I Can Make Almost Any

Woman Squirt. Here's

Exactly How I Do It.
Make her next orgasm wet and wild.
By Grant Stoddard • Apr 1, 2019

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The first time I saw squirting, I didn't really

know what I was looking at. The squirter was
named Cytherea, an adult actress who had
become synonymous with an ability to
ejaculate large volumes of fluid—that was
supposedly not pee—during sex acts. So rare
was this talent that a 2004 interview with
Adult Video News described her as having a
"one-of-a-kind sexual gift." But then, a funny
thing happened. Within months, scores of
other adult performers were suddenly able to
squirt prodigiously, forcefully, and seemingly
on cue. And before too long, I had a date with
a woman who requested that we put a towel
or two down on my bed before things got
underway.

“Iʼm a squirter,” she said, matter-of-factly.

Her self-description seemed to back up the

idea that there were a small minority of
women who ejaculated and the overwhelming
majority who didn't. But then a few
instructional videos started floating around
online. They all seemed to suggest that it was
something you could learn how to do, and
soon, women I dated expressed curiosity in
experiencing it first hand. This set me on a
path to figuring out how to help open the
flood gates—but first, I had to see what
science had to say about this phenomenon.

First off, plenty of peer-reviewed articles

attested to female ejaculation—sometimes
called “squirting” or “gushing”—being a thing.
One 2010 paper published in the Journal of
Sex Research encapsulated the prevailing
consensus like this: “Women can ejaculate,
and that the female prostatic fluid discharged
through the urethra is a component of female
sexual fluids that contribute to erotic
pleasure.” Subsequent studies looked into
what this fluid is comprised of, with one
concluding that there are two types of female
ejaculation. “The real female ejaculation is the
release of a very scanty, thick, and whitish
fluid from the female prostate, while the
squirting is the expulsion of a diluted fluid
from the urinary bladder,” concluded the
authors of one paper in 2011.

Making your body perform a neat new trick is

reason enough to give it a go in the first place,
but there were now articles being shared
around suggesting that squirting orgasms
were somehow better, more powerful, more
emphatic, even more emotional. Given the
extra prep and clean up they required, I
imagined that they'd better be. I too was
excited at the thought of learning how to
make my partners' orgasms wet and wild,
should they want them to be. I'd always put
import on giving my partners orgasms. Being
able to make them squirt, I imagined, would
be almost as rewarding for me as it would be
for them.

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Over the next several years, more of my non-

squirting partners mentioned that they'd like
to try it. A few left a giant puddle on the bed
during intercourse but not because they were
trying to. When I tried to make it rain
intentionally with my fingers, the only results
were frustration and muscle cramps.

That's why I had low expectations when my

girlfriend and I were invited to attend a
seminar where sex coach Kenneth Play would
give a 30-minute presentation on female
ejaculation, demonstrate how to make it
happen with his assistant, and then coach
attendees as they went about doing it
themselves.

Long story short, my girlfriend intentionally

ejaculated for the first, second, and third time
that evening, and so did virtually every woman
in the room. Here are the steps outlined by
Play—I followed them to the letter that night,
and with every partner Iʼve helped to squirt
since.

How to Make a Woman Squirt

First, you both need to set your intention have

a sincere and authentic desire to explore this
phenomenon. At the same time, however, you
need to establish that itʼs for pleasure. “If
thereʼs too much ego or pressure involved, itʼs
less likely to happen,” says Play, who now
travels the world to share his carnal
knowledge. A practical part of setting the
intention is preparing the space for what
might happen. If youʼre worried about making
a mess, youʼll be more likely to clench your
muscles which, again, is going to decrease
your chances of unleashing a sexy tsunami.
During the workshop, all of the couples were
given puppy pads so that everyone could feel
good about letting go.

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Staying hydrated is key, says Play, though he

recommends that prospective squirters pee
before getting things underway.

As with all sexual acts, front loading with

foreplay and arousal is going to pay off big
down the line. Play recommends taking your
time to kiss, stimulate the clitoris for a
sufficient amount of time. “During this arousal
stage, the clitoral complex is becoming
engorged with blood and, at the same time,
fluid is building up in the paraurethral or
Skeneʼs glands. Often called the female
prostate, these glands are located on the
anterior wall of the vagina, around the lower
end of the urethra."

During his presentation, Play explained to the

class that squirting requires a little
reconditioning. "If we think [we're] going to
wet the bed, we clench our muscles, but you
can't squirt with clenched muscles," he says.
Aside from not clenching, Play says to insert a
finger into their vagina and have them cycle
through three states: squeezing it, relaxing
around it, and then trying to push your finger
out.

"Generally speaking, squirters have got that

pushing out move down," he says.

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Once sufficiently aroused, Play recommends

inserting your middle and ring fingers into the
vaginal opening, your index and pinky fingers
on the outer labia with the heel of your hand
flush against the clitoral area. “Think of
moving the engorged area on the inside front
wall of the vagina over the pubic bone with
the pads of your middle and ring fingers, while
keeping constant contact with the clitoris with
the heel of your hand,” he says, adding that
the motion needs to be consistent and
vigorous.

They key here, he says, is to make sure that

you donʼt get tuckered out too soon. “For that
reason, I like to position myself towards my
partnerʼs head and use my lats as opposed to
my biceps,” says the former personal trainer.

At this point, the flood gates opened for a

couple of attendees at the PlayLab, but many
of the facilitators—me included—were
seriously starting to flag. Turns out, there are
two sex toys that, when used in conjunction,
make eliciting female ejaculation much more
comfortable: the Original Magic Wand and the
NJoy Pure Wand. The former provides ample
clitoral stimulation while the latter is especially
good at offering consistent stimulation of the
g-spot area.

"Squirting and orgasm don't always happen at

the same time, but I've found that they are
more likely to as well when you use these two
toys this way," says Play. He calls the result a
"blended, squirting orgasm."

Aftercare in the aftermath of ejaculation is

very important. Play recommends holding
your partner, letting them have their process
as they return to baseline. "If someone has
squirted, they may want to clean up right
away, but it's important to let them know that
you'll be taking care of whatever needs to
happen," he says.

My girlfriend at the time, and every partner

I've helped to squirt since, enjoyed their first
experience of squirting. But interestingly, only
a few actually requested it regularly. The
consensus was that it was a neat trick, but
more effort and trouble than it was worth. For
the few partners who found that squirting
took their orgasms to a whole new level,
however, it's been a remarkable skill to bust
out on request.