth through you. Be clear and understand
that in this shabd, step-by-step, stage-by-stage, your faculties not a big miracle. It is just simple clarity and concentration of
are being described. Another thing you do is that you go for your mind. Mind over matter. Little mind of the child, the
psychological counseling, social counseling; you have psychi- mother, the most Guru Dev mother, if she says sit down,
atric problems, mental problems. Who has told you that? everything sits down. The universe sits down. The angels sit
You give birth to the avtaar. You give birth to the psy- down. What kind of little tiny husband are you talking about?
chologist. You give birth to the doctor. You do everything. Is Who's he? Have you understood your faculty of power? Have
there anything without you? Men want you. Men leave you. you understood this is a period of ultimate liberty for you? It
Men love you. Men hate you. Men divorce you. God knows. is your sovereignty. Have you understood that when you flirt
Which faculty of life of a male is it in which you are not dom- you lose mental alertness, and you lose everything with it?
inantly predominant, may I know? Do you think these are jokes? These are not jokes. They are
Read your other qualities. Play it. Today is liberation day. making you jerks. Then you start blaming: “My mother was
(Tape Guru Dev Mata plays, as Yogi Bhajan makes comments.) this, my father was this, because of this....” Psychologists
Sing with it. Read it. charge one hundred twenty dollars an hour to make you talk.
Can't you talk to yourself? Have you ever understood that you
Gurdev maataa gurdev pitaa are the gateway of prana? Have you seen men getting preg-
Gurdev swaamee parmeysharaa nant? You can give a child physical potty training; you can give
You are the master God Lord. a child mental potty training; and you can give a child spiritu-
The Guru's not talking to the people on Mars and the al potty training. That child will remain clean forever, and
Moon. He's talking to you. through that cleanliness, generations will be clean.
Gurdev sakhaa agyaaan bhanjan It is you and the power of your womb which can produce
Gurdev bandhap sahodaraa God. Revlon lipstick doesn't make your lips red. It covers your
You remove the darkness as a friend—sakhaa. paleness. Rouge doesn't make you beautiful. Makeup only
You clear out all faculties and obstacles. That's you. Wow! shows that you are making up for something. Thank God men
are blind. If a man had any sense, the moment he sees a
Do you know what mother we worship? There's not one woman in makeup, he will know she is “making up,” and she
human being born yet who can walk on the back of the Bengal is not real. He will say, “Thank you very much, move aside.
tiger. It's psychosomatically impossible. Even the trainers have What are we going to get out of that?” She is a billboard say-
failed. They can do a lot of things. They can tell the Bengal ing, “I am a woman in makeup.” It means she has never made
tiger to sit on the table, the bench and all that. But only one it. She doesn't know herself. There's no glow. There's no
trainer, Joseph, tried it. The tiger shredded him to pieces. But power. There's no light. There's no spirit coming through. It's
the Bhagauti Ashtapujaa walks on that Bengal tiger's back as makeup. For how long can you make it up? One day you will
you ride on a horse. She has eight hands. Those are your fac- fall in your own ditch. Then do you know what name they
ulties. That's how a woman lives and walks. will call you? Do you remember? I'm not saying it. I'm the last
You have one little husband. He's going this way and you man to say it.
are going that way. He has a drinking habit. He doesn't live at I took upon myself a mission. Nobody gave me direction.
home. He doesn't understand. Because you have no magnet- When I came to the United States they told me to call woman
ic power. You are not a Guru Dev to him. You're just a woman. a chick. I said that will be the last thing I want to hear, though
You have never learned to be Guru Dev to your husband, it's better than the other word. Do you know what I am talk-
therefore you have never learned to be Guru Dev to your child. ing about? You all know it. Why get called that? Why not
It's also true that you try to tell a child, “Sit!” and they understand that you are not for sale, gal? Do you hear me? You
say, “No.” Don't you understand there is something wrong? did not hear. You don't respond. You don't have a spirit to
People move stones, and you can't move a living human? It's respond. You are not for sale, girl! Makeup will not make up
for you. Make up yourself to be a transparent divine teacher, you won't have suffering and you'll never be wrong. And once
and let your generations be born to rule the world in peace you understand that male you have, you can turn him into an
and tranquility, in prosperity, in beauty, in bounty. Enjoy the angel. Your children will be angelic because you have already
human bliss. practiced.
Give yourself a face of grace and divinity. Let your identity Don't marry for sex. Marry for the sixth sense. The agiaa
come from your divinity. Let divinity not come from your iden- chakra, the ajna, opens up ladies. You have sixteen times more
tity. Reverse the cycle, lady, and you will have no problem. The power than the man. What do you do? “Hello. This is wrong.
wealth will come to your feet. It's a reality of life. You are That is wrong. This didn't happen. That didn't happen. Yaa,
unlimited, so don't limit yourself. You come from the Infinite. yaa, yaa. Yo, yo, yo, ho, ho, ho, ho, ho, ho.” Do you think
that idiot doesn't understand what you are saying? Then when
Aap gavaaeeai taa saho paaeeai he calls you what he calls you, don't you suffer? Why is this
Our kaisee chatraaee going on? What's gone wrong with you? What character have
-Guru Nanak, page 722, from Shabad Hazaaray you taken? When you start doing: “dook, dook, dook, dook,
Give up your selfhood, and so obtain your Husband Lord; dook, dook,” (YB makes a sound like a chicken), and he calls
what other clever tricks are of any use? you chick, then what is wrong with it? Where are you coming
from? This is the fun with all the ecstasy of the karma.
When you lose yourself into the identity of yourself being
the divine teacher, and when you lose your insecurity, and Gur sevaa thay bhagat kamaa-ee
when the false self is lost, then you find infinity. What is there Tab eh maanas dehee paa-ee
to be clever about? When you put a foot on Earth, God says, Is dehee kao simareh dev
“Thank you.” You are a walking identity of God's creativity. So dehee bhaaj har kee sev
You cannot deny that. Why create insanity? Who invited you -Bhagat Kabir, Siri Guru Granth Sahib, page 1159
to do that? Don't feel guilty. Just get awakened. Just wake up. Through the Guru's service the Lord's loving
Start exerting your divinity. It's your birthright. Learn this rule: adoration is practised.
God who created you shall create everything for you when you Then alone is obtained the fruit of this human body.
exert your divinity. God who created you will give you noth- Even the angels long for this body.
ing when you exert your duality. So through that body of thine, think thou of
Sing now. rendering service unto thy God.
(Guru Dev Mata tape resumes for five minutes.)
With all the ecstasy of your karma you found this most beau-
Gurdev paaras paras paraa tiful body, which angels wish they could have, and you lose it
by “Yo, Yo, Yo,” and by “Koo, Koo, Koo, Koo,” by nibbling
Paras touches any metal and makes it gold. That is you in and nagging? Oh, forget it, ladies. That is not your religion. It
the beginning, in the middle, and the end. would be better for you to go to hell alive and take your body
By nibbling and nagging a man, you are not going to have with you.
peace and happiness in your home, it doesn't matter who you You have nothing to lose. What do your degrees mean?
are. Your time is to conquer the man by compassion, kindness What does your makeup mean? What does any part of you
and care. Are those words very difficult for you to hear? By mean when in two seconds you open your mouth and out
compassion, kindness, and care. A man (which is your man comes lava? It burns everything. You should be a source of rec-
which you don't like), by compassion, kindness, and care, you onciliation. A man comes home tired. I know he's a total idiot,
can bring out of that same man an angel. The devil will die, I'm not praising him to begin with. But he has already worked
and the angel will come out. You don't have to get a divorce; for eight hours, and he has lied enough. He has his ego. I
understand that. What can a man do? He only has his right “why” and “if” put together. This is not a relationship.
hemisphere. He's not going to develop the left unless he does You can't take what I am saying. That's why I said in the
yoga for long years and becomes a yogi. He has no faculty. He beginning that today is a day of liberation. It's the
comes home, and then what does he hear from you? “Enh, Independence Day of America. A woman will either become
enh, enh. I called your office, where were you?” Then he tells independent or remain a slave. Even if you are not sold phys-
you off in the language which he knows, and you have tears. ically in markets, you are sold mentally. You are sold and you
If you had a clear consciousness, you would never have had pay the heavy cost of your ego. That's not what you are sup-
to shed tears. posed to be as a woman. You've got to grow.
Look at this beautiful, wonderful male. For two hours he This is a great country. In two hundred years, we have
drives bumper to bumper, listening to rock music to keep totally ruined it, flat and clear. Nothing is left of us. We are
awake. He takes coffee on the way so that he may not have socially corrupt. We have prostituted our lives. We have no life
an accident. For eight hours he suffers; he lies. He has an offi- to go to. With all the faculty and facility, what are we doing?
cer or he has subordinates. He has a beautiful secretary who We have become a living makeup. The reality is gone. You
