Workspaces Part 7 - INFPs - Meredith Fuller (PDFDrive)

Workspaces part 7: INFPs
The sculptor, the activist, the martial arts teacher,

the jackaroo—and the dancing business trainer
How do INFPs inhabit their workspaces? as reading, writing and meditation. They
are drawn to the philosophical, the theo-
By moving everywhere and nowhere, within
sophical and the psychological. Jeremy,
and without, intra-psychically, ethereally,
the INFP martial arts teacher, writes:
kaleidoscopically, a few centimetres off,
or under, the ground. Whatever their I have an introspective philosophical nature
profession, they somehow accompany, that engages in self-exploration, documented
support, heal and honour human trav- with many years of journals.
ellers and creative endeavours.
Themes of my childhood character have
Rather than pursuing a conventional career
continually presented themselves
path, INFPs follow their inner voice that
throughout my life and helped me to
whispers their calling: invariably, to be true
arrive at my teaching vocation.
to themselves in their search for meaning.
They are likely to have a multi-vocation,
Despite their reserve and a tendency to
forever juggling far too many things, or
avoid large social groups, INFPs, like the
Meredith Fuller meandering lost along a wondrous terrain
INFJs, strongly resonate with people’s
of distractions and delights, juxtaposed
feelings, and have a love of humanity.
with depressions and despair.
Their one-to-one interactions are intense
Mary McGuiness summarises the INFP’s and deep. They have an extraordinary
dominant gift as being aware of ‘under- capacity for feeling the mood of a place
lying unspoken feelings in others, such as and people, as well as the concrete, the
Whatever their vocation, fear, anger and sadness’: abstract, and the other-worldly.
There is a gentle determination that may
INFPs somehow support, They defend the rights [of] individuals and
surprise others who had assumed that
support causes that align with their values.
accompany, heal and [Their auxiliary Ne enables them to] enjoy the INFP had agreed with, or conceded
discussions and appear extraverted when
to, their demands. The INFPs who pre-
honour human travellers talking about things they believe in. They
empt conflict or unpleasantness may pre-
sent with a neutral or impassive face at
and creative endeavours have bursts of inspiration and seek const-
the time, but afterwards they will quietly
ant growth which leads to change.
and wilfully continue to do as they wish.
Stephen Montgomery suggests that NFs INFPs enjoy pondering the unfathomable,
are symbolised by Apollo, as ‘Apollonian healing and transforming, solving complex
ideals—truth, purity, peace, spirit—shine problems, and creatively inspiring and
Psychologist Meredith Fuller (INFP)
through ... their attitudes to life.’ Judith connecting others to their truest selves,
is a specialist in career change and
Provost asserts that introverted feeling whether through counselling, art, theatre,
vocational behaviour, a columnist, a
types are particularly interested in harm- or human resource training and develop-
psychological profiler, and media
ony and aesthetics in their environment, ment. They enjoy the private elation that
spokesperson for the Australian
and are drawn to art, design, music and comes from reading, creative writing, art,
Psychological Society. Meredith will
dance. photography and film.
be a keynote speaker at AusAPT’s
2006 national conference. The INs and NPs are motivated by leisure More than other types, INFPs are able to
activities that respond to their needs for merge with people to facilitate potential.
mfandbw@teksupport.net.au intellectual challenge and freedom, such Their attunement to the unconscious of
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Meredith Fuller: Workspaces 7: INFPs
others may result in an extraordinary gift As leaders or managers INFPs are hands-
for knowing people’s essence; knowing off—much to the irritation of those Js in
what they need to know in the immediate their orbit who would like clear guidelines,
moment; predicting the future; and pro- prompt action and articulation of specifics.
viding safety. While usually adored (or misunderstood)
as charismatic messengers from ‘other
In their work or personal life INFPs may
realms invisible’, INFPs prefer to delegate
have suffered great trauma or horror.
or inform in general terms—befuddling
They invariably have a comprehension of
for type-different teams who want step-
sorrow, depression, loss or tragedy that
by-step clarity and immediate answers.
enables others to feel comfortable reveal-
ing their pain to an empathic listener they Montgomery observes that the NFPs
know can be trusted as a sturdy container. often prefer to be fervent supporters,
than to assume the leadership role. As
INFP Patricia says that while counsellors
Patricia says:
‘make choices to explore this or that’, all
clients essentially bring crises of meaning: I like starting things that don’t exist, but
once I get it going, I’ll never be the leader.
They are poised on the edge of the void.
I like initiating so that what should exist will
We can be their witness by sitting with
exist, but not leading it. It’s about creating.
[Idealists] are often in a them, hearing their story, and shining a
torch on possible paths and opportunities.
state of self-examination, General staff may find INFPs in senior roles
mysterious to fathom, sometimes result-
outside of themselves, All of my case studies prefer to read than
ing in quips such as
to socialise, and easily become absorbed
watching their thoughts in reverie or internal contemplation, often While I like them as a person …
and feelings, trying to withdrawing from the outer world. They
They’re off with the fairies.
are compelled by the intensity of their
make their lives conform inner life. Their journey or quest is to find I don’t know what we’re supposed to do!
meaning, and they understand that it is an
to their dreams. interior hunt. As Patricia says:
They dither and avoid disagreements.
Why can’t they decide, make up their
It is their gift, and at times We must be patient; we can’t bully our- mind, or action this?
selves into when and where it should take
their curse. us in our search for meaning and finding a
Acceptance, autonomy, independence,
freedom and creativity are essential for
way to be.
INFPs, regardless of their role. They will
Stephen Montgomery
not be corralled: in fact, it’s hard to get
I chuckle whenever I’m distributing Mary
them to the venue at all, let alone on time!
McGuiness’s booklet You’ve Got Personality:
she managed to print the INFP profile on Unlike the INFJs rose-coloured idealism,
page 42—the answer to the question in the INFPs breathe in rhythm to the good-
The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy, ‘What evil duality, so their idealism can be more
is the meaning of life?’ flexible, tolerant, forgiving or reasonable.
Their gift for communication may take the
Unlike the INFJ’s caring way of subtly herd-
form of words (excessive, flowery, too big
ing people from behind, INFPs are more
for many other types’ liking); or art (too
abstract in leadership. They may simply
searing, strange or symbolic for utilitarian
go their own way without fear or fuss,
types); or movement (too graceful, poised
remaining unaware of the people collect-
or incomprehensible for some types).
ing around them. INFPs independently
waft, and others tend to seek them out. In part 4 of this series I identified INTJs
My case studies note that others flock to as organisers and improvers of systems,
them; they don’t flock to others. INFPs so that things are done properly. INFPs,
tend to expect the best of people. Their in contrast, are concerned with truth,
leadership style encourages self-respons- authenticity and originality. This search
ibility and self-reliance regarding detailed for their true self is a concept that other
operating procedures. types may not value or understand.
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Montgomery points to the inherent para-
dox central to the INFPs’ search: The Sculptor Creative
… the search for self is fundamentally in-
compatible with the experience of finding
Samaan Michaelis, INFP
the Self. The Idealist’s romantic longing for
identity [means that they] feel most auth-
entically themselves only when they are
Samaan, 19, lives in Byron Bay. Tall and
seeking themselves; they are themselves lithe, with evocative green-grey eyes, he
only if searching for themselves; and they is insightful, thoughtful and caring.
would cease being themselves if they ever
found themselves. Best described as a creative artist, Samaan
writes, reflects, sculpts, draws and creates
INFPs long to find their true mate so that music. His Year 12 subjects were industrial
they can share their inner lives, their true technologies, entertainment (production),
selves. In contrast to the INFJs’ exacting visual design, photography, philosophy and
standards—perfectionism initially directed English. He hopes to study sculpture, and
inward, then outward—‘I must be perfect, continue with his music and writing.
and I expect the same of everyone else’— Samaan’s fascination with sculpting has
INFPs tend to feel that ‘I must be the best evolved from his Year 12 activities. He
I can be. If I can’t, then I won’t do it at all— realised that he created installation art
but I don’t expect other people to adhere to when his ‘wearable art’ submission
my perfectionist standards.’ [pictured over] won first prize.
While other types may criticise or articu-
late their disappointment in their significant How did you go about creating it?
other, INFPs are more likely to attribute
the desired characteristic or behaviour as Originally I began with a different idea, but
already belonging to their partner, in a I was running out of time. I felt low but in a
hopeful but obscure method of commun- hurry to finish, as I wanted to get on with my
icating what they want. As with the INTJ, sculpture and painting.
Samaan Michaelis
simmering anger may finally erupt when As I sat at the workshop, tired and miserable,
the pressure becomes too great. Unlike I recalled the junk on the streets from clean- Photograph by Jaya Fausch
the INTJ, however, before an anger vomit, up week, and a completed vision appeared
both the INFP and the ENFP attempt to in my head, like seeing a slide. Then I knew. I can’t describe it in words, but
swallow their percolating rage by an overt I kept the feeling of my vision—obviously a
display of over-helping and over-giving. 3D artwork would be slightly different. I feel I have things that I must
While the ENTJs and ENTPs in this series There were 3 components: a full head mask do, connected to art, music and
incorporate other people and resources that covers your skin and connects to a jacket
to get the job done quickly by delegation, that extends to the floor. This covering was
literature.
the INFPs shoulder great burdens, as they white PVC with black silhouettes of dead trees,
are disinclined to let go of their involve- arm overtaken by a horse (part of a plastic My inspiration comes from every-
ment and personal ownership. However, rocking horse). I welded in the skeleton of
if the INFP has no personal interest or in-
where. I experiment and create,
the horse with the arteries/trees connected
vestment in a task or senior management to the wires. without forcing or pushing. I’m
directive they are unlikely to embrace it,
let alone take part in its execution. The concept was materialism destroying cre- propelled by feeling, and it’s
ativity and consuming this being that I made.
Provost notes that, more so than other You can’t see any trace of the human being important to finish the process.
types, INFPs and INTPs derive great sat- wearing it. When my wearable art was dis- It is not an unaware, crazy
isfaction from keeping journals and diaries, played, in movement the horse was growing
reading, writing, and meditating as paths up the being’s arm and consuming—this creativity that doesn’t require
to inner discovery. Provost also notes that machine was strangling the soul out of the any completion.
INFPs can make friends with thinking types being. The headpiece connected down the
to engage in analytical debate. back of the coat to form an external spine.

