How to Be A Multi-Orgasmic Woman

Ready to take your sex life to the next level? Two words: multiple orgasms. The fact is that womens bodies were designed to be multi-orgasmic. Thats right, satisfaction again and again and again can be yours. Heres how to get into the right mindset, train your body and enlist your current or future partner to maximize this woman-only perk As the saying goes, sex is like pizza. When its good, its really good. When its bad, well, its still pretty good. Multiple orgasms can make sex that delicious, deep-dish, never-gonna-forget-it experience. (Disclaimer: No woman should feel pressured to have multiple orgasms, so dont stress out about it.) As Dorian Solot, sex educator and co-author of I Love Female Orgasm (Marlowe & Company, 2007), puts it: Some women's bodies have multiple O's more easily than others, so while some have surfed waves of orgasms from the very first time, others need some extra advice to learn how. Women's sexual responses vary so dramatically what comes easily to one woman may be quite a struggle for another. Know Thyself (and Thy Orgasm Ability) While some women can achieve multiple orgasms without a road map, the majority of women need directions to the path of recurring bliss. Masturbation is the starting point on your journey, according to Solot. Learning through masturbating can be so empowering, she says. Once you've done it on your own, you become confident that your body can do this, and then you bring that confidence the next time you want to try it with a partner. Masturbation offers three benefits. First, you learn about what you need to reach orgasm. Second, you get your body into the groove of having orgasms regularly. And third, you discover your orgasm threshold the wonderful moment when you are on the brink of orgasm but havent gone over the edge. Usually we dont notice this moment because we are so excited about whats going to happen next. But pay attention its the key to experiencing multiple orgasms. To recognize your orgasm threshold during masturbation, pay attention to your arousal level from start to finish. Rate it on a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being totally unaroused and 10 as your orgasm. Dont worry if you go over the edge a couple of times; it will give you a good sense of your level 10. Next time, as you get up to a level 7 or 8, try to bring your arousal back down to a 4 or 5 by breathing deeply or by changing the stimulation. Dont let your arousal wane too much; stay in an aroused state for several minutes, going back and forth between feeling highly aroused and less aroused.

When youve done this a couple of times, you will have discovered those waves of preorgasmic bliss that most women experience but dont necessarily notice during partner sex. Youll also have tuned in to the subtle differences in your arousal level, which youll need later. Practice, Practice, Practice Now its time to actually experience multiple orgasms. You can do this with a partner, but youll increase your confidence level if you do it on your own first. It can be helpful to incorporate a vibrator or, if you want, a dildo. Vibrators tend to make orgasms easier for most women to achieve. If you dont normally use one, practice until youre comfortable. Then masturbate, drawing out your arousal as you have before. After you orgasm, give yourself a few seconds, but dont let your arousal drop off completely. Try some indirect stimulation of the genitals, like rubbing the general area instead of directly touching the clitoris. The number one thing I hear women complain about is that after one orgasm, their clitoris gets too sensitive for any more stimulation, Solot says. There's a simple solution to that one: Many women are surprised to find that if they give their clitoris a short break after the first orgasm say, ten or twenty seconds or a minute and then start the stimulation again, the period of hypersensitivity passes quickly. Then they can keep going and have another orgasm. Depending on the type of stimulation you like, a vibrator or a dildo can come in handy here. Experiment with what feels good. Whatever you do, dont let your arousal fall off completely, because you will enter the resolution phase of the sexual response cycle, which is what prevents men from having multiple orgasms. Coming Together? Why are women multi-orgasmic while men are one-shot wonders? Blame it on Mother Nature. The female sexual response cycle is incredibly fluid. A woman can go from arousal to orgasm and back again with many stops in between. A man generally goes from low arousal to high arousal to orgasm and then has a refractory period in which he physically cant orgasm again for hours or, sometimes, days. However, most men are more than happy to accompany you on your multi-orgasmic journey. To a guy, multiple orgasms are like all-you-can eat blueberry pie or like scratching off a winning lottery ticket, and then doing it again, and again... why would you ever stop? says Solots co-author and partner, Marshall Miller. Since most guys can't do it themselves, at least they can take vicarious pleasure in watching.

Thats good news, because your partner plays a big part in the recurring pleasure process. A womans best chance for multiple orgasms comes when her partner puts himself or at least his orgasm second. His job is to provide what we normally think of as foreplay, but with an orgasm at the end. Good manual or oral stimulation before intercourse is usually the route by which women achieve multiple orgasms. In fact, a pre-intercourse orgasm increases the chances that youll get there during intercourse, since the pressure is off for both of you. Just remember and remind him, if necessary that most women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm during intercourse, whether for the first, second or ninth time. Most important: If you think you can, you can. Hold onto the mindset youve learned when masturbating. Finally, remember that multiple orgasms are the cherry on top of the sundae. If you have them, great. But theyre certainly not required to make sex spectacular.