wants him. The other person wants him. His friends want can't hear, but you tolerate your children abusing you. You tol-
him. His social life wants him. Yet he keeps aloof and comes erate your husband abusing you, because you don't pay atten-
back home to you, and what do you do to him? “Enh, ennnh.” tion. You have nothing left in your mind. There's no mind left.
(Makes a drilling noise.) It's only an ego. And what does the ego do? It makes you
What are you going to get out of that man? He sits in the exert. It makes you flirt. In the end it kills you in the pit.
car with you going to a party, then you start: “Do you remem- Look at you. You are educated. You are intelligent. You are
ber if this didn't happen, that didn't happen? Oh, I wanted beautiful. You have everything. You want to be acknowledged.
to talk to you.” Thank God, he doesn't open the door and You want to be recognized. You want to be loved. And you
jump out of it. If man doesn't have patience (which he has cannot conquer one man, one facet? How will you conquer the
because he knows he is sensitive enough because that's why multi-faceted God?
God gave him an initial initiative hemisphere) a man should There are three murti, three faces of God, front, left, and
immediately at your nagging open the door and out he goes, right. You forget you have a left and a right. Your front is iden-
like a football. Then you have a dead man, and instead of fifty tity, your left is dignity, and your right is divinity. Without dig-
percent damage you can get a hundred percent. And how nity and divinity, the identity is that of a prostitute. Make no
many men can you kill in a month? Thirty? (Laughter.) Is that mistake. Nobody will tell you this, because everybody wants
why you are a woman? That's why you give birth? That's why to exploit you. You are on every billboard. If they want to sell
you carry him for nine months and some days? underwear, you are supposed to sell it. If they want to sell a
Why do men drink? Why do they go out? Why don't they radio, you have to sell it. All you have become is a marketing
want to listen to you? You come all the way here to listen to organization. They only want to use your sensuality. They
me. I'm your teacher. If you are a teacher, won't your own have no identity of your respect and grace. It means they have
man listen to you? Is that what you're telling me? You came totally forgotten you were ever a mother.
all the way here. You paid your airfare. You paid for the camp. Don't you see what is happening today? They have totally
You are here listening to me because you feel the sensitivity forgotten you were a mother. Look in a newspaper at what is
and you have the reverence and understanding. You have love going on. Doesn't it tell you something? It must tell you some-
so you can learn because I am your teacher. Is that true? So, thing. It must tell you where the media is at. And you must
when you are a teacher at home, what can go wrong? He'll tell the media where you are at.
come all the way from wherever he is just to meet the teacher, What have you become? Call girls. Girls for sale. It has to
to listen to the teacher. Nobody comes all the way to meet the stop. This is now our country. We are born here and we are
husband. Forget it. The husband meets the wife. A wife is a not for sale. We are the Grace of God. Every woman is the
Grace of God. We are to change the entire trend. Do you I'm very selfish tonight. You may not understand it, but if
remember we started GGMWA? The Grace of God Movement her blessing can make me what I am today, and if you share
of the Women of America? We strongly protested all exploita- in those vibrations, you may also feel prosperity, honor and
tion of women. The entire media and press, the entire United grace. Do you understand what I am saying? You are all, one
States, came after me. Do you remember that? Aren't we still way or another, going to be mothers or aunties.
surviving? They couldn't do a thing. We have been winning, Let's tell the story. Once upon a time there was a woman
and we shall continue winning. who became a mother. And out of her gunas happened to be
Nobody told you that you are Guru Dev. There is no born a child unto her with her blessing, grace and best wish-
other. If you had remembered that, the matter would have es. And with a very iron-handed discipline, which I will never
been totally long gone, solved, and decided. We have a body, forget, came a man who understood the grace of woman. And
we have a mind, and we have a spirit. And we have our right her blood turned into milk, and that milk turned into my blood
of independence, sovereignty, and freedom. And that is the within me. I have a genetic and spiritual obligation to bow in
Fourth of July. That's why we are sovereignly understanding reverence to the character, the facets and the characteristics
it. This sovereignty in a human life is very priceless. Don't she gave me. She gave me the mother of all mothers, the
put a price on it, please. Ashtapujaa. She gave me the most beautiful woman as my
A flood always starts from one drop of rain. It always starts mother, Mata Sahib Deva. She gave me the whole universe in
from one of you. Why did I say that? “Telegram, Telephone, the palm of my hand. She gave me power to be most power-
and Tell a Sikh.” It reaches everywhere. Spread the word, folks. ful over the 108 elements of this universe. She gave me the
We are true divine Gurus. Just mentally make it a mantra, and length, longitude and latitude, altitude and attitude to be what
you will see in forty days your entire environment will change. I wanted to be. It's all her prayer, her blessing, and her grace.
Then you'll start believing me. The mind has power over mat- Though she left her body, that was just physical. Her radiant
ter. Understood? Let's complete it. Go. body and her spirit are always with me, and always shall be.
(Guru Dev Mata tape resumes.) And tomorrow is the day I'll ask you to participate with me
That is you. with langar. Normally, when the world will be ruled by the
If you play the lottery, and you win, say, one hundred mil- sovereign and spiritual nation, as you will be known in five
lion dollars or so, how happy do you feel? You feel very lucky? thousand years, she shall be the mother. And coincidentally,
Sixty-seven years ago there was a woman who won a lottery. this country called United States will sing as a national song:
She conceived me. It is priceless. I remember her when she
used to read the Banis, the Gita, and the Mahatam and she Ant na sifatiee kahen na ant
used to explain them to me. I also saw her making food for - Guru Nanak, page 5, 25th pauree Japji Sahib
me and chanting the mantras. I'm not a product of a miracle.
I'm a product of that mother. You forget it. I don't. Without limit is His praise, limitless those who sing it, instead
The story of her life is that she left her body in India. of what we sing now. It is a fantastic vision which I always
Calculate the time with me. When my father called and he get. Then she'll find a rightful place as a mother. And you’ll
said that she was on her last breath, I said, “Exactly three thir- have a chance, too.
ty my time, she shall leave the breath of life, within the first Traditionally, in India, it's very geographically customary
five minutes.” And she stood by it. She's the only woman in for the married woman to always hate the mother-in-law. But
the record of 525 years of Sikh Dharma, where all five she was such a bulldozer, nothing could stand before her. She
jathadars came to honor her. You may call it a coincidence or was a real woman in her own grace and she did her best.
an accident, but she went with grace. Tomorrow is the Through all the riches and poverty she stood by her grace, and
anniversary of her day of exit, when she dropped the body and she taught well. So she won a lottery, didn't she? Don't you
left me behind. So tomorrow langar will be in her honor. want your lottery? Try it now. There's a chance. Give me the
spiritual teachers for tomorrow, that they can also remember May the long time sunshine upon you,
you with that grace, the way I remember her. Let's forget about all love surround you,
worldly relationships. Let's understand the essence of purity, and the pure light within you,
piety, and the power of a mother, Guru Dev Mata. guide your way on.
Yes, every year there is a day of reminder that she's not
physically here; every moment of life is a day of reminder that Oh that Living Power, oh that Divine Power, oh the Essence of
she is very much here, was here, is here and ever shall be. the essential of all ecstasy, by virtue of Thee Thy universe
exists. Oh, the Reflection of all Divinity, Identity, and Grace.
Karmee aapo aapanee, ke nerai ke door Oh Mother who in faculty and facets, out of Thee and every
Some will be called in, and others will be pushed away drop of Thee, creates the creation into the creative sense so
by God in accordance with their actions. the Almighty Himself is recognized, remembered and the pur-
pose of the Universe is served. Oh, the One who leads the
In 527 years, not one woman has passed away where all the spirit into a living being, restores it to its place, and guides it
heads of the five religious places of the Sikhs came and put and protects it forever. Oh You, the Kindness of all kindness
dushaalaa—shawls—on her, did a joint prayer on her, and let against which no wrath and terror of evil can reach out to the
her go. I think she earned it and I think you can earn it too. limited resources of man and to the world. Unto Thee we bow
Don't misunderstand, history is always rewritten. It's never and ask Thy protection. May You bless everyone and every
the man and never the material; it is always the mother who womb and every soul born of every womb to make it unto
facilitates the faculty of the divinity and identity of the grace peace, so man can live in beauty, bounty and bliss in a pur-
in a man. Remember that. poseful prosperity and prayer.
Sat Naam.
Gauri Baavan Akhree Mahelaa 5 Guru Arjun Dev ji Siri Guru Granth Sahib page 250
Gurdev is the Divine Guru, the Angelic, Subtle, Transcendent Teacher
gurdyv mwqw gurdyv ipqw gurdyv suAwmI prmysurw