My completed-vision ideas come quickly to me, Samaan is compelled to start as soon as

usually when I have almost run out of time. I he ‘sees’ in his mind’s eye. Feeling drives
worked intensively to complete this project him. In some cases it is frenzied purging
after my long period of frustration. I hardly and the feeling dies. Those things are
‘Spirit of the left the house—in parallel with my art piece, comfortably left incomplete: ‘My ideas
my project consumed the house with offcuts are revealed as completed visions. I don’t
Walking Dead’ and debris everywhere! build from scratch.’
I was stunned when I won the $3000 first In Psychological Types Jung writes:
This piece of installation art depicts prize in this Australia-wide competition. I was
the insidious undermining of spirit- pleased that confrontational content could ... in intuition, a content presents itself
win, and that my message could stand alone whole and complete, without our being
ual intelligence by the destructive
and demand attention. I was happy that I able to explain or discover how this
forces of materialistic thinking. had been acknowledged for intensity. content came into existence.
I hadn’t felt good throughout school, nor done Intuitive feeling types first work from their
well. I remember thinking at the end of Year
intuition’s felt visions. This nebulous form
12, ‘I cannot believe that all my schooling has
can later be refined, but without the inner
come to this anticlimax.’ Winning the wear- knowing of the felt experience, there is
able art prize was important closure. I felt so
nothing to hone.
stifled by the system and wanted to make a
statement about the purpose of my life. It’s often noted that intuition coupled with
feeling is the most difficult to describe,
I was born in Bellingen to parents very much and has the most diffuse meanings and
in love: a love child. My Dad passed away when
boundaries. This undifferentiated intuitive
I was two and a half. He was a teacher who
feeling invites the closest association with
loved sacred geometry and architecture—a the creativity of the unconscious.
playful and rebellious man. My mother con-
tinued to look after me, providing great love My need to give colour, life, and form stems
and stability. from such strong feeling within that I can sit
for hours unaware of physical discomfort.
I spoke and walked early. I could recite ‘The
Owl and the Pussycat’ very early. My mother Since Samaan was 13 he has been a keen
The dead trees represent the death ensured that there were no jarring loud sounds reader of books he didn’t quite yet under-
around me. I was always interested in sound. stand. The words ‘glowed’ in a feeling
of inspiration and life forces in the
I constantly listen to music. A happy child. I recognition before a cognitive definition.
respiratory and circulatory systems. was so sporty, she assumed that I would He was already reading Kerouac, Miller
probably become an athlete. and Burroughs—absorbing art that had
The grey coat represents Death, honesty, spontaneity and energy. He likes
woven through by the black arteries Samaan spent much of his adolescence large chunks of time to read in peace, in
watching films (he rented piles of them).
of karma. an environment devoid of technology.
Even then his taste was avant-garde—
Fellini, Lynch, Hertzog. He continues to I have always liked to write. I used an old type-
The white horse is Hope, striving
enjoy film soundtracks, recording the audio writer because of the writing mechanics, in
to overcome the aggressive attack and listening, affected by the feeling they preference to a computer keyboard. I wrote
represented by red. give him, regardless of quality. deep things that I didn’t understand—
aesthetics and form ran rampant.
I am drawn to any music that moves me—
Samaan Michaelis that reaches forward. I am interested in Writing feels a necessity to me. If I couldn’t
individuals not genres. There’s a dismal state create, there’d be nothing. They are my com-
of music today; few have maintained their panions. Creativity is the consistent driving
integrity, let alone pioneer new things. I like force in my life, not consuming things.
honesty in music. I detest overproduction.
Intuitive feeling types are aptly named ‘cre-
Eclectic: I enjoy raw to rendered.
ative artist’ and ‘lover.’ This archetype is
Samaan’s godfather, a sound engineer, associated with times of crisis and chaos,
strongly supports him and is a good music as well as opportunity and inventiveness.
mentor: ‘I’m seven years old playing my This is also the deeper meaning of the
Photo by Jaya Fausch guitar, and he’s busy recording it!’ ‘Lover card’ in the Tarot. The Lover is

usually an artist, and experiences all of life Giannini posits that NFs experience life
as art. The Artist/Lover is also the Mystic, as a seamless whole: feeling seeking har-
who feels both exquisite joy and awful pain. mony, and intuition embracing wholeness.
All events that are subjectively important
It’s hard to find a comfortable space to create
to them come effortlessly together:
in. I like being alone in a quiet space. I’m very
sensitive to sound: noise or a person around NFs learn to handle impersonal problems
me is too distracting. My room’s a mess— by subjectifying them ... [There is] an in-
things are piled everywhere and it’s difficult ward, personalising tendency, as opposed
not to step on things. I am in an irritated
to the outward, distancing orientation of
state when working on something. I fancy a
the ST.
sparse environment but I can’t seem to
make or keep it. But the music I make is
Giannini goes on to stress that other types
minimal and sparse.
may perceive the NF capacity to embrace
This archetypal life is usually unconvent- others as ‘receptive, flexible, romantic and
ional and messy—but messy in a chaotic mystical’ or, conversely, ‘helpless, moody
way, compared to the INTP messy, the and cruel.’ He cites the Holden Caulfield
latter being able to immediately grab what character in Salinger’s Catcher in the Rye
they want from silos of piles. as a moody, dreamy NF, constantly caught
up in his own imaginings.
Throughout his school life, during most
classes Samaan sat drawing until he was Samaan’s mother, an intuitive, bright
transported to another world. When he Steiner teacher, is very supportive and
skipped school, his motivation was time encouraging of her son as a person and
alone; he skipped by himself, not wagging an artist. He has great respect for her
with friends. vibrancy, dedication, friendliness, com-
passion and intelligence.
I do have some amazing friends, but they
could never ‘get’ me when I was younger. I The INFPs’ felt experience, while not
tried to make that heart connection, but they necessarily understanding, is more
didn’t understand what I was talking about. powerful and touching than mystery
revealed and decoded. Samaan Michaelis
I have solitary interests. I haven’t been into
hobbies as such: someone presented me with The material world has always felt foreign to Photo by Meredith Fuller
a stamp collection and I didn’t know what to me. I’m frustrated by many people’s lack of
do with it! But I have always played guitar honesty. Creating, for me, is selfless, and I
and created things. prefer the slightly more other-worldly people I spend a lot of time thinking
I can connect with. I do feel inspired to give, about existential issues—not
Samaan recognises that his intentions will
although there aren’t many good purposes in
change and develop over time. However, society for creating art or making music. understanding, and not necess-
he is aware of the fluid, unstructured way
that defines his path. Sometimes he catches Samaan finds it difficult to talk about him- arily wanting to know!
a specific glimpse of operating in a creative self. He is so connected to archetype and
world. He is clear that he wouldn’t enjoy the collective unconscious it can be diffi- Despite feeling alone, I do have
working for others. He has sharply defined cult to live in the ‘here and now’ sensate
focuses of interest, and his values of hon- present. What he craves most is actual a sense of spiritual support and
esty and quality are non-negotiable. love—to love and be loved, not necessar- guidance.
ily understood.
I feel that I have wasted so much time trying
to figure out what I should be doing, or trying Jung and Hillman agree that the fullest re- There are unknowable things
to assimilate—even though I don’t want to alisation of feeling is love in its highest and
most creative forms. In the intrapsychic
you can not understand. You
be like other people, anyway! This issue of
‘fitting / not fitting’ can be confusing. I don’t realm, feeling connects consciousness with may think you know intellectually,
want to, so why did I want to try? the symbols of the unconscious and arche-
type, myths and legends. Dante regarded but it won’t mean anything.
Perhaps Samaan would simply have liked love as the ultimate motive of poetic
the opportunity to choose—an invitation creation. Plato, Aristotle and Aquinas see
to join, and the option not to.
love as the highest realisation of truth.

