Podcast

Intro vid
P1 : hi guys!!
P2: hello
P3: what’s up
P4: hi good(morning/evening)
Gian: hey everyone welcome to our episode of (name ng group) with ally, riri, vench and lean

Body vid
P2: hey guys welcome to our episode! Uh we hope you’re having such a great day!
P1: Uhuh!
P4: so far we are having a great day!
Gian: so farrrr yeah! So far so good!
P3: we hope everyone’s uh doing well and safe during these of times!

P1: so since we are having a good day, let’s talk about something…
P2: what good relationships is?
P1: yeah!
P3: what is the opposite of a good relationship?
Gian: a relationshit! HAHAHAHA (tawa kayo everyone hahahahah)
P4: kidding aside, a toxic relationship
P2: so this episode will be all about toxic relationship
P1: omg! I hate toxic people!
P3: for you guys, define toxicity.
P1: for me kase there’s a lot of definitions eh when it comes to being toxic, it’s a different
definition per person, per relationships…
Gian: per generally, it’s a person or a relationship that?
P1: it’s not healthy
P3: parang walang improvement ba guys, parang rather than you guys grow, you’re pulling each
other down. For me, that’s like a huge part of being a toxic or having a toxic relationship.
P4: you’re a “I feel like a crab mentality yann toxic yan uhm sinasakal mo yung tao and that’s
being toxic.
P2: a lot talaga of factors of having a really toxic relationship, and parang you could like boil it
down to a relationship or a person that is irrational?
Gian: yessss
P2: that uhm kinda Hindi alam yung Kung ano yung tama sa mali
P1: kumabaga blurry sa kanya yung right and wrong .
P4: and, a person who hates to see you grow, that is toxic, na parang you are stuck here then you
want another person to be stuck there with you and that is toxic.
Gian: okay, okayyy let’s talk the toxic relationship na, not the person who are being toxic.
Gian: Ako for me the first red flag in a relationship and you could tell it na toxic talaga sya is… if
there’s a sense of control between one person to another like sinusubukan I control yung life mo,
kumabaga Hindi ina acknowledged kung Ano yung nararamdaman mo tapos imposing all these
you know whatever this person believes in kahit na mali
P1: yeahhh
P4: ako forme yung red flag saken is yung close minded na tao na ayaw magpatalo at ayaw
umintindi and for me that is toxic.
P2: so guys sino ba May boyfriend dito? Can you share about your experience to us? (Si riri or
lean to HAHAHAHAH sila lang naman May jowa eh)
P3: wowww big word HAHAHAHA. Deee guys we get what you mean, na sometimes when we
fight and we get carried away with our emotions, ako, im aware of that sometimes I tend to
impose things, sometimes on being unaware na parang “oh im too much na pala with my
opinions” and then imposing stuff and then my boyfriend would tell me na whoops this is me not
allowing you to control me my boyfriend sometimes tell me that I’m being reminded na “ ayyy
yes, yes im sorry oo nga pala” parang it’s a matter of you guys knowing each other when to call
out each other and you have to accept when you’re being called out. Parang it’s okay that you
are being called out in a relationship
P2: and it’s better
P3: yeah it sends a signal na you guys aren’t toxic because you deal with it, you sit down with it.
So yeah that’s what I like and love about in our relationship is that we’re not afraid to sit down
and deal with our shit.
P1: yeah pero going back to toxic relationships, we kinda know it because we experienced it
right? Okay let’s start with Vench. Ano yung level of toxicity like what kind of toxic-ness, may
ganon bang word? HAHAHAHA
P4: toxicity bhie HAHAHHAHAHA
P1: OK hahahah, so Ano, what kind of a toxic relationship did you have?
P4: Uhmmm for me the level of toxicity that I experienced in my past relationships is that I was
never enough.
P2: ok that was what you felt? That you were never enough? Why?
P4: yeah, because there were, you know instances, I simply put I got heartbroken plenty of times
because there were other girls so that level of toxicity
Gian: what was the result? So because of that? What happened?
P4: I experienced the worst years of my life, like I remember it super vividly it’s a phase of my life
that I forget about it talaga that I would want to forget and delete from my life pero it was a phase
of my life na talagang helpless. I felt like my feelings were weren’t of value to anyone
P1: yeah, and it’s all because of toxicity
P4: yeahhh, and it’s so bad talaga
P2: yeah, it’s because the relationship isn’t stable enough and you chose to hold on into it pa din
kahit na you know na it’s so toxic already.
P3: yeah, it’s wasn’t stable enough, it wasn’t heathy enough that’s why both sides naman yon eh,
that’s why people in a relationship allowed that whole situation to happen because it was a toxic
relationship.
Gian: yeah, it was all about personal feelings, personal desires. It wasn’t about you know having
to really value the relationship as a whole and like improving and you know being smart about
relationship .
P1: it was just all butterflies at first and then hanggang don lang pala. Hanggang don lang tapos
Wala na, nagkasakitan na and you allowed it to happen.
P4: when you’re on that road, kumbaga tapos nilabhan mo Pa din pero you’re not equipped, back
and forth na sya.
P3: like its gonna take a toll in your life
P2: yeah back and forth you’re gonna damage yourself.
P1: so toxicity can lead to damaging yourself and we are fully aware of that because we know,
