To be nice is not to be naive — it is to be free from

the control of vice

Posted on Oct 8, 2019 in Chapter 16, Text 02 | 1 comment
Some people say, “If you are nice, you will be exploited by others.” 
They equate being nice with being naive, with the starry-eyed belief that
everyone is good and kind and trustworthy. It’s a sad truth of the real world that
the naive are headed for a big shock. 
If we want to survive in the rough-and-tumble of life, we can’t be naive. But we
can still be nice. Being nice means that we aren’t controlled by vice; that we
aren’t driven by envy, greed, anger etc in our dealings with others; that we are
cultured and courteous toward others even while sticking to our responsibilities.
Pertinently, the Bhagavad-gita (16.02) states that the godly are gentle and are
averse to faultfinding — they are nice in the sense that they aren’t harsh or
hypercritical. 
Ultimately, the difference between being nice and being naive boils down to
adherence to dharma. We all have roles to play and duties to do. While doing
these, we strive to be as gentlemanly as possible. But if someone stops us from
doing our dharma, then we need to take a firm stand, even if that doesn’t look
nice. 
The Pandavas exemplify being nice without being naive. When Duryodhana, the
wicked son of Dhritarashtra, abused and defrauded them, his father tried to
weasel out a solution that let Duryodhana keep all his ill-gotten gains while
leaving the Pandavas with nothing to even survive or do their dharma. The
Pandavas didn’t naively fall for Dhritarashtra’s ruse. 
Yet after they neutralized Duryodhana in the Kurukshetra war, they didn’t target
Dhritrashtra; they gave him the honor due to a father figure. 
Thus, being nice doesn’t mean being naive — it means being firmly devoted to
virtue without becoming dominated by vice. 
 Think it over:
 What is the problem with being naive?
 What is the essential difference between being naive and being nice? 
 In your relationships, how can you better tread the line between being naive and
giving in to vice?

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 nice means we are not controlled by lust anger greed with the same time we are doing our
responsibility.
 How we can see we are nice by – we are not putting other down
 How we are not naïve – if some one distract us from our path than we remain firm and keep not
get exploited.

Definition

If we are coming for this session

Nice - nice means we are not controlled by lust anger greed with the same time we are doing our

Anger

Eg – light off – student fight – controlled by vice. How anger burn us. If we fight than also if not
fight than we burn us.

Eg in fight one student Hit Stump on the head

Envy

Seeing other envious eng speak – being envious will not help us is nay way. We try to belittle them.

Result we lost relationship with them, and like carrying coal

Greed

– tata technology – tire tube stole – manager got defamed. Oracllre person died over

Nice means we don’t beome like this. With the same time if somebosdy other comes and disturb us. Like
you are studying at night but other students come and disturb. So nice doesn’t means if suffer our
studying, nor it is we break his head.
What practical action we can do ask them. We can do study atother place and politely we request later
to talk outside.

Like birthday party pls drink alchohol. My dear friend happy birth day to you and but I stick to my
principle taught my parents

Same think we can learn from Mahabharat – duryodhana eg

BG is not book for coward – but BG made for action. Arjuna for cowerd, but Krishna gave BG call for
action. Now reading BG gaya kama se. we will take action at the same time we wil not break his head.

In the same scoialsse we will not drink, woaminse, smiling face crying heart.

If we don’t join there party than we will join looser party.

BG teaches us necessary action – tomorrow is exam – today don’t play – BG teaches us necessary action
not hyper action or inaction.

Our parents have sent us, now we are responsibility on us. At home 4 peopla are ready to guide us, but
now in hostle 4 people are ready to disguise us

Therefore we are having us camp so we can associate with such peropla and learn from them

Mantra Meditation give us inner strength to control disproportionate.

With this knowledge should we become real leader in life or just play cricket – but if we don’t take time
for taking this knowledge than one day situation comes in life we will feel regret.

Opportunity doesn’t not knock twice – in this first year.

- Cricketer get benefit but not we as such. Learning should go on.

What is happening now a days

To challenge them

Out of class Experience