Samaan has been in a satisfying relationship My best teachers have made an impact on
with his INTP girlfriend, Jaya, for several me. It’s not about being easy for me—I want
years. Jaya describes him as a sensitive, to be in difficult and challenging situations. I
generous, talented and mature man: like people who can show their passion and
upset. I am more of a listener and prefer to
His taste is refined, and he has an instinctual
absorb things then do myself.
awareness of excellence in music, art and film.
He’s appalled by the lack of quality in our I am happy and joyous because I am full of
culture. He’s original, imaginative and love- eagerness to create things in this world. I like
able. He has a unique way of doing things. certain unexplainable situations; I like those
He’s free, using all manner of materials in intense feelings of interconnectedness. Even
his artwork. if it’s paranoia!
He draws on the distorted human form for Pathologising of the feeling function is
much of his work. His 3D work is amazing common. Feeling types may be prone to
and fascinating. The very first clay piece he co-dependency, acted out through either
made was a complex head. a submissive, subservient role, or a rejecting,
rebel role, paralysed by fear or anger. The
He’s totally internally driven. If he really wants
feeling of paranoia accessed by introverts
to do something, he’ll apply himself. He didn’t
is also evidenced in a larger arena, when
study in Year 12. The teachers kept threat-
society’s pathologising of feeling scape-
ening him, warning that he’d fail. But he’d
goats a segment of society. Our current
race around at the last minute to complete
times attest to our overworked ‘thinking’
assignments, and get a good mark!’
society being overtaken by shadow feeling,
Isabel Myers notes that NFs are twice as from religious intolerance through to
good when working at a job they believe conspiracy theories.
in, since their feeling puts added energy
I like coincidence, stumbling onto things that
behind their effort. From observation and
would usually go unnoticed. I have uncontroll-
personal experience, I’d like to add that
able bursts of happiness. A friend said to me
an INFP is highly unlikely to do anything
that when he was little he smiled so much
they are not motivated to do. This isn’t
his face hurt, and he had to stop smiling so
Samaan Michaelis being ‘precious’—there is a leaden fog
that he could get to sleep. I love that story.
with Jaya Fausch that defeats an attempt to begin, as well
as a black hole that obscures the obvious My entire life is filled with anticipation. I like
place to start. to sleep and dream. My dream life is rich and
A few years before I’d met my intense—epic sagas of glorious colour and joy.
INFPs are easily lost in their other-worldly
Aerial views of places I haven’t yet seen.
photography teacher’s daughter, quest for meaning without the solid earthly
grounding of the ST. ‘I don’t remember Giannini notes that intuitive feeling thrives
I had an almost past-life recog- details’ says Samaan. in the ambiguous and uncertain realms of
nition, and knew that I would be the Soul and is associated with that edge
The night before going to the venue for the
of the Psyche in which the known and
connected to her. final exams he muttered, ‘I wonder what
unknown connect. So the dream, in its
room’s the exam in?’ Don’t know how he
emotion-laden imagery, is an NF structure.
found out!
Jaya and were both drawn to Jung writes that the main task of dreams
Jaya’s IXFP father and former photography
each other from the moment we is to access one’s most primitive instincts,
teacher says, ‘Samaan is a Creative. All the
which can happen only through symbols.
first met. I can feel when she is art teachers love him and everything about
Symbols must be understood in their
him. I first taught him at 15, and I was sur-
in the vicinity before I see her. ‘numinosity’, which for Jung represents
prised by his wisdom and competence at
the values of an archetypal event.
that age.’
Samaan’s philosophical viewpoints are re- What upsets you?
freshing and profound. ‘I like simply being
with people I connect with, sharing and I have the capacity to be really upset by things,
learning. It’s the “ragged and ecstatic joy but I’m not a grudge holder. I’m angry about
of pure being”,’ he says with delight. musicians who are puppets, not true artists.

Colours?
The Jackaroo Inventor
I don’t have a favourite colour today. I like rich,
deep colours. When I was little I liked blue.
Karl Bates, INFP
Dislikes re work?
I would hate any work that left me too used

up to do other creative things. Multi-talented Karl, 40, laughingly describes
himself as a jack of all trades. His genuine,
I can take pleasure in being an undermining casual and comfortable style immediately
rat in a system. (I could sit in an office doing puts others at ease and creates trust. He
something routine, but thinking about my novel has an open face, warm eyes and disarm-
that I am writing.) I would hate to feel stuck ing smile. He is also sharp, an adroit prob-
in a job just because I didn’t know what to do. lem-solver, and exceptionally versatile.
I don’t wish to take the easy way out: obvious- Karl exudes a kind, gentle manner, but I’m
ly, or I wouldn’t be into music and everything informed by his ESFJ fiancée that there’s
else! Specialisation is a stupid thing. People an intransigent, stubborn streak if he is
have the capacity to do so much, yet they cornered by critical others.
confine themselves.
I’m quite private. I value honesty and trans-
Future fantasy? parency, and I need time alone in my own
space. I couldn’t stay in an office all day—
In my 50s, hopefully I’ll feel different to now. I need a mix of some indoors and outdoors.
I hope I’ve got my wrinkles for a good reason.
Originally from England, Karl has worked
I would love to live in a space that is beautiful.
in agriculture, dairy farming, motorcycle
At present I don’t care at all about living con-
retail, landscaping and insurance. He has
ditions and surroundings, although I do prefer
worked as a tour guide, jackaroo, horse
aesthetically pleasing things.
and carriage rider, inventor, lay engineer/
I am into things that others haven’t done; I mechanic, employment consultant—and
like being different. I am haphazard about anything he sets his mind to. Karl Bates
clothes, happy with one good item. I tried to
I always have so much going on in my head.
be ‘clean-cut’ once, but it didn’t work! The
At times if I am being pushed to do something
world has reached a critical point regarding
in a certain way, it may seem that I am being I’m open to new things, seeing
people and creativity. I believe that you must
resistant. This is not the case, it is just that I
have something you really feel you can give. the positive side of things when
actually have other ideas in mind.
We’ve lost the potential for interesting situ-
ations—so much has been destroyed. Friends mention my creativity, good listening the unexpected happens.
and counselling skills, problem solving, etc.
I can not comprehend why people don’t seek
And procrastination, ‘doesn’t do detail’, etc. I feel everything happens for a
meaning. They don’t want to do meaningful
I skip the bits re detail, and go straight to
things. They don’t take self responsibility for reason, and if I change my angle
problem solving.
caring for others or caring for the work that
they do. It’s ridiculous. Few people seem to Karl’s passion for rugby, mountain biking, on something that goes wrong,
realise that the things you love to create (and motorcycling and horse riding has left a I can learn from it.
create well, because you are good at them) can legacy of breaking nearly every bone in
become your work. For some bizarre reason his body. ‘My body can no longer sustain
they consider their passions should remain my former activities’, he says. ‘I don’t want
hobbies. You can sell your creations, you can to use up all my physical energy at my dis-
be self-employed. posal. It’s time to use my intellect more.’
I need to think more ‘professionally’ and I’m
What’s life about?
wondering what sort of training would provide
I yearn. It keeps me awake at night, I am a sound career. We’re planning our wedding
nervous and excited. A hope that is hard to and want to start a family soon after, so I
smother. need something stable in the shorter term.

