These Two New Toys Are

Orgasm Game Changers

By Charyn Pfeuffer
Published on 9/2/2016 at 10:51 AM

JASON HOFFMAN/THRILLIST

When it comes to reaching climax, the sexes just aren’t hard-wired the
same way. In fact, many women -- about one out of three -- have trouble
reaching orgasm, period, when having sex with a partner.
There are multiple factors at play here, not the least of which being it takes
the average man a mere three to five minutes to orgasm, while most
women need at least 20. So just as she's getting warmed up, he blows his
load and leaves her in a pleasure lurch.

This disparity has created a frustrating average: women orgasm 62.9% of

the time from intercourse with familiar partners, while men orgasm 85.1%
of the time. But what if we could close that gap? What if women could
master their below-the-belt domain and learn how to orgasm whenever
they wanted to… and in as little as 60 seconds or less?
Just imagine what on-demand pleasure you'd have and what your partner
could learn. And turns out, getting off in a minute or less is totally doable.

Now, no one here is advocating for women to put a stopwatch on their

snatch. Not in the least. I'm 100% for women taking all the time they want
and need to achieve pleasure -- whether orgasm is the endgame or not. Sex
should never be a race, and the Big O doesn't have to be the finish line. But
knowing your own body well enough to know how to get yourself off when
you want to every single time? Well, we all deserve that. So here's how it's
done.
First, become O-literate
Yes, it is definitely possible for most women to be able to get off in less
than 60 seconds -- but you have to understand how this stuff works,
experts say.

Dr. Carol Queen, Good Vibrations' staff sexologist, says orgasming in

under a minute is contingent on three key factors: how easily orgasmic
you are to begin with, how turned on you are when stimulation starts, and
whether the stimulation is optimized to provoke orgasm in the first place.

"Orgasm is a reflex," she says, "but it's the culmination of a physical

process that includes gradually building arousal. For some people, that
will mean less gradual than for others, and someone who's already very
turned on either because they've been making out, doing something else
that arouses them a lot (exhibitionism for exhibitionists, for example), or
are WAY hot for their partner will start out much closer to orgasm than
most people are when they begin having sex."

Get the right tools for the job

As much as I like relaxed, partnered romps that yield waves of pleasure,
logistics don't always align. Thankfully there's no need to swipe through a
bunch of strangers when you've got a set of hands and an insane arsenal of
new toys to support you.

"It's not unheard of for a woman to be able to climax that fast with a
vibrator," Queen says. "A vibe is an efficient form of sexual stimulation for
many, perhaps most, women, though even so, one minute will not be the
norm."

Maybe a one-minute orgasm hasn't historically been the norm. But that
may be about to change, as two new products -- the Womanizer and the
hi -- were created on that exact premise. Sounds extreme, I know; and I
was skeptical too… at first. Then I gave these things a whirl and changed
my tune -- and my time. But if you want to learn how to get off quick and
don't know where to start, either of these toys will transport you from start
to finish line at Mach speed.

WOMANIZER/OREN AKS/THRILLIST

The Womanizer is no joke

If you stumbled upon a Womanizer in a store, you would never know what
powers it has. Its design isn't the most appealing, with the toy bearing a
strange cone shape not unlike a portable female urinal. But HOLY CRAP:
The Womanizer rocked my world. Instead of providing super-strong,
direct clitoral stimulation like the Magic Wand (my go-to for two decades),
the Womanizer uses PleasureAir technology to tease the almighty clit via
gentle vibration and suction. There is absolutely nothing on the market
remotely like this orgasm-inducing beauty.
"I think it's an incredibly unique sensation that I far prefer to traditional
vibrators," says Callie Little, resident sexpert at Nooky Box. "I've compared
it as a gentle kiss versus the Magic Wand's jackhammer-level power. It can
probably get me to orgasm in about two minutes or so. I think if I was
seriously turned on, I could maybe swing a minute. Maybe. But, you know,
I enjoy taking my time. If I'm needing to bang one out fast and I've got five
minutes max? I definitely reach for the Womanizer."
 THE HI

The hi will do it to you without touching your skin

And then there's the hi® massage technology, a massager that hit the
market a hot second ago. Like the Womanizer, I was skeptical at first
glance -- how was this thing going to give me an orgasm by massaging the
outside of my pelvis?
The device was invented by Dr. Steve McGough with the intent to relieve
his wife's post-emergency C-section pain. Designed to mimic a vigorous
massage technique on the lower abdomen, it just so happens to also
induce orgasm in record time.

When applied above the pubic bone, it releases a G-spot-like orgasm

without ever touching skin. The record is 12 orgasms in 20 minutes (!!!!!),
McGough tells me. It took me some time to find my sweet spot -- my
pleasure is very clit-stim-focused; and the idea of being fully clothed while
coming threw me off. Still, the hi delivered a quickie on demand.
Get acquainted with your body and learn your
technique
Starting out with high-quality toys like the Womanizer or the hi is the
perfect way to practice and eventually figure out exactly what needs to
happen to push you over the edge. Memorize the sensations the toys are
giving you. Take note of the placement of the stimulators, everything.
After you get yourself off a few times, mix things up. Use the toys at
different times of day, during different moods, and even in rapid
succession to see if you can produce multiple orgasms.

Once you've determined what goes where, for how long, and with how
much pressure (and have figured out how to go from zero to 100 in 60
seconds flat), it's time to do it manually. Because sure, your partner may
dig the toys. But you knowing how to make this happen with your (or a
partner's) hands? Let's just say it's nice to be able to MacGyver an orgasm
in any setting and with any tools or lack thereof.

Practice, practice, practice

To get things off to a strong start, you need two things: a high-quality lube,
and a deep understanding of what gets you in the mood fast. This can be a
favorite porno, a steamy sex scene from a novel, straight-up fantasizing...
dealer's choice. With your arsenal ready, work at recreating the sensations
you got from your toys with your bare hands.

The clitoris is undoubtedly going to steal the spotlight for this exercise, as
the sensory epicenter is your main line to orgasm -- so you'd be wise to get
good and acquainted with it. The nub sticking out at the top of your vulva
is the head of your clit; while the G-spot (about an inch and a half inside
your vagina, toward your belly button) is the back. Focus on both and
you're well on your way.

"Clitoral stimulation… is probably more likely to work than vaginal

insertion," Queen says, "solely because so many women are more easily
orgasmic clitorally than vaginally. But someone who is this turned on and
easily orgasmic may well be more vaginally orgasmic than the average gal.
So there's that."

With that in mind, focus on G-spot stimulation while rubbing the clit.
Check out different levels of pressure, different speeds, and rubbing
against something (pillow, corner of your bed) while stimulating your G-
spot. Experiment with being on your back, your belly, your side. It might
take a few tries, it might take weeks, but I promise it will be the most fun
kind of practice you've ever done. And once you perfect your technique,
you can take it right to your partner. Now, the two of you can work
together to ensure you never have to fake or otherwise miss out on
another orgasm, ever again.