we’ve been through it. Like in my case during my past relationship. At first it was all’ butterflies,
rainbows you know all the good stuffs but then pagka lumabas na yung differences ninyo and
then nagkasakitan na tapos magiging toxic na. Like vench I was broken hearted because of other
girls, I was put in that place and so I became super Selosa that was my toxic trait before, na I was
so jealous of everybody because I’m coming from a place wherein I was cheated on, so I felt like
lahat kalaban ko. Kalaban ko sa oras, kalaban ko sa attention. I felt like I wasn’t good enough.
Like exactly what vench feels before and so I allowed it all to manifested me which led to being
jealous to jealousy and then one problem led to another hanggang sa naging toxic na.
P2: so you became that person na “sino yung kausap mo?, sino yang kasama mo? Ano oras ka
umuwi?, saan ka pupunta?”
P1: yeahhh, I became that and I would, if I had the chance to check his phone I would do it and I
would often see like “oh shit sana diko na lang Chineck” and I became that which is very toxic,
okey it was partly his fault why I was like that but you know it’s still me, it’s how I manage my
emotions and I didn’t handle it.
Gian: you allowed yourself to be toxic
P1: yeah, I allowed myself to be toxic and I’m pretty much aware of that and he was toxic too so
pag pinagsama mo yung dalawa talagang babagsak
Diba?
P2: oo, and magkakasakitan lang din kayo at Hindi lang yon magkakagalitan Pa kyo and you can
say things to your ex and to whoever that person is. You know, things that you didn’t mean but
you had to say it because you guys are so toxic already.
P1: yeah, so that is a like a serious example of having a toxic relationship and I hated that phase
but the hood thing is learned a lot from it and that’s why, to fast forward we both agreed not to
have any of those anymore.
P4: so yun nga like ally’s example like what are the redflags like Ano yung Pwede mo gawin para
Hindi maging toxic yung relationship mo? Like ako kase for example sometimes nagiging ganon,
like one partner is taking control of another is being nosy is you know all her/his partner’s life,
trying to control, trying to know. So like what ally said kanina that was an example of a toxic
relationship but it could be in any form eh.
Gian: oo naman, so how could we tell if it’s becoming too toxic or if your relationship is still in a
healthy state?
P2: ako, for me, Kaya some relationships tend to be Ano, one person trying to control the other
one person being too nosy is because it was either there was no respect to begin with at all from
the get-go or nawala yung respeto don na magsisimula. Because when you don’t respect one
another then you don’t trust one another
P1: hmmm, and what’s the point of the relationship if there’s no trust right?
Gian: you know when you already define the relationship, be smart about it and be aware that
you know you are both in this because it’s purposeful so again it’s starts there. Every healthy
relationship starts there from the get-go Hindi niyo talaga papayagan na sa utak niyo na maging
toxic kayo.
P3: tama, na no matter what you said there is no room for toxicity here and it’s being completely
honest.
P1: and another possible factor of a relationship being toxic is when you don’t communicate your
feelings like for example uhmmm Hindi mo na pala gusto yung ginagawa ng partner mo and you
would just keep it to yourself just because you don’t want to argue or you don’t want to be open
about it or you’re scared to let your partner know.
P2: yes, and if you do not settle your problems right there and then, it’s gonna end up toxic
because Hindi mo na rin nakikilala Kung paano yung partner mo. How your partner handles these
emotions diba? So it’s gonna be toxic . So yeah, communication is important, and if not it will
lead to toxic relationships.
P4: and I think communication is the most important things that partners need in a relationship.
We have to communicate like Hindi natin Pwede Itago yung feelings natin because once na
umabot tayo sa point na we react differently now may tinatago ka na emotions, may tinatago
kang mga thoughts at ayaw mong aminin, ayaw mong sabihin, ayaw mong maging honest and
you start acting differently, you start making decisions differently nagsisimula yung Ano, the
process of being toxic.
P3: so guys that’s what we think about toxic relationships for sure you guys have different
opinions on it, you know iba iba talaga, like we what you just heard is how we approach it and
how we think of it
P1: yesss, for sure it won’t be the same as yours and other principles other people have other
principles and other values they hold on to.
Gian: and what’s important is “a relationship is a partnership” and just like any other partnership
that isn’t romantic like business partnership. Pag lugi yung isa, Wala na, backout na. Mag aaway
kayo. Partnership nga eh.
P2: alright so that’s our episode, again guys just take what you need and be on your way, that’s
hopefully the approach that you guys do when you listen to us, we’re not a pro and we’re just
really sharing our thoughts and opinions.
P1: and we just wanted to share our experiences so we hope that we are able to help you in any
way .
P3: yes, and maybe comforted you if you are experiencing any trouble with your partner
P4: yeah, we’re here to say that “love is to be celebrated and love could do the impossible”
Gian: that’s tru! HAHAHAH so yeah, spread love. Alright guys thankyou all for listening.