It’s time to get a real job. When whatever I Describe yourself

end up doing becomes viable, I’d go full time.
Practical, thoughtful, resourceful, independent,
Until recently Karl worked with CRS strong-willed, patient, and committed to things
Australia as an employment consultant. I am passionate about.
His current role as a new apprenticeships
coordinator involves employer liaison, Good at a one to one level—but I’m shy in
visits to trainees, and pastoral care for large groups or noisy environments
adults and adolescents. He expects he’ll Can put a lot of energy and time into things
spend several years in this role. I like—can be indifferent if not so keen.
His many interests include occupational Quick-witted, stubborn, dependable, sensitive
health and safety, as well as inventing and to how others and things affect me, and to
tinkering. Vague ideas for his future involve how my actions affect others.
some form of advising, training or consult-
ing. He is also considering roles such as Quiet to many, open to a few.
patent attorney that would integrate his Thoughtful, caring, considerate.
interpersonal, ethical, and engineering,
mechanical and inventing skills. Mentally strong: high tolerance levels, persist-
ent, can push self.
Maybe I’ll work for myself or with a friend
one day—but I’m not sure what I’d do. I Physically strong and enjoy being physical,
suffer from over-choice. I’m self-motivated, high pain threshold.
with strong self willpower. I would probably Good listener.
start up a venture part-time and let it bubble
away, growing while experimenting. I have Lateral thinker, inquisitive.
already done a few things in partnership— High integrity.
e.g. I developed a modular lighting system for
department stores with a mate of mine. Offbeat sense of humour and enjoy laughing.
Sentimental, a sense of history and tradition.
Work space?
I value manners and conduct myself properly.
Karl Bates I like to describe it as productive and organised Consequently, I am dismayed at how some
in an unconventional way—others may call it people conduct and present themselves.
chaotic. Not exactly cramped, but not as
spacious as I’d like; possibly a reflection of As a child
My childhood was eclectic and the number of projects I have on the go at
any one time. Karl grew up in a bohemian environment,
varied, with loving parents and surrounded by artistic and musical adults:
My desk varies from reasonably tidy to a little
grandparents, uncles, and an overrun. I have difficulty keeping things in I was an only child but not spoilt. My artistic,
extended family. Not pushed by order—tend to hang onto things. Have a academic parents exposed me to arts and
filing cabinet that is in danger of overflowing. discussion with their friends. My childhood
overbearing expectations. Pens, calculator, diary, recycled paper, notes was eclectic, varied, with loving parents and
everywhere. grandparents, uncles, and an extended family.
Not pushed by overbearing expectations.
I need quiet time and space by myself to cre-
ate a clear path for my mind to work things My father was a lecturer in the history of art,
out. I analyse in depth and think ahead, and as well as a sculptor. My mother was a cre-
work out the detail theoretically before putting ative, practical teacher. My father’s parents
it into practice. were musicians, cellist and pianist, and my
uncle was a well-known actor in Britain.
I need time to digest. I’m not good at instant/
fast responses, but I usually come up with a Fiercely independent, Karl had a couple
result that exceeds expectations or addresses of close friends but was not interested in
a situation from a direction that is unexpected larger groups. ‘I have always been an in-
but effective. I am usually seen as the person dependent loner and very quiet’, he says,
who fixes impossible situations in unique ways. ‘I didn’t like any focus or attention on me!’

As a child Karl liked the idea of becoming Karl loves exploring new places and travel:
an inventor when he grew up. Curious ‘not necessarily on a large scale’, but getting
and investigative, he constantly took things to know his immediate environment in
apart and rebuilt them. He amused him- greater depth:
self by designing, making and fixing things.
I might join a historical society and also get
On my mother’s side, her father was an involved in an environmental landcare group.
engineer and my uncle a civil engineer. We The magic of life and nature—how it all fits
travelled a lot, very active lifestyle. I didn’t together. Trying to find enjoyment of every day.
have much contact with people my own age
and I tended to amuse myself. What do you value most?
A significant event happened when I was I value a spectrum. Firstly, my relationship
around 11. My uncle, Alan Bates, took me with my future wife, Peta. I am determined
for a spin in his new Ford Mustang. I loved to nurture and protect this.
watching the speedo climb to 100 mph!
On an individual level I value my health and
During secondary school I wanted to be a frame of mind. I try to take something from
veterinarian. Always loved animals. Enjoyed each day that I can feel proud of, or have a
roaming outside, farm, animals and every- sense of achievement from. It might sound
thing to do with nature. It wasn’t possible, so corny or clichéd, but I value being able to learn
I found associated work in agriculture. something each day, pushing aside my own
Karl wonders whether he will ultimately reticence or wariness. I’d like to get involved
return to some form of agriculture. in a community and help causes that I care
about—not sure at what level yet.
At junior school I was ridiculed for ‘talking
with a posh accent’ in a very Yorkshire I hope people will remember me as someone
environment. who enjoyed life and appreciated living; that I
had a spirit that would put a smile on the face
At secondary school I have a strong memory of whoever remembered it. I want to be known
of disdain for the headmaster who found out as a true, honest person and good friend.
who my uncle was, and then singled me out
to get to know me in order to find things out Daily enjoyments? Karl Bates
about him. I resented this uncomfortable sit-
uation and could not hold the headmaster in Until recently, riding my motorcycle to and
high regard. from work. (In my new role I have a company
My first day at nursery school
car.) Making the perfect cup of tea for Peta
I became increasingly questioning and would
challenge matters that were presented as fact
first thing in the morning. Cuddling my ten was very distressing.
year old, 50 kg Rottweiler.
or as something we should simply accept.
I didn’t want to let go of Mum’s
Karl remained left of main field—he didn’t Where is the fun?
enjoy football or cricket, etc, but took up hand, I was so upset.
the more solitary endeavours of cycling With friends.
and cross-country running. He became a Having the time to ride my motorcycle and
good runner at school and negotiated be- mountain bike.
ing allowed to do this by himself during PE
periods, instead of enduring team sports. Memories of growing up.
Others followed suit over time, and I ended Potter-ability!
up being in charge of a small cross-country Exploring new places and pushing the
team that represented the school in state boundaries
championships for the first time ever.
I hated bullies and stuck up for myself, and Your fantasy ideal day?
others. I’ve always had a strong sense of
what is right or wrong and how to go about Financial freedom to travel and explore,
doing things ethically. I would confront them finish various projects I have started (jobs
when they were bullying someone. around the house, restoring 3 motorcycles).

Take up old hobbies (archery, photography)

and new (fly fishing), and putting effort into The Activist Psychologist
causes such as wilderness society, heritage
trust. I am alarmed at the insidious loss of
the very fragile Australian building history in
the pursuit of units and dual occupancies.
Patricia Strong: INFP
Karl is least interested in ‘climbing corp-
orate ladders, loud people, inflated and One of Melbourne’s pioneers and wise
overrated egos.’ He hates ‘detail’—‘tax, elders in the areas of psychology, prac-
budgets, keeping up with the latest thing.’ titioner training, personal growth groups,
counselling, feminism, and socio-political
Puzzles that intrigue you? activity, petite and gentle Patricia’s sur-
name describes her internal self.
What makes individuals become who they
are and why they do what they do. Pat, now semi-retired, left home at 17 to
hitchhike around the world:
How do some people achieve and succeed,
and others struggle? I wanted to see what was going on in the
world and contribute. I became politically
What do you want for yourself? active at an early age; when I had my son I
continued to find ways to awaken people to
A sense of ‘me’, and to increase my self- the society they’re in. I took my feminism
confidence. into the workplace.
To be clear in my decisions, and comfortable The attitude I take in relation to everything I do
and sure of them. is to explore. I like to know how the whole
thing works.
Karl’s dream is ‘to have the time and
I don’t follow. Most of my life has been away
resources to travel Australia’, stopping to
out in front. I was around at the beginning of
explore and discover places that interest
group work and therapy in the late ’60s and
him, and indulging in his photography:
Karl Bates early ’70s. At the time there was very little
Finding a location or subject and being able literature, we all learned by doing. I had to
to wait for the right lighting or environmental experience it myself and know what the pro-
conditions to capture the image—perhaps cess would feel like for clients.
I love photography, motorcycling, continue the theme, capturing the same sub-
I’ve always done things differently. I came
ject matter and compiling an album or book.
cycling—individual pursuits that from a working-class background so, despite
wanting to go to uni, I had to leave school at
present challenges to be worked Vocation?
15 because we had no money. Things I
at by yourself, and also take Still working on that one! Ongoing search! wanted were always out of context.
you to new places and scenes, I am happiest when working things out for At 15 I assumed I’d become a dressmaker—
myself. I certainly didn’t want to be a typist. I hadn’t
independent, pioneering. realised that dressmakers worked in factories.
I want to leave strong and constructive mem- By the third week I knew it wasn’t for me. I
ories of my qualities and traits. enrolled in dress design but it was no better.
I have lost key people in my life—my mother, I ended up at business college to learn to type
a close uncle and cousin, and a dear grand- (yuk!). I soon went travelling.
mother—but they continue, as I remember Travelling alone in Mexico and South America,
their lives and how they lived. This helps me I was struck by the horrendous poverty. In
when times are hard or things are difficult. Canada I started a few degree subjects. I got
involved in theatre, and many new things.
What is the meaning of life?
My mother was forever trying to pull me back
To be true to your heart, and treasure and to Australia with pitiful letters. Eventually I
nurture love and goodness when it finds you. returned, at 25, and found it hard to settle.