Gurdev maata Gurdev pita. Gurdev swami parmeysura
Gurdev is my Mother, Gurdev is my Father. Gurdev is my Transcendent Lord and Master.
gurdyv sKw AigAwn BMjnu gurdyv bMiDp shodrw

Gurdev sakhaa agiaan bhanjan, Gurdev bandhap sahodraa
Gurdev is a friend and companion who dismisses the darkness of ignorance. Such a relative which comes through every time.
gurdyv dwqw hir nwmu aupdysY gurdyv mMqu inroDrw

Gurdev daataa har naam updeysai, Gurdev mant nirodharaa
Gurdev is the Giver, the Teacher of the Lord’s Name. Gurdev is the Mantra which never fails.
gurdyv sWiq siq buiD mUriq gurdyv pwrs prs prw

Gurdev shaant sat budh moorat, Gurdev paaras paras paraa
Gurdev is the image of peace, truth and wisdom. Gurdev is like the Philosopher’s stone—whatever it touches, changes.
gurdyv qIrQu AMimRq srovru gur igAwn mjnu AprMprw

Gurdev teerath amrit sarovar, Gur giaan majan aparanparaa
Gurdev is like a pilgrimage to a pool of nectar, whose uplifting knowledge is beyond, beyond, beyond.
gurdyv krqw siB pwp hrqw gurdyv piqq pivq krw

Gurdev kartaa sabh paap hartaa, Gurdev patit pavit karaa
Gurudev does everything and removes all sins, is honorable, and stands with purity.
gurdyv Awid jugwid jugu jugu gurdyv mMqu hir jip auDrw
Gurdev aad jugaad jug jug, Gurdev mant har jap udharaa
Gurdev existed in the primal beginning, through all time, always shall be. Gurdev is the mantra of the Naam. Chanting it one is freed.
gurdyv sMgiq pRB myil kir ikrpw hm mUV pwpI ijqu lig qrw
Gurdev sangat prabh mel kar kirpaa. Ham moor paapee jit lag taraa
Gurdev creates the union between the congregation and God. Be merciful to me! That I may be with my Divine Guru.
And though I make mistakes, holding on to you I am carried across.
gurdyv siqguru pwrbRhmu prmysru gurdyv nwnk hir nmskrw ]1]

Gurdev satgur paarbrahm parmeshar, Gurdev naanak har namskaraa
Gurdev is the divinely true Teacher and true guide, the transcendent Lord. Nanak bows in humble reverence to the Creative Guru.
Chapter five
1. “The child has such a psychic power to understand all.” mother has shared with her the art of caring for her body, her
Reflect on your own childhood when you were very sensitive hair and her skin. They have endowed her with the path of
to your self, your parents, and your environment. Bring to divinity, grace and innocence. That is why she is so very radi-
mind a particular situation as a child when you were psychi- ant. I saw a young man come into her life that will marry her,
cally aware. Did you feel empowered when you were sensi- honor her and when he makes love to her, he will call upon
tive? How did you feel if this sensitivity was not acknowl- God’s Name.”
edged by your parents?
Consider: What are your thoughts about women that you
2. Women often intuitively adjust their lifestyles so they meet in your yoga classes or in your life. How does your mind
have a more conscious pregnancy. If you have been pregnant, play with their image?
list all the different adjustments which you made during preg-
nancy to redefine yourself. If you have not been pregnant 5. Yogi Bhajan speaks about the intention and response of
yourself, speak with a few pregnant women about their makeup. When you see yourself in the mirror with or with-
lifestyle changes during pregnancy. How did these lifestyle out makeup, how do you see yourself? What words do you
adjustments alter the frequency of the woman? use to speak about yourself with or without makeup? If you
see someone else with makeup and then without makeup,
3. Poetry is a special language of the heart and soul. Use what words come to your mind? As a man how is your reac-
your poetic power to write a poem that expresses your tion to a woman with makeup different than to a woman
insight, feelings or reactions to each of these statements: who is original without makeup or modification?
a. Women have an extremely powerful magnetic
frequency, almost irresistible for good or ill. 6. “You have never understood that you are the most perfect
b. With all that magnetism, a woman has a choice: source of God to create divinity. That through divinity you
to flirt or to be alert. create identity, not from identity can you create divinity.”
4. Yogi Bhajan told this story about two holy men who were a. Sit quietly and meditate. Focus on your divinity. Let the
walking down a road together. They saw a beautiful woman feeling and connection to that expand and envelope you.
in an exquisite white sari which was edged in golden threads. Invite it to become clear and strong. Then think of the begin-
Her long black braid moved left to right as she walked. Both ning of your practice of kundalini yoga—your first class. What
holy men looked long at her as she passed them. The first did your identity feel like then? As you continued to
holy man turned to the second holy man and asked, “What encounter that inner domain of divinity, how did that change
did you think when she walked by?” He answered, “I saw her your concept of yourself? What has changed?
full breasts, her small waist and her wide hips. I saw her full b. Why can’t you create divinity from identity? What
red lips, full of life and youthfulness. Then I said to myself: does that have to do with Infinite and finite games? Is divin-
NO, I am a holy man. I must not think these things! So what ity a finite or infinite game?
did you think? “I saw a young childlike woman. Her father
cares a lot for her that she can wear such a beautiful sari. Her
7. What age does a male child stop listening? What age 10. One of the first rules of Kundalini Yoga is to not offend
does a female child stop listening? What reason did Yogi a woman.
Bhajan give for this phenomenon?
Join the practice with reverence, because as all rivers flow
8. Yogi Bhajan defines Guru Dev Mata as: “a combination into the ocean, all knowledge is meant to raise the kundali-
of moon and sun, you are my transparent enlightener.” How ni. Negating this Mother Divine Power, this creative power of
does a mother fulfill this role successfully? Instead of fulfill- God, sometimes does not have happy results. You must not
ing this role, a mother often deals with her anxiety and the forget, a practitioner of Kundalini Yoga must not disrespect a
emotional dramas of the child by doing what to the child? woman under any form and shape.
-Yogi Bhajan, September 18, 1971
9. Most men have one hemisphere of the brain more active
than the other. This makes them very alert and very defen- The kundalini energy is itself a feminine force full of creativ-
sive. They feel verbal complaints and attempts to correct their ity. It is a Guru Dev Mata—a primal mother. To master your
behaviors are attacks, not conversations. Men react with kundalini requires a deep respect for the feminine. Yogi
automatic defensive patterns like lying, anger, avoidance or Bhajan demonstrates this in his reverence for his mother.
leaving and looking for other relationships. How do you consciously honor the primal feminine force of
your mother as a Dev Mata? No matter her personal behav-
a. If you are a man, what defensive patterns do you use ior, or she is alive or dead, or you know her or you do not,
when you are nagged? as far as your subconscious and feelings know, she is imper-
sonally your Guru Dev Mata and a key to your relationship
b. You have a huge capacity for patience—like a hunter. with your kundalini.
How could you use that to communicate and connect with
someone beyond your defensiveness?
c. If you are a woman, how can you use your sensi-