I left San Francisco to answer Mother’s plea, she made sure that her husband was one
and the only way I could bear to stay was of the first-ever men allowed to attend a
having a learning project. While reluctantly hospital birth.
working full-time as a secretary, I completed
Pat, a founding member, became active in
Year 12 and learned Italian for love of the
the Women’s Electoral Lobby in 1971, and
language. Arts held a great attraction. My
pushed for a number of initiatives with
boss at the time was supportive—he has
her colleagues, including the first student
been the only mentor I ever had.
society within the Australian Psychological
Pat has mentored and taught thousands Society.
of counsellors, with many continuing to
But I’ve never wanted to be president or front-
stay in touch. She lobbied tirelessly for
runner of any of the societies or services I
services and programs to assist women’s
organised with others. We had meetings at
development, and maintains avid interest
kitchen tables, training and building scores of
in her former students and supervisees.
women for action. You don’t realise you’re all
In the public service I was in awe of my boss making history at the time; you don’t keep
because had an arts degree. I left to travel records!
but always kept in touch. When I returned
In psychology, Pat and her professional
he gave me a secretarial job in the small
colleagues were training groups in the
publishing company he worked in.
early body work, psychodrama, gestalt,
This man believed in me, and was keen to altered states of consciousness: anything
start me writing and editing. While working avant-garde. She was called the Explorer
for him I put myself through uni part-time, of everything. They worked hard for their
and assumed I’d end up teaching. professional association, and continue to
do so.
I became intrigued by psychology and won a
student scholarship. I was politically active, on My psyche was on the chopping block trying
the Farrago newspaper; on so many comm- these risky things. Counsellors flocked to our
ittees I hardly had time to study. I took a job unit at La Trobe Uni because our training was
in the vocational guidance section of the so innovative. There were complaints, too:
Department of Labour. I was a big stirrer! during our body-work groups the security was Patricia Strong
Incensed about issues, I pushed for change called in because we were shrieking and crying.
to move our profession forward.
We were considered to be ratbags, but we
After completing my 4th year in counselling I were clear about standards and ethics— I was relieved to discover the
was headhunted by Monash [University] to before trying new therapies we must take
do research for three professors. Back in the the risk on ourselves. MBTI. I was so relieved to find
olden days of Fortran and Cobol, to tame the I was an INFP. I had been seen
There were amusing incidents. Terry O’Neil
huge monster that required an entire room –
and I ran a men’s sexuality group for students by people as out of step and
a dreary challenge.
about the trauma of circumcision, titled ‘Re-
I got married and went travelling overseas discover Your Lost Member.’ We put up our should ‘fix myself up’, because
again, with my husband. We were both polit- advertising posters. All hell broke loose at the they found me difficult.
ically active, and interested in learning. uni! Questions asked by the administration,
the media got wind of it. We were intrigued
While there I spent some time at Tavistock
that outsiders saw us as mad and weird,
[Institute of Human Relations]; I already knew
when we simply addressing repression and
I really wanted to be a counsellor. They’d kept
anxiety.
a student counselling vacancy open for my
return from overseas at another university. After teaching and counselling at most of
Since the late ’60s in Melbourne I’d become the tertiary institutions, Pat moved into
heavily involved in the Institute of Human private practice She has recently taken up
Relations, and ran many encounter groups. drawing and painting. With great effort I
managed to wrest one of her unfinished
Fervent in her commitment, pregnant Pat
life drawings from her reluctant hands to
ran an encounter group the evening before
reproduce over the page.
her son was born. Fighting with her doctor,

Your desks? What has gone wrong? How could we have

halted this slide? Hatred has replaced love
Wooden. But I rarely spend time at them, and compassion. A fear of the Other has
unless I’m doing something creative that pervaded our lives, and I’m distressed about
requires a surface to work on. Most of my the implications for the future. We need to
time was spent in movement; sitting in groups speak from our passion, not our fear. Our
on the floor, meetings, classes and gatherings. society’s had a passion bypass.
Nowadays I’d love large spaces with big flat
surfaces with easels, sewing machine for However, in the psychology field I believe we
textile work, and bathed in light. are beginning to rediscover what we knew in
the ’60s and ’70s, because things aren’t work-
Favourite colours? ing and we’re trying to augment current cog-
nitive therapies with some body awareness
South American: pure, warm, passionate, and other ’70s stuff—although this is un-
strong, brilliant—especially vibrant reds digested, and often the initial sources aren’t
acknowledged, as though it is brand new!
Your dream style?
Your life?
Having space and movement sums it up. Big
open space with big verandah. North-facing I was relieved to discover the MBTI. I was so
light, high ceilings, lots of glass, accessible to relieved to find I was an INFP—I had been
the garden. seen by people as out of step and should fix
myself up because they found me difficult.
Aesthetics are important. Clean lines, nothing
heavy, very little furniture. A sense of autonomy I find it hard to be with people who don’t share
and being able to move. your concerns, values, ethics, and don’t feel. I
spend more time with similar-minded people
What’s the point of everything? who are passionately concerned and advent-
urous.
I ask myself that every day. It’s a miracle to
be alive—the evolution of what happened I grieve for my former energy and health; it is
for me to be present on this planet—how hard as the body collapses. But I’m so glad I
our bodies know what to do, how to grow! was there to contribute to society, psychology,
That is a time-of-life question. I could have raising consciousness, and the feminist move-
answered that easily, but right now I’m quest- ment. I’m worried that people take the gains
ioning what has it been about? What else could of the feminist movement for granted as a
Patricia Strong:
I have done? I always wish I could have done right not a privilege, and don’t realise how
Unfinished Nude
more—the INFP lament of never enough. easily it can be lost.
Overall, I lead a contented life with wonderful
The magic of colours moving As you get older your mind is filled with the
direction the world is going and how did it friends, having time with my son, still sitting
together … works in emergence! come to this? How do we live when all our on some committees, taking art classes, my
maps have disintegrated? I should be trying dream group, visiting galleries, seeing a few
I imagine big rollers, big colours, clients, and reading.
to work on stopping this slippery slide; given
waiting to see what happens … my concern with the state of the world, per-
It takes a long time to see what sonal meaning isn’t a question I’m grappling
with.
drives you.
I have lived through such shifts and I’m dis-
appointed. Life could have been so different;
I was there for the best of it in the ’60s and
’70s when we truly believed that it could be
better; we could care about the planet, people
and love. But our current world has no sense
of shared concern—it is a diabolical culture
of individualism. Money’s got nothing to do
with joy!

management skills that help people work
The business trainer effectively as individuals and in teams. His
consultative, highly interactive programs
who also dances combine key input with practical activities
for ‘hands-on’ learning and relevance.
Tony Norquay: INFP In parallel, since 1978 Tony has run classes
and workshops in dance-movement for
personal growth and creative expression.
These have resulted in public performance
Tony, in his 50s, has been involved with
rituals at the Augustine Centre, Dallas
training and facilitation since 1974, with
Brooks Hall and numerous community
business, government, educational, health
venues. Tony was the organiser of the
and community organisations. He has also
‘Circle the Earth’ peace dance project,
worked extensively in the personal devel-
culminating in a performance by over 100
opment field, and is a past director of the
dancers and musicians in the Melbourne
Augustine Centre for Drama and Growth.
Town Hall.
In addition to his current dance-movement
Tony has also worked as a dance-move-
work Tony also consults to organisations,
ment specialist within the therapeutic
particularly in the human services and
team in psychiatric settings, presented at
health fields, in the areas of skills training
many conferences, and conducted training
and organisational development. Tony’s
for others interested in therapeutic dance
qualifications include an MA (Education),
and movement. He was the inaugural con-
a Grad Dip in Extension, certification in
venor of the International Dance Therapy
workplace training and assessment, MBTI
Institute of Australia, which sponsors cer-
accreditation, and membership of the
tificate and diploma programs in Dance-
Australian Institute of Training and
Movement Therapy. Tony’s particular in-
Development.
terest is in encouraging people to find the
I first met Tony and his wife Terry at the eloquent, creative and nourishing dance
Augustine Centre in 1978 when I joined that lies within, and bring it into full being.
the band of group facilitators who co- Tony Norquay
I was delighted to run into Tony again after
conducted evening growth groups. They
20 years and note that he has retained his
struck me as calming, caring and percept-
fine qualities and enthusiasm for dance
ive professionals. Tony had a modest and
and movement. In a group he continues When younger, I felt a mismatch
fluid energy that people found refreshing
to bring a gentle friendliness with an open
and easy to be with. I thought that he was with lots of stereotypical male
yet unobtrusive energy, and the internal
such a visionary pioneer, incorporating
strength of self-knowledge. activities, but I didn’t know how
therapeutic movement and dance at a time
when few people were in touch with their Like most INFPs, he is curious, caring and to make sense of it. I just felt very
bodies, let alone able to inhabit them. considerate, yet fires up about important
issues, becoming quite stubborn at times. uncomfortable.
Intrigued by Tony’s interest in the intelli-
(something that we INFPs seem to have
gence of the body, I enjoyed watching his
in common!). I’m a lot more comfortable as an
dance work, admiring the way he trusted
and surrendered to his body’s wisdom and INFP male now that I understand
joy. (Despite serious ballroom dancing Describe your work spaces
and judo, back then I lived tightly in my my own nature better.
Spacious, welcoming, slightly messy, but with
head, and fear kept me from undertaking a basic functional organisation—and I know
dance or body workshops.) where things are. Pictures on the walls, view
As the Director of the Augustine Centre out the window. My workspaces need to feel
from 1980 to 1988 Tony played a key role comfortable, and I make adjustments to get
in developing the Centre’s professional them so.
and consulting program. Since then he has I tend to hang onto resources (never know
run his own consultancy, specialising in when you might need them or could use them)
the development of personal and people and thus my office has lots of these in it too.

I have a central working space, which needs and STJ contexts or views. I sometimes feel
to be fairly clear. Regular objects and tools the urge to jump in when I hear what I’d call
are close at hand. It needs to work well and crass, sexist or racist, judgemental views, but
easily for me. Current papers and documents I hold back.
are at hand. Lots of document trays, labelled
with different categories, sit at my left for easy How are you different from and
access. My diary that stays open at the current similar to other INFPs?
week.
I am not aware of meeting a lot of other INFPs,
Also on my desk: telephone, selection of pens though during a shared meal at a recent
(I need more than one for different purposes), AusAPT conference I was aware of how easy
photo of my grand-daughter, and a few other the conversation was: similar views, ways of
bits and pieces waiting to see where they need expressing ourselves, picking up what was not
to go, because there isn’t anywhere obvious. said as well as what was, enjoying ideas and
where they can lead, listening and taking in
Describe yourself as well as talking.
Friendly, reserved, until you get to know me Yet I am also aware of my differences: some-
(or until I get to know you?). times feeling more certain or confident than
other INFPs seem to be. (Maybe this is an ill-
Aging gracefully. Still very active—I love
usion?) For example, I like very physical activity
walking. Interested in new ideas and their
and have played competitive sport very vigor-
application.
ously. I’m not sure if all INFPs are so inclined.
Very loyal, like to be helpful and actively
involved. What’s the one thing you could do
right now that would make the most
Tony’s passions and interests are music,
impact on the quality of your life?
dance, walking, making things, reading,
family, holidays—and ‘supporting causes I Stop worrying.
believe in.’
I generally find it easier to relate to women, Describe a dance experience or
Tony Norquay though I have a few good male friends. A few moment that was meaningful to you
years back went on a long trip with a large
An early dance experience was one of my
group of men interested in questions of life
first experiences of moving with a fullness of
My dance work is a very natural and spirit, and really enjoyed the ‘all male-
expression. A key was overcoming inhibition
ness.’ This surprised and delighted me.
expression of my INFP-ness. and feeling the pure joy and energy and
I like my outlook, however, and have learned exhilaration of it.
It provides a balance to the to appreciate the qualities I bring to situations
I was just responding to music that was being
more structured organisational and life. I know that it is some of those char-
played without worrying about steps or specific
acteristics that make me a good facilitator.
consulting part of my work-life. structure (i.e., not concerned about what I
And, with a degree of struggle (particularly
looked like). It was a free-form expression of
when there is a values clash), I am learning
aliveness and a fabulous release of pent-up
I can imagine keeping my Soul to appreciate the contributions that other
energy from an intense group experience.
personalities make to any situation.
Dance activities going for many But more than that, it seemed to generate
more energy and a state of satisfaction and
years, and see it as being a way What is it like being an INFP male
well-being of its own.
in this world?
to continued vitality. It was also self-expression without being tied
A bit uncomfortable at times. Sometimes not down by words, and seemed more complete
quite fitting in to the expected norm. Boozing somehow. I have often said that I might have
down the pub never appealed, for example. trouble finding words to express what I feel
Maybe there are others who feel the same, and think, but I could dance it out. And I love
but an introvert doesn’t go out asking. creating the opportunity for others to discover
Sometimes my sensitivity to people and situa- this also, which is the focus of the Soul Dance
tions seems out of step with groups of men classes that I run.

And a business training intervention? expectations and drew attention to me. They
felt mortifying and I still remember some of
I worked recently with a team of auditors who them quite vividly. That kind of thing is a fear
wanted to improve their customer relationship that stays with me.
skills. I spent some time finding out about their
business, the situations they have to deal with, I was pretty quiet at school, interested in read-
and what they are trying to accomplish. Then ing and music (not mainstream for boys) but
I thought through how to explain the subtleties also very keen on and good at sporting activ-
of inter-personal relating in more concrete ities. I was pretty much content to go with the
terms. flow and wasn’t particularly rebellious, though
I had my run-ins with teachers and head-
The pressure I felt then (and often do) was master. But there were no major dramas.
how to get across points that might challenge
people’s behaviour, whilst maintaining their I loved reading and browsing old books. I’d
goodwill and co-operation. I want people to often go with my aunt to a fete and spend
think through their actions and the conse- hours in the old books section, and come
quences, but not have them switch off or away with an armful for my two shillings!
harden into resistance. I often do a lot of
mulling on the best structure and media for Your own family?
conducting a program.
Terry reckons I too easily get grumpy and
Sometimes the most productive time for this pedantic about things. Also that I can ‘arc
is in the semi-wakeful state before arising in up’ when things go wrong, turning it into a
the morning. Lots of possibilities swim around catastrophe, rather than just seeing it as a
in that liminal space and gradually take shape. problem to deal with. (I don’t let everyone
see that side of me, of course, only those who
On this occasion I opted for practical examples
are close and have become trusted over time).
as the vehicle, with videos to highlight aspects
of communication and, finally, practice scen- Yet she also reckons I can be very caring and
arios using senior staff as ‘clients.’ Even then considerate. And if there’s a true crisis, then I
I was constantly monitoring the process and do come through and can be relied on for care
very alert for any signs of ‘losing’ them. and support. I can often deal with big issues
well, but get in a twist over silly little things. Tony Norquay
Sometimes I will even change the very begin-
ning of what I have planned, based on what I That comment seems to be universally
pick up when I meet people in the room. This true for INFPs!
draws on my dance and dance-therapy train- I’ll sit at my desk with pen and
I reckon my kids are great. I love catching up
ing of ‘attunement’ to people’s movement and pad in hand (I like handwriting),
with them (they have left home now). They
energy. And whilst this often works well, there
have taught me heaps. The painful struggles but more and more I compose
are occasions when I am overly sensitive to
we have had with them have also been fab-
the ‘vibes,’ and am swayed from what was a
ulous learning opportunities. I can reflect on ideas onto computer (saves time).
sound plan and then later regret it.
how we set each other off, and what that
Large sheets of paper to lay out
illuminates about me—painful though it can
What were you like as a child?
sometimes be, and resistant though I some- the various aspects of a project.
Very active (my mum used to put herself in times am.
the playpen to sew, etc, and leave the house I like that they can be pretty frank when asked If I get stuck I’ll go for a walk and
to me). I am told I was alert and quick. for their comments. Of course, we still get let things percolate. I also sleep
I was comfortable with my own company. caught in those old patterns where we trigger
I have two younger brothers, and sometimes each other off and lose the plot. Me and my on ideas and wake next morning
resented being the oldest and expected to be son mostly! My children are a vital part of my
with clarity. Discussing with a
‘responsible’. family. The immediate family is my mainstay.
colleague often helps to clarify
Childhood seems to have been mostly a happy From where do you get and refuel
time, though there were some very painful your energy?
and generate ideas, too.
experiences of intense embarrassment, when
I’d done something that was out of kilter with In nature.

Your future?
The martial arts and
I don’t plan in detail for the future much—
although as I am getting older, I think more massage teacher
about what retirement might be like and how
I’d like it to be when I get to it. I’d like it to
be comfortable, yet still stimulating. I don’t Jeremy Fitzpatrick: INFP
need lots of money, but do want enough to
not have to worry.
I don’t need lots of interaction, but I do want Jeremy, 34, is fit, long and lean, with wild
to have some groups or activities to belong to red hair, piercing blue eyes, and mutton-
and an opportunity to contribute in some way chops. While completing a Bachelor of
to making a difference in whatever community Teaching (Primary and Secondary), he
I am part of. Family will be a big part of my works as a martial arts teacher, lectures
future, as well a few loved friends. predominantly at the Australian College
of Natural Medicine, performs specialist
What makes you most fulfilled? lymphoedema massage, and enjoys watch-
ing films with his pet python, or having
Good connections with people; making things; deep discussions with his girlfriend.
great music; walking in a forest or on a beach; I’m an individual who is casual, fun-loving,
a yummy meal; a satisfying book … laid back, respectful and wise. I will always
I love going to sleep in a warm bed: I give have many different jobs and my finger in
thanks for that almost every night. Food. many pies.
I went to a sweet little Catholic school. I have
Where is the fun? memories of finger-painting, laughter and drifts
In creative dance—moving with energy and of chalk dust in the building. I was a scruffy
flow and passion. little bugger with snails in his pockets and
fiery red hair, and temper in his green eyes.
Playing with my granddaughter. Going on
adventures. My Prep teacher described me as the most
Tony Norquay, aged 15 absorbed child she had ever taught. I had
incredible curiosity, gulping information about
What are you most pleased and
anything and everything. I loved school, and
proud of having accomplished?
I spent lots of time with my bike, sat staring intently at the teacher. I fondly
Raising a couple of great kids. Sustaining a remember her reading us Charlotte’s Web,
pulling it apart and fixing it. a daily highlight that reflected her warmth
marriage through some testing times.
When we lived in the country and tenderness.
Completing my Masters degree.
I often got up early and rode Father O’Callaghan developed a soft spot for
Tony is motivated by optimism and fear: me, too. His deep gentle voice and religious
to the next town, on my own, ‘optimism that people can treat each other ceremonies that marked our rites of passage
decently given the right circumstances’, and seemed the main difference between our
often a trip of many miles. ‘fear of not coming up with the goods.’ school and the daunting populous state school
next door. They lacked our sacredness and
I also spent lots of time playing Your mission? mystique.
outdoors, barefoot for preference. To play a part in people living and working I had an interesting upbringing. My mum was
well and effectively, alone or together. very loving. I had a bikie for a babysitter!
To help maintain a human face and ‘sensibility’ Dad was an industrial advocate for Police and
in work and other environments. Emergency Services, and also studied theology.
Mum was a counsellor, social worker. She’s
What do you value most in life? an artist now. I was three when they separated.
Health and family relationships. At college the teachers told my parents that,
‘while Jeremy is a happy kid that is liked by
Time and space to myself. all, he lacks the necessary competitive drive.’