tivity to touch the man’s heart so your words teach not
preach?
CHAPTER SIX
Legacy and Lineage:

Passing on Grace
and consciousness
The life of a teacher:

Flexibility, humility & compassion
July 24, 1996
WE HAVE DIVIDED OURSELVES WITH MANY CONCEPTS, do not have a concept of your spirit, then you have a con-
and each concept has given us a conception. Then our com- cept of emotions, feelings, commotions, and everything else
motions relate to those concepts. added to it.
The normal course of our life is very natural—just like the When you play the game, then the game plays with you.
birds and the animals, we are living by impulse. When we are It’s like a shuttle cock, going back and forth. It’s a very sub-
children, we crawl. When we are young, we are very hot and tle situation. Ninety-five percent of people just live their lives,
passionate. When we become old, we fall apart. So these for say, eighty years, and do not leave behind any mark—none
are natural processes of life. They have no rational concep- whatsoever. They just come, they live, and they go. They
tion. When you are young, you shall grow. As you grow up, were born, just a few people knew them, a few people went
you’ll become an adult. As an adult, you become mature. to their funeral, and they are forgotten. Not only are they for-
When you are mature, you become old. When you are old, gotten, the majority of people do not know the name of their
you are dying. great-grandfather, forget about anybody else. So some lived
But the problem is that you can’t handle a relationship, well, some didn't live well, some will not live well. Some will
because to handle a relationship, you have to invest your try to live well. It’s going on.
spirit, and you don’t have a concept of your spirit. When you Are you born that way? Is it decreed that you have to
suffer? No. If you have your emotions, and you keep your She said, “No, I want to.”
emotions, but if instead of using your emotions, you use “Okay, get married.” Six years later they were divorcing.
your spirit, you shall not suffer. The next time she came, she wanted to marry again.
Let me tell you something very funny. A person became We said, “Well, this time don’t get married fast. Just get
a doctor. It took him eight years to become a doctor, and engaged and see what happens.” They got engaged for six
then he started his practice. One day he was very frustrated. years.
I said, “What is wrong with you?” After six years she said, “I don’t want to be engaged. I
He said, “Oh, I took out a student loan. Now I work day want to be dis-engaged.”
and night, just to pay it back.” I looked at her and said, “Is six years your routine?”
I said, “Why is it so painful for you to pay it back? It is Similarly, there’s a student of mine, who was one of my
karma. You have the life, you have the prana, you have the best students, who left. Every two and a half years, the cycle
spirit, you have the soul. You have to pay it back.” changes. I was talking to her a week ago. I said, “Hey, this
Everything you get, you have to pay back. Nothing is free. is the second-and-a-half year coming on. What is next?”
Your body, your wealth, and your environments are already She said, “You tell me.”
pre-destined. For instance, somebody might start a business I said, “You are going to mess up again. Why is this?”
with a hundred thousand dollars; he becomes a millionaire— She said, “I don’t care. I always try to mess up my life, or
that’s fun. On the other hand, somebody starts with a hun- not mess up my life, I don’t care. Worse comes to worse, you
dred thousand dollars, and he loses the hundred thousand are still alive. That’s enough.”
dollars. There’s nothing. So loss and gain are personal. The Can you believe this? I said, “What are you talking
starting point is already set just as the longitude and latitude about?”
that you were born at are set. She said, “Oh, I know I can do anything I want, and if
Do you recognize who you are supposed to recognize? worse comes to worse, you’ll take care of me.”
No, you don’t. If it fits your emotion, you recognize it. If it I said, “So you have a general permit to mess it up?”
doesn’t, you don’t. If it fits your purpose, you recognize it. She said, “Yeah. In two-and-a-half years, I’ll do something
If it doesn’t, you don’t. The strength of your judgment is the else.”
only enemy you have. You don’t look at things in the light You can divide life into two-and-a-half year segments. You
of the spirit, the light of the soul, and you do not believe have a conception, then an inferiority or a superiority com-
and trust that everything is the light of the soul. Things will plex comes, because you have conceived that conception.
fit in when they want to fit in. You are not required to fit I know a businessman who is very successful, very calm.
them and unfit them and make people believe or force them But the moment he understands that he has to work in part-
to consider. nership, he leaves. There’s a fear of society. It’s called “social
What has happened to you when you sign for a divorce phobia.”
from a girl to whom you are married, and whom you have There was a very talented girl. She once got a job offer
told for seven years, “I love you, I love you, I love you?” Then for a very high position. She said, “No, I want to be a school
what happens? What happened to your statement of love? teacher.” She didn't take the ninety-thousand-dollar-a-year
“No contest, just our chemistry doesn’t meet.” Why? Why job; instead she reported for the twenty-thousand-dollar-a-
do you sometimes have friends and then you don’t have year position. “I want to teach school children.” There was a
friends? Because technically speaking you don’t have very powerful conception in the authoritative power, in the
strength. You don’t have the strength to go through the gal- image of a school teacher. She wanted to teach. She had a
lows. And this is the main reason why the most beautiful gift conception. And whenever you have a concept, you have a
of life, which could just be enjoyed, is wasted. conflict.
Once there was a girl who wanted to marry a boy, but These days the trend is a little changed, but a couple of
everybody told her, “Don’t marry this boy.” years ago, everybody was a masseuse, everybody was a healer.
Once I asked somebody, “Do you know the name of this slept. We got up in the morning, and we were so happy.
muscle?” Everything was fine.”
He said, “What? You mean calf?” I said, “Then what happened?”
I said, “The calf has so many muscles. Have you ever She said, “Well, he got ready, and I got ready. We were
studied anatomy, and understood what you are talking sitting at the breakfast table. I don’t know what happened,
about?” but when he put his spoon in, there was a fly in it.”
“No.” He took the bowl and let it go at her face, threw the table
There is something you do not understand. Birds live, ani- up, broke the plates. She said, “All I knew, is afterwards,
mals live—the cows, the hogs and horses—and you will live, there was nothing but a disaster. And then he stomped out.
too. In their world, they act and react. But in your case, you I noticed that I was bleeding. I went to the mirror, and saw
have an applied consciousness. In your case it is your depth that my whole face was cut.”
and strength. In your case it is your wisdom and intelligence. Why? Have you tolerance? No. Can you communicate?
In your case it is your intuition and your human strength. You can’t. Your common notion is not to live in harmony,
Therefore you can be very flexible, adjustable. Your position peace, and tranquility. Your common notion is to conquer or
can be understood, and you can stand under, and keep be conquered. You have a brutal instinct. Yes, I agree that you
going. are part brute, part human, and part angel. But the angelic
A Teacher has no territory and a healer has nothing of self part must be more than sixty percent. The human part
but prayer. A healer is a living prayer. A human is a living should be almost thirty percent, and your brute part, as ten
light. And there’s no fight about it. percent, must keep you together. It is rational. That’s how
In life we lose three things: flexibility, humility, and com- your development should be. That's how your seven-year
passion. If you look through history, you will see that in the cycle of consciousness, your eleven-year cycle of intelligence,
beginning we were one, then we were in one cave, then a and your eighteen-year cycle of life must proportionately
couple of caves made a tribe, and then the tribe made the grow. Your life force at eighteen years is one. Then your con-
territory. A certain territory made the state; those states made sciousness must grow in proportion—2.5, or 2.6, 2.7, 2.8,
the country; and certain countries made the world. We have even 3 points—something like that. When you are eighteen,
been dividing from the beginning of time until today. We that is one unit. Your intelligence must grow 1.6, 1.9, or two.
never learned wisdom, intuition, self-respect, self-esteem, Then life will be very comfortable, very easy.
compassion, kindness, caring. All we learned is “conquer or Once I was called by a man to go see my Teacher. He
be conquered.” Even today we do the same thing. We did said, “Your Teacher wants to see you.”
not have peace then, nor do we have peace now. Simply our I said, “Is it urgent, or do I have time?”
geographical or cultural situations might have changed. He said, “Well, come as you want.”
Can you believe that the Jews and Arabs have lived for I said, “Okay.” I went home, I changed my clothes, I
centuries together, and they can’t live in peace today? dressed up properly, and I went and presented myself.
Yugoslavia was one country. My God, they have killed each He looked at me. He said, “It took you a long time.”
other like you can’t even understand. Now in 1996 they call I said, “No. I came as fast as I could.”
it ethnic cleansing. In Africa it’s tribal cleansing. At home, it “Well, you are not dressed up properly.”
is ego cleansing. I said, “Yes, Sir, I didn’t dress up properly.”
Once a woman came to me, and she was so badly beat- He said, “No, no, no, no, no. Stand up before the mirror.
en, it was terrible. While counseling the situation I asked her, I tell you that this is wrong, that’s wrong, that’s wrong, that’s
“What happened the night before that in the morning there wrong, that’s wrong. Usually you are the best-dressed man.”
was a fight?" I said, “Oh, what a day it is today!” You know, what can
She said, “Oh, we were very happy. We went out for din- you do? Then I sat down.
ner, we came home, and had beautiful, marvelous sex. We He said, “Sit down, I want to tell you something. Never
get ready in a hurry. You will never be yourself. If you will be creature. It’s very easy. You will not be you.
lazy, you are crazy. If you are in a hurry, you won’t be you.” As long as your ego exists, you are not a Teacher. As long
A month or two passed, and I forgot about the situation. as you expect appreciation, you are not a Teacher, you are a
The man came again and announced: “You are wanted beggar. Some are very qualified beggars, some are very rude
again.” and crude. I once went to Boulder and there was a Spiritual
I said, “Again? Do I have time?” Teacher there. When the students told me his rules, I had to
He said, “Perfect, you have time.” talk to him. I said, “Hey, what are you doing?”
I said, “Okay, don’t worry, baby.” I got so neatly dressed He said, “I am testing my students.”
up, you can’t believe it. When I arrived, my teacher was walk- I said, “I can understand there is a certain code of con-
ing outside on the lawn. duct. But you are exposing them to the laws of the state.
He said, “You came?” “Render unto Caesar the things which are Caesar's, and to
I said, “Very well dressed up.” God the things that are God's.”
He looked at me and he said, “That’s true.” Then he sat As a person you have an authority of contract. But as a
down and he said, “Whenever you go to get something, be Teacher you have no authority—moral, personal, or individual.
bountiful, beautiful, and look as good, and as perfect as you As a Teacher you have no authority of contract. You have
can. Simple, gracious, and go with a smile.” only one right—to serve, to serve, to serve; to elevate, to ele-
Well, I was fourteen years old. vate, to elevate; exalt, exalt, exalt.
One day I was working in the fields, and he looked at me. When a teacher and student meet in a good atmosphere,
He said, “Let us go.” Now, you know in India, especially it creates a spark. Have you heard that?
when working in the fields, you have on a big underwear, Students: Yes, Sir.
one shirt, and a little turban on your head—that’s it. That's Yogi Bhajan: It creates a spark. When you take a hammer
how I looked, turning the earth with a hoe in my hand. He and chisel, it creates a spark, too. A good Teacher is bad
said, “Come along.” So I started with him. You know, he news. A bad Teacher is good news.
took me through the main streets of the city, barefooted. We are actually not teachers here in this country. Here in
When I came back, I said, “Thank you, can I go?” this country there’s no standard that you are a teacher. There
He said, “No, no, I want to tell you something. How was are so many restrictions—workmen’s compensation, insurance
your visit to the city today?” for harassment: sensual, sexual, social, personal harassment.
I said, “Truthfully, or do I just have to tell you what you The teacher is so heavily insured here. There are hardly any
want to hear?” teachers as far as I know in the United States who have not
He said, “No, truthfully.” gone through two, three, five, six lawsuits.
I said, “Very embarrassing.” The most famous lawsuit I went through is the one we
He said, “Thank you. I wanted you to experience embar- call the “Beet Case.” Somebody sued me after I mentioned in
rassment, that’s all. Done. We’ll meet again.” a lecture I gave in Boston that beets are good for you. So she
So a Teacher is there to teach a person all the facets and ate beets. Under that influence she had a tubal ligation done,
faculties of life, and to conquer the mental state in embar- and eight years later she realized she can’t have a baby. So
rassment, in confrontation. That’s the job. You have come she sued. The case went forward, discovery started. But one
here to become Teachers to what, read books, and write sto- fine day they withdrew the case, just withdrew it. For two
ries, teach people how to raise their legs and how to raise and a half years we stood the torture, and after that she just
their head or stand on their heads? Or just to tell them how withdrew it.
good and great you are? No. That will never make you a They asked me, “What to do?”
teacher. That will only make you a book machine. When you I said, “Nothing. It comes with the territory.”
become a Teacher, then you become a perfect enlightened Some students you meet are very wise, loving; they serve
you. Some like to be with you just to put their hooks some- I was a teacher in India, too. If you came improperly to
where. Some like to come to be insane. This is one of the sit- class or you came one minute late, that’s all you needed to
uations which is very uncommonly insane. You must under- raise the Kundalini. The class would sit and watch what that
stand that as a Teacher, you cannot be judged by the present person would go through—you would not believe it. Because
time. History will judge you. A Teacher is not judged by his without a discipline you can never be a disciple, and without
students, nor by his fellow man, nor by anybody. A Teacher a discipline you cannot be a master, and without a discipline
is always judged by history. Are you willing to take the risk you cannot deliver. And without a discipline you will never
that in history you shall be known as a bogus idiot who know the exalted self. The power to obey is the power to
exploited everybody, that you were worthless? command. Here in the West, to surrender, to be humble, to
Class: Yes, Sir.... No, Sir! obey is considered to be a slavery, but actually it is the power
Yogi Bhajan: My God, what a risk. You didn’t understand of the self. Only a most exalted, most powerful character can
what I was saying. (Laughter in the room.) I forgive you for surrender. It’s a very different culture, different understanding.
your affirmation. It’s amazing. Don’t fall in love with me, When I started writing here, “Humbly Yours,” people object-
because then I’ll start testing you and you’ll feel miserable. ed to it. “Sir, what does that mean, ‘Humbly Yours’?”
This is the first job of the love of the teacher. When you love I said, “Well, I mean what I say.” Because I’m a vehicle,
a teacher you should become desireless. Not undesirable— I’m a channel. I’m not the Absolute.
desireless.
One day I told somebody, “Become desireless.” She came MEDITATION
naked to the university, and I said, “What is wrong with TO AWAKEN THE DORMANT POWER WITHIN
you?” (See end of lecture for details of this meditation.)
She said, “I have no desire.” Let us test out our spirit.
I said, “No desire to put clothes on?” You did well this afternoon. Remember what you did this
“No, I’m natural, organic. You told me today.” afternoon? Now you have to do this. Remember? These two
I said, “Holy mother, go put clothes on and come back.” fingers have to be open. And you have to do the same thing
“If you say so.” So she came back with clothes. and hit the seventh rib with full force. Right? Ready? You have
From that day onwards, I reserved my judgment of what done it. Now you must do it, and this time you must expe-
to say and what not to say. You know, most of the time in rience it, because this is the time to do it. Come on. Ready,
my classes, I would ask Shakti, “What should I say?” I have set, and go!
twenty-seven years of the funniest experiences. (Recording: Gobinday, Mukanday by Matamandir Singh
You don’t understand that I am not without pain. I am in plays.) Come on now. Remind yourself with every breath that
humongous pain. It’s not that they can’t become great teach- you have to win tonight. Good luck.
ers. It’s not that. They just don’t do it. Let the breath be the Breath of Fire. Hurry up. Try your
Some teachers want to be popular. What is this? A pop- best.
ularity contest? Some people want to be very loving. Have Inhale. Stretch your hands up please, and lift up your
you seen one 3HO teacher (I will not name him) who hugs body to the extent that you stretch your spine. It is one time
everybody? Do you know him? One day he met me and I only. Come on, do it, hard! Lift, tight, tight, tight. Relax.
said, “Either stop hugging or leave 3HO, because it is not There cannot be any power which can come to you from
written in the code of conduct. Hug somebody if somebody outside. There’s a dormant power within you which has to
hugs you. That I can understand. But what are you doing?” be awakened. You must awaken that power and penetrate all
He said, “I just want to hug everybody.” the cycles of transmission of your magnetic field energy, in
I said, “Action has a reaction equal and opposite. First which you have a psyche, which governs your essence to
you hug, then you bug. And this game of hugging and bug- become a greater exalted person, to face everything with
ging,” I said, “It doesn’t work.” grace. That’s the beauty.
So we are practicing in one way or the other, trying to be I’m not telling you that you should study it, but there is
nice to ourselves for the first time. At least we have the desire a scripture called Asa di Var. It is written in Gurmukhi, and
to become Teachers. Whether we will become or not, act as it is translated into English. If you somehow get a chance to
Teachers or not, it’s difficult to say. A Teacher acts in the read it and understand it, there’s not one wisdom in the
interest of the higher self of the student. There are three parts world you will not be the master of. You don’t have to go to
of the student—his self, his worldly self, and his higher self. a library and search everything out. It tells you exactly what
A spiritual Teacher only belongs to the higher Self. And when it is, and why it is. And it tells you if you cross it, then that
he belongs to the higher Self, and the student obeys and is pretty good. It tells you about God, soul, and man. It tells
reaches his higher Self, then the other two lower-grade sides you about the Word, the words, and the wonder, the Infinite,
are all taken care of. It is very simple. the finite. It’s a very defined thing. When I was studying I
You have to elevate to go higher, and then you can’t leak asked one question: “Why do Sikhs sing this every morning?
downstairs. Here is shashaaraa (YB puts his hand on top of his I mean, there should be some reason.” Then I studied the
head). You have to save yourself from your ears, from your words. I discovered that it was a combination of sayings of
eyes, from your mouth, from your hands, and from your legs, several of the Gurus put together. There are some shabds,
and from the other two areas. You have to have a total con- and some slokas, and there are some paurees, like steps. In
trol of what comes in and what goes out of you, in the inter- the end, I said, “My God, it’s the science of human behavior
est of you. in every aspect of life.”