My views on conservation were considered out As I noted in ‘Workspaces part 5: INFJs’
of sync with that of the college, and perhaps (APTR, March 2005), sole NFs growing up
they might consider sending me to a different in SJ, SP, and NT homes feel different,
school. My parents’ belief in the school and my unaware that similar humans exist who
ability were strong enough to keep me there. share their poetical, soulful way of being.
As Brian, an INFJ, said, ‘I feel like Vincent
By final year we were taught that we could
[van Gogh], who described himself as a
have anything. We were supposed to be as-
stranger in a strange land.’ They may not
piring emperors being preened for CEO-dom
find similar people until university, work-
in a lifestyle package that suited the times:
ing in a beloved career or hobby, or in
‘greed is good.’ I felt keenly aware that my
middle to late adulthood.
family didn’t have the status afforded by
money, and how this supposedly made us ‘I have always felt that my life started at
‘poorer’ in most senses of the word. uni’, says Jeremy. ‘I was, could do and think
as I wanted’:
I am sensitive and frustrated with the world
in general. Mindless, rampant capitalisation Finally, a place where there were other people
is a scary thing. Greed, the nearsightedness who didn’t like football, and where environ-
of our leaders, and the lack of integrity, com- mentalism was the norm! Uni allowed me to
passion, and honesty: it’s depressing. The ’70s express my truer self in an accepting envir-
saw the rise of the environmental movement onment.
and conservation became a major interest
I’ve got tattoos; symbolic, ritualistic, spiritual
for me. As a child I developed a sense that
tattoos. All rites of passage that represent my
I was not the centre of the universe, that we
heritage and stages of my life and who I am.
have a short time on the planet and should
I designed them all myself.
tread gently.
After study, Jeremy travelled overseas to
My sensitivity toward nature wasn’t endorsed
Ireland (his heritage). USA, and Canada.
by my secondary school, an ‘old school tie’
He worked as a farmhand—‘that robust
institution that emphasised developing the
lifestyle, running over the hills, hardy life-
total person: academic, sporting, artistic and
style. A hard trip; being alone, finding
spiritual. All that I recall is busily surviving the
your way, picking up the vibe, lonely but Jeremy Fitzpatrick
competitive socialisation to focus on ideals
educational.’
I was no longer the fastest sprinter, but was
On his return he worked as a stage door
seated in alphabetical order by robust ‘sirs’
with burly moustaches who wished to mould
keeper for the Victorian Arts Centre, I’m not a team person, I’ve never
enjoying the theatre people, front and
us. A pecking order developed, based on played team sports. I prefer that
back. He became a tad panicky about
sporting prowess, hair colour, and material
what to do with himself longer term. it’s my work and I can do my own
status. Lord of the Flies manifesting itself in
the heart of sedate Kew. Since he loves how the human body works, thing. But I do appreciate input.
Jeremy studied fitness and massage ther-
By final year the thought of teaching had
apy. He consulted to BP executives as a
crossed Jeremy’s mind: he was interested I like frank people, and I need
corporate massage therapist, and was
in the concept of holistic education. He
completed a Bachelor of Arts in English
offered a teaching role at the Australian positive, constructive feedback.
College of Natural Medicine. This enabled
literature and sociology at La Trobe. I’m suspicious if people are over-
Jeremy to seriously pursue his passion for
My life started: leaving home, autonomous, karate. A black belt, he teaches karate to complementary: ‘Why are they
dressing how I liked. Being with like-minded children a couple of nights a week.
students, having fun, exploring, opening up doing that?’
I love reading amazing literature. I’m critical
my world. I relished my freedom; there were
of many writers, but marvel at Elliott Perlman,
worlds to conquer, and my personality to
Martin Amis and Salman Rushdie. I regularly
uncover.
read a new book plus a classic. Shakespeare,
Jeremy grew dreadlocks, wore outrage- he writes beautifully. I like analysing lines and
ous clothes, and returned the glares of meanings. I also love clever films with subtle
the ‘old boys’ who were completing humour. I’m fascinated by a beautiful sentence,
economics and accounting degrees. it is so powerful.

Your desk? I think the difference is that I also see these

things as a bit of a wank (aside from the tat-
A big spread-end trestle table, clutter every- toos—they have a deeper symbolic meaning
where. I like being immersed, then when I’m particular to me). I can’t take it all too serious-
finished it’s all cleared away to the minimum. ly because I know it is simply that, stomping
I keep a lot of symbolic stuff around, motivat- about like a peacock, when in actual fact we
ional quotes and objects. are not even a blip on the horizon, a half-wink
in time. So, for all our rumbling, it’s been done
Your ideal day? for eons before and eons to come.
Up early and get into it. Having a fun class I think I think more deeply about some of the
with students. Karate training. motives behind this male-like behaviour and
what drives us to do it. I think I can appreciate
I spend time day-dreaming, reading, enjoying behaviour for what it is worth—more so than
subtle poetic moments. A full day. the ‘blokes’ I associate with. I think I’m more
adaptable in this way, too: while I’m not the
Favourite colours? most blokey guy, I feel I’m a lot more aware
Blue, green, black. than those guys, and that this allows me to
enjoy and have opinions on other aspects of
Your style: love? life which they might ignore or be unaware
of: poetry, visual art, environmentalism, media
Art deco, organic architecture (inspiration analysis, literature.
taken from forms in nature). I think I am more capable of critical thought
I like creative artistic women with style, than those guys. At the other end of the spec-
intellectual, have a life, witty, stimulating. trum, I might not be as sensitive as some male
artists or as aware as some male poets, but I
I admire highly qualified people, who are consider myself a lot more physical—which
accomplished, work hard to grow. makes more sense for me. I guess I think of
I like strong women. myself as a sensitive guy with a Neanderthal
front. Or a scruffy Ginger Meggs with snails
Jeremy Fitzpatrick Why I teach: what are we creating re the in my pockets, jumping over fences!
with Nancy future!
My future dreams are to qualify as a multi-
What’s it like being an INFP? How leveled teacher (freedom, flexibility and sec-
By teaching, I can create my are you similar to and different from urity), then head off to live in different places,
other men? with different adventures. I’d like to set up a
universe. Teaching enables me little living utopia base; a mud brick sanctuary,
to instil good character traits It’s a difficult question as it assumes a ‘typical’ possibly down in Hobart, then head off to work
male. I'll relate it to the males that I regularly in different places: a year in the top end with
and humanistic environmental meet with. I don’t watch much popular tele- Aboriginal kids, 6 months in Japan, 2 years in
awareness, and be a mentor to vision, so I'm not sure how the typical male is a fishing village in the Philippines … to fill
really portrayed these days. the years with different experiences. While
facilitate change in the world. I’m there, I hope to have a positive impact
I think I’m similar, in that I can understand
on the people and place, contribute socially.
and enjoy the whole blokey thing—footy, cars,
I want to live a full life and put blondes—and can talk to other blokes on this Socially, I hope that society swings back from
in as much as I can, particularly level. I enjoy my masculinity and the feelings the neo-conservatism so prevalent today;
of vitality I get from doing stereotypically ‘male’ that the general population wakes up to
by having input on culture and things: weights, going for a surf, fighting and [John] Howard’s despicable version of life:
environment in education. I want generally stomping about. narrow, conservative, nasty, cold, competitive.
The damage he has done is immense; to
to feel that I have contributed I participate with other guys who are into this develop and actively sustain an environment
kind of thing and to a certain extent enjoy their of fear, of one upmanship, where lying,
positively to children’s lives. company. It can be cathartic to spend time deceit and lack of responsibility are the
indulging in these activities. I like driving my norm. His new IR reforms further divide the
panel van with bogan mags, I like my tatts. community.

We live in an environment of constant com- In a perfect world I’d love to have kids, but I
petition where there are very few ‘winners’ feel we live in a far from perfect world. I’m
and many losers. How depressing and absurd concerned about the effects of global warming,
is it when ‘success’ is defined by a 4WD and terrorism, the damage done to the place, en-
a suburban home; where integrity, honesty, vironmentally and socially, and so considering
honour and other virtues are replaced by the bringing someone I love into that situation is
need for a combined washer-dryer? very difficult. Things are ‘fine’ now—but 10
years down the track?
Contemporary Australian society’s mindless
herd mentality can be represented by the Despite it being the primary instinctive drive,
[Nine News] jingle ‘I know everything I need I really question if it’s a selfish thing to do—
to know ’cause Brian told me so.’ I’d like to ‘I want one too’—or if it’s selfish not having
see society return to how I remember it in the them---‘I want my freedom.’ I think when we
70s, or how New Zealand presents on the move to Hobart, my thinking might change:
world stage now. Growing up in the land of it’s more naturally beautiful, community and
the long weekend, the thing I feared most was environmentally minded down there, so the
a blue-ring octopus. How much do Australian environment may be more appropriate.
kids have to fear now? I’d love society to be-
I can’t see the point in living to 110. I figure
come more compassionate, accepting and
you have your time now, do all the things you
open-minded, environmentally sustainable
can fit. Who’s got time for Big Brother 05?
and community minded.
When it’s time to go, you can look back and
Howard’s smashing of the unions, IR reforms be thankful for it.
and his ‘lockdown’ closed-off meeting with
My likes include The Office, SBS, Leunig,
business leaders exemplifies the other extreme
training and keeping fit, making plans, day-
of the spectrum. As Wendy Harmer once said,
dreaming, seeing projects through, good
‘You can imagine he was one of those kids
literature, physical and emotional affection,
who saved his Easter eggs till November.’
my range and depth of friends, philosophy,
I think my talents include: the subtleties that make up the rich tapestry
of life, outdoors on a sunny day, true guitar
• being able to identify that there are music—AC/DC, circa Bon Scott, indigenous
agendas which taint the way the media culture and spirituality, symbolism, totems,
Jeremy Fitzpatrick
and our leaders present things. rites of passage, keeping a journal, Googling,
• the stamina to achieve my goals—once I feeling a sense of integrity in what you do
set my sights on something I get it. and how you act, the beauty and power of My other passion is Sabby.
the natural world, and learning new things. She’s a Brisbane carpet python,
• a developed sense of interpersonal relation-
ships and to read social situations well. I My dislikes include herd mentality, capitalist 7 foot long. I’ve had her since
feel I can pick up on nuances in relation- western superficial ‘mall’ culture, running be- 20 cm. They live for 25 years.
ships, read between the lines well. hind deadlines, and feeling too pressured by
trying to do too many things. I love her grace, the symmetry
• diplomacy and keeping things running
of head, her other-worldly look,
smoothly; a friendly disposition which The meaning of life?
enables me to connect with people. her primordial symbol goddess
I’m concerned that so many people think The
We’re only stopping by for a short spin, so earth energy—a beautiful
try to absorb as many different experiences creature.
Herald Sun is gospel, even if facts are scream-
as you can, look for influences which broaden
ing the opposite. Also that I’m so out of touch
your life, not narrow it. I’m a little speck on
with Australian society. Living in the inner city,
the planet. I don’t leave a mark, but I want
listening to community radio, working at the
to use my time with respect, to have wild ad-
college, and reading a range of papers and
ventures, and not watch TV.
opinions from the Internet, I thought there
was no possible way Howard would win in Follow your own bent and think critically about
2004. To have him increase his margin was all things. Have as many laughs as you can,
such a body blow; it showed how Australia develop your interests, keep an inquiring mind;
thinks. I’m no longer patriotic. I feel ashamed develop the connectedness we share with our
and embarrassed to call myself Australian. world.

INFPs may be gentle, tolerant and forgiving,

Careers counselling but they are not angelic pieces of Dresden Vocational issues
china: they are also known to go feral and
themes for INFPs have temper tantrums. ‘I’m diplomatic, and INFPs’ vocational issues can be
would prefer to mediate’, says Jeremy, ‘I’ll summarised as:
As Charles Martin points out, INFPs tend go with the flow, but if pushed to the limit,
to be found in careers where ‘creativity, I’ll have a go!’ Karl would defend victims • Life as a never-ending search for
communication, and helping are primary’: and attack bullies. Tony’s and Samaan’s personal expression, meaning,
anger is appropriately ‘in your face’, and authenticity and truth
Their personal approach to life, their sen- Patricia’s angry outbursts are legendary at
sitivity to people … often attracts them to • Never remaining long enough
meetings and gatherings whenever prin-
careers in which they foster growth and ciples are violated or injustice is done. with an activity to receive the
development in others. [They are] often fruits of their efforts in terms of
drawn to higher education, languages and As INFPs follow their own unique paths, recognition, attribution, reward
the arts.
never the calf-path, it is not helpful to try and outcomes
formulaic strategies. Helpful interventions
include accessing dormant or emerging • Avoiding competition, auditions,
INFPs are highly represented in counsell-
ing, as both practitioners and clients. This wisdom and self-knowing, and encouraging critical judgement and evaluation
makes sense when we remind ourselves self-awareness from creative exploration • Feeling the existential pain of
that they, more than any other type, are of their real selves. Rather than exploring the outsider
concerned with a ‘stormy search for Self.’ what they want, it is more fruitful to exam-
ine who they are. What the INFP does must • Difficulty in self-assertion and
In my careers counselling practice I note resonate with who they are … becoming. maintaining boundaries
that many INFPs need to work with an
undeveloped or poorly-developed aux- When an INFP is centred or is inhabiting • Feeling exhaustion, paranoiac
iliary function; to deal with their ‘lost their own body, they become determined resentment or hurt; becoming ill
child’ or ‘orphan’ archetype (a sense of magicians or white witches who somehow from lack of self-care
‘playing’ at being an adult), an inability to attract what they need, following a circuit-
ous route that defies logic. The least help- • Having difficulty adapting to the
locate their real self beneath their false
self, or the immobility of emotional over- ful techniques include anything systematic, physical, mental and emotional
whelm. The presenting problems I see in- conventional or requiring strict deadlines, requirements of organisational
clude severe hurt, shameful outbursts of as these will feel like entrapment or pun- life, particularly in large, bureau-
anger in response to intolerable stress, ishment. cratic or highly-structured firms
leaking tears, outrage over violated ethics NPs’ careers make sense only in retro- • Feeling, or perceived to be be-
and values, and feelings of being invisible spect. It’s important to remember that, as having, in ways that are too per-
to their organisation, being rejected or well as living life as a dilettante; great self- sonal, idiosyncratic, sensitive,
treated impersonally. sacrifice as parent, teacher or partner; or idealistic, naïve or naughty (e.g.
INFPs’ work contributions may remain monastic withdrawal to spiritual practices won’t arrive on time, complete
unperceived and unacknowledged—par- or places like Byron Bay, NPs are equally paperwork, provide regular pro-
ticularly because the INFP has usually ‘left capable of inspirational invention, visionary gress reports, or do what they
the building’ before their organisation is leadership, triggering social change, and are told the way they’re told).
ready to take their ideas on board, or is creating enduring art, literature, perform-
• Not knowing what they want
capable of recognising their contribution. ance, theory, healing and transformation—
even in one lifetime. More significantly, the professionally, nor setting goals
Their integrity, high ideals, humility and
modesty usually means that INFPs can’t, INFP capacity to feel, to love and be loved, or targets, let alone demanding
won’t, or don’t manage impressions, self- may well be the secret glue that prevents attention from the organisation
promote, self-market, seek acknowledge- our extinction as a human race. • Fear that if they put their hands
ment, or stay in anticipation of eventual up for salary increases, promot-
tangible rewards. They are invariably bright References ions or other goodies they may
but rarely bold. As Montgomery says, the be met with indifference, rejection,
Charles Martin 1995, Looking at type and careers, CAPT.
INFPs’ ‘innate humility’ and ‘deep-rooted humiliation or dismissal
reserve’ can ‘keep them from accomplish- Mary McGuiness 2004, You’ve got personality, MaryMac.
Stephen Montgomery 1993, The Pygmalion project, vol. 3 • Over-commitment may preclude
ing all that they are capable of in life.’ On
The Idealist, Prometheus Nemesis. their vital need for privacy, that
the other hand, they can achieve spectac-
ular success due to their incredible, unique John L Giannini 2004, Compass of the soul, CAPT. is met in their invariably alone
talent and refusal to be compromised. Judith A Provost 1990, Work, play, and type, CPP. leisure activities

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I would hate any work that left me too used

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It’s time to get a real job. When whatever I Describe yourself

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Take up old hobbies (archery, photography)

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