This world is our qualification, standard, examination, a I was not a Sikh to begin with. I became a Sikh. I was
place where we must examine ourselves in our own interest. born in a Sikh family, that’s true. But I am a scientist. I do
We must learn to love ourselves before we love anybody else. not believe that the God which cannot be explained needs to
We must honor ourselves before we honor anybody else. We be worshipped. I also don’t believe that if you do not know
must serve ourselves before we serve anybody else. If we do who made you, you will make it in this world. I also believe
not know how to do things for ourselves, we shall not be in there is a hub, there’s a rim, and there are spokes. Every word
a position to do things for others. Because when we do spoken is like a spoke. It supports you and stops you. I
things for others, that is for a purpose. And purpose will cre- believe every statement of yours affects forever. I also believe
ate prejudice. Instead of having friends, you will have ene- that everything which God has done is so open, that every
mies. You will have concepts. You have a concept of what is human has to be absolutely open.
right and what is wrong. You are born and trained and you So you don't have to follow my religious beliefs. They are
die in judgment. Things come to you, you feel very honored. very simple, but they will look very weird to you. I don’t
Things are taken away from you, you feel very insulted. believe anything is complicated. I think when we hide and
seek, and we want to hunt and harm, then we create com-
Ayk bhee na day, das bhee hir lay
plicated things. I don’t believe anybody loves anybody. I think
Ta-o mooraa kaho kahaa karay-eh
we use this word to blind another person. Or sometimes we
Jis thakur sio naahee chaaraa
blind ourselves. I believe you cannot love anybody—it hap-
Taa kao keejai sad namaskaaraa
pens.
-Guru Arjan, Siri Guru Granth Sahib, page 268
It’s very funny. Over the last twenty-five years when I say
If God has given you one and takes away ten,
to somebody, “I love you,” I mean it. And when they say
what can you do, fool?
they love me, they don’t understand what it means to love
You cannot fight with the Master;
me. Love me or what? How can you love me? Neither can
it is better to bow and accept Him.
you see me nor can you hear me, nor can you speak my lan-
If He doesn’t give you one and takes away the ten you
guage, nor understand my strength. Neither do you know my
have, then fool, what can you do?
altitude, my longitude and latitude, nor my width. What do
Why fight with that Lord with whom you have no
you know of me? Am I a statue? There are so many statues
reason to fight? Why not just bow and get the blessings?
at the ranch. Love them. I love them, too. That’s why they stuff. Because you have never potty-trained your mind. You
are there. have no power against this thing of yours called “mind.”
Love is something which is a power that makes you know We’ll talk tomorrow. Will that be all right?
the Unknown. And if you do not know the Unknown of a Students: Yes, Sir.
person, what is this love? Which part do you love? Do you Yogi Bhajan: We’ll explore the mind and its perception,
love my nose and my ears? Do you love my fingers? What do its conception, its projections in progressiveness in the sense
you love? What is this love, love, love, love, you talk about? of how the mind works.
What is it? What is it when you call someone beautiful? You I’ll come tomorrow sometime, whenever I will feel like it.
are the ugliest creature on the Earth. Ask the animals. Ask the I think we finished the business today. All the meetings have
dog. The moment the dog sees you, he hates you. “What is been done, orders have been passed. I work also, you know?
this two-legged person? I’m at least balanced on four legs.” I’m not that free. I have fourteen corporations. I have to
When an animal gets really injured and in trouble, it is work. I’m a pretty good slave.
put to sleep. But when you are injured and you are in trou- Yesterday I came here and I looked so good and nice to
ble, there's no law to put you to sleep. The law is you must you. You should have seen me just before coming, in the
suffer to the end. You have absolutely no rights. guest house yelling and screaming. The neighbors came out
It’s the funniest thing. You can teach a parrot to fire a to see what happened. One young boy said, “Your blood
cannon. You can teach a cat, which cannot be taught. You pressure must be very high.”
teach a dog everything. I know one dog who skates. They I said, “No, I was calm. I was a very good actor.” I scared
put him in skating boots and the guy is just having fun. But everybody to death.
you cannot teach your mind, which is your first servant. You The idea is to project the mental force into the faculty of,
cannot potty-train your mind, and you throw slander and in the facility, where another person can understand quickly
garbage everywhere. You’re the ugliest born mammal on the and things get done. What frequency you use, and what cal-
Earth. The ugliest. There’s nothing uglier beyond you, iber and gauge you use, that is your ability. You never talk like
because you have never potty-trained your mind and it shh, that. You don’t speak like that. You don’t know anything. So
shh, shh, shh... everywhere. It’s funny. Have you noticed we’ll talk tomorrow, we’ll start the subject. We’ll be here at
sometimes you say things which are so ugly. What for? I have sometime in the forenoon. Good night.
heard it. You carry the bacteria of the ugliness from person
to person. You gossip, you slander, you do all that kind of
a Authentic Relationships • STUDY GUIDE
AWAKEN THE DORMANT POWER WITHIN
Yogi Bhajan • July 24, 1996
POSTURE: Sit in Easy Pose with a straight spine. (a) Bend the elbows down
a
into the sides. Extend the forearms straight up, so the hands are in front of
each shoulder, the palms facing one another, with about an 18-inch space
in between the two hands. The fingers point towards the ceiling. Bend the
ring and mercury finger into the palm, and hold them down with the
thumb. The index and middle fingers are spread wide to form a V. Make
sure you keep these two fingers spread wide the entire time.
MOVEMENT: (b) Extend bent elbows up and out to the sides, so they are
parallel to the ground. With a forceful motion, bring elbows down and into
the body, to slap against the 7th rib with full force. This movement will
cause the shoulders and body to vibrate. Do it in a rhythmic, dancing
motion, to the beat of the tape. Let head and shoulders move with the
music. Move at a fairly rapid pace, about one time a second.
EYES: Unspecified.
b
BREATH: Should come to a Breath of Fire.
MUSIC: Gobinday Mukanday by Matamandir Singh.
TIME: Done in class for about 23-1/2 minutes.
END: Inhale deeply, stretch your arms up tightly, and lift your body to the
extent you stretch your spine. Hold tightly for 15 seconds. Relax.
COMMENTS:
The sound of the breath must touch the Heavens and it must be hot. It will
become like Breath of Fire. You must awaken the dormant power within you
and penetrate all the cycles of transmission of your magnetic field energy,
which governs your essence to become a greater exalted person, to face
everything with grace. That’s the beauty.
Chapter Six
Study Questions & Projects
Read the transcript. Then watch the video one more time and 5. Yogi Bhajan said in reference to Asa Di Var, “I will not tell
do the meditation. you that you should study it, but if you somehow get a
chance to read it and understand it, there’s not one wisdom
1. “The cause of suffering is that you hold on to and keep in the world you will not be the master of. When I was
your emotions instead of using your emotions and spirit.” studying I asked one question, Why do Sikhs sing this every
Name three specific emotional reactions you had today that morning? Then I studied the words, and in the end, I said,
took you away from trusting the light of your soul. If you rec- “My God, it’s the science of human behavior in every aspect
ognize these same tendencies in the future, how will you of life.”
assert your intelligence and intuitive flexibility to transform He shared every experience and tool with us as his students.
them? He never accepted anything as a belief; instead, he asked
questions, practiced disciplines and tested things within his
2. In the lecture Yogi Bhajan states that “A Teacher has no ter- own experience. Just as Japji has many powerful mantras and
ritory and a healer has nothing of self but prayer.” In your geo- Naad, this longer collection of sacred poetry and verse is a
graphical teaching area, what are you doing to overcome the potent tool. In particular it holds up a mirror to our behavior
human historical tendency to ‘conquer or be conquered.’ as humans who act with others in consciousness.
What more can you do to foster our values of tolerance, com-
munication, compassion and humility with other teachers? Take the opportunity if you like to actually read and ponder
the translation of Asa Di Var. Read it as a relay of a higher
3. Ask one of your students what they understand as the spe- personality in you, to you. Accept the relay and notice how
cific role of a Teacher? Accept the answer and then read them your own higher Self responds to it. Write three aspects of
this defining quote by Yogi Bhajan: “As a person you have human behavior that you discover in it.
the authority of contract. But as a Teacher you have no
authority—moral, personal, or individual. As a Teacher you 6. Take a fellow teacher or yoga practitioner to a public place,
have no authority of contract. You have only one right—to sit down and people watch. Pick a person and tell your fel-
serve, to serve, to serve; to elevate, to elevate, to elevate, to low teacher how you would talk to that person’s higher Self
exalt, exalt, exalt.” Ask what they understand and do not if you met and spoke with them. Take turns with three dif-
understand about this statement. ferent people. Use your neutrality, sensitivity and intuition to
individualize each approach before you play out any tangible
4. Obedience gives the power to command. However, in the exchange with your partner regarding them. Discuss with
West, surrender is considered slavery. In your personal family your partner how you felt, what you sensed within yourself
lineage what was the message you had as a child for being and how you filtered out distracting subconscious reactions.
obedient or disobedient? How has your experience as a Yogi
and a Teacher changed that concept?
Journaling:
A Journey
The Purpose of Journaling The Goals of Journaling

Yogi Bhajan often asked his students to write on a given 4Discover the meaning of your experiences in and out of
topic, to analyze themselves in a self-reflective manner or to the class as they relate to the course focus.
journal experiences past or present.
Journaling is one process that let's each of us deepen our 4Connect class experience to real life encounters and your
learning so that we can apply it to our life and gain mastery ability to apply your skills with confidence.
and wisdom. This is different than simply doing a diary or a
descriptive summary of events or personal feelings. These can 4Increase your capacity to step back from the flow of
be done without self-reflection, without a shift in perspective, thoughts and feelings to establish a perspective on yourself
and without assessing how you could apply the techniques through consciousness.
and skills to actual situations. The process we're asking you
to engage in is a learning journal. In this process, you will 4Strengthen the habit to process your life with intuitive
reflect on your experience with the techniques and perspec- insight and critical assessment.
tives developed in the Transformation training. These are the
kinds of questions to ask yourself and write about: 4Recognize your blocks and your potential.
What have I learned? 4Instill

the values of a Teacher in yourself as you
How can I apply this to each area of my life? encounter each area of your life.
How does it enhance my ability to teach and serve?
4Care for and cultivate your Self.
Using these techniques, what would I do differently
in situations where in the past, I had not applied
4Make connections between your perceptions, skills and
the awareness engendered by the course?
concepts within each of the five modules in the
How does my experience and learning affect others? Transformation training and certification.
4Take ownership of your growth and establish the perspec-

tive that each of these courses is about your personal, inter-
personal and transpersonal awakening, not just techniques
or ideas.
How to Journal unconscious in an interaction and how you would do it dif-

There are many ways to journal. The approach we use here ferently in the future, applying the principles of conscious
is to record observations about yourself, the world, your communication. You may write as long as you like.
experiences and your practice—reflect on that from multiple
perspectives. Use the insights for yourself and share with oth- Second, look over what you just wrote. Now, from the per-
ers in your study group or with a mentor. spective of the negative mind, write about the same things.
You can choose to use the basics: paper and a writing The negative mind filters experiences to protect you, to rec-
instrument. Or use a computer. Or you can even find on-line ognize what is wrong and alert you to error.
(free or paid) journals. Pick what is comfortable for you to
Third, immediately write about the same experiences from
use or what is recommended in your particular training.
the perspective of the positive mind. The positive mind filters
Other suggestions include: Date each entry; Customize
experiences to find opportunity, things you want, ways to
each day by adding a quotation by Yogi Bhajan on the topic
expand or move forward, and skills, feelings or actions you
of your course; Use quotes from various sources to broaden
want to use or improve.
the scope of your reflections.
You will be expected to spend at least 3 hours doing this Fourth, get into your neutral mind. Now, look at both of
once your journal is set up. In reality, many students find this these perspectives—the negative and positive minds. The
so useful that they spend 30 to 120 hours on average, over neutral mind assesses everything from the perspective of your
several months. Journaling is for you, during and after the consciousness, identity, intuition and the short- and long-
classroom training. The classroom puts all the ingredients term consequences. Write quickly about what you note from
together and turns up the heat, but it is applying the tech- this perspective. Insights, implications, values demonstrated,
niques and processing your awareness and feelings that does integrity in your actions, and recognition of positive and neg-
the baking. It takes some time, patience, consistency and dis- ative effects.
cipline. Do at least 40 days. We recommend 120 days in
order to watch the unfolding of your efforts and make the Fifth, go beyond thought for a moment. Enter into the state
skills you acquire conscious and seamlessly sewn into your of zero (shuniya) and from You within you, write a comment.
life. Many people keep a journal from one course to the next It is a comment between you and yourself. Simple, direct and
as they progress through all the Transformation modules to real. It need not be profound or clever, just real within you.
be aware of and reflect on all the changes they go through in It is often short.
this process of becoming a Teacher.
Once you try this process a few times it begins to be easy
The format of the journal is a bit unusual. For each day
and flows as you turn the facets of each part of your mind
you write in five ways:
and consciousness to reflect on what you have observed,
First, take a few deep breaths. Become still. Open yourself to experienced and done. Many students find it useful to add a
everything you felt, observed, imagined and did this day. color code—a border to each perspective: Red for the negative
Become open without censorship or editing. Begin to write. mind; green for the positive; blue for the neutral; white for
You may flow in your writing. You may jump from experience the shuniya state; and an earthy grey, tan or yellow for the
to idea to feeling—as you wish. It is your unique expression. initial first person writing.
Write about things, internal and external, that relate to the How you write—in blocks, single flows, poetry, conversa-
module content. For example, for Conscious Communication, tions between parts of yourself—is up to you. Each of us has
you might note how you spoke with friends, enemies and a style that flows best and expresses ourself.
colleagues; how a critical news event involved good or poor Some people are unfamiliar with writing or are shy or
communication; what insight you received from reading a unsure. Go beyond your doubts or insecurities—your blocks.
familiar scripture or inspirational source; or how you became Journaling is a simple practice to express yourself and
observe you and your life. If you do not know how to start, How to Use the Journal
just start writing without precondition. Or pick one event, Doing this journal is a “realtime” process. You are affected by
idea or feeling to start. Some people prefer a structure and it as you do it. It is also a reflective process that invites occa-
systematically ask themselves a number of questions each sional review. Look back over your insights and gauge how
day as they scan through their experience. Experiment until well you have progressed in noticing areas you need to
you learn what works best for you. If you need inspiration improve, skills you have mastered, and capacities and ideas
or help, check with your teacher, study partners or mentor. you have taken into your teaching and daily life.
Remember: However you structure your approach to journal- Your journal can also be used for sharing. Sharing can be
ing, do it with curiosity, joy, alertness and openness. as simple as extracting insights, events or issues from your
One way to assess how well you are matching the objec- notes and engaging a co-student in dialogue so both of you
tives of the “learning journal” is to check if you have, in your gain from the experience. If you have a study group you can
own way, covered these five questions: take time periodically—every 1-4 weeks—to talk about what
you observed, the level of change you have been able to
1. What happened? You wrote descriptions of events, feel- internalize and crystallize in your actions and perceptions,
ings, new ideas, issues or situations that apply to the mod- and how to solve problems that arose. You could also decide
ule. as a group to engage in a meditation process together to sup-
port the development of your core capacities. You can also
2. What are your reactions and behaviors around the event, use your journal as a tool for processing with your mentor. If
issue, situation or experience? Examined in terms of negative you are in a course that takes place over several weeks or ses-
and positive minds, relate what you observed about your sions, the journal can be invaluable in generating questions
own attitudes, feelings and previous knowledge, history or for class discussion. It also helps you formulate how you
skills. would teach the topics to students in your personal interac-
tions as well as in classes.
3. What is the value of the event, situation, experience or We hope this journey—through journaling—will enrich
practice to you as a person, teacher and student? your experience in this module or the Transformation course
as a whole and that you will be able to turn again and again
4. What is a new understanding of the event, issue, situation to your reflections in these pages to inform not only your
or reaction based on all the above? What have you learned teaching but your life.
about awareness and the area of yoga you are studying?
5. How will you approach the same or similar event, situa-

tion, or issue in the future? Indicate what new effort,
approach or clarity you will apply and what the result would
be.
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aUTHENTIC

Chapter One: The Experience of Authentic Relationships 9

Chapter Two: Love and the Infinite Game of Life 19

Chapter Three: The Law of Polarity in Relationships 33

Chapter Four: Living as Your Authentic Self 47

Chapter Six: Legacy and Lineage: Passing on Grace and Consciousness 73

Authentic Relationships DVD Guide

Chapter Lecture Title DVD Location

One Relationships and the Art of Relay Set 1, Disc A, Track 1

Introduction to The AUTHENTIC

March 16, 1982

Yogi Bhajan: Need for what? Student: Relevant to consciousness of God?

Student: God. I asked somebody, “What is a friend?”

TO END: Inhale and exhale powerfully three times. On the third

COMMENTS: Relationship is nothing but a totally extended experi-

7. In the meditation he guides us to energize and then dis-

Love and the

Love is the absolute power

TO END: Inhale and transition into the second position.

d. Is there a particular action that you take, after class is

e. How do you consciously resurrect yourself after an

b. Who do you consider your biggest supporter? Is this

STEP ONE tutions—medical, religious or work-related. Some people have

What is my soul calling me to learn in my relationships?

THe Law of POlarity

Principles for Living:

I was joking today that I have to make a book now; this

Blessed God, give us the strength to be beautiful and

Yogi Bhajan • January 4, 1994

4. Stand up and dance to Bangara drums. 11 minutes. For the

LOVE: Active, reactive & ultimate

POSTURE: Easy Sitting Pose.

Aad such, jugaad such, haibhay such,

mwJ mhlw 5 cau p dy Gru 1

Awid scu ju g wid scu Awid scu ju g wid scu

Awid scu ju g wid scu Awid scu ju g wid scu

Let Your Identity

Gurdev is the Divine Guru, the Angelic, Subtle, Transcendent Teacher

gurdyv mwqw gurdyv ipqw gurdyv suAwmI prmysurw

gurdyv sKw AigAwn BMjnu gurdyv bMiDp shodrw

gurdyv dwqw hir nwmu aupdysY gurdyv mMqu inroDrw

gurdyv sWiq siq buiD mUriq gurdyv pwrs prs prw

gurdyv qIrQu AMimRq srovru gur igAwn mjnu AprMprw

gurdyv krqw siB pwp hrqw gurdyv piqq pivq krw

gurdyv siqguru pwrbRhmu prmysru gurdyv nwnk hir nmskrw ]1]

c. If you are a woman, how can you use your sensi-

Legacy and Lineage:

The life of a teacher:

July 24, 1996

Yogi Bhajan • July 24, 1996

MUSIC: Gobinday Mukanday by Matamandir Singh.

TIME: Done in class for about 23-1/2 minutes.

The Purpose of Journaling The Goals of Journaling

What have I learned? 4Instill

4Take ownership of your growth and establish the perspec-

How to Journal unconscious in an interaction and how you would do it dif-

5. How will you approach the same or similar event, situa-

© 2006 Kundalini Research Institute

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